Why do guys like performing oral sex?
Q. Hey Everyone, I'm 19 and a sophomore in college as well as my boyfriend. We have done everything we could think of besides sex which is something we are wanting to do very badly every we see each other. I seriously feel like everytime that f...
A. 4 August 2010: Wait anon... you're saying that you only like experienced men that have given oral enough times with enough women that they can go on autopilot and need no direction whatsoever. But the OP is 19 and likely interested in a man that hasn't been around ... (read in full...)
Why do some girls act this way?
Q. this is more complaining than anything else..its an observation i have made..i have some friends with boyfriends who i would say are the type you would have really absolutely and positvely nothing to worry about..and the thought wouldn't even cross ...
A. 3 August 2010: They're trying to seem more cool, more trusting, more open, more relaxed than they really are deep inside because they know they can trust their guys enough not to actually cheat. You can joke about drugs as long as your guy isn't doing any. You can ... (read in full...)
What age do most people lose their virginity?
Q. Hello, I am curious as to what age most people lose their virginity. All my friends have had sex, and I was wondering what age most people began having sex....
A. 3 August 2010: I'm 26 and I haven't yet. Though I first got to third base (giving oral) when I was 19.... (read in full...)
Do you think I offended him?
Q. Hello, I am 15 and am in a relationship with a boy I trust completely. No, I'm not going to ask if sex is okay because it's only been a month! And I am saving myself for a more apropriate age. *My question is; have I hurt his feelings?/would ...
A. 3 August 2010: Men, like most domesticated animals, can be trained how to do new tricks, including kissing well. Avoiding his kisses won't make him better at it. Teach him. Offer constructive criticism (note "constructive" does not mean just telling him that he's ... (read in full...)
The Truth About A Man's Sexual Appetite
Q. Please publish this question. I have no need to view answers in my inbox. I want to read them from this page. Restraint, Sacrifice, Satisfaction: Restraining sexual appetite bears a unique burden for every human male in history. Instinct...
A. 2 August 2010: I used to want sex a lot too, then I got out and dated some girls and found out that they aren't much worth the headache. I've given up on the whole business now, and I feel much better for it.... (read in full...)
Soulmates
Q. Soulmates. Yes, I know how it goes. The general belief many people seem to hold about this topic is that we all have a Soulmate. One person out there somewhere, who we are forever searching for. We are incomplete without them, lost and alone. And if ...
A. 2 August 2010: I'm reminded of this old writeup that's been circling the Net for years:
http://en.nothingisreal.com/wiki/Why_I_Will_Never_Have_a_Girlfriend
Using a little simple math and some vague assumptions, he argues that there are as many as 18,000 poten... (read in full...)
I'm too shallow to overcome her sexual past
Q. My girlfriend of 9 months has slept with lots of partners and i am finding it hard getting over it. I am 20 and she is 18. She has slept with 9 people before me. Her first was when she was 14, she's slept with someone who was 21 when she was 15,...
A. 2 August 2010: The good answer: Her past is her past. Whatever mistakes she made in her past were learning experiences and made her who she is now. You like who she is, but this girl is only the girl you know because of her whole history, mistakes included. And as ... (read in full...)
Is sex really ALL men think about? Does it ever stop?
Q. I'm in high school and everyone always goes on about how guys my age only think about sex. The other day in our summer class, a couple of my guy friends and I were talking and one mentioned that he recently realized how every time he sees a female ...
A. 2 August 2010: That's not how all men are, and even those that are like that now won't necessarily always be like that, but yes, some men never grow up. As per personal experience, my friends tend not to be as shallow as that. Personally, I most certainly DO NOT ... (read in full...)
I'm very insecure about my penis size.
Q. lookin for advice from any ladies,iam a decent lookin guy, but my penis is 6 inches long and only 4.5 inches around.iam very insecure of it,any advice?...
A. 31 July 2010: Miamine, I'm not sure it's that insensible. Unnecesary, but totally understandable. Why do people work out or diet? Why do people use makeup, or shave, or coordinate clothes? Why do people worry about their hair? Why do women worry about their ... (read in full...)
Why do guys like performing oral sex?
Q. Hey Everyone, I'm 19 and a sophomore in college as well as my boyfriend. We have done everything we could think of besides sex which is something we are wanting to do very badly every we see each other. I seriously feel like everytime that f...
A. 30 July 2010: Men love giving oral for lots of reasons. We love turning our women on. We love knowing we're making you feel great. We like the control it gives us (just as many women love the control of a blowjob or girl-on-top sex). We love the sounds you make, ... (read in full...)
How many sexual partners in your most "productive" year?
Q. A quick poll: how many sexual partners did you have your most "productive" year? I am male and had around 5-6 partners in one single year. Anyone else mind responding. My theory is that most people sexualartners are not spread out evenly but ...
