I knew I was going to regret BJ from my GF, and I do. Please advise.
Q. I have always told my (first) girlfriend, that I never wanted a blowjob, because I knew I would regret it. About a month ago, she gave me one, and as I suspected, from back then to this very moment, I am regretting it in so many different ways. I ...
A. 3 April 2011: I know you regret it and feel guilty for letting her do that, but remember that she did it to give you a gift. If you tell her that you feel so bad about it, she'll feel even worse than you do, feel guilty, foolish, unattractive, unloved. Feel bad ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you only go down on a woman you are really into?
Q. Guys, do you only go down on a woman youre really into-- your gf or someone you care about/love? or do you do it just for fun or for reciprocity?...
A. 3 April 2011: There's a whole range, from those guys that won't ever go down on a woman, to those that only do when the feel they have to, to those that do when asked, to those that do without being asked but only with girls they like, to those that will every ... (read in full...)
Will my guy be turned off when he sees the acne on my back?
Q. hi i have serious backne and i am afraid my guy might get turned off during sex when he sees it.. do men hate backne? what should i do, i feel frustrated....
A. 1 April 2011: I very much doubt he'd care. If he's crazy about you and even gets to see you naked, the last thought on his mind will be a few zits.... (read in full...)
I am having weak orgasms lately...Is it me or the MDMA I took?
Q. Even when I masturbate they are weak but there almost no orgasm for me during sex.we've tried all positions and now I'm at a point where I started faking my orgasms so my bf won't get sad because all he cares about is giving me pleasure and he is ...
A. 1 April 2011: Please reconsider faking. In the short term, it's supposed to make your boyfriend feel better, but in the long term it damages trust and even his own confidence. He'll end up wondering if you were faking before too, maybe they've all been faked, ... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you dump a girl if she didnt have sex with you?
Q. This question is for guys and guys alone. Now i want you to be completely honest with me. If you were dating a teenaged girl and you were a teenager yourself, and you wanted to have sex badly and she didn't, would you dump her?...
A. 31 March 2011: I nearly married a girl that wouldn't sleep with me. We were half way through planning the wedding, she was wearing her ring, and I meant it when I ask her to marry me, even without sex. The only reason we didn't get married was because she started ... (read in full...)
How do I handle a man who thinks its funny to wind me up?
Q. HI I am in a relationship with a man and have been for about 7yrs, we get on fine most of the time but what i am finding annoying about him is him saying I love tormenting you because i love the way you bite back;I'm beginning to feel he has no r...
A. 30 March 2011: Sounds like my ex. A self admitted people watcher, she would frequently do things just to enjoy my reaction. I didn't really mind at the time, but if your guy is frustrating you, know that he's unlikely to change after seven years. Talk to him, let ... (read in full...)
Why did he make me wait 3 whole minutes before having sex?
Q. The other night I wanted to have sex. So I asked my boyfriend and he said "can we wait till tomorrow morning?" so I said okay fine then I got up to go to the bathroom came back and he was naked I asked him then, why are you naked? Then he said ...
A. 29 March 2011: I'm with DrDivine on this one. It sounds like he was trying to tease and build anticipation. Heaven knows my ex always made me wait...... (read in full...)
A man always knows whom he wants, right? else why the delay.
Q. My best friend and I have known each other for seven years. He is five years younger to me, though we have never felt the difference in any way. Lately the past year we have been hanging out a lot, almost every other day. Around 6 months ago i ...
A. 23 March 2011: What makes you think a man cannot have indecision or uncertainty? And now he's trying to talk to you and you're pushing him away because you want him too? Maybe he KNOWS he likes you but isn't sure it would work out or what he should do. If you cut ... (read in full...)
Partner has photos of naked models on his phone. I feel crushed
Q. hi i`m in a right state here,please,please help. i have been with my partner for 12 years. we have 2 children and enjoy being a family. we do have a healthy sex life and i love him with all my heart. on sunday he showed me some pics he`d taken on ...
A. 23 March 2011: Women FREQUENTLY fantasize about celebrities or even literary characters. It doesn't mean cheating is in the cards. It's just a mental exercise, some dirty thoughts, maybe something taboo or different, but those pics are pretty harmless. Men don't ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend and won't dump her for me
Q. i dont know how to word this so long story short.... the guy i like likes me to, he says he loves me bt he has a nother gf but wont dump her........ What do i do...
A. 23 March 2011: So what if he loves you. If you love a celebrity, does it make you a couple? If you love a character in a book, does that mean you're dating? If he loves you, does it make you his girlfriend? If a man says sweet things to you but is still with his ... (read in full...)
If he gives oral to me do I have to return the favor?
Q. My boyfriend and I have started getting more sexual, he has fingered me and I have given him a hand job, but he wants to go down on me, if I let him, does this mean I have to go down on him as well? I've never given oral before and I don't think I'm ...
