I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 14 March 2008: Yw. Basically you are just going to have to deal with this aspect of his personality (if that's what it is.) You have tried time and time again to get him to change, but he hasn't, so obviously he's not going to. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 14 March 2008: Maybe he doesn't feel mushy all the time, or maybe he just wants his space, though that wouldn't explain him treating you badly. Sometimes people with health problems act badly towards others, grouchy, etc. I'm not saying it's an excuse, just saying ... (read in full...)
How much longer do I wait? I don't want to nag, but I don't want to let it go either.
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for 6 mos now. He has soul custody of 3 kids. They sometimes go and see their mom, but she is not very frequent. I love them all dearly, and we get along quite well, but there just isn't enough time for he and I ...
A. 13 March 2008: Sweetie he just doesn't have time for you. Tell him you've tried with him over and over again and that you are moving on. Go find someone who does have time for you. ... (read in full...)
He is open and direct in everything else except marriage plans, is it really too early? Should I give him an ultimatum?
Q. Dated a guy - 8 mths. Love him. I am 39, never married, he says we should take our time, I want to get married and settle down. Is 8 mths too little to give an ultimatum? Am I being fair? He doesn't want to talk about marriage at all now - does ...
A. 13 March 2008: First of all, yall are grown adults. He shouldn't be saying that he "likes" you. It should be that he LOVES you.
Anyways, I don't see why he has problems just talking about marriage, BUT I do think that it is too early in the relation... (read in full...)
Does she really like me, or should I get over her?
Q. Hi all, I'm in a really awkward situation at the moment. I've known this girl for 4 years. We were close friends for 3 of them, but I've been getting attracted to her more and more over the past year. I'm a virgin, and she's already had sex wi...
A. 13 March 2008: She might be bi. I've never tickled one of my friends while we were both topless. All you can do is ask. Otherwise you will just keep wondering "What if?" And if after that she rejects you even as a friend, it's her loss. ... (read in full...)
I don't wish to have a relationship with him but feel somewhat obliged by the attention and support he's given me as a friend!
Q. I met this man who helps me to get through my divorce. I was very unhappy at that time. He is very supportive and attentive. My life is back on track now. Then I realise I am not in love with him. But he said he has fallen in love with me and ...
A. 13 March 2008: Tell him how grateful you are for him helping you, he's a nice man, yadda yadda yadda and that you are not interested, and that maybe yall could just be friends and that if he needs any help in the future with things that you could help him, because ... (read in full...)
How can I help him stop feeling so pressured?
Q. I met my australian boyfriend last year. He has since had to move home but I travelled over and spent a month with him. Now we have a big decision to make and he is freaking out. We both decided I would move over there in May but I may struggle to ...
A. 13 March 2008: Stop going out with him. Find someone who lives nearby you. ... (read in full...)
Does our ages and age difference count?
Q. hello everyone, i really need help. i'm 15 and there's a friend who lives on my street, i have knew him since i was about 6. (he is 13 now by the way so i'm 2 years older). we both fancy eachother. do you think it would be right for us to have sex ...
A. 13 March 2008: If he doesn't want sex it no longer becomes about what you should or should not do. He just doesn't want it. ... (read in full...)
On the pill, but could I still be pregnant?
Q. 3 weeks ago i had sex with my boyfriend. It wasnt the first time it was after a party and we were both slightly drunk. He didnt have any protection but i know he doesnt have any std's and im on the pill so i thought it would be fine. It wasnt ...
A. 13 March 2008: Congrats.... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 13 March 2008: Well you get someone who understands you more than other people, just doesn't accept you as much as you'd like him to accept you, because he doesn't show you love. At least that's what I gather from it.
You say he doesn't judge you for what you... (read in full...)
I'm afraid if we have sex our friendship might never get back to the way it is, any advice?
Q. A ton of guys that i know have been pressuring me to have sex with them. I went along with it at first thinking the were kidding, but nows its obvious they weren't. I want to have sex, and i know who I want to lose my virginity to. I want to do it ...
A. 13 March 2008: Don't do it. ... (read in full...)
Am I selfish not to agree to wait?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for over a year now. We've never had sex before. But we have gone passed 3rd base. I've been wanting to have sex but he's against it. Wanting to save it until after marriage. I can see why he wants to wait but sometimes ...
A. 13 March 2008: I wouldn't call you selfish for what you want. But it's his body and if he wants to wait, he's going to wait!... (read in full...)