A. 30 July 2010: I've always been the sort for long term relationships, never quick flings, so I've never been with more than one girl in any given year.... (read in full...)
Can someone explain this cheater to me?
Q. Why would a guy cheat before getting engaged, not tell their partner they cheated on them, proceed to get married....and then say that if HE were to find out that his fiance cheated on him before marriage, that he would definitely leave her, and not ...
A. 30 July 2010: Sometimes it's hypocrisy, sometimes it's control. Sometimes a guy might even cheat to know that he can keep his girl while still having sex elsewhere, but if his girl ever cheated, well there goes HIS inflated ego so he'll leave. These are very ... (read in full...)
Enjyong sex but not squirting like rest of girls
Q. OP's own title: hi, i do sex even i enjoyed it a lot we both satisfy each other but the thing is i never squirt like the way i saw on different videos n clips i want too squirt like that n even i do masturbate my self but never had that sort of lots...
A. 30 July 2010: Only a small portion of women are capable of squirting at all, and even then it's virtually never the geyser you see in fetish porn. A small amount of fluid is possible, sometimes, but very uncommon.
But let me quote your own question title he... (read in full...)
I'm very insecure about my penis size.
Q. lookin for advice from any ladies,iam a decent lookin guy, but my penis is 6 inches long and only 4.5 inches around.iam very insecure of it,any advice?...
A. 30 July 2010: RE: Miamine, it's not that hard. Measure along the top of the penis while standing, measuring from pelvis to tip. Try not to press into the flesh at the pelvis or you're artificially inflating your result. For circumference, measure at the base, ... (read in full...)
The sex isn't good, is it me, him or his size?
Q. Well I guess you can say this is a part II to my previous post "How do I be with him in a serious, committed relationship without forcing him into it?" There was one thing wrong. This thing barthered me. Something that I don't know how to solve. His ...
A. 28 July 2010: Sometimes sex is good, sometimes it isn't. Sometimes a person can improve over time, but if he's experienced and you two have tried many times and it just isn't working, then it's never going to be world-shaking sex. It's up to you what's most ... (read in full...)
Your honest opinion but being open minded?
Q. OP's own title. Hi this may be some what long and may not happen often but I have to ask you guys how do you feel about the situation im going to talk about. First of I got married to my childhood love at the age of 18. He was my world and had drea...
A. 28 July 2010: Your husband left you twice now, has been cheating on you for a considerable time, has refused to meet you half way as you fight for the marriage and family, and now appears to be more interested in men altogether. He's made his choice. You tried ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be grossed out by finger foreplay?
Q. Is it normal to not like to be fingered at 22 years old? I don't mind penetration from a penis but everything else just grosses me out, I feel like it's dirty and not supposed to be inside of me....
A. 28 July 2010: Do what you like, don't do what you don't like. Is your boyfriend sad that he can't manually stimulate you? If not, don't worry about it and just enjoy what works for you!... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to tell everyone?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm extremely confused right now about where I stand! I joined Facebook two years ago, and I know almost 900 people; in other words I've seen them, talked to them or I'm their friend. But, this one girl recently joined. I know her from ...
A. 28 July 2010: If you are a close personal friend with a guy that's getting too close, then maybe tell him (privately, in person) but otherwise keep your head down and stay out of it before you get dragged into a whole mess that could end up making you look very ... (read in full...)
Why does he masterbate at every opportunity???
Q. Mod note: Your title you chose is already in use. My bf masterbates every chance he gets. Evertime I leave the house even if I just go to the store.. We arnt haveing alot of sex right now. Its really starting to piss me off. I have told him how it m...
A. 28 July 2010: I'm not entirely sure what you meant. Are you two not having enough sex because he's already masturbated so he has no interest in you, or are you not having sex with him because you're annoyed with him? 1) Why aren't you having sex? 2) Why are you ... (read in full...)
How often does a healthy couple have sex?
Q. My boyfriend says we need to have more sex, and I thought we had sex a lot (about 4- 6 times a week). I just wanted to know how often do other couples (do you) have sex? And how long have you guys been together? Did you have more when you started ...
A. 28 July 2010: Everyone has a different level for "normal" but I'd say 4+ times a week is pretty decent for your average couple. Newlyweds and those newly living together might enjoy 10 times a week (or even more), but once you're a little more stable 4-6 is ... (read in full...)
Do most girls shave down there? And how do you do it anyway?
Q. do most girls shave down there? do guys like shaved or hairy or trimmed? how do you shave it, dont the hairs get caught in the shaver?...
A. 18 July 2010: My girlfriends have tended to shave, yes. It's not a turn off really either way, unless it's a big bushy mess, just she same as men should groom themselves.... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits... good???