A. 23 March 2011: You don't have to, no, but if he does much for you (fingering, oral, whatever) without getting much back, for long enough, he will start to feel that it's unfair. If you go further sexually with him, know that he's not going to stop easily. Be sure ... (read in full...)
Are men afraid of their emotions?
Q. Why do men pull away when things in the relationship seem to going so well??? Are they afraid of their emotions?...
A. 23 March 2011: For the same reason anyone, of either gender, shields their emotions. No one wants to get hurt. In this world of cheating, lying, 50% divorce rate, and just overall uncertainty, people have a hard time trusting. So people try to guard their feelings ... (read in full...)
Do men get connected through sex like women do?
Q. What kind of feelings does a man experience during sex? For men, is it love language? Do they express love through sex? How does sex play a role in love for a man???? Ive been seeing this man for a while and we didnt sex it right away. We ...
A. 22 March 2011: Stereotypically, men are disappointed and turned off by not having it, but only fall deep for great sex. In truth, good men, mature men get wrapped up in sex too, when it's real. Men absolutely CAN just screw and forget, but when it's loving ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to predict before marriage that a couple's sex life will suck 5-10 years after they get married?
Q. Almost every one of my guy friends who has been married for more than 5 years or so has told me their wife has lost almost all interest in sex. Many go for a month or two without it onb a regular basis. They also tell me about friends of theirs who ...
A. 22 March 2011: I know this isn't politically correct, but it's the unvarying experience I've had and seen. Women SAY they want to be treated like queens, but what they LIKE is to fight for it, play the game, have a challenge and then win. Love is a tug of war and ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband having more friends that are single girls then guys?
Q. Well i have been married 14 years to my husband and i will admit i have some confidence and jelousy issues. my husband grew up having problems making friends with guys so he hung out with girls cause they were nicer to him and his child hood was ok ...
A. 21 March 2011: I've generally had far more female friends than male, but it never goes further than friendship. They're absolutely "just friends" and are the same as the guys. They're sisters, not potential lovers. I have never so much as kissed one of them on the ... (read in full...)
Do you think the man I am having an affair with is seeing someone else?
Q. Please don't judge me... I am married and am having an affair with a recently separated man. (We hooked up when he was married last year). To give a brief hx, I knew him from the past yet never hooked up. Well we did last year and had sex. I never...
A. 21 March 2011: Any man that's willing to cheat WITH you is able to cheat ON you. And yes, you have a right to know who else he's with, exactly the same as your husband has a right to know who you're with. I won't say whether cheating is moral or not, only that the ... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin at 20!
Q. im going to be twenty in 2 days and im still a virgin. is this normal? at times i lie awake at night and despise myself for it. other times i think its fine and i shouldnt worry. ive considered losing it to an escort-going so far as to make the ...
A. 21 March 2011: I'm 27 and a virgin. Honestly, it doesn't really bug me like it used to (sorta, sure, but not as much as it did.) I don't have a child to support but I cannot see. I don't have AIDS or herpes. I don't a reputation as a player. I DO have a job I ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's ex text him at 3am - should I let this go and if so, how do I do it?
Q. I checked my boyfriend’s phone about a month ago and there was an indication that he had received a text from an old f**k buddy at 3am. We have been going through a difficult time recently and I had been feeling very insecure in the relationship ...
A. 21 March 2011: He cannot control who sends him texts. As you said, there's no indication that he texted her back or met up with her. She just was up late, possibly drunk, and texted him once. He doesn't remember it and did nothing about it. Don't punish him for ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend just wants sex sometimes no foreplay! Isn't that selfish?
Q. Late the other night, my boyfriend and I were about to have sex when he asked if we always had to have foreplay. He said that he was tired and just wanted to have sex. I told him that I feel that's really selfish, as for me foreplay's the most ...
A. 20 March 2011: Well remember that even though a woman needs time to warm up, slowly building into a burning fire, and then likewise needs time to gently cool back down, men are light switches. We can go from nothing to horny in one second, and afterward we can be ... (read in full...)
I dealt with my insecurity by wearing coloured contact lenses -- does that present a false image?
Q. This sounds stupid but i really want as many opinions on this as i can get. So here's the story, i'm attractive and i mean that in a non snobbish way! But yet ever since i started clubbing i've worn coloured contacts every time (very natural lo...
A. 18 March 2011: Try to treat the contacts the same way you'd treat a sexy dress or painted nails or makeup. It's just to accent your existing beauty, not what makes you beautiful in the first place. The contacts can be a confidence boost, but that confidence is ... (read in full...)
Are guys turned off by girls making the first move?
Q. i met a mutual guy friend and we hit it off really well. we've only been out alone once since but it was very comfortable and he asked for my number and also flirted with me a little. it seemed like he was interested, whether it was dating or just ...
