Is the odor thing normal?
Q. Hi, this is rather embarrassing. I get sexually aroused VERY easily, it happened the other night! i spoke to a guy whom i really like which made me 'wet' as i am very attracted to him. So a few minutes later i sit down with a few friends, then mo...
A. 31 October 2009: Men are visible when excited, and women sometimes have a faint odor. Trust me, you're a LOT less noticeable when you're aroused that I am.
But yes, the odor is normal, and many guys rather like the scent. So if it happens around a guy you're d... (read in full...)
My girlfriend kissed her bi-sexual friend in front of me, is this OK?
Q. My girlfriend kissed her bi-sexual friend tonight at our house party. her friend is really ugly and makes my skin crawl. I saw them snogging and it was longer then 5 seconds and involved eyes clossed and tounges full on. it totaly ruined my night ...
A. 31 October 2009: Kissing someone is kissing someone. The gender doesn't matter. If she kissed a man, you'd be right to be angry. She kissed a woman, and you still have a right to be.
But talk to her. Be open. Try to calm down before you do, because being immediat... (read in full...)
Am I addicted to sex? What's wrong with me?
Q. I feel like I need to have sex or i'm going to go crazy. with each passing day i get more urges (especially at school with the hot teachers, etc.) and it's very distracting. i'll be trying to do calculus work and suddenly envision a man's arm, whi...
A. 31 October 2009: I'm in much the same boat (and posted a similar question just yesterday) even as a 25 year old male. It's just the joy of youth: an insatiable hunger for sex. At least that means you're healthy.... (read in full...)
Why do I always see my ex in my dreams?
Q. I always see my ex in my dreams and I do not know why. Apparently he was holding me tight close to him and then we started kissing. I really want to stop dreaming about him since it is always delaying me from moving on completely with my life.. do ...
A. 31 October 2009: Funny enough, I started dreaming about my ex after the breakup. I never dreamed about her before, but virtually EVERY dream seems to be about her now. But I don't love her anymore, or want her anymore. (She dumped me, but I've moved on.) But since ... (read in full...)
I like the manly smell down there, am I weird?
Q. I just found this web site last month and think its great. I like sitting in this coffee shop, sipping a caramel coffee, and reading about real people and what others think about their problems and hang ups, without the fear of being embarassed. ...
A. 30 October 2009: Not at all. Musk and pheromones are normal to like. Many girls even say that the can masturbate more successfully while smelling a boyfriend's sweaty shirt. I for one know that I LOVED the smell of my ex-girlfriend's musk from down there and more ... (read in full...)
Where can I talk openly about sex?
Q. Ok, this is probably not the best place to ask this, but since my question is where I should ask this question, here goes. Back story: I'm a geek and have always been one. I managed to get through middle school single (not for lack of trying),...
A. 30 October 2009: Sorry, in my group, "geek" is considered a good thing. I have started martial arts classes, working out, and dieting. I am getting out more, am hitting a party this saturday, and already loved going to the beach (yes, a geek that likes some sun). ... (read in full...)
No guy will like me, they all just want sex. I just want to crawl into a black hole and not come out. Can someone help me?
Q. Okay so me and my well now ex have been dating for about a year and a half. I was 16 when I met him and we started dating when I turned 17. I'm 18 now and he's 21. We recently broke up for I don't even remember, but he "joked" that he wants to get ...
A. 30 October 2009: As a 25 year old male that has not gone past third-base (despite having opportunities) and who was engaged to a girl not long ago, I can say I'm living proof that I was in it for the long haul and loved her truly even though there was no sex in it ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gave me an unwanted hickey?
Q. OK hi my name is mimmy.im 20 years old.and me and my boyfriends been together for 5 1/2 months. and he gave me a hickey.that i clearly didnt want.but If i tell him no he will stop and look at me and tell me why? why? you have another man at ...
