Should I be concerned my about my boyfriend being a "cross-dresser"?
Q. My boyfriend told me before we got together that he was a cross dresser, it didn't concern me at the time, but after a year he's still not introduced me to his other personality and i'm scared that he's doing something behind my back. He's mentioned ...
A. 17 March 2008: Yes you are right to be concerned. Talk to him about it. ... (read in full...)
He is selfish in the bedroom and doesn't even look at me anymore in public either...help!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a while now,and i always assumed things were great between us.just recently he has become very distant,when we go out he will stand away from me or if i put my arms around him he just keeps his in his pockets he ...
A. 17 March 2008: Sounds like he is cheating. He acts distant from you in public, because he doesn't want his other woman to see yall together.
You have my condolences. ... (read in full...)
Hooked back up with ex but now he hasn't called, why?
Q. me and my ex hooked up, dated for a couple of months, then he called me to ask me out. I said i will call him friday and let him know. He never called again. why...
A. 17 March 2008: Because he's a dumbass.
You have my condolences. ... (read in full...)
My first love cheated on me and then dumped me... I'm so clueless!
Q. I really don't know what to do...My ex boyfriend cheated on me 3 times and then dumped me. He was the first guy I have been in love with and it has been 5 months since we broke up and I am still not over him and I constantly think about him, I ...
A. 17 March 2008: Let me get this straight, you have been out with one guy, and now you have given up on them?
You are judging all men based on only one.
You were hurt, and you don't want to be hurt again. So now, the walls come up, and no man can gain access ... (read in full...)
Wife says "she's no good at it", SEX, what can I do?
Q. My wife of 12 years has no sex drive. She has a 16 year old from another marriage and we have an 11 yo son. She never initiates and frequently turns down my advances. Since then I have grown angry with her which she has interpreted as me not ...
A. 17 March 2008: Okay, here's the thing, she feels like you don't give a shit about her, because you get angry at her for not doing what you want her to do. It's either your way or the highway. It almost seems as if you are acting like a child.
Maybe she just doe... (read in full...)
How bad of an age gap is this? We met on Hot or Not.
Q. Hi, Not too long ago i met a guy on 'hotornot' he was gorgeous so left a message telling him so. i was quite shocked to find out he was living in england, and this is a world wide website. Even more scarier was that he lived in the same county....
A. 17 March 2008: As long as he respects your wishes, and as long as you love him and he loves you, I say, go for it!!!!!
Tell your friends to stop being so jealous that you snagged such a hottie!!!! lol... (read in full...)
When you had alot on your mind did you suddenly think your relationship was a mistake??
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 20 months 3 days ago. His answer to the break up was becuase he didnt love me as a girlfriend anymore. I am still trying to get over this, even though its only been a very short time. But theres still an inch of ...
A. 17 March 2008: If I ever became too busy for someone I would ask for space, or for time to get my work done. I might question my love for the person sometimes (whether I am busy or not,) because not all the time do I have that "lovey-dovey" feeling, but I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Is my experience causing his nerves??
Q. I really want to have sex with my boyfriend, and he seems to want to as well. Thing is, every time we're about to have sex, he cant get hard. I know its just nerves, and as I've told him, I'm willing to wait, but I was wondering if there was ...
A. 17 March 2008: I would get limp too if I was a guy and knew you had had sex with LOTS of people. Tell me, have you been tested for STD's? You might not have any, but he might worry about them. Get tested, show him the results (if this is the case.) ... (read in full...)
I moved to Spain to win back my ex...but she is in love with another man. Any advice??
Q. Hey Friends!!! My problem is pretty basic really. I'm American, currently living/working in Spain. I came here, originally, to try and "win" back my X. Didn't work, and she's in love and happy with another guy. I suppose, I'm mostly over it, ...
A. 17 March 2008: Stop trying to find the one. Get friends. Go to social events.
Maybe try the internet, then you could have lots of friends online. There's no smoke on the internet. LOL
And don't "end it."
Maybe see therapy if you are having trouble meeti... (read in full...)
Why do men express themselves but then hold back and push away afterwards?
Q. I'm in love but What if the guy that I'm in love with doesn't feel the same exact way that I feel about him? Or maybe he does but He doesn't want to admit or open up to me? Why do men express themselves but then hold back and push away afterwards? ...
A. 17 March 2008: Maybe not all men do this. Maybe only a few/some do.
After this has happened, I say just wait.
If he doesn't want to talk, chances are you talking to him are not going to make him. ... (read in full...)
Divorced and she uses the kids to hurt me...what can I do??
Q. Hi, I have been divorced with my wife for the last 4 years. She just uses the kids to hurt me. I don't know what to do. I was seeing them before for a little while and i had to work 1 weekend and she didn't like it. From that time she stopped me...
