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What drives a man to perform oral sex?

Q.   When a man performs oral sex on a woman, during intercourse for the first time, how does he feel? What drives him to do it (i.e; to give pleasure, expecting something in return, closeness, or just being horney)? ...

A.   28 January 2011: I find that it turns me on to eat a girl out, not to mention how good it feels to know I'm giving pleasure to a girl I love, and it's even fun to do for its own sake, and I happen to like the taste and smell, and I've never found a better way to get ... (read in full...)

How many girlfriends should I have before I marry?

Q.   iam looking for a girl who will be my wife.so before i marry ,how many girlfriends should i have? should i be trusting her? ...

A.   27 January 2011: Could be 1st or 50th, just make sure she's really the right one and you aren't just settling for the first willing girl that's "good enough". Without some dating experience, it's hard to tell the difference between true lifelong love and an ... (read in full...)

Should I go to this party where there's a chance I could cheat on my boyfriend in a moment of weakness?

Q.   Im going away for the weekend because i've been invited to a birthday party ...but my boyfriend is going away too and i was moaning to him about how hes gonna cheat on me ..but the thing is the party im going to has this guy who fancies me and said ...

A.   26 January 2011: If you have to ask this, then you already know the answer. A recovering alcoholic should not go to the bar. Someone trying to lose weight should not surround herself with cake. Someone who wants to be faithful should avoid temptations. If you can ... (read in full...)

Help! Do I give up on the girl of my dreams or be there for her and hope she gives us a chance later on?

Q.   Alright so I've been talking to this beautiful girl I met at my friends bday party for about a month now on the phone. We have awesome convos and sometimes we talk for hours on the phone. She always jokes about us getting married and tells me how ...

A.   26 January 2011: Justwondering13's story is great to hear, but also the less common outcome. Stay this girl's friend, but don't EXPECT to date her someday. Enjoy her company as much as you can, but do so with the understanding that you most likely will only be her ... (read in full...)

Is this a joke of a relationship?

Q.   My bf took his female friend to dinner, and picked her up from work after he finished work. Yet he made me pay my way to work today (he drives me extremely rarely and he had the day off today so I didn't think it was a big deal). He called me quite ...

A.   26 January 2011: Holy crap! My place is a mess, but I invite a girlfriend over. My car is a beater, but I drove more for the gf than I did for myself (no charge). She was always welcome to Christmas and Thanksgiving, treated like family by both my parents. And I've ... (read in full...)

Are my gentials abnormal?

Q.   This question has to do with the design of my genital area. I do not have that loose flappy skin that kind of looks like a thinner floppy second set of lips in between my vaginal lips. I've seen women in this x-rated magaizines with that. Is ...

A.   26 January 2011: You're perfectly normal. The inner lips (labia minora) vary greatly in size between woman, some having such length that it's visible protrudng past the outer lips and others scarcely visible. The inner lips tend to darken some over time, so some men ... (read in full...)

I'm devastated, what can I do? He's blocked from his life over an email.

Q.   He saw an email to my ex - it was bad. I admit that. But it wasn't from present day! And although he saw it recently, before that he saw my messages telling the ex to leave me alone cuz I was happy with my boyfriend. The email was from a stage in ...

A.   26 January 2011: While I don't condone his refusal to even talk to you, if this is how he is, you may also have to delete the ex's contact info and emails to/from him when you and your boyfriend get back in touch. So many people cheat with ex's that your guy's very ... (read in full...)

I punish people for my own shortcomings?

Q.   This might sound a little weird and could be somewhat long so please bear with me and try to understand. I'm not the most confident person on earth and i have little faith in myself. As a result i tend to spend most of my time alone as i fear tha...

A.   25 January 2011: So you're rejecting people before they have a chance to reject you. Ooooh yeah, I've been there. Problem is, if you risk rejection, you may get shot down 50% of the time... even 90%. But if you never even take that chance, you'll lose 100% of the ... (read in full...)

I had sex a year back, will my future husband know that I'm not a virgin?

