(Contains list of emails and some bad language) Do these emails mean we're getting back together?
Q. my Girl friend wrot me thisand I was wondering if we are getting back together? these emails are in the order they were received. Dear Johnny, First of all by you just admitting to all this without rationalizations, excuses or div...
A. 2 November 2009: She misses you because she can't find anyone else she clicks with as well as she does with you. She's lonely. My first thought is NOT that she wants to get back together; however, there's still hope since she's still talking to you.... (read in full...)
How can I resist the urge to cheat again?
Q. I really need some help Im a married wowman and have cheated even had an affair. It is not my personality to mess around. I have to admit I do miss the rush I used to get. It was always exciting to me to meet someone new. I feel guilty for feeling ...
A. 2 November 2009: It's going to be hard to overcome since you've already crossed that line. The only thing I can think of is for you to devote and divert your energy to your husband. Whatever you would do to attract someone else (if there is something), do it for ... (read in full...)
Where can I talk openly about sex?
Q. Ok, this is probably not the best place to ask this, but since my question is where I should ask this question, here goes. Back story: I'm a geek and have always been one. I managed to get through middle school single (not for lack of trying),...
A. 30 October 2009: I'm sure there probably are forums out there where you can talk about sex openly. Until you find the right one, or one at all, you could contact someone on this website privately. SD has already promised to help you. Please feel free to conact me ... (read in full...)
I need a female's opinion here!
Q. Ok, i've been seeing this girl on and off for about 2 months now. I haven't gotten any clear signals that she wants to date, although she can get frisky when we're out drinking. Last weekend we went out and ended up hooking up and I stayed over at ...
A. 26 September 2009: I think she may be my twin! You could be just what she needs to overcome some of that self conscious problem she has. I would say she probably also thinks that guys like you do NOT exist in the world. She definitely is interested in being more than ... (read in full...)
I need a female's opinion here!
Q. Ok, i've been seeing this girl on and off for about 2 months now. I haven't gotten any clear signals that she wants to date, although she can get frisky when we're out drinking. Last weekend we went out and ended up hooking up and I stayed over at ...
A. 25 September 2009: We girls like attention and tend to get a bit upset when we don't get it, like when you weren't responding to her messages right away. I still think she's just trying to protect herself from getting hurt. The whole thing about her talking a lot ... (read in full...)
I need a female's opinion here!
Q. Ok, i've been seeing this girl on and off for about 2 months now. I haven't gotten any clear signals that she wants to date, although she can get frisky when we're out drinking. Last weekend we went out and ended up hooking up and I stayed over at ...
A. 23 September 2009: You should keep pursuing. She's been tyring to figure you out, too. Those questions she asked in the online conversation you posted have been on her mind. Girls usually like to know straight up if they are liked by people they like and generally ... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this trap of a marriage and keep custody of my children?
Q. Dear All, I'm married to a British man(I'm Indian) and we have 2 children under 4yrs of age. We have lots of arguements atleast one every day. Just one for example: I have bought water/liquid absorbing doormat(light green,one of those JML magic ca...
A. 15 July 2009: I don't know anything about how things work over there, so I can't help you out with the custody issue. As far as your employment status goes, you need to get all that straightened out before you leave. Have a plan and make sure you're going to be ... (read in full...)
This marriage is not right for me and I cheated
Q. I have been married 4 16 years and I have cheated several times and just can't stop.I'm not sexually attracted to my h and so I find it outside of the marriage.My h is always wanting it and I turn him away n which it causes problems of course.He has ...
A. 6 July 2009: You're not alone. I'm going thru a very similar time in my life right now as well. It sounds like you're missing fun and excitment in your life and enjoy the attention of men. IDK the particulars of your marriage, but from what you've said, it ... (read in full...)
Is this an affair that should go further or is it over?
Q. So i had an affair. lots of reasons, no point getting into it, but rest assured there were reasons. First/last time I'll do it. But i realized i waited for as (held out) long as i did, because i wasnt really looking for an affair but to move on (...
A. 8 June 2009: From my own experience I would say she's trying to break away from you because she truly doesn't want to be your "girlfriend" or for you two to be anything more than what you are now. She loves your attention and affection and doesn't want to lose ... (read in full...)
Friends with "potential" benefits?
Q. Hi, I'm presently in a difficult situation. I go out in a large crowd to gigs and one night one of my friends brought along a pal to see the band. Well it was like someone had put Rohypnol in our drinks, this guy and I couldn't stop looking at...
A. 20 March 2009: Six months is more than fair, especially for him. The longer you're in it the harder it is to get out. Think about that and maybe reduce the time limit. Was that your only question? You seem to have a grasp on how all this is working otherwise.... (read in full...)
