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16-17,
anonymous
writes:Every time I go round to my Boyfriends he always tries to have sex with me - we broke up because he found someone else but we are now back together again and the first time we met he demanded sex again. I also think hes cheating on me as he has a girl on his facebook page who keeps saying she loves him but I want him to be honest with me - We have dated on and off over two years and he is 17 and i am 15 - he used to hurt me and call me names and spread rumours about me to people - help me - I am scared of him
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reader, softballplaya  +, writes (17 May 2008):
 walk away girl, walk away with your head high and your pride still attached
dont let this loser ruin love for you! I know what thats like when all a guy wants is sex. To me thats a very high offence to a woman. Its even worse when you refuse it and he still pressures you. Let this loser find another piece of ass, dont let yourself be the used one. Find a guy who is worth having around and will appreciate you. If he isnt going to prove he is worth that he will treat you right, then do the right thing and leave his sorry self. It might be hard but looking back it will be the best decision. Think of yourself and how you dont deserve this, no woman does.If you think he has a girl on the side, then let them go because obviously if he cant treat his main squeeze (you) right then do you honestly think he will treat his side girl right??! HELL NO! Girl I know this is hard hearing but he wont be honest if you ask him about chesting if he is, because he knows you will walk out and that ruins the idea of keeping more than 1 girl. Tell him that you know how he is, you know what he did and walk away from him. Everything will be okay have a little faith
take care && good luck
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reader, lexilou + ♥, writes (17 May 2008):
 Walk away and find a nice decent boy who will treat you with respect. As long as you take this crap he will keep dishing it out to you and will never change. x
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reader, WizardOfWaz + ♥, writes (17 May 2008):
 You might see him as your "boyfriend" but it sounds like he only sees you as a spare fanny and agressively resents you having the "insolence" to deny him the opportunity to physically use you as his own personal punchbag or sex toy. You can't change him, he is a bully and a potential rapist.
However you can change yourself, and you can start by cutting out the silly romantic fantasies about this waster that one day he will become a prince charming and you will live happily ever after. You will never be truly happy until you get your head out your arse and wake up to the reality that that is never ever going to happen.
You are fortunate that in the UK there is a wide range of free support networks for females in these kind of situations, especially for those below the age of consent who are victims of pressure and abuse from girl molesters such as your so-called "boyfriend".
Try Childline as your first port of call for non-judgemental help and support to get yourself some coping skills. You don't even have to give them your name.
As you say you are frightened of this thug it would not surprise me that you would ne reluctant to report his criminal actions (unlawful molestation) to the police. That's ok, we can fully sympathise with that, but you at least you know you need assitance to cope, as you can't do it alone.
The good news is you don't have to cope alone. So contact Childine and get the back up you need and soon you will be able to walk tall again lass and eventually wonder what you ever saw in this ratbag in the first place.
Good luck!
Regards
Waz
Link:
www.childline.org.uk
Tel 0800 11 11 (Calls are free even from your mobile)
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (17 May 2008):
 If he does all these things to you, you suspect he is cheating, and you are scared of him, then why on earth are you with him?. The likellhood is things are not going to change, so i would be inlined to take a head strong approach and walk away from the whole thing. There are alot of good guys out there, i think you should leave him and find someone who shows you the love and respect that you so rightly deserve.
All the best x
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