Q.   I had sex last year, but my bf ditched me.. Ima going to get married next year to someone else and I don't want my husband to know that i'm not a virgin. That was the only time I had sex, tilll now i dint get physical with anyone. All I want to know ...

A.   25 January 2011: If you haven't had sex in a year, and you only had sex once even then, you already feel like you did your first time. The ONLY difference is that you don't have a hymen now. Many women break their hymens without sex anyway (riding a horse, playing ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's chin stubble is irritating my face. Any ideas to prevent this?

Q.   My boyfriend has quite a bit of stubble on his chin. I love it, but I often get rashes and wondered if there was any way to prevent them, or make them less noticeable? thanks x...

A.   25 January 2011: My ex asked me to use some good conditioner on my facial hair when I showered. She said it made all the difference for her.... (read in full...)

He gets softer when giving me oral!

Q.   My boyfriend loves me giving him oral sex, however i love him eating me out.. But he doesn't tend to enjoy it as he gets abit softer when he does it.. Am i doing anything wrong? What do i to make surs he enjoys giving me oral sex? Thakyou. x...

A.   25 January 2011: I'm a guy that loves to give oral so much that I absolutely would rather eat a girl than receive oral. It turns me on like crazy to eat out, but I get soft in the middle of it. Why? I'm very focused on what I'm doing and my body starts to realize ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend thinks I am too nice?

Q.   Hello, theres a girl i know from the internet and I've got a problem now. Well, I know her for 3 months now and i felt in love with her. We have often contact through chat, skype and webcam. Anyway we're in a relationship now and now she asked me...

A.   25 January 2011: It sounds like she's not asking you to be pushy, just assertive. You can be a nice guy without being a doormat. You ARE allowed to ask for what you want, to say no to favors you'd rather not do, or to get upset if people use you. Many nice guys ... (read in full...)

My fiancee doesn't want to make love any more and its tearing me apart.

Q.   I have been with my Fiancee for 2 years and love her with all my heart but it seems like she just doesnt wanna sleep with me anymore. Before we moved in together the passion was strong and chemistry couldnt be contained. we used to make love at ...

A.   25 January 2011: Dude. I've been there. Three years with a girl that wouldn't touch me. We did end up splitting. I hope it doesn't go that way with you, but you have to talk and work and fix it. If she doesn't WANT to fix it though, you can't fix her. If you want to ... (read in full...)

Trying to talk dirty in a long distance relationship is proving difficult...

Q.   My boyfriend of 2 years has just joined the army and has been away for the past 2 months and will be for another 4. We are trying to keep our relationship alive and are fine just filling each other in about our days and what not, but occasionally we ...

A.   24 January 2011: I ran into the same issue before... the thing I learned was that it doesn't need to sound like you're reading a romance novel (though they can have good ideas to talk about). Just saying what you want or miss, plainly, can be awesome too. You don't ... (read in full...)

How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?

Q.   I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...

A.   24 January 2011: Birdman... as for toys, don't think that it's just the toy. One could argue that since your own hand can get you off, why would you need a woman? Even if you're using a vibrator or other toy to help her orgasm, it's YOU that gets her hot. Even if ... (read in full...)

How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?

Q.   I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...

A.   24 January 2011: Huh, what do you know? I just learned something today from YouWish. Thanks! I have never noticed it getting hard as she's about to go, but my ex liked so much activity as she went over the edge that I didn't have the attention to spare to feel for ... (read in full...)

Should I tell him I think he looks better clean-shaven or at least with his beard trimmed?

Q.   This might be a terribly shallow/silly question.. but Im starting to get involved with this guy.. who has a beard. I love beards, dont get me wrong, but I think he is so much more attractive when he had a tiny beard versus the mountain man beard it ...

A.   24 January 2011: Ask him to trim. Each partner has an obligation to be tidy for his or her partner. You're not asking him to totally change, just clean up a bit. You aren't asking him to shave, just cut it shorter. He should be alright with that. If he won't trim, ... (read in full...)

How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?

