I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 14 March 2008: Yw. Basically you are just going to have to deal with this aspect of his personality (if that's what it is.) You have tried time and time again to get him to change, but he hasn't, so obviously he's not going to. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 14 March 2008: Maybe he doesn't feel mushy all the time, or maybe he just wants his space, though that wouldn't explain him treating you badly. Sometimes people with health problems act badly towards others, grouchy, etc. I'm not saying it's an excuse, just saying ... (read in full...)
On the pill, but could I still be pregnant?
Q. 3 weeks ago i had sex with my boyfriend. It wasnt the first time it was after a party and we were both slightly drunk. He didnt have any protection but i know he doesnt have any std's and im on the pill so i thought it would be fine. It wasnt ...
A. 13 March 2008: Congrats.... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 13 March 2008: Well you get someone who understands you more than other people, just doesn't accept you as much as you'd like him to accept you, because he doesn't show you love. At least that's what I gather from it.
You say he doesn't judge you for what you... (read in full...)
My teacher is always staring at me....is he a pervert??
Q. There's a teacher at my school who won't stop staring at me! And no, I don't have a crush on him at all! But he is just so freaky. Today he came over and stood right next to me in assembly just staring at me and then I was on my way to the maths ...
A. 12 March 2008: If you really feel he is a pervert, just try not to be alone in a room with him, k?... (read in full...)
In a serious relationship, but should I go back to an abusive ex?
Q. Ok....so I have been in a serious relationship for 2 1/2 years with a good guy I met when I was a sophomore in highschool (about6 years ago)...but I cannot stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend. He is a little over a year younger than me but pretty ...
A. 12 March 2008: Love is not about feelings. Love is about staying by someone's side. If the guy you are with is still abusing you, yes, leave, but if not, you're just going to leave him for a crush?... (read in full...)
Should I go for this girl even if my friends call me a freak?
Q. ok im bi but if i say it the girl i like will she will think im copying her and i really like her but she is going out with a diffrent girl but if i tell my other friends they call my a freak and never talk to me again please help...
A. 12 March 2008: You need new friends and you need to not tell this girl that you like her since she is taken. ... (read in full...)
He is helpful and understanding but not very caring when I am ill.
Q. I met this man 18 years my senior while I was going through my divorce. He is helpful and understanding. But when I am not well he doesnt show much care. I was brought up by a loving mother. I know if you love then you care especially when the...
A. 12 March 2008: He can't admit to his emotions and therefore doesn't want anyone to admit to theirs, either. Because he can't grow, he doesn't want others to grow. I say leave him.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend feel the need to lie or cover up the fact that he looks at porn when I know he does?
Q. Why does my boyfriend feel the need to lie or cover up the fact that he looks at porn? I was gone for 4 hours one day and when I came home he was gone and I know that I shouldn't do this and it's wrong of me to look at his computer but under hi...
A. 12 March 2008: This is what you do. You tell him that you know that he has been looking at it, and that frankly you could care less for it, but it's his life, and he's gonna do what he's gonna do, but that you'd like him to be honest with you. ... (read in full...)
Why is he always in my dreams and what does it mean??
Q. I'm a 13yr old girl and I need people's opinions. This boy in my class(13), he's my friend and he likes me alot. Like he has feelings for me. We're not going out but I think I might even like him the same way too. Every night when I go to sleep, ...
A. 12 March 2008: You think about him during the day, so you are bound to dream about him at night. Or look at it this way, if you think about him before you go to sleep, you might dream about him.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and alone. What should I do?
Q. hi, i'm 20 and i've been sleeping with my ex boyfriend, who i love, hoping he would want to go out with me again. i've only just found out i'm pregnant, and told him but he says he doesn't want me or the baby and not to contact him. i unfortunatly...
A. 12 March 2008: Free counseling. Group therapy. Prayer. Journaling. etc. etc. etc. You could get some online friends as well!... (read in full...)
I have trouble making new friends because I'm shy. Please help
Q. Hey! Im in a new school and im finding it very hard to open up. Everyone always tells me im so quiet or shy. Id rlly like to open up, but i cant. I try to build up my confidence, or picture myself talking with ease, but that never seems to work. ...
A. 12 March 2008: One day you are going to get tired of holding things in and speak your mind. The problem with shy people is that they have this type of *power* in school. When they finally look like they are about to speak, everyone is so shocked that they are ... (read in full...)
I don't know if this boy really likes me? What should I do?
