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writes: I cheated on my girlfriend a good while ago and I am very sorry. I was going to tell her but I couldnt get up the courage. Eventually one of her friends told her. She didnt talk to me for a while but after a while she gave me one more chance things havent been the same since and I am worried I might loose her because I love her. What should I do?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Demonstrate every day that you love her and care about her. Be open and honest about your feeling towards her. Nurture and support her. Be a safe place for her. Be real.
If you do all these things then gradually her trust will return. But show her infinite patience, you need to give her all the time she needs.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Grovel, kiss her feet, apologize, tell her it will never happen again. . . those kinds of things. People make mistakes. If she is willing to forgive and forget, than you should be able to forget about it and go on with your relationship. Just make sure you don't do it again. . . .
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Sorry to say this but you obviously didn't love her that much or you would never have cheated on her in the first place, and to let her find out from her friend is appaulling. You should have told her yourself straight away and begged for forgiveness then. Things havent been the same since? Well I am not suprised! If you really do love her let her go. She deserves to be treated right, do the right thing and let her move on. I am sorry to be harsh but its the best advise I can give you
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Well, I think this is definitely a lesson learnt, isn't it? Things will never be the same after one of you cheats, that's just the way it is. Whether you two can make something good from the situation and end up stronger is up to you two and how hard you are willing to try.
I don't blame her for not talking to you, I wouldn't have even given you a second chance but some girls are just gluttons for punishment I guess! I think you should be ashamed you didn't have the guts to tell her too, are you a man or a mouse?!
Anyway, it doesn't matter what I think about people who cheat, it matters whether or not she is willing to try her best to make the relationship what it was. To find this out, you have to speak to her. I know it will take a while to build up the trust again but if you both work hard, you can be happy again.
Good luck
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