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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hey, my problem is that guys don't really seem to like me. Like I've been with loads of guys, at parties and stuff, (I don't have a reputation as a slut cos i have too many different groups of friends and i tend to give off a very good girl persona)but like all my friends have been in long term relationships - i've never even had a date.Guys like me as a friend but I don't know why.How can I come off sexier and more girlfriend material?btw the age on this thing is wrong.. I'm actually 17. Reply to this Question
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (29 October 2009):
 Ask out a guy that you like, then. Don't just wait for a man to ask you, go ahead and make the first move when you're attracted to a guy. You might strike out, but that's no worse than what guys experience when they ask.
Barring that, for some men the whole "How do I act sexier" question could be a turn off. If you've "Been with loads of guys" that you meet at parties without even dating, some men might not think that you're in for the long haul. You felt that you needed to clarify that you're not perceived to be a slut. Are you sure?
I'm NOT saying you are one, I'm NOT, but some guys might get the vibe that you feel like one. Maybe tone it down a little, hold off on Friends-with-Benefits, and try to come off as more of a trustworthy and reliable girl, that guys have to work harder to be with.
It's all about perception. If guys THINK you're a slut (in your words), then you can be a virgin and still scare them away.
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