Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 29 October 2009: Oh yes, I forgot to mention that didn't I? I DID get my stuff back and I gave her stuff back. It was through a third party (her dad) because she wouldn't even face me, but the swap was made.
And I've only been engaged once. The first girlfrie... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 29 October 2009: A little late, but here's the update:
I went out with a girl I met through online dating (SoulGeek if you're curious) and we liked each other enough to go on two more dates. This weekend we're going to a Halloween costume party together and join... (read in full...)
Ex g/f started writing nasty messages so I blocked her on facebook, was it the right thing to do?
Q. During the summer I had a relationship with a girl. The relationship had to end, because we were both going to university. In the first couple of weeks back at university, I met somebody else. I was a free man, and saw nothing wrong with entering a ...
A. 8 October 2009: I hope you gave your ex a chance to stop posting nasty comments before blocking her, gave her a chance to be civil, but if she was being bitter and angry then yes, you had every right to block her from your friend list because she was no longer ... (read in full...)
Are watery eyes while giving a blowjob a turn off?
Q. Is it a turn off if a girl's eyes are super watery after/during a blowjob? I'm excited because I finally got the hang of deep throating and I can fit my boyfriend's entire dick now. And don't worry, I wasn't forced to learn or anything; my ...
A. 8 October 2009: First, thank you Cerberus for saying what I was thinking.
Second, Poster, I know kinda how you feel. I'm a guy, but I would regularly push myself too hard while eating out my ex, getting sore wrists and a crick in my neck and a sore bump on my li... (read in full...)
Are watery eyes while giving a blowjob a turn off?
Q. Is it a turn off if a girl's eyes are super watery after/during a blowjob? I'm excited because I finally got the hang of deep throating and I can fit my boyfriend's entire dick now. And don't worry, I wasn't forced to learn or anything; my ...
A. 8 October 2009: As long as he knows you aren't crying so he doesn't feel guilty for hurting you, it should be fine. Just make sure to mention that you're enjoying yourself (if indeed you are) and he'll enjoy the feeling. Congrats on your success.
Just make sur... (read in full...)
Married with kids. Is the type of sexual assistance I give my man enough?
Q. My husband and I have 3 kids under the age of 7 and I work part time. I am pretty exhausted chasing the kids, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, and have lost my sex drive for the past 9 months. I am concerned that it will never come back like it ...
A. 7 October 2009: I agree wholeheartedly with Lola1's excellent advice. First, never ever ever fake an orgasm. It will come back to haunt you in the future in the form of broken trust and distance between you. But you sound like you need some couple's time.
Go on... (read in full...)
Should I worry about getting pregnant even though we have been having unprotected sex for a while now?
Q. me and my bf have sex usually 4 times a week, but almost every time it is more than once a day in those 4 days, so its more like 7 or 8 times a week. i get my period fairly regularly. we do not use condoms or any sort of birth control. he just pulls ...
A. 6 October 2009: Just because you're lucky 100 times doesn't mean you're going to be lucky on the 101st time.
Even though he's pulling out, pre-cum still contains sperm and can still get you pregnant. Either he needs to start using condoms, or you need to go on th... (read in full...)
Do nice guys even still exist?
Q. I am 19 and I have never been kissed. Or even been on a date. Now that I am in college I want to date but all the guys I meet are more interested in partying and meaningless sex. I do not go to parties and I obviously don't have sex so I don't know ...
A. 6 October 2009: The problem with nice guys (and I hope I count as one, being that I'm 25 and turned down sex with both of my girlfriends thus far because I am waiting for that), is that we are virtually invisible. The loud and obnoxious guys are a lot easier to ... (read in full...)
Do guys want experienced girls?
Q. I was just wondering...do guys prefer girls that are sexually inexperienced or do they like girls with experience. i personally have no experience and my friends say that they do prefer girls like that but im not so sure. do any of you guys out ...
A. 6 October 2009: I'm a virgin, so I would have to say that I prefer a girl that either is one also, or has had fewer partners, but this is just because I expect to save my V-Card for the wedding night. I can't say for other men.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slept with someone else out of the blue; why would he do this?
Q. My boyfriend of over 2 and a half years has slept with someone else. He came to mine on Saturday, we had great sex, then went to the fair then for a lovely meal. He then went to a friend in London's housewarming party, coming back the next da...
A. 5 October 2009: My first instinct is to say that cheating is always unforgivable and a deal breaker, but in this case... I don't know. He told you about it immediately when he saw you next. He was in tears and upset about it. He's honest, repentant, feels horrible ... (read in full...)
He shaved his pubic hair when I asked him not to!
Q. So today is a very sad day for me. I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and he's been talking about shaving his pubic hair for a while. Well, today he did it! Why why why? He just came home from work ate dinner and did it while i was ...
A. 5 October 2009: It will grow back. It's possible he was just curious how it would look or feel. Maybe now he's got it out of his system and will let it grow back and stay. But besides that, it IS his hair, and you spend a lot less time looking at that hair than the ... (read in full...)
Am I cheating on her?
