How come I would choose my ex over anyone?
Q. How come I would choose my ex over anyone? Like if he wanted to come back... well he has a girlfriend and he tried getting back with me but I didn't really tell him how I felt so now he's back to her and he said he'll always love me, he just ...
A. 20 April 2009: "I try so hard to get over him but I just can't do it." Rome wasn't built in a day! This might take longer than you want it to. Some people we probably never get over really. Just don't spend all of your time thinking about him. Go out and do fun ... (read in full...)
Confused because I was slapped
Q. About 6 weeks ago, my boyfriend and I were out at a party and we both got very intoxicated and ended up fighting. I decided to leave the party because I was really embarrassed about this, and went back to my apartment building, which my boyfriend ...
A. 20 April 2009: Yeah, give him another chance.
They say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater" but that is not true either.
Now if he hits you again, LEAVE.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want a ring after 5 years and a child together?
Q. I need some advice. I'm kinda in a state of confusion, I already no what I should do, I just need to hear from someone else. In May my boyfriend and I will be together for 5 years, we have a 3 1/2 year old little boy. I don't want to get maried righ...
A. 20 April 2009: You know what you deserve.
And he already revealed how he feels about you "I'm not ready for that kind of commitment."
It would be different if he couldn't afford a ring, but he hasn't said that that was the case.
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I know he doesn't like me but I want him to
Q. ok so heres the deal.. i really really like this one dude.. and i know he doesnt like me.. so my question is how do i get him to like me? and i am too nervous and scared to go up to him and talk to him.. so wat should i do?? .....
A. 20 April 2009: Get to know him as a person. You can't make someone like you though. And your way of thinking scares me, because it shows me that you might possibly become someone you are not, and go against your own values just to please someone else. Be yourself. ... (read in full...)
Sometimes comments on our age difference weighs me down, so how should I overcome this?
Q. I am in a great relationship with a guy 20 years older. We are both legal adults. Most people around when we are on a date treat us like they would anyone else. Usually once or twice per date we get a rude stare or worse. Once when we were toge...
A. 20 April 2009: Ignore them. Who cares what they think? You can't control their behavior, but you can control your own. Stand up for yourself. Don't be rude, but be assertive and stand up for yourself. Say stuff back, or say something to him that they can hear, ... (read in full...)
15 and feeling a bit behind in my sexual or sexuality development in my peer group.
Q. I am a 15 years old and while the other girls in my class are getting sexually active, i am just not feeling it. I had struggled with my sexuality in the past and was wondering whether this sort of non responsive state was normal or acceptable at m...
A. 19 April 2009: Nothing is wrong with you. Stay true to yourself, and only have sex when YOU are ready. They think that by having sex they are being more grown-up, but really they are opening themselves up to a host of sexually transmitted diseases. Your life is ... (read in full...)
Needs translation: what is he getting at here?
Q. If a guy from my work and I were emailing and he told me he had wonders what it would be like to kiss me, does that mean he wants to? He asks me if I thought his wondering was wrong. What is he getting at? ...
A. 19 April 2009: He likes you. He wants to kiss you. He probably even wants to start a relationship with you.
He sounds kind of sneaky, though. Get to know him first.... (read in full...)
Longtime boyfriend doesn't propose
Q. I am together with my boyfriend for 6 years now. We live together for 5 years and we match well together. We have had hard times, but now we have grown together, have many things in common. The thing is that he claims he is "free bird", never had ...
A. 19 April 2009: This is sad, because I remember knowing a guy who went out with a woman for eight years. They were waiting to get a place before they got married. Well, she died in a car crash before they could get married.
I agree with the person below me, find... (read in full...)
I want to change my studies but mydad is so proud of me!
Q. hey guys, basically i'm a student, i left school and went to college for 2 years to study health care, i am now in my first year at uni. the thing is, i am only doing nursing because it's what everyone wants. well.. my dad has always sort of pushe...