Q. well i m sorta confused ok. this boy hus been my friend for like a long time as like started sending me signals that i m not sure bout!! every like time we ave lessons together hes like alwaiis near me and sorta flirtin wiv me. he does it to other ...
A. 12 March 2008: Tell him that you like him. ... (read in full...)
Is the guy I'm dating acting odd?
Q. Was dating a guy for past 9 months. Everyone once in a while, he would send me these bizarre text messages (I believe he is drunk when he sends them) and accuses me of things that were ridiculous...like why did the gardener have my garage code and ...
A. 12 March 2008: I think that you did the right thing.... (read in full...)
Does young love last?
Q. hiya =] I'm 14 and i was just wondering, if i fell in love at this age, do you think i may be able to spend the rest of my life with someone? I know its unlikely. But it's a complicated story..... If you need more info just ask...but ...
A. 12 March 2008: I think it depends on the people and the situation.... (read in full...)
How do I have a proper relationship with my crush?
Q. hey, i'm sure this is like the main question that you get, but oh well :) i'm 15 and have been in love with the same boy for 3 years. the problem is, i am shy anyway but go even more so whenever im around him and go bright red if i just hear his...
A. 12 March 2008: Tell him. But just to let you know, boys around this age are weeeeiiiirrrrdddddd....sometimes if you tell them that you like them they get all standoffish and stuff and stop talking to you. Just a thought. It's up to you whether you want to risk ... (read in full...)
On the pill, but could I still be pregnant?
Q. 3 weeks ago i had sex with my boyfriend. It wasnt the first time it was after a party and we were both slightly drunk. He didnt have any protection but i know he doesnt have any std's and im on the pill so i thought it would be fine. It wasnt ...
A. 12 March 2008: I think you should get a home pregnancy test, and not the cheap kind!... (read in full...)
Still flirting with ex, should I give up?
Q. help i slept with this boy who recently broke up with his girlfriend. he says that he would do it again but he keeps on flirting with his ex what shall i do i really love this guy ...
A. 12 March 2008: He cheated on her, and now he's going to cheat on you. I say dump him. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask this girl out at work, even with the age difference?
Q. My problem is that there is a girl who I work with that I want to ask out. You see I've started a new part time job at this place in november, a month before I started a girl joined part time as well. We are always talking a lot during our shifts ...
A. 12 March 2008: Ask her out. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop boys from making advances at me?
Q. This isn't a major problem, but to me it is, so any advice would be great thankyou. well the thing is, when i'm at school i don't know why but lads feel they can take advantage of me, they touch me everywhere constantly, its not like it's just the ...
A. 12 March 2008: Well if you want this to stop you need to open up to somebody. Or give one of them a good smack or punch. Maybe you can try being homeschooled if your mom doesn't have a job. ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue a relationship or just quit while I'm ahead?
Q. So about a week ago I hooked up with a girl at a party, I'm not going to lie, at the time I was just interested in a piece of ass. And from the things I'd heard from alot of my friends she's very easy, but we never ended up having sex or anything ...
A. 12 March 2008: You've already noticed many warning signs and things that bother you. Just quit while you're ahead. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 12 March 2008: I think that people should be able to do fine regardless of whether they are single or not, but acting like they wouldn't miss you is another thing....so you want to keep him despite his not giving you affection. Well if it's not affection you're ... (read in full...)
I'm scared we're drifting...
Q. Hi, I met my 51 year old partner (I am 22) on-line and now we are living together. Now I feel he is more concerned with himself and makes it clear it won't affect him if we split up. Yet we are engaged. He is disabled and used to living on his own ...
A. 12 March 2008: Maybe he makes it clear that it won't affect him if you were to split up, because he is trying to say that just because he is disabled doesn't mean that he needs someone. Anyways, if he is not affectionate just leave him. And I mean affectionate in ... (read in full...)
She says she fancies me but wont go out with me...what should I do??
Q. There is this girl who has told me she fancy me, i and i really fancy her but she wont go out with me. I have asked her out and she said no. What should i do??...
A. 12 March 2008: Ask her why she won't go out with you. If she fails to give you a definite reason than she is probably lying about fancying you. ... (read in full...)
Making myself sick to lose weight, will it work?
Q. I'm 15 and I weigh 11 stone. I look at myself as fat, but I know I'm not that fat but for my age I am over weight. Ii stopped eating for 4 days once and I lost half a stone. As soon as I ate again I put on half a stone again but recently I've bee...