A. 30 October 2009: See, I always PREFERRED giving them where they could be hidden. A hickey on her neck made me feel bad because I was embarrassing her, but one on her stomach felt more intimate and fun.
He shouldn't be branding you, or mistrusting you. Without ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gave me an unwanted hickey?
Q. OK hi my name is mimmy.im 20 years old.and me and my boyfriends been together for 5 1/2 months. and he gave me a hickey.that i clearly didnt want.but If i tell him no he will stop and look at me and tell me why? why? you have another man at ...
A. 29 October 2009: I've only ever given hickeys accidentally and felt bad about it when I did. It's disrespectful and embarrassing for the girl stuck wearing it in public. He has to know that kissing you is a privilege, not a right, and if he doesn't control himself ... (read in full...)
Single for so long! What can I do to get guys to notice me?
Q. Hi, ok so iv been single for a long time now, bout 4years and even before that I have never been involved in a proper relationship. Ths is rally starting to get me down. I feel that I do have issues with my self-confidence and at times do not fee...
A. 29 October 2009: As a 25 year old guy that's only kissed two girls, I can say that I know the feeling well. I have had "proper relationships" in that both of the girls I kissed dated me for months or more, but both then cheated on me. Trust me, I know what it's like ... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 29 October 2009: Oh yes, I forgot to mention that didn't I? I DID get my stuff back and I gave her stuff back. It was through a third party (her dad) because she wouldn't even face me, but the swap was made.
And I've only been engaged once. The first girlfrie... (read in full...)
No sex, is it still considered cheating?
Q. I have a dilema If a guy we had been seeing sees someone else but has not had sex with the other person. Is this still considered cheating?...
A. 29 October 2009: According to surveys, a common (perhaps THE common, depending on the survey) view is that it becomes cheating when they kiss. So if they had sex or kissed at all (barring a peck on the cheek perhaps), it's cheating, yes.... (read in full...)
To cheat or not to cheat? Can mongamy really exist?
Q. Monogamy - can it REALLY exist - or is it natural to struggle with this? I'm asking this question because it seems like everyone cheats. On a marriage, in a relationship, etc. And if they don't it's usually because they "don't want to hurt" th...
A. 29 October 2009: I was in my first relationship (of two serious ones) for seven months. I did not cheat, but she found time to cheat with four other men.
I was in my more recent relationship for three years and we were engaged before she left me. I never cheated,... (read in full...)
Should I let my guard down and give it a try?
Q. My best friend, who is a male, is soo great. we have been friends for about two and a half years. hes easy to talk and has always been there for me when im with "the other guy". when im hurt by somebody else, i run to him and he comforts me. he has ...
A. 29 October 2009: YES! HELL YES!
You put him in the Friend Zone because he's been TOO good to you, TOO available and honest and supportive. You haven't had to work on it, fight for his attention, or put up with his crap. He's been good to you, so you've run off ... (read in full...)
How can I come off sexier and more girlfriend material?
Q. hey, my problem is that guys don't really seem to like me. Like I've been with loads of guys, at parties and stuff, (I don't have a reputation as a slut cos i have too many different groups of friends and i tend to give off a very good girl per...
A. 29 October 2009: Ask out a guy that you like, then. Don't just wait for a man to ask you, go ahead and make the first move when you're attracted to a guy. You might strike out, but that's no worse than what guys experience when they ask.
Barring that, for some men... (read in full...)
Are breast implants attractive to men?
Q. I am in great shape and all natural. As women we are inundated with images of women with the perfect breast implants. Women are getting boob jobs all the time. Honestly, to the men out there are breast implants attractive. Do they look fake? ...
A. 29 October 2009: Personal opinion, and the opinion of the men I know, is that implants can make you look nice in a tight shirt, but they don't look as good when the top comes off and certainly don't feel as good. You might turn more heads, but a man that's close ... (read in full...)
Am I considered "too skinny?"