Q. Dear Cupid... whats one good thing about being friends with benefits (without sex) and one bad thing about it ?? To me the good thing is that he can develop feelings for you but the bad thing is he can be using you which i know is not true believe ...
A. 18 July 2010: Friends With Benefits... but without sex? What's the "benefit" you're talking about then? I'm not sure what you define as FWB.
I wouldn't go into a FWB expecting it to turn into a real relationship, but I suppose... Good: Physical casual fun as l... (read in full...)
I asked my friend to have sex with me as a joke. Now what should I do if he calls me for it?
Q. I was discussing with a dear friend why his relationship is not going to the next level. He is not having sex with his girlfriend. we were sitting together and i asked him what would he do if i offer to sleep with him. He said, if u are serious ...
A. 18 July 2010: You showed up, had sex, then talked normally like nothing happened and left without leaving him with any expectations of a relationship. Now you're even backing off and giving him space as he goes back to his girlfriend. I don't know how much ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to be a virgin at 24?
Q. I haven't found a girl yet. I could if I wanted to. In college I had some chicks reject me. I could have gone for girls that I wasn't interested in. I could have hooked up with them, but I didn't. But now I'm 24, and haven't had sex. I'm ...
A. 18 July 2010: I'm 26 and still a virgin. I've dated, but not had sex. At the very least, you're not alone.... (read in full...)
We just got married, but he doesn't want to have sex every night!
Q. My husband of only 2 weeks doesn't want to have sex every night, Is this normal?...
A. 18 July 2010: I don't know much about the situation here, but if he's in his 50's, then his libido will have diminished greatly from its peak thirty years ago. Barring that though, different people have different levels of desire and while some would want twice a ... (read in full...)
Anniversary Gift Quandry
Q. Am I being greedy for having expectations of a gift from my husband for our 30th wedding anniversary?...
A. 17 July 2010: Getting a gift at ALL? No, that should be a given. But depending on WHAT you're expecting, maybe? What are you asking for?... (read in full...)
Were you a virgin when you met the person you are married to?
Q. Were you a virgin when you met the person you are married to? Were they a virgin? Were you a giving oral virgin? Were you a recievimg oral virgin?...
A. 17 July 2010: While I'm not married, I have been engaged. And I am still a virgin (by choice, waiting for that wedding night). But am I an oral virgin? Nope.... (read in full...)
Women are psycho???
Q. Men are all the time saying that women are crazy and psycho, but are they unaware that their behavior or certain acts on their part often times is what stimulates women to act irrationally? ...
A. 17 July 2010: It's not that all women are psycho, it's that specific women can do specific things that are psycho from time to time. Just like men do. Though it has been my experience that women operate on more subtle levels, leaving men hopelessly confused about ... (read in full...)
I asked my friend to have sex with me as a joke. Now what should I do if he calls me for it?
Q. I was discussing with a dear friend why his relationship is not going to the next level. He is not having sex with his girlfriend. we were sitting together and i asked him what would he do if i offer to sleep with him. He said, if u are serious ...
A. 17 July 2010: Seriously, Q? Here in Mighigan, the rape laws say you can retract an offer for sex at absolutely any time. If sex happens even after permission is given, if the woman was so much as hesitant, she can claim coercion later and retroactively declare it ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and my boyfriend has jealousy, drinking, anger management, trust issues, and more...
Q. im 15 and me and my bf have only been dating 2 months, but we both fell inlove realy fast, but he gets jelous so easy i cant even mention another guys name without him getting realy angry at me!!! he has anger management issues and i realy try to ...
A. 17 July 2010: No man, anywhere, is worth putting up with that. He's controlling, emotionally and verbally abusive, immature, beginning a life of alcoholism and drug addiction, and openly planning to cheat on you. You've been with him for two months (also known as ... (read in full...)
Should I just pretend I don't know about my husband's one night stands as long as he comes home after the fun?
Q. My hubby treats me and the kids very well..we have been a loving couple for years. Recently I found out that even before we were married, he has been out for monthly one night stands (he usually says he is out entertaining clients when he comes home ...
A. 17 July 2010: He's selfish, immature, and endangering his family for the sake of his thrill. But seven years later, you're right that he won't be changing any time soon (barring a MAJOR event scarring him half the death, and even then maybe not). So it's your ... (read in full...)
Age differences and what is acceptable?
Q. Hay I am just wondering, how big an age difference do you think is still acceptable? I know the whole "love has no boundries" thing but I can't help thinking that a 20 year age gap is just a little weird, it's like a 1 year old going out with a 21 y...
A. 17 July 2010: I don't think it's so much age as a number, more a matter of where you are in life. High school students do better dating other high school students than they do college graduates out looking for work and apartments. You just have more in common ... (read in full...)
I asked my friend to have sex with me as a joke. Now what should I do if he calls me for it?