A. 17 March 2008: 1) Try to talk to her about how she's being.
2) Go to court.
Sorry, but I really don't see any other alternatives. ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but the love of my life is another man who doesn't even know I have a fiance.
Q. I'm in love with 2 men i feel terrible. I've been in a relationship for almost 3 years and im ruining it due to long distance problems; he is 24 and i am 20. I've meet this wonderful man i cant be away from him i think about him all the time but...
A. 17 March 2008: I don't think either of them suits you.
And here's why....
Your fiance:
1)You're not happy with him.
2)He's verbally abusive.
The list goes on......
New Guy:
1) Moves way too fast....
Question: Suppose you leave your fiance for t... (read in full...)
I slept with my best friend's boyfriend, should I tell her?
Q. HELP im 12 years old and i slept with my best friend's boyfriend we were at a party and we got drunk. We both decided we really fancied each other and when his girlfriend left we ended up in bed.I don't no if i should tell my best friend. She...
A. 17 March 2008: Tell her, and stop drinking.
... (read in full...)
How can I tell my friend to back off and stop trying to set me up??
Q. dear cupid, There is a girl at school we are freinds but everytime i talk to a boy she say we should go out and it annoys me. I dislike it the most when she say that she always says it about boys who she knows i dont like and are unpopular. She u...
A. 16 March 2008: She does it because it annoys you. She knows that you don't like these guys and that it will annoy you if she says what she says. You should tell her to stop and if she doesn't stop she's obviously keeping on because it annoys you. If this bugs you ... (read in full...)
Only 6 days till I get married and I am so scared.
Q. Hi,I need help I'm getting married this weekend (22nd march). I am so scared all of a sudden, i ahve spent since last ay planning this beautiful wedding but then its 6 days away and i am terrified. We had hen/stag do's last night and while it was...
A. 16 March 2008: I think you need someone who will stick up for you. ... (read in full...)
I don't want anything to change but his gf is looking to end it.
Q. My ex cheated on me and we broke up so he got a new girl. Sometime after that though we started talking again and hed tell me how he missed me and everything and so he hooked up with me again. We did that for a while and like two weeks ago he decid...
A. 16 March 2008: He cheated on you, then he cheated on her. Can't he keep his dick in his pants???
I don't think either of yall deserve him. ... (read in full...)
I was thinking about waiting 3 months before telling him of my pregnancy!... Is this right? What should I do?
Q. Im 29 and i've just found out on 6 weeks pregnant! The problem is i've only been with my boyfriend for 3 months and we haven't even told each other that we love each other! He's going to move into a new house in a month and i'm scared he will t...
A. 16 March 2008: God, why do people have sex so early in relationships? Why do they have sex before they have even told the other person that they love each other??? Well, guess it's too late to ask questions like that now. My advice would be to just tell... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to confront him about this money he owes me?
Q. My daughter's dad called today to tell me Fed Ex has delivered a package. His sister and mother sent his daughter a new pair of shoes, along with a doll house and a brand new labtop. It was nice of them to send it to them. What I am trying to s...
A. 15 March 2008: Calm down and confront him. You may want to begin with something like, "I am thankful for these gifts, and your family is just wonderful, but I am worried/concerned about....," so that he nor his family tries to accuse you of being ungratef... (read in full...)
I got drunk and made an idiot of myself. What can I do now?
Q. I know this isn't a relationship question but I really don't know what to do! I went to my close friends party last night and I drank a bit too much. To make it worse I'd had nothing to eat that day which made me really drunk. But basically I made a ...
A. 15 March 2008: Well whoever told you to go play in traffic was just an ass or a jerk in general. I'm sure that things will get better, just give it time. We all hate ourselves sometimes. You have my condolensces.... (read in full...)
How can I relieve my frustration?
Q. is there some things i can do to relieve my sexual wants besides jacking off or having sex? my fiance is pregnant like 2 months in and i am so turned on but she isn't so i need some pointers as to what i can do to relieve this sexual want....
A. 15 March 2008: I like how you called it a want and not a need. :-) Anyways, try playing sports, try wearing yourself out through exercise. For some people, over time, the urges become less and less, but they might get worse before they get better (less and less... (read in full...)
He won't marry me - is it time to move on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 6 years. We started discussing marriage after about 2 years. He is opposed to the entire concept of marriage. In his opinion, people change for the worse when they get married. He has said on many ...
A. 15 March 2008: I would suggest waiting another two years. The problem with this suggestion is you would not be sticking to your promise of leaving him after a month, and you might end up getting closer to him only to get burned in the end. I think it's time ... (read in full...)
He has a thing about trying to see my panties all the time!
Q. Whenever I'm alone at home with my boyfriend (whether his home or mine), he constantly tries to see my panties from under my skirt or by tugging down the side of my pants. When he just started doing it, it was fine, but he does it literally almost ...
