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Am I an alien?

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Question - (9 October 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 9 October 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

im 18 years old. i have been sexually active for about two years now, and i have had three partners. when i masterbate, i always make myself cum. and when i recieve oral sex, i always cum. but i have yet to get an orgasm thru intercourse. the other night, my current partner made a comment that im not normal because he cant make me cum. but he is also a lot older and more experienced, and im sure hes been with a lot of experienced women. i read about this, and ive watched tv, i know all women are different but i just feel like an alien. wats wrong with me?? is he right, im not normal?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009):

You are perfectly normal. Many women do not climax through penetration alone. There are several positions that may allow you to climax, so take some time and try different positions. There are also positions that allow your partner or even yourself to manually stimulate your clitoris while he is penetrating you. You could give those a try too.

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A male reader, Illithid United States +, writes (9 October 2009):

Illithid agony auntSo, you're sensitive enough to climax through masturbation and oral easily, but not through penetration. If anything, you're LUCKY. Only about 25% of woman can orgasm through vaginal penetration, so you're perfectly normal there. But many women either CANNOT masturbate successfully, or have great difficulty masturbating successfully. Plus, you're with a man that is willing to eat you, and you succeed there too. Count yourself lucky.

For most women, sex is fun but the toe-curling comes from other ways of stimulation. You're just a part of that club.

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A female reader, HonningKanin Norway +, writes (9 October 2009):

HonningKanin agony auntYou are not an alien and you are actually very very normal. ALOT of women lack a G spot. ALOT of women cannot climax by penatration alone. This is either because the muscles where the G spot normally is is too thick, not where it should be, or genetically it is not there. If you older partner thinks this is not normal than he has either been very lucky with the women he has been with or they faked it. I think the latter is very likely but speculation.

However you are very normal and if your partner is really that much of a Don Juan, he should be able to adjust to you and know exactly how you climax. If you guys want you can try exploring different penatration methods to see if your g spot is either their or not and if it is not, it is no reason to be sad. You can still climax. I actually never had a penetration orgasm and believed myself to be of that high percentage of women until I met my husband. My husband is quite large and long (about 9 inches)and it "hit the spot." Essentially my G spot is higher up than normal and even still I dont always climax through penetration I never feel like sex was bad just because I didn't.

HonningKanin

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A male reader, neetesh India +, writes (9 October 2009):

neetesh agony aunt

It is not wrong and you are normal also. but you have a great stamina.

So, if you don't want this stamina then don't worry you will get rid of this automatically.

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