I'm curious about this after watching it
Q. Hey well i'm a gay male, and i watch a lot of porn where guys eat the cum. So i was just wondering, what's it like? I mean how is it? uz lately i've been thinking abot it after i jack-off, then i think about it for too long, and end up not eat...
A. 21 February 2009: It's kind of salty and a little acidic, like it leaves a film on your teeth. I don't roll it around in my mouth or anything, tho, just try to swallow it as soon as it bursts out.... (read in full...)
Can a normally good and genuine person become a cheat?
Q. Is it possible to be a good person who loves a man with all her heart to become a nasty cheat after a lot of hurt, but is it possible for the same person to be loving and faithful to the same man when they both realize they messed up? I know what ...
A. 18 February 2009: I am a good and genuine person who became a cheat. I don't plan on doing it again; actually never planned this time, yet it happened. You are worth whatever it is you want and can be faithful and loving.... (read in full...)
G/f cheated while I was deployed, now I struggle with trust issues!
Q. I want to first start by saying sorry if my typing grammar may not flow well. As you can tell I am in the military (air force) and have been for 12 years now. I am 30 years old and my area in work in the military is under special operations through ...
A. 17 February 2009: It's a good sign that she told you. She at least has enough respect for you and your relationship to do that. You would never have know otherwise. She feels bad for betraying you. I used to think that cheaters are awful and should all be shot at d... (read in full...)
I still love him very much with all the mess he has done. Is this crazy?
Q. I met my husband 9 years ago and we will soon be having our 8th anniversary and I am have a hard time deciding if I should stay in this relationship. For the 1st year things was wonderful but, soon after our daughter was born he begin to cheat, ...
A. 11 February 2009: You are def just crazy in love. If at all possible for you mentally, leave him as soon as possible. I have been thru just about everything you talked about, including the prison thing, and am now into 14 years of misery in my marriage. Most of my ... (read in full...)
He does not want to talk about us and has become verbally abusive. What should I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. It has had it's challenges as he has not always been truthful. Whenever I confronted him he would always pin the blame on me. The relationship had escalated to verbal abuse in the past ...
A. 10 February 2009: Your question is what should you do - let him leave and hope you never see him again. Easy for me to say, I know, but that's the simple answer to your question.... (read in full...)
Do other women ever feel a little aroused during their period?
Q. do anyother women experience feeling a little horny during your period? i don't think i could ever have sex during a period, but sometimes i feel a little up for it. must be to do with hormones of something? i guess i'm lucky, as i never have hea...
A. 10 February 2009: Yes, always want it more during my period.... (read in full...)
Is this the silent treatment? What can I do?
Q. i am dating man for a few months now this is the same man that i have posted other questions on here.i i have had problems trusting him he has never done anything to betray me it is mainly my insecurites,.we had a fall out recently because he ...
A. 10 February 2009: I think it's both. IDK how long it's been since the fallout and the txts you sent, but you need to let it go for a time. Been there, so I know how hard it is. I also have insecurities that make me not trust. Try your very very best not to contact ... (read in full...)
Do women realise this about guys? Is it not true?
Q. To many women think we are playing mind games with them so guys I'm gona have to spill the beans and tell them what we are realy doing. When a guy has a great conversation with you wherever it may be and then all of a sudden seems to ignore you for ...
A. 7 February 2009: IDK what happened to my first response but here goes again. I seriously hope you're not pulling my chain with this one. Do you have any idea how many girls have posted this question only to get the response "kick him to the curb!" I am going thru ... (read in full...)
Do women realise this about guys? Is it not true?
Q. To many women think we are playing mind games with them so guys I'm gona have to spill the beans and tell them what we are realy doing. When a guy has a great conversation with you wherever it may be and then all of a sudden seems to ignore you for ...
A. 7 February 2009: So you're saying I should contact him soon and not wait for him? That actually hasn't worked for me. Please oh please contact me privately cuz you're one of very few guys I think I can actually learn from. I'm in an awful mess right now with a guy ... (read in full...)
Do women realise this about guys? Is it not true?
Q. To many women think we are playing mind games with them so guys I'm gona have to spill the beans and tell them what we are realy doing. When a guy has a great conversation with you wherever it may be and then all of a sudden seems to ignore you for ...
A. 7 February 2009: I am printing this out and reading it everyday. This no contact period makes me totally nuts - TOTALLY. I think that he's talking with someone else or that he doesn't want to meet again, etc. I hope you're not jerking my chain, cuz I and others have ... (read in full...)
His back and forth attitude really hurt me, what am I to believe now??