A. 19 April 2009: Do what you want to do. Be true to yourself.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend falling out of love
Q. I feel that my boyfriend is falling out of love . He tells me that he loves me and misses me but Im not sure. He calls others girls and he hardly calls me. We have been together for a year or so. How can I make him fall back in love with me. Sh...
A. 19 April 2009: "Should I start talking to other guys so..." No. Two wrongs don't make a right, and playing games back and forth is not going to help this relationship.
Talk to him about all that has been going on, and if he doesn't change his ways, move on.... (read in full...)
I like my friends brother, does he like me?
Q. I like my best friends older brother (he is 16 and im 14) she knows i like him too. ive been going to her house a lot, usually when she has family there. Everytime he talks out in general, he always flashes hes eyes at me. i noticed he only does ...
A. 19 April 2009: Just ask him. If he doesn't and he starts acting all cocky and weird around you, just blow him off like "yeah yeah you're not all that hot yourself."
If he just doesn't and continues to be your friend, well that is a cool person.
If he does, w... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid or do you think something is wrong?
Q. Okay, so it's eatser break and my boyfriend is at his Dad's for 2 weeks. We were speaking online most of the time, we usually do anyway when we're not together. But gradually he's been speaking less and less. I was fine with it and first since he's ...
A. 19 April 2009: I think it's okay if he doesn't talk to you everyday, but if it's been days, and he is pulling this, you need to ask him about it.
Maybe something could be wrong with his computer? It causes him to sign off and on when he's not even at his comp... (read in full...)
I found underwear that was not mine. Should I forgive him or forget him?
Q. My boyfriend (23) and I (20) have been together for three and a half years. We've lived together for six months of that. Well, last night I found underwear that was not mine and confronted my boyfriend about it. He ultimately didn't have an answer, ...
A. 19 April 2009: Please stop forgiving him and feeling sorry for him. Your health, your life, your well-being, your emotional and mental state, are more important.
What if he gives you a disease?... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my Boyfriend is acting strangly after coming back from his holidays?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a couple of years now. He's amazing and we're so happy together. However, last week he went on holiday with his brother and some friends and ever since he's come back he's been acting weird. Yesterday I was ...
A. 19 April 2009: Hmmmm. The response above me looks like the "submissive gf/wife approach."
How is he usually? When you initiate sex does he usually go along with it? I think that you should be worried. It makes me think that he got herpes or something while he... (read in full...)
Do you think it's a bad idea for a girl to let her man go to a bar without her?
Q. My boyfriend wants to go to a bar Friday night with some of his buddies. His friends have a band and are performing that night. My friends are all like "your letting him go by himself?" I'd never let my man do that!" He's never given me a reason not ...
A. 16 April 2009: YES. When me and my husband were dating, and his friends, males and a female, tried to get him to go with them, he refused. He said, "I am not going without ( my name)." He is good - looking, he knows it, and he has had different women hit on him ... (read in full...)
Now that he knows I fancy him he can hardly look at me, why is that?
Q. Hi, When someone finds out you fancy them why do they after act weird and not talk to you and when you're around they used to say Hello but now they hardly can't look at you for some reason? Why is that?...
A. 16 April 2009: Ugh that happened to me before. I hated that. And then the guy would get all cocky. Just ignore the weird behavior and move on. You deserve someone more mature and more able to communicate what's going on with him.... (read in full...)
He might have to move away with his job but I'm very apprehensive to move with him... what do I do?
Q. Hi, I need a bit of help - I'll keep it short. The thing is that my boyfriend is being 'head hunted' for a job that means moving away - and if he goes for it, he wants me to go with him. This means giving up my job, leaving my friends, family,...
A. 16 April 2009: Tell him that you love him, but that you don't want to go with him.
I was going out with and then engaged to someone who was going into the military. I didn't want to finish my schooling all the way in Hawaii. I'm in NC. I didn't want to leave my... (read in full...)