A. 15 March 2008: I don't think that you were overreacting at all. As your bf, he needs to respect your boundaries. Last time a guy kept doing something like this to me, I whopped him upside the head!!!! He stopped after that.... (read in full...)
Will love over rule sexual urges or will sexual urges over rule love?
Q. Please can you help, My beautiful partner used to swing with his ex, while I am open minded, I can't do this and I have told him so and he has said he would never make me do anything to feel uncomfortable. He said it's not the fact he never felt ...
A. 15 March 2008: You have got to stop overthinking. I am guilty of this myself sometimes. Guy tells you, "It's fine you don't have to." Some of us tend to worry and think that he doesn't really mean what he said and that it will come up and bite us in the ass later. ... (read in full...)
I want to take her out on a date but I don't know how best to ask her.
Q. hi, I have met this girl and really like her and I want to take her out on a date but I just don't know how to ask her???? help ...
A. 15 March 2008: Hi. How are you doing? What have you been up to lately? How is school/work going? Are you very busy lately? If not, would you like to see a movie with me? (Btw, don't memorize this, but you get the gist of it.) If she says no, just say somet... (read in full...)
Should I trust her or not? I don't know if a cheater can change...
Q. hey, hi! now a few months ago i wrote about an ex girlfriend who still had feelings about me.... now the dilema is we've gone out a few times and she has tried to kiss me but i've never kissed her back... reason being back when we broke up it w...
A. 15 March 2008: Exactly...."I can not get so close to you and so attached to you, if you are going to stay with him." ... (read in full...)
Is she lying about filing for divorce to be with me?
Q. I am in process of getting a divorce. I am in love with a married woman who says she has moved out of their house into her mom's. I have relocated 3 hrs. away. She said she is going to file her paperwork. But then suddenly, she is going away to ...
A. 15 March 2008: You know, usually it's the women doing this, waiting on someone to divorce, BUT anyways..... Two weeks is not a long time to wait. At least she has given you a definite time. Just wait out the two weeks, and if she makes more excuses, she is j... (read in full...)
He broke up with me after three years...what to do when I haven't seen him because of the distance
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years,this year will b the 3rd but he broke up with me a few days ago after an argument we had in which he was the wrong one,ive never seen him yet coz we have a long distance relationship but ive spoken to him and ...
A. 15 March 2008: Think about this....if he still says that he loves you, why did he tell your friend that he didn't want you back??? This is not love. Or does he like your friend as well??? Either way this was never a real relationship to begin with. Find someone ... (read in full...)
19 and I want a baby...what will my parents say after I had an abortion last year?
Q. Hi,my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. Around this time last year I fell pregnant and had an abortion. I have regretted this ever since. We have now decided to have a baby, we will be 20 when it is born. I want this baby but im ...
A. 15 March 2008: Are you still in school? Do you have a job? Does your bf have a job? Before worrying about what anyone else thinks, plz think this through for yourself..... ... (read in full...)
Feminine ejaculation or... did the condom split?
Q. Well, my question is difficult. Can girls cum? I recently had protected sex with my boyfriend and when we'd finished I noticed a lot of white cum-like fluid from inside me. I assumed it was my owm cum, but I can't help but worry that maybe the ...
A. 15 March 2008: See a doctor. (Oh btw, yes, females can gush...look up female ejactulation on wikipedia.) If it did split, You have my condolensces. ... (read in full...)
Should I trust her or not? I don't know if a cheater can change...
Q. hey, hi! now a few months ago i wrote about an ex girlfriend who still had feelings about me.... now the dilema is we've gone out a few times and she has tried to kiss me but i've never kissed her back... reason being back when we broke up it w...
A. 15 March 2008: Don't go. I think you brought up a very good point about having a great time and then her possibly going back to her bf. ... (read in full...)
He seems to prefer his mates to me...
Q. My boyfriend says he loves me but has cheated on me before, I forgave him because he told me straight away. He seems more interested in going out with his mates than me, and only sees me when they are busy. I love him but am sometimes unhappy, ...
A. 15 March 2008: Move on, sweetie. You deserve better. And how do I know that you deserve better? I used to go out with guys who treated me like crap, and now I am with someone who makes me one of his top priorities, so now I know what it's like to be with someone ... (read in full...)
His Friend Used Me
Q. Okay in November 2007 I started to dated this one guy whom I really liked, he seemed to like me too. After the date he texted me and told me how much fun he had with me and later in the week I went over his house and we cuddled and watched TV. We ...
A. 15 March 2008: Right now it seems like neither of them like you very much. I would tell him the truth about what happened, just to get it off of my chest. If he thinks that you are a slut or a whore, it's his loss. Another shitty mind game that some guys play: ... (read in full...)