Q. I was discussing with a dear friend why his relationship is not going to the next level. He is not having sex with his girlfriend. we were sitting together and i asked him what would he do if i offer to sleep with him. He said, if u are serious ...
A. 17 July 2010: If he sleeps with you while still dating her, he's a cheater. Then if he later decides to make you his girlfriend instead of her, could you ever trust that he won't cheat on you too? If he breaks up with her for you first, sure. But until then, it's ... (read in full...)
Is waking him up with a blow job a good idea?
Q. When I stay at my boyfriends house we usually end up staying up until 4am being intimate, cuddling, or talking before he has to go back to his room. (still lives with his parents) This weekend we are both attending a party at a friend of mine's. ...
A. 17 July 2010: He will love you forever. That would make him feel like the most loved, desired, and sexiest man alive.... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to stop using her teeth during oral sex?
Q. How do i get my wife to stop using her teeth during oral sex? There are times when it is amazing and she doesn't use them but then there are times she does. We always have told each other what feels good. Sometimes i feel bad when i tell her it ...
A. 17 July 2010: She's trying, she's eagerly trying to return the favor, wants to please you, is learning, responds to your advice as best she can, and is still trying. Realize for a moment how very lucky you are that she's even willing to give it a shot.... (read in full...)
My husband told me he's been bored with me sexually since the first year of our marriage!
Q. My husband told me the day I got out of the hospital after 14 years of Marriage that our during our whole marriage he has been addicted to looking at women on the internet, clothed or naked. He had been doing this in a cubicial (beating off) at ...
A. 17 July 2010: I'm with FA and anon here. He hasn't been cheating, just looking at porn to let off some steam. He's bored, but didn't want to criticize you (and since you're in poor health, perhaps he was afraid of hurting you by asking for more than you can ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's insecurity is ruining our relationship!
Q. hi. 10 weeks ago while my girlfriend was at work i watched a movie called three, it is classified as a thriller but has 2 sex scenes in it. Before this incident i had been going out with my girlfriend for 2months and she has told me she was insec...
A. 17 July 2010: Renting a movie to investigate what you've been watching because she cannot just trust your judgment, nearly ending a relationship over your seeing a movie just because it had sex scenes, and now still carrying a grudge ten weeks later. I'd hate to ... (read in full...)
I proposed, but I need closure!
Q. This is my problem: My girlfriend used an affair with a married man for almost 2 years. During his period as she told me (while drunk)... he fucked her in every way, place and time possible. To the point that she even let him cum inside her. ...
A. 17 July 2010: I'd like some clarification on a few points. 1) Are you a virgin, or have you had sex with other women before her? 2) Was she cheating on you with this married man, or was she just dating him but not cheating on another boyfriend of her own?
If yo... (read in full...)
Is what he did acceptable? Am I just being immature? I feel so sad and annoyed
Q. on friday night my boyfriend and i hung out and had dinner. he told me on thursday that he might be going out but wasnt sure yet. when he picked me up on friday he was very indecisive the whole night, and kept asking me 'should i go out?' he asked...
A. 17 July 2010: He was asking permission, not trying to decide if he should go. You pushed him in the direction of going, so he got some drinks with his friends. You wanted to see him before the camping trip, but told him you knew he wanted to drink so he should ... (read in full...)
I asked my friend to have sex with me as a joke. Now what should I do if he calls me for it?
Q. I was discussing with a dear friend why his relationship is not going to the next level. He is not having sex with his girlfriend. we were sitting together and i asked him what would he do if i offer to sleep with him. He said, if u are serious ...
A. 17 July 2010: That doesn't sound like you were joking. He even asked you, twice, if you were joking and you told him both times that you were serious. And you even say you like him. I think you meant it.
Just don't do it. Tell him you thought about it and it w... (read in full...)
How do I express the things I didn't get to say to my ex?
Q. I still have some anger and things i left unsaid to my ex. My mom suggested writing a letter. I'm considering writing a facebook message and sending it to him, just to express how I feel so I don't have to bottle the emotions up. Does it seem like a ...
A. 11 July 2010: Write the letter, but don't send it. Keep it for a little while, make a second draft, tweak it, but hold onto it. For me at least, that helped me feel like I could send it, like I was ready to send it any time and I got some of it out. But if you ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my weird sexual fantasy to myself?
Q. I have a really wierd sexual fantasy and I'm pretty sure any guy who ever heard it would run a mile! So should I just keep it to myself unless someone who I judge to be open minded enough comes along? If you're thinking what could be so wierd I ha...
A. 11 July 2010: Uncommon, but not super rare. I wouldn't suggest saying it on a first date, but when a guy's close to you, when you're in a serious relationship, and as long as you don't start by making demands, you should be able to share your thoughts with him.... (read in full...)
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