He was interested when I was with someone, now we're together and it feels like he's gone cold
Q. when j and i first got to know each other, i was still with my ex. then, i was having problems with my ex, so i kind of confided in j and talked to him about my unhappiness. j was furious when he learned how badly my ex treated me and tried to get m...
A. 19 July 2009: Some men can be this way sometimes. He already has you, so now he is no longer working so hard to get you. Maybe you could act like you are going after him now, by doing little, selfless things for him. I am sure that he will appreciate your ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be in a FWB relationship
Q. My b/f and I split up but now I think he wants me back but I feel that he wants me to call him and chase him. We have talked and have seen each other a few times. He said I have been waiting two months to see you. My question how should I handle ...
A. 19 July 2009: I think that when you get back together it would be okay to sleep with him again. Some people have this as part of the making up process. If you don't want to be a FWB, make sure that you ask him, are we bf/gf again?" before you go to bed with him. ... (read in full...)
Let it go? Or tell her of my feelings?
Q. OK so i Met this girl online we shes 17 today and im also 17. ne way we have been talking for about a month and i have developed feelings for her. my question is should i tell her or just let it go? She doesn't have a boyfriend so we are good in ...
A. 19 July 2009: Depending on how far away she lives, you should tell her. I'll leave the "how far away" part to your judgement. ... (read in full...)
Would not getting closure cause me to dream of my ex?
Q. I've been having dreams about my ex lately.We broke up last year.Im over him now,the problem is these dreams.For the past 3 nights now,I wake up and see him laying next to me(smiling and wisphering).Then another night it's a nightmare.He tried to ...
A. 19 July 2009: I don't know what the reason is, but from the sounds of these nightmares he must not have been a stellar guy, unless you are afraid of guys/people in general. Get closure with him if you can, and see if the nightmares go away. ... (read in full...)
Do I put up a fight for him? Or just let him slip away?
Q. I know this is a question that probably comes up time again, but I'd like some advice on how to try and forget about my probably ex-bf as I can't stop thinking about him, despite trying to distract myself. We've been together 9 years. We lived...
A. 19 July 2009: Sorry that you are in this situation. I think that he said the things that he said just to make you happy. I think that you should let him go. If he truly loves you, he will come back. Give him your contact info, and avoid contacting him. Let him ... (read in full...)
Does he act this way for a reason?
Q. Hey ok so I've know this guy for about 5 years now and he says I'm like one of his best friends and that he never wants to lose me... When we get into textn we sometimes end up talking dirty and when we talk he only wants to know about me when I ask ...
A. 19 July 2009: Sounds like he is using you. "Can't last not being my friend." What does that mean? You don't need him. ... (read in full...)
He asked me to bring lunch, but then was a no-show because of his female trainees! I'm furious!
Q. Should I be upset or making too much out of it? B/f calls me prior to my lunch hour, asks me to pick up burgers and come to his work. I come with food, he's not there. I call his cell, no answer. His co-workers say they haven't seen him all morning, ...
A. 17 July 2009: Let him go. I think he is trying to get you to make a scene or something to make himself look good. ... (read in full...)
Was it right for me to go out with a guy that my friend liked, even when she had a boyfriend?
Q. Ok so I havae a realy good friend, so close we refer to each other as sisters. Her names,well.."Jennifer". and "Jennifer" and I wouldnt want anything to come between us. Or so I thought. She is in a Really good relationship. They both claim to...
A. 17 July 2009: Did you even meet this guy? If yall didn't meet, he doesn't love you, and he's probably trying to make her jealous. On the other hand, say if yall did meet, well, she may "like" him but she has someone. She is not sole keeper of every male that ... (read in full...)
I've just found out she had a threesome and this is eating away at me!
Q. I really need some help here. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago. I had sex with one girl, shortly after the relationship ended and again two weeks later. She found out about both as i admided to it. She then procieded to have sex ...
A. 17 July 2009: I think that you should let it go. You two are just going to hurt each other, so maybe you should find someone else. Or talk to her. She did this because what you did hurt her, even though you two weren't together. You both need to learn to be p... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is an ass, a jerk, inconsiderate and makes me cry
Q. Okay, same guy if you've read my questions before. Last night me and my boyfriend were doing things sexually, and i couldnt get him off...this has happend a couple times before and hes drunk...its been an hour or more and he still wants me to keep ...