If I don't get back with him he's threatening to move 263 miles away...
Q. I am 2 months pregnant, I have just left him as he is extremely possesive and paranoid, he now has decided if I don't get back with him he is moving 263 miles away from me and my child, leaving him would mean my baby has no father I am 18 and ...
A. 15 March 2008: This is not love. Find a homeless shelter. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared that if I marry her and have a baby it will be like I have two babies to take care of, what do I do??
Q. Hi I'm ready to settle down in my life and get married. I have been seeing this girl she's a little younger than me six years. She's beautiful and sweet but very shy. I'm more of the outgoing type. She loves kids and would do anything I ask of her. ...
A. 15 March 2008: I say give her time. Is she going to school? ... (read in full...)
My date knows rasist jokes but claims he is not racist. Should I broach the subject to him to understand his thinking?
Q. I think my new guy's a racist. He says jokes that I don't like. I told him this but he keeps saying them. Maybe he just says them because he was raised in well, let's just say not my area of town and is ignorant of other peoples cultures. Should I ...
A. 15 March 2008: There is a difference between just knowing racist jokes and saying them. Knowing them is, in my view, okay, because someone else might've said them. But if you have told him that him saying these jokes makes you feel uncomfortable, and he still says ... (read in full...)
35 and single, what do I do?
Q. I'm 35 and not married. I feel like Bridget Jones. I'm tall, slim, attractive with blond hair and intelligent - have an amazing job, well paid and lots of friends. I have no idea what the secret to finding a man and having a long lasting ...
A. 15 March 2008: I think the online thing is a good idea. Good luck! And I don't believe that you need some stupid Miranda complex to hook a man!!!!... (read in full...)
Is it selfish to expect this from a close friend?
Q. Here's the scenario: Before my friend Vicky's birthday, she went clubbing with my ex and one of my ex's friends. My ex and I had a really bad break up and she knew that he hurt me pretty bad by cheating on me. Anyways, she invited him thinking that ...
A. 15 March 2008: She shouldn't have invited him to begin with. ... (read in full...)
Can you becoming pregnant if you swallow?
Q. Can you become pregnant if you swallow cum? I was just wondering. Thank you very much....
A. 15 March 2008: No. I knew a woman who actually believed that (she was in her early twenties as well) and she had been raised by a very religious family. In front of me, my bf, her brother-in-law, and her husband she said that you could become pregnant from ... (read in full...)
How much weight could I lose between now and Easter?
Q. Similar question was asked earlier, but... I'm around 5' 5" and weigh 116. I really would like to lose weight by Easter, because I'm fat. I'm restricting my food again because I lost a lot of weight when I did this last summer and fall. Unfortunat...
A. 15 March 2008: I know I can't stop you from doing this, but please don't restrict your food too much, and take plenty of water with you when you run. You don't want to collapse when you are running. If you want to figure out how much weight you can loose, look up ... (read in full...)
He looks at porn - does this mean he doesn't love me?
Q. hi my partner has a addiction to looking at porn magazines and acts on them masterbates over them i was just wondering how much of a percentage of partners do this is it that theyre not happy with there sex life and partner i dont know how to think ...
A. 14 March 2008: Lots of men masturbate, and even after they get married/start having sex, some of them still masturbate.
I think that he may love you (not sure) but I think that he just has issues that he needs to work out. ... (read in full...)
First he want's me to move in, then he changes his mind.
Q. Im 43 and I have been dating a guy of 40 for the last 4 moths. We have both been through painful divorces and we got close very quickly. He said he thought I was an amazing person and he was happy with me. He said in the near future he would like me ...
A. 14 March 2008: Mirror him, okay? If he acts not interested in you, don't act interested in him. If he does act interested in you, act interested back! This will give him a chance to see how he is making you feel when he says stupid stuff like "I don't think we ... (read in full...)
35 and single, what do I do?
Q. I'm 35 and not married. I feel like Bridget Jones. I'm tall, slim, attractive with blond hair and intelligent - have an amazing job, well paid and lots of friends. I have no idea what the secret to finding a man and having a long lasting ...
A. 14 March 2008: You are not a failure for not being married yet. This is the modern times, not the 1950's!!! And even then I wouldn't call you a failure if you were this age and single back then.
Go for the ones that seem really into you, but make sure to dista... (read in full...)
Should I trust her or not? I don't know if a cheater can change...
Q. hey, hi! now a few months ago i wrote about an ex girlfriend who still had feelings about me.... now the dilema is we've gone out a few times and she has tried to kiss me but i've never kissed her back... reason being back when we broke up it w...
A. 13 March 2008: I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater, because I've cheated before and I don't do it anymore. Here's the thing: ask her if she is serious about you. If she says that she is, ask her to break up with this guy. If she doesn't or gives ... (read in full...)
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