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writes:i took a sexy picture of myslef in lingerie for my man, put it on his computer for him as a surprize and he deletes it!!!!! what the flying fuck? i'm not fat i'm not unattractive so what the hell? i've asked him about it but haven't got a response yet. man i feel like he doesn't want to be with me and would rather look at slutty fake whore skanks posing on bikes and stuff. asshole! i think i hate him! Reply to this Question
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (9 October 2009):
 Do you know for sure that he just deleted the pics, or is it possible that he copied them to something safer (like a flash drive) then deleted them off of the computer so no one else could find them? Barring that, could he feel guilty about having them, as though he's objectifying you? (This is a reason I deleted pics of my last girl even though I took them myself with her total cooperation.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): Possibly he did not like you putting a picture of yourself on his computer without asking him.
Computers are used for work purposes, as filing cabinets to store information, but to put something on someone elses computer is not only impersonal but an invasion of their privacy. He needs to decide for himself if he wants a picture of you in lingerie on his private computer.
Perhaps it would have been better received if you had a print made and put it in a frame and gave it to him, then he could decide if he wanted it on his computer or where when and if he wanted to display it.
I think that is where you made an error, you did not give him the "choice", you forced your photo on him in a way he did not accept. Some people are funny that way.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (9 October 2009):
 1) Like pinktopaz said, he might be sharing the computer with someone else. (Just make sure that this someone else is not another girl).
2) He might not want to see you like that in a photo because maybe he thinks that it demeans you, and makes you look like a cheap porn girl instead of his lovely girlfriend. This would be the best case scenario reason for why he deleted it. However, don't ask him if this is the reason why, because then he may jump on it and say that "YES, YES that's it, that's why!" when in fact it might be something else...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): I'm the poster of the question. No he doesn't share it with anyone, just me and him. it's weird, i've text him about it and no response. y would he do that? i was trying to fullfill a fantasy 4 him and he just delets it?
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (9 October 2009):
 Caaaaaaallllm down. You can't hate him for deleating your picture. I delete my wife's pictures when we're in an arguement because I feel guilty having them when she's mad at me. She's stopped deleting them from her computer because she knows she'll have to resend them. Lol. Maybe he opened around someone else because he didn't know it was there yet and deleted it in shock because the other person saw. I don't know any man who would delete a picture of his naked woman because he has others of random women. Maybe it was accidental or maybe there's a good reason that he hasn't spit up yet. Don't jump to conclusions, it's bad for your health and your relationship. Wait until he gives you an explanation before you freak out.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 October 2009):
Oh jeez, what a way for him to make a huge blow to your self esteem. Does he share the computer with anyone? That's the only thing that I could think of as to why he would delete it. I would definitely be pissed too if I took the time and the thought to do that for him, only to have him delete it.
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