A. 12 March 2008: Yes, you will lose lots of weight and you will also lose your life. Do you know that there is a woman on myspace now, fighting for her life, because she had an eating disorder, and when she finally thought she recovered, her organs failed and now ... (read in full...)
How much porn do men watch? Should I be worried?
Q. This question is directed at men, but I'd like anybody's input I can get: I don't think there's anything wrong with porn, I watch a bit of it myself on occasion... but I recently moved in with my boyfriend and I'm realizing that he may be addicted ...
A. 8 March 2008: I agree with Dr. John.
But if you want the wordly p.o.v.-that porn is okay but in moderation-yes, I'd say he's addicted.
... (read in full...)
How to meet a new girl and ask her out?
Q. It's one thing ive never had the guts to do...go up to a girl ive never met before in my life and ask her out or for her number...My biggest fear is being rejected and/or here saying she has a boyfriend cause then I have to walk away knowing she is ...
A. 8 March 2008: Casual chat. Keep going to the same place where you met this person, and you may get to keep chatting with them. Who knows? She might give you HER number!... (read in full...)
Am I being stupid for getting upset coz we aint even an item?
Q. Hiya! There is this guy i really like, we aint in a relationship but we meet up whenever he has time and shows alot of affection etc. Been doing this for 5 months. well what it is he has gone away to ireland for 4 days with the guys, he will be...
A. 8 March 2008: If he likes you as much as he says he does, chances are he won't do the things that you are thinking he will do, because his HEART is taken!... (read in full...)
Should I take a chance on the boy I like??
Q. I really like this lad in the year above me, we've known each other for ages and i can talk to him about almost anything. But i'm not sure whether he likes me too in that way, or just as a mate as i keep getting mixed signals from him. I don't know ...
A. 8 March 2008: Take out a sheet of paper. Fold it hot-dog style. Write on the left side of it the signs he has given you that show that he likes you. Write on the right side of it the signs he has given you that show that he doesn't like you. Now you decide what ... (read in full...)
How can I approach him when I am scared of rejection and looking bad in front of my friends??
Q. I really like this boy; he goes to a diffrent school to me but all my freinds know him and that is how i know him. A few months back we started talking on msn, he said he liked me and i was pretty then we just stopped talking (i kept it from my ...
A. 8 March 2008: Get his number or talk to him on msn again.... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I like another boy and am scared to leave him, but can't carry on with this relationship.
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for nearly..8 months now. I'm 14, hes 15. He's my first. And he's my first love. I recently moved about 30 minutes away from him due to school. So, now i can only see him in the weekends. Well i made a guy...
A. 8 March 2008: Why the hell did you ask him that anyways? Break up with him if you want to go out with someone else. No guts, no glory!
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When I hint I like a guy nothing happens..so I have decided it is time to take action.
Q. My self esteem has reached an all time high and I feel great! :D Guy's are flirting with me and I am flirting back. I feel very attracted to some of the guys and when I really, really hint that I like them, nothing happens. and I've realized...
A. 8 March 2008: Just ask out whichever one you like. Maybe say something like, so, wanna see a movie tonight?... (read in full...)
I can't bear the thought of spending the rest of my life with him...but he just won't leave.
Q. hi, ive been married 22 years and since i turned 40, 2 years ago, ive realised how unhappy i am and all i can remember of my 1st 20 yrs of marriage misery. My 2 kids are now grown up and im far from happy with my husband,, dont think i ever rea...
A. 8 March 2008: Become independent and leave. You might have to increase the dosage of your meds to do this to counteract the anxiety, but it will be worth it!
You have my condolensces.... (read in full...)
Does joining an adult dating site make me look desperate??
Q. I'm considering joining one of those websites where you find people who are looking for intimate/sexual relationships... But I'm a bit concerned about how that may look and how people look at me. I know it shouldn't matter, but I worry it would make ...
A. 8 March 2008: I met my bf online. We have been going out for about seven months. Go for it!... (read in full...)
After the gym...everything is hurting and I am worried I have damaged something.
Q. I was in the gym yesterday and everything was okay...some weights, some treadmill etc etc- the norm. Today however my shoulder muscles are hurting terribly and i am worried i might have done damage or something. please help. thanks....
A. 8 March 2008: Maybe you are just not in shape. When was the last time you went to the gym besides yesterday? Get some ice, some ben-gay. Epsom-Salt baths help as well. If you are worried that you might have damaged something go see a doctor. If you want to wait a ... (read in full...)