I admitt I flirt but, I DO NOT love him!!
Q. Okay so my buddy nick and I are talking like any old Convo, then he brings up our past relationship. We hated each other. I was mean to him but he loved me, when I had a boyfriend. He tried to break us up before but I forgave him. Then he says he ...
A. 16 April 2009: Stop flirting with him. If this is part of your personality it will be hard/difficult to do, but you must, because you are basically giving someone who still loves you mixed signals.
If you can't do this tell him, "Look, even though I flirt wi... (read in full...)
I cannot move on as I love her with all my heart and will wait forever for her to come back.
Q. hello, im in the army and started a relationship about 6 months ago, and everything was going great. However after 5 months my partner fell pregnant totally by accident, and everything changed. she already has one child and i treat him fairly and ...
A. 14 April 2009: She's taking space to figure out what she wants.
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Too eager? Sent text nothing back
Q. Hi, I met a girl on Friday and we exchanged numbers (she suggested it). I decided against texting her over the weekend so I don't come across as too keen. This evening I decided to drop her a quick text message just to see how she was doing (I asked ...
A. 14 April 2009: Idk if she's playing games or not. She might have a very busy life. ... (read in full...)
What exactly is the Atkins diet?
Q. Hey guys, I'm a little confused. I'm wanting to try the Atkins diet, but the thing is I am not quite sure what it is or what it involves, I've just heard that you can lose a lot of weight from it. Would you recommend it? And what is it exactly? ...
A. 16 March 2009: It is when you avoid carbs like breads or pasta and eat mostly meats. Lose a lot of weight, but depending on what meats you eat, you could get high cholesterol.... (read in full...)
She's emotionally taking advantage of me
Q. OK, i love my girlfriend. but i have an ongoing source of frustration. background: we've been dating for 2 years, she moved to my state to be with me, we talk about marriage maybe next year....issue: if i express a need, it becomes a "complex" for ...
A. 16 March 2009: You deserve better. You deserve a woman who appreciates that you are communicative.... (read in full...)
We broke up, I still love her and people are saying really mean things
Q. hi im 15 and i was in a 2 year relationship. it had its ups and downs but we made it this far untill a couple nights ago. heres the story ill make it short. my gf and i were textin one night and all the sudden she asked why i hated her ex. i said: ...
A. 16 March 2009: It seems like you defending her makes them hate her even more as in makes you look like the good guy more. I still think that you are doing the right thing, though. Just continue speaking up for her.
Sorry this happened.
Take care.... (read in full...)
Too eager? Sent text nothing back
Q. Hi, I met a girl on Friday and we exchanged numbers (she suggested it). I decided against texting her over the weekend so I don't come across as too keen. This evening I decided to drop her a quick text message just to see how she was doing (I asked ...
A. 16 March 2009: I don't really think there is a specific set of rules as to when you should text someone after meeting them.
Maybe she herself doesn't want to appear too eager as well and is waiting sometime.
Even if she doesn't text you back, it's like ... (read in full...)
Lying so no one gets hurt
Q. I would like people's opinions on whether i am doing right by lying to a friend to ensure she doesn't get hurt. My friend and i were very close at one point but we don't really speak as much anymore, not as much as we used to anyway. Anyway, she ...
A. 16 March 2009: This is a tough one. I hope your friends aren't self-righteous people who feel like they've never anything wrong or something.
This is why you need a best friend. Someone who will be there for you no matter what. Problem is, your best friend i... (read in full...)
Hypnotherapy to help cure vaginismus?
Q. I'm desperate to get over my vaginismus, but using dialators hasn't helped at all after a fair bit of trying. Nothing has worked for me at all. I'm 23, I started having sex when I was 17 and not once in the time since then has it not been painful. ...
A. 16 March 2009: If you look up hypnotherapy online, you will find a few sites that want money, but you can also find a site that lets you try hypnotherapy for different things free. www.free-hypno.com And then click on "free hypnosis" at the top of the scre... (read in full...)