Q.   I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...

A.   24 January 2011: I never felt a clenching around my fingers either, nor did I feel anything on my tongue as YouWish suggested. But I figure if my girl shook, gasped, and told me she came, well... that's just going to have to be good enough for me. A man can drive ... (read in full...)

Was I wrong to get upset, or was it wrong for him to discuss my friend's period at dinner?

Q.   HI everyone! So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year yesterday he came to ick me up from my job and he said hi to my bestfriend wh also woks with me. Anyway we went get food and during dinner he said " does your best friend have her ...

A.   24 January 2011: I'd say it depends on the social group. I have several female friends that make no secret of their time of the month and just don't care. If someone asks, they'll be honest. If they're moody, they'll apologize and explain why. In my circle, it ... (read in full...)

I'd rather make out than have sex, but husband goes straight for the sex!

Q.   My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years now. In that time we have had two kids. For those of you who know what its like to have kids, know we have had almost NO time for ourselves. Some where along the lines my husband has stopped ...

A.   24 January 2011: Next time you're going to bed, jump on top of him and start kissing until your lips are tired. Make it sexy, playful. Tease him with it and kiss, then pull away and see if you can get him to follow after your lips. Go after his kisses. Heck,... (read in full...)

How do I know if she's having an orgasm or just faking it?

Q.   I'm sure this question has been posted time and time again, but I want an answer for my particular case. I'm 17, and just starting having sex with a girlfriend of mine (also 17) a few months ago. I really care about her and want nothing more tha...

A.   24 January 2011: Sadly, you pretty much have to trust her. When the earth shakes and her back arches and her breathing stops before she gasps for air, it's obvious, but sometimes it's so quiet and calm that you wouldn't know to look at her, even though it was an ... (read in full...)

Is regular masturbation healthy?

Q.   Is regular masturbation for a guy of age 19-20 is good?healthy?and will in future this will affect my sex life? i heard something like premature ejaculation occurs...same time i also heard this will improve my sex performance as i know my body mor...

A.   24 January 2011: Masturbating 3+ times per week will actually reduce your chances for prostate cancer, so that's good. Plus it's just a stress relief. It doesn't hurt you at all unless it gets in the way of your daily life. Just remember that porn is not like real ... (read in full...)

He has lost his libido but I cant help thinking it must be to do with me.........

Q.   I have been going out with my bf for 2 years and recently he's just stopped being interested in sex. I got a bit upset not because we weren't having any but because it made me feel like he'd lost attraction for me. He explained he just goes through ...

A.   24 January 2011: I have low times where I just don't care about it either. How long has it been? After a while, sure it's a worry, but if it's just been a little bit, then that's normal. Stress, sleep habits, nutrition, random moods, something no good reason. Libido ... (read in full...)

All of my boyfriend passwords are his ex's name!

Q.   One day my boyfriend was looking through/deleting old emails while I was sitting next to him and he opened an email with his facebook password in it. I saw that his password was his first love's name. I asked him about it and he said it was nothing. ...

A.   24 January 2011: I kept an ex-girlfriend password for a while too, several different ones in fact, because it was what I was used to typing. I didn't even think of the words, just the places the keys were arranged. It took FOREVER to break the habit and I STILL ... (read in full...)

I often get in a panic and gag at the thought of a bj. Why does this happen and how can I address this problem?

Q.   I have this fear of giving a blow job to my boyfriend of 6 years. I don't mind giving oral sex, but as soon as he puts it in my mouth I feel the need to gag. He has a very large penis and if he has just had a shower I don't mind as much. he does...

A.   22 January 2011: I'm a guy who's had girlfriends that just couldn't give oral. My recent ex gave me oral maybe ten times in over three years. I was sad, certainly, but what matters if that you make your guy feel loved and attractive. If you can't suck, ok then. But ... (read in full...)

Confronting my girlfriends lying has brought our relationship to an end.

Q.   I am in a longterm relationship with a girl from another country. We were casual for around 6 months, and connected immediately. Being able to be very open with each other on everything including past relationships, sex etc. We got together...