A. 17 March 2011: Jmtmj is right (as usual). Men get so tired of being expected to do all the chasing, face all the rejection, make all the plans... When a woman asks a man out, it's a breath of fresh air to finally stop playing the guessing game! Now he KNOWS she's ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to tell your friend that you love them?
Q. Would it be alright to say to your best friend from the opposite sex that u love them. Not as in "I am in love with you" but just that you love them?...
A. 16 March 2011: It depends on the person. I have friends that I tell I love, but have to respect their comfort. I tell a female friend that I love her, but she knows it's like a sister. No confusion. Sometimes I'll tell a male friend, "I love you, bro," but few ... (read in full...)
What drives partner's to cheat on one another? What makes them feel an attraction for a person other than the person they agreed to marry?
Q. I come on this site every day to read new questions that have been posted. I love this site, and I love giving people advice who ask for it. However, I have noticed a lot of questions posted about affairs, cheating, etc. People asking for advice ...
A. 16 March 2011: People are all different. I'm like you in that I've been cheated on in every relationship I've had, but could never cheat on a girl I love. When my fiancee left me for another man a couple years ago (prompting me to find this site), I had just let ... (read in full...)
Why are guys such pigs?
Q. Why are guys such pigs? Ok, so I've recently started talking to a guy from high school. I've been out of high school for about four years, and it's nice to be able to reminisce with him. So we've been talking. And suddenly, he starts telling m...
A. 16 March 2011: If you look around this site, you'll see that the nearly unanimous advice is that men MUST do all the chasing, be forward, make all the moves. Over and over, women are told that they should never pursue a guy even if they're interested, because "if ... (read in full...)
I really like him, should I tell him so?
Q. Hi everyone, How can i get this guy to like me ?? Or how can I tell this guy I like him ?? I've liked him coming up to a year now, i have slept with him a few times and he has given me lift places and I've taken him places. Anyway the ot...
A. 16 March 2011: You're already out with him frequently, have much in common as friends, and slept together. You're basically dating without the label already so I'd say yes, go for it! The worst he can say is no, and it's better to know that sooner than later.
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Why do men play mind games with the women they like?
Q. Why do some men (single or married) play mind/head games with the women they are attracted to but not in a relationship with? What's their deal? And why all the game playing??? Why do they pay attention to a woman and then ignore her and go back and ...
A. 15 March 2011: Because any man that chases a woman, earnestly, and lets her know how he feels and that he wants her WITHOUT making her fight for him instantly turns into a doormat, or a wimp, or just uninteresting and women walk away. The only way to get a woman ... (read in full...)
Do women ever chase men?
Q. Do you think that guys are the ones who always want to chase women? Do you know of any examples of situations where the woman was more actively pursuing the guy and it ends up working out? ...
A. 14 March 2011: Women should ABSOLUTELY be willing to chase men too. Just know that whoever does the chasing, man or woman, carries a risk of rejection. If you're rejected, it doesn't mean you were wrong to try. (If every man that got shot down quit trying, ... (read in full...)
What is sexy to men?
Q. what is your ideal weight and look of a woman? I am 15 and i wanna know what men think is sexy. I dont wanna look tramp-ish but not too nun-ish. I wear short shorts and tees often and I wear regular converses. I have mid length brown wavy hair. I ...
A. 14 March 2011: Honestly? I am immediately turned off by trying too hard. Tons of makeup, clothes that are too small, bleached hair, revealing clothing, all tell me she's got no self confidence. A nice shirt, clean, can be sexy even if it's just a T shirt. Nice ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my size may not satisfy my girlfriend. Any ideas?
Q. I'm 20years old.....but my penis is only 4 inches ??? What can I do for me to satisfy my girlfriend?? ...
A. 14 March 2011: And yet, there are men with 7" penises that can't even get girlfriends in the first place. She's with you because she wants to be, even though there are larger men that she could be with. That means you won already. Just enjoy your time with her and ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and still virgin. Is this bad?
Q. I'm still a virgin at the age of 23. Is that bad?...
A. 14 March 2011: I'm 27 and a virgin. It happens. It doesn't mean anything bad, just that you haven't found someone yet to share that with. When it happens, just let it happen. In the meanwhile, enjoy the free time to focus on work, hobbies, friends, recreation, ... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted at the male penis. Is it just me or anyone else feel this way?
Q. Penises just completely disgust me. I literally feel like i am going to throw up. And thats just from looking at it. I've been told there's great looking penises and horrible penises, but I just think they are all nasty. I don't want anything to do ...
A. 14 March 2011: In all seriousness, this sounds a lot like my ex-girlfriend, and it has cost her several relationships. You might want to talk to someone a bit more professional than us. Have you had abuse in your past? Or is it possible you're just not really into ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to marry me because I never let him win??