She just won't listen to us... her boyfriend is cheating on her!
Q. ok, my cousin's bf was cheating on her and has been cheating on her for a long time he broke up with her on sunday to go out with another girl, my cousin says she will always believe anything i say over him but i told her today the he had been ...
A. 19 February 2009: Get a tape recorder for the next time he tells you about his escapades. Otherwise, let it go. She will eventually find out on her own. Maybe she knows it's true, but she just doesn't want to believe it.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with an infectious colleague?
Q. Hi All, i need to pick some brains here. I work in a small office with no windows which we can open for fresh air but that isnt the problem...The problem is that 1 of my colleagues is always ill!! She always has colds,coughs,tummy bugs etc... B...
A. 4 December 2008: Oh,and get lots of antidioxidants. These are found in certain vegis and fruits, and they are also found in tea, or especially acai berry. Make sure that none of these collide in an unfavorable way with the zinc that you are taking if you decide to ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for me to eat meat in front of my vegan girlfriend?
Q. I just found out that a girl I recently started dating is a vegan. She doesn't eat dairy (like cheese) and nothing from animals. I mean eat meat almost everyday. Is it ok for me to eat meat in front of her? ...
A. 4 December 2008: Absolutely. If she is able to eat foods in front of you without you judging her, then you should be able to do the same with her. If you are still unsure, just ask.
Hope this helps,
Amanda... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to trust again! Am I just going for the wrong type again!
Q. I live by myself.. with my pet cat. And I kinda like living by myself, however sometime I just wish I had someone to come home too. I moved out of my parents when I was 16 and went to hostels, but I wasn't on my own there, there were a lot of yo...
A. 4 December 2008: I know this is going to sound weird coming from me, but go to church! Find Jesus! I would suggest going to the movies, BUT you can be in a room full of people, and still feel lonely if not all the more lonelier. If you go to church people will ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to him while he's still living abroad?
Q. My boyfriend live abroad so I dont get to see him much.. He is older than me.. but it works. age is just a number after all (and no. not STUPIDLY older). Ive known him for such a long time and we are both ready to take things to the next level... He ...
A. 4 December 2008: Hmmmmmm....well if you are the type of person who is not clingy, and I mean not clingy, at all, go for it. If you are not religious, go for it.
But if you are religious, and you would feel guilty later, don't. If you are clingy, don't.
And you... (read in full...)
I like him a lot and I'm in love with him but I'm scared of people judging me!
Q. well i like this guy lot and i dont feel right being with him iam afraid that pepole will judge me and he said he wants to marry me and have kids with me and hes going to ask me to marry him on chrismas and i dont know what to do he treats me right ...
A. 4 December 2008: Take more time to get to know him, and stop caring about what other people think!
These are the same people who if you were sad about something would probably spread it in a rumor, or not care about you at all, whereas he would be your shoulder... (read in full...)
My best friend has been making sexual comments to my girlfriend!
Q. My best freind has been hiting on my girlfreind an making sexual comments towrds her. she complained to me bout it and i don like it when he does (he does it right in front of me) i told him to knock it off and he got totaly pissed at me, what ...
A. 4 December 2008: You know, before me and my husband got married, his best friend used to hit on me. They ended up not being friends ne more. Tell him to back off. If he doesn't, end the friendship.
Now that we are married, he and his friend are friends again.
... (read in full...)
Should I keep what I feel about him to myself until the time is right?
Q. Hello everyone : ), I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years but I've known him forever. I'm so madly in love with him. I wanna have his baby, so bad I know we'd both be great parents. I know that I'm not ready financially though. I just c...
A. 4 December 2008: Yes, some things are better left alone until the time is right.
I'm married now, and I noticed a change in my studious ways after I got married. Lucky for me, it is my last year and a half anyways.