Q. Hi, im 20 yrs old, i am 5'6 and I weigh 110 lbs. Would most guys consider this to be too skinny? Ive tried gaining weight but im a runner and i cant force myself to overeat. thanks....
A. 29 October 2009: Clinically, you're underweight, but that whole BMI scale is a lot of rubbish for many people. I haven't seen your build, how wide your shoulders are, what size your breasts are, etc. One 5'6" girl could be anorexic at 110 lbs while another could be ... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 29 October 2009: A little late, but here's the update:
I went out with a girl I met through online dating (SoulGeek if you're curious) and we liked each other enough to go on two more dates. This weekend we're going to a Halloween costume party together and join... (read in full...)
What can I do to get girls interested in me? And when do I go in for the kiss?
Q. So this may sound like a familiar topic but I am a male who struggles with women. I have struggled my whole life but it seems like women just have absaloute zero interest in me. I can talk to them, I joke with them usually in a sarcastic form (not ...
A. 29 October 2009: All I can tell you is that I'm in the same boat. But I did get pretty far with a girl that started off as friends and morphed naturally into a three year relationship. It didn't work out, and the next one might not either, but one will one day. It's ... (read in full...)
Is it true that men like women with a few more curves?
Q. My b/f and I have both gained about 25 pounds since becoming involved with each other 4 years ago. (What can I say, we both love to cook, eat and drink). But I've decided enough is enough and started watching my calories and making time to work out ...
A. 29 October 2009: My last girl was 150 at 5'1" and I still thought she was beautiful, even with her A cups. I was more concerned about seeing her happy and eating and having fun than concerned about her weight. But in your case, you're three inches taller and a lot ... (read in full...)
I just want to know the truth, am I fat?
Q. umm.... wel i've always been really consious bout the way i look and my weight. and now it's just worse than eva because i just read this article about this model that got fired because she was to big and she was a size 8 (british size) t...
A. 15 October 2009: The model got fired because she was not what they were looking for. For some jobs, size 8 is too big to fit that particular image they're trying to create, while in some roles it's too thin. But in all cases, a model is picked ENTIRELY for how she ... (read in full...)
What can I do, my boyfriend raped me?
Q. help Im 16 and my boyfriend is 25 andw when we were in his car he drove far away and raped me and he keeps sayind and texting he'll do it agian when hes not busy.It hurts and hes mates say and have tried too have sex with me help!...
A. 15 October 2009: If an older man is raping you and threatening to rape you again and you're afraid, you NEED to talk to the police.... (read in full...)
Do guys think virgins are a total turn off?
Q. ok, so do guys think virgins are a total turn off? im asking this because i am one and every guy i end up telling this to gets really uncomfortable even though they are the ones that asked. and then of course they run when i tell them i dont believe ...
A. 15 October 2009: I'm a 25 year old virgin male, by choice. I said no to my last two girlfriends.
I think virginity is a great thing. It means my girl isn't just jumping into bed with men at random, means she's not going to be sleeping with my best friend, means sh... (read in full...)
I do all the work and he gets all the pleasure!
Q. my live in b/f of two years won't touch me during foreplay or during intercourse. i do all the work, hell i'm the one that always makes the first move,and when i ask him why he says "i never give him a chance". i'm always sucking his dick until he ...
A. 15 October 2009: Sounds like my ex. She would never seek me out, only waiting for me to initiate. Then she would never care whether I got one, or how I felt. She wouldn't do the work. In my case, she just wasn't that into me.
In your case, he may be into you, but... (read in full...)
Do guys obsess as much as girls?
Q. Umm . . . hi :) I was just wondering, since I always obsess about what little things my crush says and does, Do guys obsess as much as girls? Or are they really as blasee as they make out? Just curious :) XoXo...
A. 14 October 2009: Yeah, we often do.... (read in full...)
Why can't I meet a guy who likes small breasts?
Q. I have small breasts, and as it is known, *most* guys like big breasts better. Some like small, but I have yet to meet one of those! Most guys just settle for small chested women. Like Salma Hayek is hot because of her big boobs, but Kate Hudson is ...