I'm I a virgin or not anymore?
Q. Help i know people will think im stupid for doing it but last nite me and b/f where doing stuff,and after when he was inside me he said he thought i was a virgin which i was at the time but never told him, Anyway when he was going further in it di...
A. 13 March 2008: No I doubt you are a virgin. You might bleed some more next time, since this time looked watered down. And no I don't think that you are stupid for losing your virginity.... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I'll be a virgin for years to come....
Q. Hey i need some help, I am a 21 year old girl and I'm still a virgin, ok that maybe sounds stupid but it really is a bit of a worry for me. I went out with a guy for over a year but was only 17 and felt I wasn't ready to sleep with him even though I...
A. 13 March 2008: Perfectly normal to be a virgin. ... (read in full...)
It really bothers me that he wasn't honest with me...
Q. Last week the guy that I have been talking to asked me to be his girl friend. Before we started dating he mentioned to me that he was not a virgin but that he has only had sex with 2 and they were both his girlfriends. Over some time I have heard ...
A. 13 March 2008: Talk to him calmly about this. If he gets mad or defensive you know what's up.... (read in full...)
I bled after losing my virginity, is this normal?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm not very confident in writing this but really need advice. Anyway hear it goes, I lost my virginity last Friday to my b/f and hardly bled after more like a spot more then anything, then monday again hardly anything, but then ...
A. 13 March 2008: Normal. ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, have zero girl experience and live on the net! Will it be different when I start college??
Q. Hey all :) Im and am still a virgin, im a bit a chubby but can easily lose this weight with a bit of excercise which I plan to do for next year(too busy with exams this year)an think im a decent looking guy, but my problem is that I have 0 gi...
A. 13 March 2008: It will be different if you go out and go to different social events. If you just stay in your dorm room, it'll be pretty much the same except for classes that you will have with females. ... (read in full...)
Would it be a bad idea to lose my virginity to my best friend considering a relationship is impossible due to the long distance?
Q. This might be a strange question, but I don't know who else to ask. I'm a virgin and it's only that way because I have some trust issues and want to lose it to someone that I actually trust and I know - not just some random guy at a party. I am ...
A. 13 March 2008: I think it would be a very bad idea. You want someone to cuddle with afterwards, and I don't mean for just a few hours. You want someone to be with you in the days ahead to ask you if you are alright, if the pain has gone away, etc. At least that's ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my bf about sex??
Q. I am 16 and i'm a virgin and my boyfriend is 15. I have, for a while now, been thinking about sex with him. I would feel embarrased talking to him about it. I know that when we've been kissing before on my bed he had an erection and was embarras...
A. 13 March 2008: Wait. Wait until marriage. Many people say that they admit that they regret having lost their virginity when they were soooooo young, but very few (if any at all) say that they regret losing it when they got married! *Just a thought.*... (read in full...)
Have I lost my virginity yet?
Q. i had physical contact with my boyfriend, he inserted half of his penis inside my vagina and i had a drop of blood come out off.he sometimes puts his finger inside my vagina and after that hes inserts a little of his penis and i am now confused ...
A. 13 March 2008: The blood could be from something else, but I doubt it. If you were using something hard and plastic or a toy, the blood could've come from somewhere else if you didn't know how to use it, but something like a penis, which gets hard, but is flesh, ... (read in full...)
It bothers me that I haven't told my current boyfriend that I lost my virginity to my ex...
Q. I lost my virginity to my ex boyfriend who I later caught cheating on me.. I am now in a new relationship and I haven't told him about sleeping with my ex... He is quite orthodox and I don't think he can live with that... I have been open to him ...
A. 13 March 2008: Tell him. If he doesn't accept you for you and admire you for your honesty it's his loss.... (read in full...)
My ex got back with his ex and I'm conflicted about not having contact with him!
Q. I know that some people on here have gone through a similar situation and I know it is only likely to get better. I lost my virginity to someone who cheated on me and broke up with him when I found out a few months later. When we encountered each ...
A. 13 March 2008: I hate when people go back to their ex's when they are dating someone else. They need to remember that their ex's are their ex's for a REASON. ... (read in full...)
I found out we weren't each other's first, we're split up now but I'm upset!
Q. I was with my ex for two years, we've been split though for 8 months now. We had plans to get married eventually, and were each other's firsts sexual experience, or so I thought. I haven't stopped crying over him, and I'm still in love with him even ...