Q. I'm in shock and lost for words right now. My boyfriend/fiance of about 6 years off and on finally told me last night that the reason he has been so hesitant on marrying me is because he has worked his whole life on his business, and if he ever got ...
A. 9 March 2011: He doesn't expect to divorce, but he knows it may happen some day, and if it does, men get screwed in American divorce courts. Even if it's a small chance, he knows he could lose everything he's worked for. He's particularly worried because you ... (read in full...)
He doesn't reply for hours!
Q. Hello, My problem is that my boyfriend always texts back after an hour or two or even sometimes not at all in the odd rare occassion - sometimes i text him again later on to see if i get a reply, normaly which i do - usually saying he is sorry and ...
A. 8 March 2011: If you want to talk to him immediately, call him. If you send a text, he may be busy or distracted or just not get around to replying. Men think of texts as a more convenient form of email, not an emergency conversation that has to be handled ... (read in full...)
How dangerous is fingering?
Q. is fingering a bad thing? does it just happen to a girl? is there something else that goes along with that? how dangerous is it?...
A. 6 March 2011: Well, if his hands are dirty, you could get sick just the same as you can from dirty people in general. If his nails are too long, he could scratch you too. Or if he's just an idiot, he could be hurtful by going too fast/rough. But it's not any more ... (read in full...)
Am I losing feelings for my boyfriend?
Q. I just saw a concert and it was amazing and almost felt life changing the only problem I have is that I really wanted my boyfriend to be there with me but he said he was not interested in going and that the person I was seeing was not his kinda ...
A. 6 March 2011: A healthy couple is one where each partner can have their own interests without it driving them apart. If he's a huge sports fan, that doesn't mean you have to go to games with him if you just aren't interested. If he's into boxing, or music you ... (read in full...)
Why do guys always go for girls who treat them like trash?
Q. Hi I have a question, why guys never respect the girls who are nice to them and always go after the girls who treat them like trash....
A. 6 March 2011: I'm a "nice guy" and generally wind up with cheating, lying, girls that treat me like dirt (after the initial honeymoon phase where I'm the most important thing). Why? Well, whenever I go after the nice girls, they reject me to go be with jerks that ... (read in full...)
Is it impossible to think I might be able to marry a virgin or at least a very inexperienced girl?
Q. Is marrying a non promiscuous girl a rarity in todays world. I am a virgin man looking to marry a virgin or someone with very little sexual experiences. Is there a possibility that this may happen or should I not care about this....
A. 6 March 2011: I'm a virgin male, at 27 years old now, and while I was in your boat (and still would like a girl with smallish experience), I can say that when you fall in love, knowing that you're not the first just doesn't matter anymore. I nearly married a girl ... (read in full...)
Do guys not want the hassle of dating a virgin?
Q. is it a turn off to know that I am a virgin at 23??? I mean I am easily aroused and the thought of sex alone, even touching or blowing hot air on me makes me wet...and I have never had sex...and I just dont want that to turn a guy off from wanting...
A. 2 March 2011: Less experience can be cured by having experience with your boyfriend. Too much experience won't go away.
Men can be the best you've ever had if you're a virgin. Men will struggle with retro-jealousy and comparing themselves to your other lo... (read in full...)
I've never had a relationship and I've always used escorts. Would it be fair of me to have a real relationship?
Q. Dear All, I am having a complex problem as of now and need you to give me some advice. Let me first give you a brief summary about myself. I am a 28 year old moderately successful man. I was born in poverty and learnt the hard lesson of life qui...
A. 28 February 2011: Dude, take a look at the men around you that are dating. Wife beaters, drug users, serial cheaters, pathological liars, unemployed dropouts, immature momma's boys, cruel manipulators, etc and yet they have girlfriends. Are you less worthy than they ... (read in full...)
Do men actually like this?
Q. Do guys like giving oral to girls??? I mean do they like fingering, and going down and you know? The taste, the look, when it's clean and partially shaven. I am so trying to explain this well, but just really wanted to know if they like kissin...
A. 28 February 2011: Absolutely! I positively love it! Heck, I like giving oral to a woman more than getting oral from a woman. The smell is intoxicating. The taste is delicious. The feeling around my fingers and under my lips is amazing. The sounds from the woman (even ... (read in full...)
Too wet during sex?
Q. I'm having a problem with my sex life - I'm a pretty tight girl but i get extremely wet during sex to the point where my boyfriend complains that it doesn't feel as good! Does anyone know what I can do?...
A. 26 February 2011: "Too wet"? I wasn't aware that's possible. It sounds to me like you're just a healthy woman that is turned on by her boyfriend. He doesn't seem to know what he's talking about.
Really though, other that having sex when you're less turned on (less... (read in full...)
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