He was my first love...but I just founf out he cheated on me with my best mate and I can't stop crying.
Q. Me and my ex were in a relationship for almost a year, we broke up in november but carried on he flirting and doing stuff until very recent, he suddenly decided he doesnt like me like that anymore, we where so in love it was magic! first love:) but ...
A. 8 March 2008: Be good to yourself. Take hot baths. Soak your feet. Paint your nails, etc. Read magazines. Find something to occupy your time, but at the same time, don't get so occupied that you try to skip the grieving process. You are going to grieve, but be ... (read in full...)
My bf is a serial flirter...how do I make him stop this or prevent him crossing the line??
Q. My boyfriend is a serial flirter when it comes to other women.I have lived with him for the past 16 months and although he knows how it makes me feel he still continues to do it even going as far as getting a co workers number at work which I called ...
A. 8 March 2008: He is being an ass. He needs to stop leading people on. I think that you should start flirting with males and start ignoring what he is doing and see how that makes him feel.
You have my condolensces. ... (read in full...)
Is it bad for me to be talking to my ex-boyfriend when I already have a boyfriend??
Q. Is it bad for me to be talking to my ex-boyfriend when i already have a boyfriend????????????...
A. 8 March 2008: I agree with Laura. I don't talk to any of my ex's. I have no reason to! They are my ex's now for a reason!... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend troubles
Q. hi!! i am going out with thhis girl z for about 1 month and we both like each other but when ether we are are youth club and we go of to be alone and have a walk and talk hug and snog. this lad who z has been out with before folows us and it is ...
A. 8 March 2008: Maybe yall could hang out somewhere where this person isn't. How 'bout you start a home youth group at your house, and don't tell this guy where you live?... (read in full...)
I snooped and found out he cheated. How do I confront him on this?
Q. I am at a loss! I am in agony right now! I did something very bad and I know it. But he did something worse. My boyfriend accidentally left his email up on the computer and I know I should have just logged it out and ignored it. But I didnt. I ...
A. 8 March 2008: Just tell him in a calm voice that you know what he has been doing.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for middle aged guys to masterbate?
Q. O.k i don't know whether its me just being naive but i need to know whether this is normal? I have caught my dad a couple of times masturbating in his bedroom...believe me that was traumatising enough but what i want to know is, is it normal for a ...
A. 8 March 2008: Your dad needs to learn to lock doors and you need to learn to knock! Anyways, yes it is normal.
You have my condolensces.... (read in full...)
He wants time to himself and I understand. But is it really something more?
Q. My good friend and I started dating shortly after he ended with his ex-gf whom he was with for a while (6 years; living together). He has been in love with me for about 7 years he says, i know this to be true because 3 years ago he confessed his ...
A. 8 March 2008: If he wanted space, he should've just told you from the beginning, instead of waiting all those days to tell you. If I were you, I'd give him more space than he wanted and see what happens. Maybe you should play his own games with him. Take some ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her on a date? Where should I take her if I do?
Q. i met this girl and i like hir we are good mates and we have only met 2 times but always talk to hir on msn whatshould i talk to hir about ?? how do i know if she likes me??im 15 in march and she is 14 in december do you think im the wrong age for ...
A. 8 March 2008: Age doesn't matter. Take her to a fast food joint, since it's the first date, and ask her lots of questions about her. People like to talk about themselves usually. Also ask her if there is anything that she would like to know about you. Don't talk ... (read in full...)
My son saw me kiss another man while I was separated from my husband (due to his abuses.) I'm worried my temperamental husband will find out!
Q. My husband was acting like he was ragging yesterday because his boss laid into his ass about something. So we were arguing about little stupid crap all night because of his attitude. Well, whenever he starts to lose the argument he always tries to ...
A. 8 March 2008: Hmmmmm, maybe bribe your son not to tell? lol...nah, just kidding!
Anyways, explain to your son that it was "kissing" so he stops calling it "nasty stuff." Otherwise, if he does start to talk to your husband, your husband might think that he means... (read in full...)
Is it possible to contract HIV by getting a tattoo?
Q. my boy friend wants to get a tattoo. is it possible for him to get infected with HIV? ...
A. 8 March 2008: Yes. Make sure the tattooist has an autoclave and ask him to talk about his sterilizing procedures on his equipment. If he refuses to, no sale!... (read in full...)
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