A. 13 March 2008: What a jerk! Just remember this: you are not alone. I'm sure that there are plenty of other guys who have pulled the same thing on other women, and vice versa. Anyways, it's hard to stop loving someone sometimes even if they screwed us over. Not ... (read in full...)
Is this too much? I don't think it's right to go to a place like that without your significant other.
Q. my boyfriend is going on a two week bike trip in the summer... which is a long time.. their last destination is to spend one or two days at a bike rally.. I don't feel completely comfortable with a boyfriend being in that type of environment where ...
A. 13 March 2008: I think that you need to trust him more. When I first read the title of your question I thought you meant that he was going out clubbin' or something. ... (read in full...)
This girl and him seem too cozy together!
Q. Hi... well I'm in a long distance relationship and I really like my boyfriend but lately he seems different he doesn't write as often... He has a metroflog where he posts pictures and people can comment on them. One day I checked it out and he has ...
A. 13 March 2008: Yes. I would. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to have time for me any more.
Q. I'm with this guy and our relationship used to be so great but now he doesn't have time for me. We never hang out or do things together because he's always with his friends. Iif I try to talk to him I don't want him to think that I'm trying to take ...
A. 13 March 2008: It's only natural to want attention from the ones that you love. Feelings are fickle. I say wait it out. Get some friends of your own to hang out with, but maybe you two could spend time on the weekends or have your own special day of the week. Just ... (read in full...)
My friends think I am a slut for loving porn...am I normal??
Q. Right, iam a girl and some of my friends thinks its weird to watch porn! I watch it like everyday and i always masturbate!! I think i should be a boy. My boyfriend doesnt think its weird; he loves it that i am open about myself but its the girls ...
A. 13 March 2008: By definition a slut is someone that sleeps around with different people they barely know. They just basically sleep around with a lot of people. I don't think you are lose for watching something.... (read in full...)
What is an on/off relationship?
Q. Can someone explain what an on/off relationship is? My friend is in one but I really don't get the point of it. Is it like dating someone for a week and then breaking up and then getting back together? I don't understand how it works. Anyone know? ...
A. 12 March 2008: You like someone, you don't like someone, you like someone, you don't like someone. You have many fights, you break up, you miss each other, get back together, and apologize. You fight again, apologize again. Some people say stuff like "oh we've ... (read in full...)
Can I date a guy in an off period of an on/off relationship?
Q. I've liked this guy, we'll call him Ryan, on and off for about... four years now. I recently got his number and we've been texting a lot but I can't figure out if he likes me or not. I also have a problem because he has an on again off again ...
A. 12 March 2008: Wait. Wait until he finds out his true feelings for you and for her.... (read in full...)
I don't live with my partener - is this normal?
Q. I've started a new relationship right after my divorce. This man is 18 years my senior. He makes me feel loved and wanted. We get on well and been together for 2 years now. He's got his house and I've got mine. I stay overnight at his house 3 ...
A. 12 March 2008: Actually I think you found a very good idea!... (read in full...)
We have broken up and I cant stand her flirting with others...i need time for us to be friends.
Q. Ok I broke up with my girlfriend, the issue is: I've not told a girl before I loved her, and I did to her and meant it. She told me she loved me. However, following valentines day and my birthday she told me and wrote to me telling me she loved me,...
A. 12 March 2008: No, she sounds like an ass. (No offense, but I don't like it when people play games.)... (read in full...)
My heart is broken, what went wrong?
Q. At the moment, I'm feeling so low as I seem to have so many problems and so much stress, and to make it worse I've just split from my boyfriend. I can't express how much I loved him, but somewhere something went wrong, and we couldnt carry on being...
A. 12 March 2008: Cry. Write in your journal. Take hot bubble baths. Soak your feet. Different things.... (read in full...)
My teacher is ignoring me, help!
Q. I have this teacher and somtimes i think he ignores me. When i asked him a question he wasn't looking at me when answering it he was looking at my friend next to me and i did ask loud enough becuase he was right in front of me and he looked at me ...
A. 12 March 2008: Maybe you are just too intelligent now in your work. Now he is more concerned with kids that are doing poorly. ... (read in full...)
Boy in class says he loves me, is he joking?
Q. hi people some one in my class keeps saying he loves me and i kinda like him to but i dont know wether he is joking or wether he means it what shall i do please help me love kim...