Wait to tell him.
Best wishes,
Amanda... (read in full...)
My periods have changed but I haven't had sex!
Q. hiya, well a rather silly question but my periods are normally really regular.. and this month (now) i am supposed to be on and im not :S i'm 15 and obv never had sex etc etc, so i know its impossible to be preg, but im just scared ! this is t...
A. 4 December 2008: Sweetie, most women don't become regular till they are older than twenty-five. My husband's sister didn't have hers for four/five months. She went to the doctor, and everything was fine. She was not pregnant, and did not have any health problems.
... (read in full...)
My friend is spreading rumors about me, what should I do??
Q. I have this friend who is really mad at me right now. It all started last year when she was datin this guy. they only went out for a week and then she broke up with him. She says she broke up with him because he was a year younger and people were ...
A. 4 December 2008: Sounds like she didn't know what she was doing. She should've kept him. It's like someone saying no no you have such and such or so and so, and then later regretting their decision and becoming jealous.
She probably sees you two together at eight... (read in full...)
He's got no secrets from me but it still feels wrong to spy and check up on him.
Q. I have been with my man for about 4 and a half years. about 2 months ago his ex fience found him on facebook, then started calling my house. She stopped for a while but the other day she stared messaging him and everytime I entered the room he would ...
A. 4 December 2008: I hope all goes well for you. He might've told her to leave him alone on the phone or something, but then continued talking to her on messenger. He may be giving her mixed signals, because he feels sorry for her or something.
Take care.
... (read in full...)
Can your growth and height be affected by smoking?
Q. what can cause growth to stop earlier than it is supposed to. im not going threw this but my dad did, he stopped at 16 and he was 5'9 he also smoked cigarettes, does really cause this. Just curious, i also heard that 2 much soda can cause an early ...
A. 2 December 2008: Yes, the cigarette thing is true, and so is the soda thing, because of the caffeine. Just try to avoid sodas with caffeine. My husband now drinks caffeine free coke.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with an infectious colleague?
Q. Hi All, i need to pick some brains here. I work in a small office with no windows which we can open for fresh air but that isnt the problem...The problem is that 1 of my colleagues is always ill!! She always has colds,coughs,tummy bugs etc... B...
A. 2 December 2008: Where a face mask. When your employer asks you why, tell him you don't like getting sick.
Wash your hands and get a good germ killer for your hands that doesn't require soap.
Take many zinc tablets, but not so much that you get sick.
Maybe g... (read in full...)
Is this an eating disorder? I don't think starving myself and throwing up is wrong...
Q. hey, I'm female and 5" 4. I recently had a still birth. After the loss of Dillian I weighed 14.6 stone (202 lbs). In the last month I've lost 3.7 stone and now weigh 10.9 stone (149 lbs). I've often made myself purge after eating and do a lot of ...
A. 2 December 2008: You are in denial, and the reason why you are eating so much is because you keep throwing it back up, and making yourself hungry.
Your husband loves you, but it sounds like you don't love yourself.
One of my instructors is always saying th... (read in full...)
I feel awful for cheating - but feel tempted to do it again!
Q. i cheated on my husband about two weeks ago with an old fling that i had previuosly been intimate with, (way prior to meeting my husband). i have been married for 3 1/2 years, and we have 2 children under the age of three. our relationship has...
A. 2 December 2008: Tell him. This will help prevent you from doing it again.... (read in full...)
He's got no secrets from me but it still feels wrong to spy and check up on him.
Q. I have been with my man for about 4 and a half years. about 2 months ago his ex fience found him on facebook, then started calling my house. She stopped for a while but the other day she stared messaging him and everytime I entered the room he would ...
A. 2 December 2008: Regardless of whether it was "morally" wrong or not, knowledge is power. I'm sorry this happened. My husband has had ex's trying to contact him before as well, and he has told them to go away. One wouldn't even believe that he was married, so I told ... (read in full...)
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