A. 17 July 2009: Leave him. You wouldn't be leaving him just over this, but over other things that he has done as well. You don't even have to tell him why you are leaving him. Just be assertive and tell him that you are leaving. If you give him reasons to your ... (read in full...)
For the Ladies: What do you mean when you say, "Hey, you're cute!"
Q. Dear Ladies and Girls, Would you please enlighten me, and many other men no doubt, as to what you ACTUALLY mean when you say to a guy the following:- "Hey you're cute". Thanks. ...
A. 17 July 2009: It could be sarcastic, like if you said something mean to her and she said "hey you're cute."... (read in full...)
I pushed my wife away because of insecurities, now she's gone to study and all I want is her.
Q. After 9 months of marriage, i broke up with my 19 year old wife and now she's left town for further studies which i disagree with her because i felt insecure that she might be use by some male friends in her college just for enjoyment. I'm no more ...
A. 17 July 2009: I married my husband when I was still in college. I had relations with no man but him. Go ask her for forgiveness. Surely she wasn't going to let go of her dreams because of your insecurities? ... (read in full...)
Why is she hurting me like this?
Q. so it been 4 weeks since me and my ex have split up i got a flat just round the road from her we have 2 kids and i want to be near them she asked me to leave she said i was making her unhappy and i was doing nothing around the house i had just lost ...
A. 17 July 2009: If you really were doing things and looking for a job she may be interested in someone else. ... (read in full...)
I've been having my period for a month?
Q. okay so i just have a question... i am 17 years old and i got my period for the first time when i was about 13. ive never been regular... sometimes i might skip a month and stuff like that but about two months ago i got my period twice in one month ...
A. 17 July 2009: Go see another doctor. You could have a condition called endometriosis. Look it up online and look at the symptoms.... (read in full...)
She showed interest but now is suddenly ignoring me
Q. Well hey there. This all started about 3 weeks ago. There's this girl that literally lives across my work. For the first week we've been looking at eachother and smiling and all, and then I've decided to make the first move. Started talking t...
A. 17 July 2009: I think that she's a lost cause. Let her go before she starts calling you a stalker or something stupid.... (read in full...)
Does calling her "sweet thing" mean he likes her?
Q. What does it mean when a guy calls a girl 'sweet thing'? Does it mean he probably likes her? ...
A. 10 July 2009: Whether he admits it or not is not the issue. Ask him and interpret his body language as he answers the question. ... (read in full...)
Barriers in our Love
Q. Hi, I am really in love with my girlfriend of 3 months.I have given up alot for her and she knows that and she loves me like crazy. But my mind keeps saying there will be barriers that will keep us apart and there is nothing I can do about it. I r...
A. 10 July 2009: This seems to be developing into a codependency relationship. Why do you say you would have nothing?... (read in full...)
How can I make my wife feel valued?
Q. My wife said she doesn't feel important to me what do I do? Right now she said she needs a break what are some things I can do to make her feel special and to show how much I really love her?...
A. 10 July 2009: Hmmmmm....If she needs a break give her one. When the break is over with spend more time with her. Keep in mind that she will have to look insider her own heart about this and you will have to communicate with her about these feelings she is ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 years old and my libido has disappeared!
Q. I'm 20 years old and as of the last two years (or maybe a bit less) my libido has gone down, down, DOWN!!!! I no longer get any tingly sensations, maybe VERY mild ones. Sometimes, when I'm with my boyfriend... but it's not him, it's me. Well...
A. 10 July 2009: See a doctor maybe? Are you depressed? Are you tired? Are you on any antidepressants? ... (read in full...)
I'd like to think that our marriage problems are about money, but it's really that my husband thinks only of himself.
Q. my husband and i are having marriage problems. we have been married for 23 years. we are going through some financial problems, and i would like to think that is the problem, but the real problem is that my husband thinks only of himself. we ...
