I want a girl to be a best friend before I fall in love
Q. Okay, well I'm a 17 year old male, going into my senior year next year. I've completely fallen for my best friend, who's an 18 year old girl who will be going off to college next fall. I've come to terms with the fact she doesn't love me the same...
A. 19 June 2009: I think that you could post up something like "I want friends first, and we will see where that leads," or if you are not doing this online, tell them in person. If they don't like this move on.
Also yall both can decide how long yall want to ... (read in full...)
Sex & older men
Q. I am 17 an i am attracted to a 32 year old man with cerebral palsy. And I want to have sexual relations with him when i turn 18. is that bad?...
A. 17 June 2009: Think about your motives for this. I think that it is fine as long as you both consent. ... (read in full...)
He is immature and I feel he is not worth my energy
Q. I met a what appeared to be nice guy on line. He lived in a different city about 300 miles away. We connected very well and talked every night and sometimes during the day. He had been to visit me on a weekend and a holiday. We shared so much. Very ...
A. 17 June 2009: Let him go. Obviously he cannot handle adult issues. ... (read in full...)
I might have an eating disorder
Q. I think I might have an eating disorder because lately I have been only thinking about my weight. I'm almost 16 (my weight is 100 ponds and I'm 5`9) and and I make myself not eat cause I want gain any weight. Also I have made myself throw up once or ...
A. 17 June 2009: You are seriously underweight.
How did you make him promise not to tell anyone? Did you lie and say that it wasn't what he thought it was? Did you promise him that you would get better? Whether you lied or used other manipulative ways or not, thi... (read in full...)
How would you approach this?
Q. For the past month, I've been seeing this much older guy. He texts me everyday, takes me out on dates, we get along, tells his friends about me, told his family he met a lovely lady.. etc.. etc. He tells me he thinks I'm beautiful, smart ...
A. 17 June 2009: Keep getting to know him. As for your "gfs," any guy, young or old, could be a possible player. Just get to know him and look for habits or ways that prove that he is NOT a player. ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Does he like me not? Does he...
Q. so i like this guy, and i told him and then he asked if i thought he was hot and i said ya and he said i was too but i dont know if he likes me. what are some things i could say or do to have him start to like me or to ask me out?...
A. 17 June 2009: I think that you should get to know him more. Do you want him dating you based solely on how you look?... (read in full...)
How do you know if your boyfriend slept with your roomate?
Q. i have lived with my boyfriend for almost 5 mouths now, and i have been getting this werid feeling that they have slept together. i asked my boyfriend if anything had happen with the two of them but he seid no, "why would i want to sleep with her." ...
A. 17 June 2009: Trust your gut. Look for some evidence maybe? ... (read in full...)
She says she won't wait for me -- should I change my plans to keep her?
Q. Dear Aunties, My girlfriend and I of 7 long and horrible months have been talking about our futures outside of high school. Now, I want to join the military and she wont tell me what she wants to do... She has ideas... The main thing here is...
A. 17 June 2009: Just leave her. There are plenty of women out there who want a military man. Try to avoid the ones that just want money. I am sure that all you have to do is yell out "Next!" and they will come running. lol. Don't do this in front of her though, ... (read in full...)
I want a girl to be a best friend before I fall in love
Q. Okay, well I'm a 17 year old male, going into my senior year next year. I've completely fallen for my best friend, who's an 18 year old girl who will be going off to college next fall. I've come to terms with the fact she doesn't love me the same...
A. 17 June 2009: People in the dating scene often put their "best foot forward." When you met your best friend it was genuine and authentic. In order to meet someone who could be like a best friend you must be in a genuine and authentic situation.
I put up an ad... (read in full...)
I want to be taken seriously, not just for sex
Q. ok this is a weird situation and queston. well I was at work today and one of my co workers asked me if anyone has ever told me that I had seductive eyes?! well I said no not in that way. well anyway she kept on and on with it and told me I had ...
A. 17 June 2009: In your question, you say that "she" told you you had "f me eyes." I agree with someone else, that there are not that many mature people in your age group. Is this woman a lesbian?
This is sexual harrassment and you should report it. Keep sti... (read in full...)
Should I be mad that he hasn't texted me in almost 2 days? And should I go out with him?