A. 12 October 2009: Guys rubberneck for large breasts, but these are usually the shallow guys you don't want. Small breasts can still be hot, but usually not to the KIND OF GUY that would overtly do a double-take.
Now, I've been in two serious relationships, both wit... (read in full...)
Why does everyone say sex is so good?
Q. Okay so I'll just come out and say that i am not a virgin anymore. There *phew* :) anyways I'm almost 20 and I've only every had sex 7 times in my life. This happened like 4 monthes ago with my no ex boyfriend. And I just want to know why does ...
A. 12 October 2009: Penetrative sex often isn't the most pleasurable thing on Earth for a woman. Actually, only about 25% of women are able to orgasm from vaginal intercourse, so you're in good company. On top of that, it sounds like this guy was neither patient nor ... (read in full...)
My wife likes to pleasure herself, is this normal? I only thought it was men that played with themselves!
Q. hi we have been married for over 25 years and there is very little my wife and i have not done in the bedroom department. we both enjoy sex and are healthy. recently my wife is more into self please of herself, its something she as done for ma...
A. 12 October 2009: Not only is that normal, but that's enviable. A woman that pleasures herself knows what to ask for from a man. Many women that never masturbate also don't know what feels best and somehow expect their partners to psychically know how to please ... (read in full...)
I've been in a relationship for over 3 years now and I'm starting to have doubts.
Q. Hi. I have a dilemma. I've been in a relationship for over 3 years now and I'm starting to have doubts. He's really sweet, kind, generous, loves me for me, I can be completely myself around him, he's dependable, smart and hard working with a ...
A. 10 October 2009: Talk to him. I cannot stress this enough. Talk to him.
You sound EXACTLY like my ex-fiancee that dumped me just six weeks ago after more than three years together. We were in love, highly communicative, shared great deals of time together... (read in full...)
I'm very lazy when it comes to sex
Q. I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend whos 26 for 5 years....the problem is im very lazy when it comes to sex...he wants it everytime we see each other...but when i go to bed all i really want to do is sleep is this bad? my boyfriend is very ...
A. 9 October 2009: Then mix it up. Are you ever attracted to him sexually? If you still feel any urges for him, do it differently and at different times. Don't wait until you're in bed! Have sex as soon as you both get home. Have sex some Saturday morning before ... (read in full...)
How safe is a condom?
Q. How safe is it to use the condom during sexual intercourse? Im' rather curious as some people do get pregnant using condoms at times....
A. 9 October 2009: Generally, a condom is 99% effective if you are using it properly (leaving a little room at the end so there's room for the semen, making sure you are using the right size, avoiding the exotic ribbed ones that are more likely to tear, etc), but that ... (read in full...)
Why did he delete the sexy photos I sent him?
Q. i took a sexy picture of myslef in lingerie for my man, put it on his computer for him as a surprize and he deletes it!!!!! what the flying fuck? i'm not fat i'm not unattractive so what the hell? i've asked him about it but haven't got a response ...
A. 9 October 2009: Do you know for sure that he just deleted the pics, or is it possible that he copied them to something safer (like a flash drive) then deleted them off of the computer so no one else could find them? Barring that, could he feel guilty about having ... (read in full...)
Am I an alien?
Q. im 18 years old. i have been sexually active for about two years now, and i have had three partners. when i masterbate, i always make myself cum. and when i recieve oral sex, i always cum. but i have yet to get an orgasm thru intercourse. the other ...
A. 9 October 2009: So, you're sensitive enough to climax through masturbation and oral easily, but not through penetration. If anything, you're LUCKY. Only about 25% of woman can orgasm through vaginal penetration, so you're perfectly normal there. But many women ... (read in full...)
I have been having a hard time getting over the break-up of my last relationship.