Q. Hi. I am 21 and I have a girlfriend for the last 2 years. Here is somethng that is wrong. She is never ready for a physical relation and I have been craving for it. She says that it would be "cheating and ditching her parents if we do it before ...
A. 5 October 2009: If you had sex and it wasn't with your partner, you were cheating.... (read in full...)
Innocent kissing or infidelity?
Q. I'm not sure how to go about this the right way. I love my boyfriend who I've been dating since January and we've both been good to each other. As August rolled around, I met another man who I developed a crush on. It's a little awkward because we ...
A. 4 October 2009: Kissing is generally considered to be cheating.... (read in full...)
Do guys like pet names?
Q. Hello everyone ! I just wana know do guys like to be called by their name or do they like to be called by something like 'honey' or 'baby' or darling ? ...
A. 3 October 2009: I loved being called hon or dear, and on top of that my last girl chose to also call me Koibito (Japanese for "beloved").... (read in full...)
Ladies, how do I get 'the edge' ?
Q. I'm particularly interested in hearing responses from straight women in their 30s and 40s on this one. I appear to have a problem with women, and without being immodest, it seems that I'm too 'nice' and I don't have 'the edge'. The N word has b...
A. 2 October 2009: "At 37 years of age, I can tell you that I have no interest in dangerous, edgy men; I had enough of those in my twenties!"
That's great news for this poster, in his late 30's, but I'm still in MY twenties and hoping to find a girl that doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it just him, or did I damage something with a vibrator?
Q. Hi Cupid! My ex was really good at oral sex and i orgasmed everytime. We've since split up and i turned to vibrators to stimulate myself which also made me orgasm every time. I've recently met a new guy and we slept together for the first time abo...
A. 2 October 2009: Either way. Like CaringGuy said, it shouldn't be PERMANENT, because you're built to take abuse down there, but you are now more used to stronger sensation. Lay off the vibe and get used to a more subtle experience, while also helping to guide your ... (read in full...)
Ladies, how do I get 'the edge' ?
Q. I'm particularly interested in hearing responses from straight women in their 30s and 40s on this one. I appear to have a problem with women, and without being immodest, it seems that I'm too 'nice' and I don't have 'the edge'. The N word has b...
A. 2 October 2009: I'm here for ya, buddy. We're in that Nice Guys club together, and I just lost my fiancée for reasons she refused to explain. But I'm getting out there again, going on a date that I found on a website. Will it work out? Who knows, but I'm going to ... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 2 October 2009: Thanks guys (including Q, who made me laugh, thank you but I'm a virgin and not going to revenge hump anyone). I think "whore" was entirely excessive, just coming out of hurt. All I really meant to say was that I want a girl I can trust. This last ... (read in full...)
Why does she refuse anal sex with me, her husband? She did this with her ex...
Q. my wife and I have always had a very honest relationship, but one night I asked to have anal sex. She denied me access so I asked why. We have attempted it once before, however I stopped because she really wasn't enjoying it. Her reply was very ...
A. 1 October 2009: There's another reason it could be. Look at what changed.
1. She's older. She could just no longer like it, or be in different shape than she was then, or for whatever reason it just doesn't feel as good as it did.
2. You may be too big. It's... (read in full...)
Has anyone tried Eharmony and does it work?
Q. Just wondering? Has anyone tried Eharmony? Does it work? Or are they just a bunch of guys looking to get laid like plentyoffish?...
A. 30 September 2009: I used eHarmony at 21, and they canceled my account having not given me anyone to contact and then refusing to refund my membership fee.
I paid for a 6 month membership and they guaranteed 6 matches in that time. 6 months go by and I got 3, none ... (read in full...)
Ask him out? Or wait for him to ask me out?
Q. Hi everyone. Simple question- should i ask out a guy that i like or wait for him to ask me out? We are friends and a few of my friends say there is a chance he likes me from some of his behaviour. I don't want to jeapordise the friendship but w...
A. 29 September 2009: Do it. Be casual, calm, ask him to go grab a bite somewhere, but don't think that you have to wait around for him to make the first move just because he's the guy.... (read in full...)
Semen leakage normal?
Q. Whenever I get sexually aroused due to my girlfriend in university or wherever, a drop or two of semin from my penis leaks. Is that normal? I workout 2 hours every day and do not masturbate more than twice a month. I haven't done sex as well uptill ...
A. 29 September 2009: Perfectly normal, ESPECIALLY since you're in shape and seldom masturbate. You're healthy and full. A couple of drops of precum is not only common, but EXPECTED, and is no where near as inconvenient as a girl having to change her panties if she got ... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend get better at oral sex?
Q. So my boyfriend needs help giving oral sex. He's got the right attitude and loves doing it, but to be honest he's not very good at it. The thing is I've never had it done well so I have no idea what to tell him. Can some people give things to do ...
A. 29 September 2009: Fingers in, tickling the G, tongue up above on the C. If he's like me, his hand should fit under his chin and be able to do it all at once.... (read in full...)