A.   21 January 2011: Ouch... That's no fun. But you're long distance so you can't see her often, you argue constantly, already broke up twice now, she lies and changes her story frequently, and open communication just makes her upset. I don't think there's much of a ... (read in full...)

My parents disagree with our relationship because of his skin colour, how can I get them to accept this?

Q.   Im 19 going on 20, Im a white female dating a black guy and my mom and stepdad dont agree with this. I started dating this guy throughout high school and now we are getting serious and talking about our future together. My mom and stepdad say they ...

A.   21 January 2011: If someone is racist and has been for an entire lifetime, you aren't likely to convince them to change easily. All you can do is live your own life with this man and either your folks will grow to accept him or they'll lose their daughter. You ... (read in full...)

I pushed my fiancee into having a boob job and now I regret it

Q.   I'll probably get criticised for this............... I always had a thing about boob jobs on women n although my fiancee had nice size breasts and a fantastic figure i constantly went on to her about wanting her to have one. Stupid i know. ...

A.   21 January 2011: The thing is, your nagging not only wore down her resistance to the job, it wore down her self esteem. You were essentially telling her that she was so ugly it would take surgery to fix her! Now she's got bigger assets and is getting compliments on ... (read in full...)

Are first kisses important?

Q.   Are first kisses important? I had mine when I was 7, and it was just a peck with a boy in my class. I now look back on it and it's a pretty cute first kiss even though there was no chemistry involved. A few months ago I got in a relationsh...

A.   20 January 2011: I treat kissing with respect. In fact, I've never kissed a girl I wasn't in a relationship with. But my first wasn't with a very special girl and I haven't even got fond memories of her now, but the kiss was while dating her and I don't regret that. ... (read in full...)

He says he loves me, but he never wants sex!

Q.   My husband lost sexual desire 5 years ago. He says he loves me. But he never wants sex. When we have sex, he loses his erection in seconds. Specially ,after he is kissing and stimulating me. I;m completely confused. We had been at doctors several ...

A.   20 January 2011: Aside from low testosterone or the normal decline with age, it could be performance anxiety. He knows he's been failing, so whenever he gets too close to sex, he could be stressing / feeling guilty and it kills the mood. Men are under so much stress ... (read in full...)

Do guys call a girl hot just to sleep with them?

Q.   Would a guy call a girl "hot" to her face just to sleep with her or get something out of it, or does he really think she's hot? Or do you think he's just trying to give her a false ego boost for whatever reason?...

A.   20 January 2011: It depends on the guy and the situation. It could be because he really thinks she's attractive, or she was fishing for compliments, or he's trying to hook up, or he's reassuring a friend, or he's just being friendly, or he's joking around, or ... (read in full...)

Sex, patience, and finding what fits

Q.   Hello, I am about to write this in the hopes it falls into good hands and open minds. I am a mid 30's male. My sex life started quite young as I learned about sex at around age 7, read the Joy of Sex when I was 9. Read about 50 penthouse forums, ...

A.   19 January 2011: I did the 3.5 year relationship with a woman that never gave sexually in any way, then cheated. I've grown up giving pleasure to girlfriends and never getting back (or fretting too much about it). But I've not found that good relationship at the end ... (read in full...)

Why did my boyfriend get so mad last night?

Q.   why did my boyfriend get so mad last night?? maybe because its not true or its true... we dated since 1998 and i want to know why we aren't married.. so i was reading 25 ways to know hes not that into you and he got almost all of them. i let him ...

A.   18 January 2011: At this point, you might be common law married anyway, but I'm with Dirtball. He could be committed, faithful, in love, and looking forward to growing old with you without wanting an expensive ceremony. Besides, those lists are rubbish. But a... (read in full...)

He never has been interested in sex with me, but he cheated on me and had a week of mad sex with his ex!

Q.   hi my boyfriend of 20 months has never realy had much interest in sex with me or anyone else. so he says ,he said pasionate kissing is only for kids,although he is very cuddly and always pecks me thats it, i found out 6 months ago he had a week of ...