A. 10 July 2009: Take things day by day. Take problems as they come. Are there any family members that you can stay with? Like your mom? Maybe you can go to college. The government pays money to people to go to school. Maybe a relative can drive you there daily. ... (read in full...)
Does calling her "sweet thing" mean he likes her?
Q. What does it mean when a guy calls a girl 'sweet thing'? Does it mean he probably likes her? ...
A. 10 July 2009: Maybe he is just flirting and it means nothing. Don't ask us. Ask him about it. ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he be the one to make the effort to win my affection?
Q. I've been with this guy for three years, we lived together for one of them. He's going to graduate school in Maryland while I'm staying here in Oregon. He says that he needs time for himself to grow and mature, and thinks that we're way too young to ...
A. 10 July 2009: I got married when I was twenty-one and we are almost at our one year mark. Let him go. He's trying to sound all "mature" about this, but really he's being immature. ... (read in full...)
Madly in love.... but afraid of marriage! Help!
Q. I have been with the same man for 3years and I am madly in Love with him, there is no doubt in my mind that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. The only problem is that I fear marriage. I trust him with all of my heart, I just am afraid of ...
A. 10 July 2009: I got cold feet when it came to marriage as well, so we did it fast. We got married at a legal place. ... (read in full...)
Why did my colleague not speak to me first?
Q. I thank in advance all who offer advice here. I have been having workplace/ colleague issues over the past year. The pattern seems the same. I am a very kind but also professional person who does her best in her job. It seems though, that some of my ...
A. 10 July 2009: 1) Complain about this to their supervisors. 2) Realize that some people are just jealous. 3) Realize that some people are just as immature as they were in high school. ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and my 17 year old bf is always mad at me!
Q. hi. i am 14 and my boyfriend is 17. we have been together for 11 monthsz now and almost a year. the thing is he always gets mad over little things and always thinks i am lying to him...he doesnt trust me at all. and this one time he got really ma...
A. 10 July 2009: Let him go.... (read in full...)
He says "sike!" in response to "I love you"! What does that mean?
Q. What does it mean when my boyfriend of two years says an I love you and when I respond with "I love you too" or "I love you more" he says, "sike" or "yeah right"? Does he really love me or does he really not believe I love him?...
A. 10 July 2009: Ask him what he means by this.... (read in full...)
Is phone sex wrong?
Q. I was wondering if someone could tell me if phone sex is wrong with my bf...we've been dating for 41 months and pretty much do it every other nite....
A. 10 July 2009: Why do you think that it is wrong? Are you of any particular religion?... (read in full...)
This is beyond crazy! I have developed a twitch. I have thrown up multiple times at work from the loads of anxiety! HELP!
Q. It was a coworkers last day today and our boss took us all out to lunch. I had to make sure that I sat next to all women because my boyfriend would otherwise be angry. I was on gchat with my blackberry the whole time in case he needed to check on ...
A. 10 July 2009: Get out of this relationship now. ... (read in full...)
Should I believe a Married Man?
Q. About a month ago I was out havin drinks with a friend of mine. we met two guys at a bar and started havin great convo. at the end of the nite we kissed and i got his number 2 days later i sent him a text and 2 days later i got a response. later on ...
A. 10 July 2009: If he was unhappy, he would've left a long time ago. He's been there for ten years!!! Does he care too much about what other people think or something? Let him go. ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope of us getting back together based on what he had told me?
Q. So this is long, but I need some advice. Me and my boyfriend were together for about seven months. I had never felt so strong about another person and told me how much i meant to him and how much he loved me evert day. Well, something happened ...
A. 10 July 2009: You are trying to be too controlling. This is why he is wanting to be single. I think he should be nicer to you and not make excuses for his behaviour and apologize for how he acted towards you, but at the same time if he wants a break, he's taking ... (read in full...)
He tells me he needs a break but his actions speaks a different tune
Q. i've been with my boyfriend almost three years my boyfriend just told me earlier this week, that he didn't feel the same anymore and that he wanted a break and that he really really cared about me. i love him so much he literally means the world to ...