Q. Hi all. Ok so i met up wit a old friend from high skool and we were both in relationships but me and my bf broke up not bcuz of my old friend so abt two weeks later he broke up with his gf (claims they fought over something petty) so were supposed ...
A. 17 June 2009: I don't know if you should go out with him just yet. If they fought over something petty and broke up, he may get back with her soon. Give it some time.
And you should be angry, not because he hasn't texted you in almost 2 days, but because ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend even though I'm scared?
Q. I'd really like people's advice on this..... i have a boyfriend and we've been together for 2 years. both of us just went through our first year of college, each at different schools. our first year was heaven but college changed me, i tried new ...
A. 17 June 2009: Yes you should leave him. Since he likes blaming you so much, even though this is already in the past, maybe you could appeal to his angle. "I am leaving you because I don't want to hurt you anymore." If he says, "Oh no, I am fine now, all is ... (read in full...)
Is there a good chance she will turn around and want me back?
Q. Ok so I was dating this girl for like 2 weeks, she had a bad relationship in the past I mean the guy hit her and cheated on her all the time. But anyways we really did fall in love with each other in that short time frame and get along so good as if ...
A. 17 June 2009: Yes, stay friends and be there for her.
But don't become annoying, you know, such as asking lots of questions like, "How do you feel about me now?" etc.
She will tell you if she falls in love with you again and really wants to be back together... (read in full...)
How can I get her to fall in love with me?
Q. im in love with my cousin. im dont care what people think. she doesnt know about it. i wish to tell her. she is beutiful. i dont know if she has feelings for me and that is something i want to know. how can i get her to fall in love with me because ...
A. 17 June 2009: You can't get someone to fall in love with you.
Be yourself, let her see you for the great person that you are, and maybe she will be interested.
I hope yall are close in age. And there is more to love than just beauty. What other things do ... (read in full...)
Is ignoring someone a good way to break up with them?
Q. I am breaking up with my girlfriend. I plan on doing the whole ignoring treatment. I stopped talking to her, I stopped calling and I am ignoring her txt msgs. She has a feeling that I will be doing this. Is this a good method and what would...
A. 17 June 2009: You are doing the "fade away" method. Be a man and tell her face to face. ... (read in full...)
I found a ladys deodarant in his draw!
Q. so.... this weekend i went to sleepover at ma bfs place. anyway i foynd a ladies deodarant in his drawer and i really dont know wat to make of it.he said he didnt know who it belonged. anyway i thru it out but now am reall wondering is he having ...
A. 17 June 2009: You never know. He could be using it? ... (read in full...)
Relationship starts within two weeks of meeting and now he wants sex?
Q. I met this cute guy in my local gym two weeks ago. We had a little chat, two days later he asked for my number. I gave him and immidiately he told me he liked me and wanted me to be his galfriend. I didnt take him seriously at first because it was ...
A. 18 May 2009: Keep telling him no and watch him slowly fade away. ... (read in full...)
Should I just accept that "boys will boys"??
Q. I've just started dating a guy who is very attractive and a huge flirt. He gives girls a lot of attention, and they give it back to him. Girls on Facebook are always asking him to hang out or call him, and every time we go out I catch him making ...
A. 18 May 2009: I think you should just leave. Maybe he is just doing this to test you. Maybe he wants you to say something so that he knows that you care. ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my husband's anal obsession?
Q. My husband insists on having anal sex. Every time we've try, it's been very painful. Yet he keeps begging for it and makes me feel bad when I turn him down. What can I do?...
A. 17 May 2009: This is called emotional manipulation. If you don't want to do it, don't. Even if he makes you feel bad, just wait, and over time you will get this wonderful feeling called the power of No. You will feel more confident and more independent.... (read in full...)
Caught between two guys
Q. ok here would be my problem, i've been dating this guy for a week.. and now im starting to think this is just a friend kind of thing. and i don't wanna hurt him because i'm afraid that he'll be mad and that he won't wanna be just friends afterwards. ...
A. 6 May 2009: Don't avoid going with your gut because you are afraid of someone getting mad at you. Don't let how they might end up feeling or acting control the way you act.... (read in full...)
I've become so abusive and jealous since I got pregnant!