A. 12 March 2008: Email him, talk to him on the phone, or somewhere else that is private besides class to know for sure. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of falling in love, should I tell him to back-off?
Q. This guy has been flirting with me for a little while now but i haven't thought much of it. He makes me laugh and has a really sweet personality but i'm scared of falling for him as he is 25 and i am in love with someone else more my age (although i ...
A. 12 March 2008: Maybe he doesn't like you like that and you just think he does. Ask out the friend your age. ... (read in full...)
He's in two major relationships, could he still like me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am really interested in this guy but he now wants nothing to do with me. It all started when we were getting to know one another. Everything was going fine...we did get intimate with one another but we didn't have sex. Anyways it...
A. 12 March 2008: You're maturity level is not low-his is. Find someone who appreciates you.... (read in full...)
We broke up but she sees us together in the future, what does she mean?
Q. Hi, i have a question that keeps bothering me, I dated this girl for about 7 months till she broke up with me, the reason was that things didnt go really smooth between us. After the break up we somehow didnt lose touch and grew back together, b...
A. 12 March 2008: Sounds like she was playing games with you.
You have my condolensces.... (read in full...)
Should we try to repair the relationship or are we prolonging the hurt?
Q. I am disgusted at myself for what I am about to tell say. A few months ago, i cheated on my boyfriend of 2 years. He found out after I left texts on my phone when I got drunk at a work function and he found them. We fought for ages but eventual...
A. 12 March 2008: Please stop drinking, and give this relationship another go!... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get the signals right...so should I tell her how I feel??
Q. I beecame good friends with this girl last September as she was new to our school. We became really good friends, but we didn't talk all that much at scool. We still don't. We always (and still do) go round to each other's house and meet up to go to ...
A. 12 March 2008: Ask her if she is ashamed of you. This seems to be the case. Is she one of the "popular" girls?
Or maybe this is not the case at all. Maybe she just wants more time to get to know you as a friend, before she goes out with you. But Idk, if this ... (read in full...)
We got through the tough times and rebuilt trust...until last week.
Q. I am hoping someone can give me some advice as I am so confused and don't know what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. We got off to a pretty rocky start as he still had connections with his ex and I found out about 4 months ...
A. 12 March 2008: A relationship works if there are two people working at it. I see only one....it's time to find someone else. I say if he wants to look at the other side of the grass, let him by breaking up with him.... (read in full...)
In love with another lad, what should I do?
Q. I really need help. I am going out with a boy who i really do like a lot, but i feel like our relationship isnt going anywhere at all, and i need to break it off, but i dont want to hurt him. The other thing is, i am actually in love with another ...
A. 12 March 2008: Break off the relationship if it is going nowhere.
Don't ask him out if he has a gf. ... (read in full...)
I've decided to go travelling...but how do I tell my partner??
Q. hello, I have recently decided to go travelling with a friend early next year, for a year, it is something i've really really wanted to do for a while. The only problem is i'm currently in a 2 and a half year relationship and my partner is settled ...
A. 12 March 2008: I don't think that you are being selfish at all, but you speak of travelling as if it will become something permanent. Couldn't you just go on vacation to a place you have never been with your partner? ... (read in full...)
My teacher is always staring at me....is he a pervert??
Q. There's a teacher at my school who won't stop staring at me! And no, I don't have a crush on him at all! But he is just so freaky. Today he came over and stood right next to me in assembly just staring at me and then I was on my way to the maths ...
A. 12 March 2008: If you really feel he is a pervert, just try not to be alone in a room with him, k?... (read in full...)
On the pill, but could I still be pregnant?
Q. 3 weeks ago i had sex with my boyfriend. It wasnt the first time it was after a party and we were both slightly drunk. He didnt have any protection but i know he doesnt have any std's and im on the pill so i thought it would be fine. It wasnt ...
A. 12 March 2008: I think you should get a home pregnancy test, and not the cheap kind!... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 12 March 2008: I think that people should be able to do fine regardless of whether they are single or not, but acting like they wouldn't miss you is another thing....so you want to keep him despite his not giving you affection. Well if it's not affection you're ... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 12 March 2008: Maybe he makes it clear that it won't affect him if you were to split up, because he is trying to say that just because he is disabled doesn't mean that he needs someone. Anyways, if he is not affectionate just leave him. And I mean affectionate in ... (read in full...)
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