Q. Hello: First I want to say that I'm writting for advice NOT to be slandered for my scenerio. I work with a guy who yes is married, however our odd hours and found interest in eachother's abilities, art and such..have created a mutual bond be...
A. 7 February 2009: Don't have any advice or explanation for you as I am experiencing the exact thing myself. My guy seems to be on a 2-week schedule - we meet and have a good time, then pretty much no contact for 2 weeks until he's ready to meet again. I don't get to ... (read in full...)
Is he playing games, or does he no longer care for me?
Q. Would a 60 year old guy who thinks he's a high roller play games with me just to get his you-know-what sucked if he has a steady girlfriend? (Yeah, I'm stupid - denounce me if you want to get your rocks off that way, but I really just need...
A. 6 February 2009: Please contact me privately. We have a lot in common, but I don't feel like getting blasted on this website again. You're not alone and my shoulder holds teasrs well.... (read in full...)
Sex is just not a necessity?
Q. I's like to hear from older people please--early 40's ++ only. My fiance in his mid 40's(I also that age) doesn't seem interested in sex any longer, and once a month or less is fine with him, I guess. Ruling out--he's gay, another woman, drugs, ...
A. 5 February 2009: I'm 41 and my husband is 46. About 2 years ago he just suddenly lost interest in sex. There were no major changes, nothing, just bam. It's been really hard for me because my sex drive is increasing. He also used to chase me around the house and ... (read in full...)
My married man has disappeared, what's his story?
Q. i am a 36 year old woman and i have been in a new job for 12 months. I absolutely love it after being at home for 6 years with my children. I have been with my partner for 17 years, reasonably happy. I have met a 54 year old married man at work ...
A. 4 February 2009: I can't tell you what his story is cuz I know several men who act the same way and I don't know why. One is doing it to me. Your other question of what do you do - run as far from him as you can. It's hard but you will be so much better off for it. ... (read in full...)
Is it worth the risk to fall in love again?
Q. I have a real dilemma on my hands. I reconnected with someone I knew in high school. Didn't date him then, but I ran into him recently at an event. We talked and I was very attracted to him. So, I emailed him and we've been talking over the ...
A. 3 February 2009: It's a wonderful thing to have been married 23 years and not to have ever cheated. I used to pride myself on that, but I am currently drowning in my unchartered waters. If for nothing else, I wish I could take back my cheating and be able to say ... (read in full...)
Men making noise during sex
Q. To all the ladies out there, what do you think about men making noice during sex? Turn on or a turn off?...
A. 2 February 2009: Some noise to show her you really like what she's doing, but mostly groaning or "oh, yeah" are turn ons. A bunch of loud stuff is a turn off, as it is just funny. Couple the little bit of groaning with a little bit of squeezing and you've got a ... (read in full...)
Should I write her a message telling her she's beautiful?
Q. Back in August this gorgeous girl came into my job and I was too nervous to talk to her, but another guy who works there got her number. For months I've been wallowing in regret thinking of all the things I should have said but didn't have the nerve ...
A. 9 January 2009: Evoke further correspondence. I love that. You said she came into your job - is there something about that you could talk about? Try to get the gorgeous part out of your head and think about what you would talk to a friend or neighbor about. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Should I write her a message telling her she's beautiful?
Q. Back in August this gorgeous girl came into my job and I was too nervous to talk to her, but another guy who works there got her number. For months I've been wallowing in regret thinking of all the things I should have said but didn't have the nerve ...
A. 9 January 2009: Chat with her on facebook. Do not go overboard with the compliments, telling her how beautiful she is, etc. Don't mention the wrong number thing, either. Try your best just to get to know her a little bit and maybe you can get a better feel about if ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait until I call him?
Q. I have just recently got back in touch with a male friend of mine after 5yrs. For the last month and a half we have been meeting up. Any free spare time he has he will call me. On xmas eve we had a falling out over some email i sent him, ...
A. 2 January 2009: Try your best not to contact him at all, but if you feel you must contact him, wait at least 2 weeks (start your 2 weeks today). It will be agony, but you will make it. He may contact you before 2 weeks is up. Try your best not to obsess about it, ... (read in full...)
My husband has an addiction to strippers & lap dances.
Q. My husband has spent over $90K on lap dances in the past 4 - 5 years, exhausting any savings we might have had. Since getting caught, he's quit, but I can't believe the addiction isn't still there. Stay or divorce? ...
A. 2 January 2009: To simply answer your question... divorce. If leaving is that easy for you to do, then I advise to do it. I'm not talking about it being easy for you emotionally, but if he's not going to be mean about it or give you much trouble about leaving, then ... (read in full...)
Can you truly fall out of love with someone?