Q. hi everybody, this really sucks im in a relationship and hes great but im 7 months pregnant and lately im feeling so jealous and insecure cause sometimes he looks at other women and i feel so ugly if he leaves for 1 hr., im already thinking hes ...
A. 6 May 2009: You know when my mom was pregnant, with a big wedding ring on her finger, some coworker came up to her and my dad and said she'd love to get him in a room for five minutes alone, with my mom standing right there, she said this.
Talk to him abou... (read in full...)
I just cant see myself raising my daughter. I don't think I even love her.
Q. Hey, I'm basically wondering what's the best way to end a long term relationship when you don't want to give the real reason? Bit of background... I'm 18 and so is my boyfriend. We've been together for 5 years and we have a daughter who's 2....
A. 6 May 2009: You should follow your heart then.
Remember that girl who got killed cos her grandma shoved her onto her mom when he mom didn't want her? I forget her name, and not saying you are capable of murder, but people didn't take her seriously when she... (read in full...)
My husband has a big attitude problem and wants to rule me!
Q. Hi, Recently my husband has been having high ego and attitude problems. He wants me do things exactly he says, if not done that way there are fights. He wants to rule me. If i take any decision he says "you have to ask me before you do anythin...
A. 6 May 2009: Hmmm. If you two have a joint account, I can understand why he would want some input on where the money goes, but if it's constantly everything that he wants his way in, you need to leave him. Fast. ... (read in full...)
I'm just very confused what this girl actually wants.
Q. I need some help with my relationship. I'm just very confused what this girl actually wants. I was in a 9 month relationship with this girl, and things were always pretty good. Recently though we haven't been seeing each other as much, and the ...
A. 6 May 2009: I don't know what it means, but I think that was a stupid reason to break up. Me and my husband live in different towns an hour away from each other and we have almost been together for two years.
I wonder if she felt like you were fading away fro... (read in full...)
Confused why do I feel like I can't let go of a man who has cheated on me twice and been physically abusive?
Q. Confused why do I feel like I can't let go of a man who has cheated on me twice and been physically abusive.I feel that every time I say I'm movin on and when he calls me I give in. The last incident occured last week when he got upset cuz he said ...
A. 6 May 2009: Yes you should be happy. Of course you can't let go of him. I suspect codependence. Look it up and study it. You might have some of the symptoms.... (read in full...)
He just disappears! Is this worth it?
Q. Hi, im writing this the night before my finals start.I have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. Every once in a while my boyfriend will go out on mad night (staying out all night and next day doing drugs)and not call. Late the next day he will say ...
A. 6 May 2009: Thanks for the feedback. Take care.... (read in full...)
He looks down on me like I'm the worst person in the world...
Q. I met this guy in 2003. He told me that him and his wife were not together because she cheated on him. He said that he was staying in the home util he got enough money to get out. He said he could not be with her after what she did to him. He said ...
A. 5 May 2009: Let him go. I think that he is playing games and that what he is doing has more to do with something else than money matters.... (read in full...)
I left Uni for this guy and he's treating me like I'm an idiot!
Q. Well, where do I start? I need some advice. i've been with my boyfriend nearly a year and I love him so much and I know he loves me for he tells me every day, several times a day but lately that flair has disappeared. We're supposed to be moving in ...
A. 5 May 2009: One of my high school teachers was telling us about marriages where there is unhappiness because one person seems to be more mature than the other. ... (read in full...)
I had a dream...where he got really mad at me! What does this mean?
Q. okay so my situation is well i have a little crush on this guy who is named Pedro and well I sit by him in a class and we talk and stuff and he is very cool to talk to.Well today I had a dream that we were walking side by side and that I told him ...
A. 5 May 2009: Maybe it is just displaying your insecurities.... (read in full...)
Opinions needed. Why do I feel this way?
Q. I have some insecurities as we all do i guess. However the girl im seeing seems to be hiding things from me. for example we went out last week with her friend and i happend to see a picture on her friends camera of a guy kissing her on the cheek. ...
A. 5 May 2009: Find someone you can trust. ... (read in full...)
Ways to win my ex back!
Q. I want my ex back. He broke up with me I dunno why. I have tried asking but he's shy and shit. I want the most effective way to win him over and be in love again....
A. 5 May 2009: Maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and that is why he is acting shy. Sorry but if he doesn't want to be with you he doesn't want to be with you. Be patient with yourself and take time to move on.... (read in full...)