A.   18 January 2011: Weak! He had sex, a LOT of sex, with an ex girlfriend that he still has feelings for, but won't sleep with you and says he will never be in love with you. It doesn't sound like he has any value as a boyfriend or a man. If you stay with him, realize ... (read in full...)

Are all men this emotionally frigid?

Q.   Are all men this emotionally frigid? I wrote my boyfriend of 3 years a heartfelt letter detailing my doubts about our relationship. I’ve recently moved in with him (and his siblings) and things don’t seem to be working for me, due to a redundancy,...

A.   18 January 2011: Men are all different. Some are stoic and emotionless. Others are very emotional and sensitive. In general, we're taught to be strong, though. Men who are sensitive are mocked pretty ruthlessly growing up. Softies are still out there though. As fo... (read in full...)

Is waiting worth it to a woman?

Q.   I am also the authority of an other article '22 Year Old Virgin: Weak or Responsible'and this will be my second article on the subject matter. I am struggling with the issue of virginity. Because I am a very disciplined individual as my previous ...

A.   18 January 2011: I'm 27 and a virgin. I have a female friend that's 27 and a virgin. Not long ago, I was dating a 22 year old girl (I was 25 at the time) who was a virgin. You're not the only one out there. It's not always easy, but it's a life choice some people ... (read in full...)

Kissing and Hugging vs. Sex

Q.   Here's a dilemma, guys are suppose to be all about sex but the weird thing is, I love kissing, hugging, making out as much now that I am 40 as I did as a teenager, it never abated. Aren't guys suppose to be sexually driven? However, I wou...

A.   18 January 2011: It sounds like you're just very affectionate, not immature. There's nothing at all wrong with liking to kiss or cuddle. (I'm fairly positive there are countless women that wish their men cuddled more.) Just don't give up on sex entirely. Ideally, ... (read in full...)

Is she being spoiled in rejecting the single rose?

Q.   I am thinking of a conversation I had with a very pretty female friend. We got into an argument and I was your opinion on it. This guy was interested in her and they sort of began dating. He came to her home with a single rose and a card saying, "...

A.   17 January 2011: One rose is more of a gesture than a gift, and a bit cliche, but not insulting. It's a sweet, classic move. If she throws a fit at anything less than 40 roses (really?! at least forty?!) then I think he'd better be wary. What happens when he gets ... (read in full...)

Should I pick the man that only physically pleases me (my bf) or pick the one that emotionally satisfies me but not physically (my ex)?

Q.   my situation is so complicated. Idk what to do. I recently moved in with my bf. Things went really fast. we only knew each other a few months before moving in together. things were great for the first month or so but lately he has been working Alot ...

A.   17 January 2011: You're cuddling your ex? You're meeting up with him and letting him tenderly stroke your hair and kiss your forehead? I know that I would NOT be comfortable with my girlfriend doing that with an ex. That's not just emotional support! It sounds like ... (read in full...)

I need a good guy to marry. But how can I stop being attracted to loving bad boys?

Q.   Recently i hooked up with my friend. I've known him about 8 yrs. I really love him but he can't do anything for me. Love is all he can offer. i'm young, pretty smart and good looking. And i've got a permanent job at a well known orga...

A.   17 January 2011: Love is all he can offer? So you're attracted to him, and there's love there, and you've known each other for years, so what's wrong with him. I think I need more information about what he's lacking, other than a job. Or is it just the job that ... (read in full...)

Should I talk all the time on stay quite during a movie date?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are going to the movies in a couple of weeks. We have been dating for two months and this is our first actual date. Iv been out to dates at resturaunts and iv met my ex s parents but iv never been to the movies on a date. am i ...

A.   17 January 2011: Ideally, you shouldn't talk during a movie because it's rude to all the other people in the theater. If you like, you can whisper very softly into his ear, but generally it's better to keep mostly quiet during the movie then talk about it afterward. ... (read in full...)

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