Q. my wife has left me.... she told me that she loves me but is no longer in love with me. she said that it feels odd when she kisses me and cant give me what i want. i have so many questions that i want answers to but she says she cant give me th...
A. 21 December 2008: I would say your wife is unhappy, and there's nothing you can do or say as her husband to fix it. She has lost passion, and now it's like loving a friend. Although she seems to have her mind made up, maybe counseling will change that. I do think ... (read in full...)
I can't function like this much longer. And sooner or later I'm going to break completely.
Q. Hi, I'm new to this forum and I only registered because I have run out of ideas. I am a 24 year old male, soon to be 25, and I work as a Graphic Designer. I hate my job so much that I am actually getting sick just thinking about it while typing t...
A. 21 December 2008: At your age, don't hold back. You will seriously regret it when you get to the ripe old age of 40 like me. I, too, struggle with many of the same issues as you. Many days I want to jump in the car and just keep driving. Try to develop a plan to get ... (read in full...)
How can I restore my relationship after an affair?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for 7 years, we have a two year old daughter, I also have a son from a previous relationship. I recently discovered my partner has been cheating. I'm unsure of the full extent and when confronted he ab...
A. 2 December 2008: Without getting into his personality, your love for him, and my personal experience, my advice is to leave him. You will probably not be able to trust him and will accuse him even when he's not doing anything. There's no way to know that he won't do ... (read in full...)
I eat and then throw up trying to lose weight, please help me!
Q. I hate my body i am 15 stones just 5 10" i eat and eat and eat then throw up i do this at lease 5 times a day i try to loss weight but it never happens i so fat and ugly i don't understand how others think im beautiful. ...
A. 2 December 2008: It's so good that you recognize a problem and are seeking advice. If at all possible please talk to your mother and seek professional help. My niece had a similar problem, has been in couseling for 2 years, and is doing much better. You cannot ... (read in full...)
Would you stay or just get the divorce now instead of waiting 3 years?
Q. My husband cheats on me with porn and innapropriate letters and pictures from women he knows. We have been married for six years.He actually slept with one of the women maybe two. My husband has gotten caught 3 times. In other words, that is all I ...
A. 2 December 2008: First off don't get too consumed by others wondering why you stay. It's your relationship and your experience that nobody else can fully understand. From someone who is in an unhappy marriage herself my advice is to leave now. I think you will be so ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused, I've been seeing him for the past 3 years, but lately contacts are rare. Should I leave it at that? He has a family.
Q. I guess i already know the answer to this question, but i need to hear it from someone else really. I have been seeing a guy for the last 3 years, we met online, chatted, then met, and ever since we have been really good friends, he is/was my bes...
A. 14 November 2008: I wanted to reply only because I am getting the same thing from a guy right now. The situation is similar to yours, but we are not as close as you two are. We've been meeting off and on since March of this year, with the past 2 months being really ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome getting low when I don't hear from him?
Q. I'm in love with a man who has a partner but says he will keep in touch with me ( we have just become good friends and I am happy as that)! - He rings on occasion - when he can get away - but on nights he doesn't I start to really panic that I ...
A. 27 October 2008: I understand your frustration & low periods. I am in a similar situation. Some things that keep me going when I don't hear from him are remembering something fun we did or something he said that made my day or that I did to make his. He has various ... (read in full...)
Should I stand by my demand? To me, marriage is NOT glorified dating.
Q. My boyfriend and I, was going for 8 1/2 years we had our ups and downs, but what relationship doesn't. When we had our son he finally realized that he wasn't happy and wanted to leave the relationship. I didn't stop him because I'm not going to ...
A. 7 October 2008: I was with my man for 8 years before we married. Unfortunatley, I didn't have the great insight that you have. I should not have married him and wish i hadn't. We had our ups and downs, too. If you put sour milk back in the refrigerator, it's not ... (read in full...)
Everything was great, then suddenly he became distant. What should I do?
Q. I was talking to this guy and things got pretty hot and heavy for a while. Everything was great, then suddenly he became distant. Said he'll call and take 4 days to call me back. I took it as a hint he wasn't interested so I moved on. Then he calls ...
A. 5 September 2008: Since I'm a girl, I don't understand how a guy's mind works. I have been treated similarly to this before, and it's not fun. Maybe some guys can shed some light on this for us both. I think that he is afraid of his emotions. That's good beca... (read in full...)
Romantic gestures towards women - some brainstorming!
Q. Hi. For a little project I'm working on, please, would as many women as possible kindly list three gestures which they would deem to be 'romantic' towards them. Many thanks!...
A. 27 August 2008: Star gazing with the guy not gazing at anything but me; a neck rub just to make me feel better; flowers for no reason... (read in full...)
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