Q. I have been having a hard time getting over the break-up of my last relationship. It has been a good few months since we last spoke and when things truly ended once and for all, They did not end well. (We broke up in May, cut off all communic...
A. 9 October 2009: Don't write her one last email. Trust me, I know that temptation REALLY well, like I want to at least get in the last word and let her know how I feel about the way she treated me, but we should not do it. Just don't. Let her go. Otherwise you'll ... (read in full...)
I have been having a hard time getting over the break-up of my last relationship.
Q. I have been having a hard time getting over the break-up of my last relationship. It has been a good few months since we last spoke and when things truly ended once and for all, They did not end well. (We broke up in May, cut off all communic...
A. 8 October 2009: I was with my girlfriend for over three years, and engaged to her for over one year. We were planning the wedding and were far along in those plans. Then she dumped me without telling me why and immediately insisting that I never talk to her again. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a woman to ask a man out?
Q. I have another question, is it wrong for woman to ask man out on a date? Does it start a cycle of a woman taking the male role in the relationship?...
A. 8 October 2009: The girl I am currently dating asked me out first. I was incredibly relieved to know that SHE was interested in ME, instead of just agreeing to go on a date because she had no good excuse not to.... (read in full...)
Is a runny nose normal when giving a blow job?
Q. I am 20 and finally have a serious b/f that I really like. We have been dating 2 months now and see each other every day. About two weeks into our relationship I told him that I wanted to wait until I was married to have sex for the first time ...
A. 8 October 2009: WELL, ignoring the huge debate here that's UTTERLY off topic of the original question...
Talk to your guy. Tell him. If you wanted to be sexual with him, saving vaginal intercourse for marriage but enjoying oral sex now (which is actually the same... (read in full...)
Does being too nice drive women away?
Q. Along time ago my mother told me I was too nice to women and this is why my relationships never last.I have been married two times.The first about 5 years and the second about 9 years..I have had a couple of girl friends after this but nothing ...
A. 8 October 2009: Nearest I can figure, everyone wants what they can't have. The grass is greener, as they say. When you cease to be a challenge to keep, you stop being worth pursuing. You're nice, so women can take you for granted because you ARE granted, a given, a ... (read in full...)
He cheated on 4 girlfriends! will he cheat on me too?
Q. So.... my boyfriend of a year and I have talked about moving in together in the new year. We have known each other for like 7 years, and he is not only the love of my life, but my bestfriend. Thing is, he cheated on 4 of his 4 past g/f's, but ...
A. 8 October 2009: He has had four girlfriends, and he cheated on all four of them? Am I reading this right? Or did he cheat on his last four girlfriends after being faithful to earlier relationships?
Either way, he's very high risk. You say he's not the love of ... (read in full...)
Where should I meet my internet/text boyfriend? His place or mine?
Q. ive been txting a man ive met on the internet for almost 2 months now and i am meeting him next week. he lives few hours away and i need to know the best way to approach this meeting. i am not going to sleep with him on the first night so i am ...
A. 8 October 2009: I just had a date with a girl I met online, and we spent the entirety of that first date at an outdoor art festival in town then walking around town in public places. I'm a guy, but even I don't want to meet up in private with a girl I don't know ... (read in full...)
Ex g/f started writing nasty messages so I blocked her on facebook, was it the right thing to do?
Q. During the summer I had a relationship with a girl. The relationship had to end, because we were both going to university. In the first couple of weeks back at university, I met somebody else. I was a free man, and saw nothing wrong with entering a ...
A. 8 October 2009: I hope you gave your ex a chance to stop posting nasty comments before blocking her, gave her a chance to be civil, but if she was being bitter and angry then yes, you had every right to block her from your friend list because she was no longer ... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 2 October 2009: Thanks guys (including Q, who made me laugh, thank you but I'm a virgin and not going to revenge hump anyone). I think "whore" was entirely excessive, just coming out of hurt. All I really meant to say was that I want a girl I can trust. This last ... (read in full...)
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