I care about her so much and just wish I knew what she thought about me.
Q. Hello everyone, I have been seeing this girl for about four months and I really care about her a lot. Things have been sort of rocky. Sometimes she just doesnt seem interested in me and other times it seems like she is really interested in me...
A. 5 May 2009: Everyone wants their alone time. I think she likes you.... (read in full...)
How do I forget about someone I like?
Q. How do I forget about someone I like because he has too many friends, he's too independent and he's too clever. And he's 2 years younger then me, good looking and too popular and sneaky and I am far too inferior for him so I want to forget about hi...
A. 5 May 2009: You aren't inferior to him, but it's not healthy to obsess about someone. Try to let him go.... (read in full...)
Why do guys like to play games with your heart?
Q. Why do guys like to play games with your heart? Its obvious sometimes how this guy feels about me but then it seems like he doesn't like me. It makes me sad when I don't talk to him and he doesn't care until later on. I don't like him playing games! ...
A. 5 May 2009: I don't think all guys play games. Maybe you just need to find someone who is more open with you, or you could start to be less open with him. I know two wrongs don't make a right, but then he will see how it feels and maybe he will change.... (read in full...)
I want to express appreciation for my Teacher...any tips?
Q. my teacher has had a huge impact on my life, I look up to him and he is such a big influence to me. I think i'm using him as a father type figure. I know that I am one of his favorite students and i'm one of the best at his subject in my school, ...
A. 5 May 2009: You could email him after you get your grade, that way it doesn't seem like you are sucking up.
Yeah, I wouldn't tell him the "father-type figure" thing. Just tell him thanks for teaching me and helping me further my education. Something like tha... (read in full...)
I left Uni for this guy and he's treating me like I'm an idiot!
Q. Well, where do I start? I need some advice. i've been with my boyfriend nearly a year and I love him so much and I know he loves me for he tells me every day, several times a day but lately that flair has disappeared. We're supposed to be moving in ...
A. 5 May 2009: I don't think that you are being demanding at all. I think you need to go back to Uni. Guys and people will come and go. I am in college myself, and I spend the weeks there and only see my husband on weekends. I am not giving up college for him. ... (read in full...)
He won't come with me for regular STI checkups...why?
Q. Hello, I am a 23 year-old female and have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. The thing is I like to go for a health (STI) check every once a while but the problem is he has always refused to come along with me. At first I thought maybe he...
A. 5 May 2009: It makes me wonder if he is cheating on you. Talk to him about this. Tell him your feelings. Ask him why he won't come with you.
"Just doesn't want to do it," is not a good enough answer to come from him. He needs to be up front with you. You are ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I may be pregnant even though we take precautions.
Q. Hi aunts, Normally a few days before my period is due my chest gets very sensitive and tender to touch but once I start my periods they are fine. But this time round they have been sore for well over 2 weeks and no sign of my periods starting...
A. 5 May 2009: I don't know exactly how long you should wait, but I know that there are certain tests out there that can tell you before fourteen days I think. ... (read in full...)
He just disappears! Is this worth it?
Q. Hi, im writing this the night before my finals start.I have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. Every once in a while my boyfriend will go out on mad night (staying out all night and next day doing drugs)and not call. Late the next day he will say ...
A. 5 May 2009: No he is not worth your time. I'm a college student too, and that is a lot to put up with when you are taking finals. Even if you weren't taking finals I'd say that you shouldn't be with this man. Sorry all of this happened to you. Putting in ... (read in full...)
Why won't this serial cheater marry me?
Q. hello...im trying to figure out why is it that my boyfriend of 15yrs (he's 40 and im 39) first off will not marry me and make a formal commitment and second of all will not leave this other woman alone? i've forgiven him for having a baby on...
A. 28 April 2009: You should've told her that she could have him completely. You basically told her you'd share him with her. You deserve so much better!... (read in full...)
I'm scared that my friends will hate me if I date him.
Q. i am really in love with this guy, and he really loves me. but we're not together because i am scared. he split up with his girlfriend (one of my best friends) a few months ago, and i am scared all my other friends will judge me if we start seeing ...
A. 28 April 2009: Who's more important, this guy, or your best friend? ... (read in full...)
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