A. 10 July 2009: Give him a break. He is trying to sort his feelings out. ... (read in full...)
I love him, do we keep the baby even tho we're 900 miles apart?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago because he couldnt decided if he wanted to be with me or be single. I let him make the choice after being with him for 2 years making sure he knew I tried and it was his decision. We promised to remain ...
A. 10 July 2009: Find out how you can give the baby up for adoption and discuss this with him. ... (read in full...)
My Ex wants to still have Sex when his new Girlfriend is pregnant!
Q. I was with my ex for 5 years he cheated on me 3 times but I love him and still ended up back with him. We got married last year and I got pregnant. He left me for other women when I was 2 months prego. He told me thay it was a mistake to leave me ...
A. 10 July 2009: You said "I don't feel bad because he did the same thing to me.." Okay???? Did you think that you were using him back or something? Because you weren't He was using you then and he has been using you now for some time. He may have loved you in the ... (read in full...)
I love my best friend to death
Q. I love my best friend but idk how to tell her my feelings. She's 1 1/2 years older than me and she's going off to college next year she is gna be four hours away untill I go to college wit her. But nowdays me and her watch movies together go swimin ...
A. 10 July 2009: Tell her. Holding it in must really hurt. Relieve your pain.... (read in full...)
I think I'm Gay...But I don't know what to do.
Q. As the topic states, I Think I Am Gay but I do not know what to do... The feelings are only sexual though. The idea of a life relationship with a man is an immediate turn off for me....but the idea of sex with a woman seems awkward to me. ...
A. 10 July 2009: Maybe you could find some gay communities to join online that would build up your confidence with your sexual preferences. ... (read in full...)
All my friends ditched me after my breakup. I'm lonely :-( how do I get out of this rut?
Q. Hi im wondering what to do with myself. My bf and I ended an 9 year relationship and I moved towns. Even though he cheated on me none of our mutual friends speak to me any more and im very lonely because I no longer have any friends. I try and...
A. 10 July 2009: Maybe you are just not ready to have friends again yet. You say that your friendships slip away but that you feel there is no point in trying, well there you go! They are slipping away because you are not putting your all into them? Learn to trust ... (read in full...)
Barriers in our Love
Q. Hi, I am really in love with my girlfriend of 3 months.I have given up alot for her and she knows that and she loves me like crazy. But my mind keeps saying there will be barriers that will keep us apart and there is nothing I can do about it. I r...
A. 10 July 2009: Every relationship goes through it's own problems. Don't dwell on these things. When they come, you two will hopefully work on them. ... (read in full...)
I feel lonely and unwanted.What do I do?
Q. I feel like so depressed!! I dont know what to do..my parents dont let me go out and hang with friends so i basically stay home all day everyday and it really sucks. i hate that they're so over protective. I feel so lonely and unwanted...and ...
A. 8 July 2009: Will they let you take a walk around the neighborhood?... (read in full...)
How do I get my dad to like my boyfriend? And is this relationship illegal or immoral? I'm almost 18, he's 26.
Q. i am a 17 year old girl, i turn 18 in 3 weeks. my boyfried is 26. we love eachother very much and things are going really well between us... however, some of my family, especially my parents dont approve and say it is morally wrong and some of my ...
A. 8 July 2009: I don't think that it's immoral. I had a friend who was 22 and dated a 16 year old. Now she is legal and they have been together for two years or more. What is going on is illegal, but take heart, hopefully you will be 18 soon! You can't "make... (read in full...)
How do I tell her that I've been sleeping with someone else for a week?
Q. What drives us to do the most embarassing things, is it pure desire? or is there something deeper that drives us crazy until we posses what we thought we always wanted only to find ourselves still searching and when we reach this point there's no ...
A. 8 July 2009: There is no "set way" to tell someone that you've wronged them. Just tell her and let her go. But don't be surprised if she fusses you out. Let her get it all out. ... (read in full...)
I did everything for him but now I'm all alone
Q. Hi guys, I wanna start telling you guys that I'm gay, last week my bf and I broke up after a very ugly argument, that day ii texted him, he answered me in this way, what do you want? so I asked him why did he reply like that so he said, "omfg i dont ...
A. 8 July 2009: You can do better. ... (read in full...)
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