Are there any devoted and patient guys still out there?
Q. frustrated...im 19 years old and i think i am attractive the thing about it is ive never really been serious with a guy... and im wondering if theres any good guys out there that is still devoted and patient to wait for a girl who is only gonna ...
A. 29 September 2009: 25 year old Christian male here, still virgin by choice, stopped my last two girlfriends from having sex with me (though both wanted it), still waiting for my wedding night.
I've done third base, don't get me wrong, so I'm not perfect, but I ha... (read in full...)
How do I make a girl say "wow he's good" after sex?
Q. How do i make perfect sex? I mean as in, How do i start and end to make 'a lady say wow! he's good?...
A. 29 September 2009: Oral. Eat her out. If you're good at that, really enjoy yourself down there and make her back arch with tongue and fingers, she'll love you.... (read in full...)
I want to give my boyfriend a blowjob but it will be my first time!
Q. i want to give a blow job to my boyfriend but i am feeling scared, bcos i have not done this before. one of my friend told me that he will like it, he lets me touch his penis when ever i start playing with his penis pure water like fluid oozez out i ...
A. 29 September 2009: Both genders tend to fall asleep or at least get more relaxed and sleepy after an orgasm. If he is severe in this, make sure he gives you oral first, then give him one. When you both feel like a snooze, there's no time better for a cuddle and a nap.... (read in full...)
How can I tell if I'm tight enough?
Q. im always self conscious that im not, excuse me here, "tight" enough for my boyfriend. im gona be 16 soon and hes 3 years older. hes not that big, just average, but everytime we have sex or he fingers me, i feel like im not as tight as i should be. ...
A. 29 September 2009: You're 15. You haven't had full intercourse yet. You're tight.
But know that the size of your vagina is going to change dramatically. When you get hot and bothered, it will DOUBLE in length and width, it will become much looser and more elastic ... (read in full...)
How do I get past this sexual block?
Q. I have been with my husband off and on since we we're both 17 and married him at 22. Once we got married we were completely faithful to eachother, though things didnt stay that way. back in the beginning of "04 i became friends with this girl. i had ...
A. 29 September 2009: You were going to second base with another man and letting your lust fill your heart and mind, and he was having sex with another woman and nearly impregnated her. Start over between you two.
You're in a new city, with new neighbors and coworker... (read in full...)
How do I make him understand I'm not a machine?
Q. I am almost thirty yrs old, I am married to a man who is four years younger than me and has a sex drive of a sixteen yr old. We have 3 children together, all between the ages of 6 to 1 yr old. I work full time as well as have the children in various ...
A. 28 September 2009: Well, between being busy and tired, that's understandable... but I can't help wonder what it will be like in a while when you're in your late thirties (when many women's libidos hit their peak) and his starts to drop off. The tables may turn once ... (read in full...)
Is this redness in my genitals normal?
Q. hi. i have recently noticed that the area under my vaginal "lips" is red, although not itchy or anything, and seems to be rather damp most of the time. it's very embarassing - is this normal? any help would be great. thanks...
A. 28 September 2009: Sorry, that's something that has to be seen, not described, in order to be diagnosed. Please visit your doctor.... (read in full...)
Was it weird that my husband asked me which of my previous sexual partners had the biggest penis?
Q. My husband of 2 yrs asked me who I'd slept with in the past had the biggest penis. Now, I know he's not insecure cause he's well endowed himself. My response was to laugh and asked him why the hell he wanted to know! he said he was just curious. ...
A. 28 September 2009: k_c100 is right, sadly. We men are still cavemen at heart, and that need to be the best affects most of what we do. Either we want to be the biggest or best in bed, or the strongest guy on the beach, or the richest guy in the boardroom, or the ... (read in full...)
G/f says that I'm not your call girl..I get no affection from her at all
Q. I am 21. I and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years now. I always try to make her happy by cracking jokes, make her laugh. In our 1st 6 months, she completely ignored me as if we were just friends and took more interest in other guys. But ...
A. 28 September 2009: I know what that feels like. My ex was with me for three years, during which I wanted to be closer to her and she wanted to keep a certain distance from me. I wanted to passionately kiss her, she wanted to only give me quick pecks. I could cuddle ... (read in full...)
Goint right into a relationship after ending a 3 year relationship with first love
Q. I don't know if i am over the man of my past relationship that just ended so abruptly, he is very bitter about it but we had so much because it was first love. Do you agree you will always be attached to your first love? When ever i am ...
A. 28 September 2009: I just got dumped abruptly, without discussion or debate or warning, by my fiancée who I had been dating for three years. And she was not my first love. And I was surrounded by over a dozen close friends praying for me, comforting me, and helping me ... (read in full...)
How do I become more selfless in a relationship?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for close to a year and a half. We are in our mid-twenties, and we have talked often about getting engaged soon and getting married. In other words, we're in a pretty serious and committed relationship. We have b...
A. 28 September 2009: First, he shouldn't have been upset that you told him about the ex getting engaged. That is noteworthy, and it is something you care about (regardless of if you have feelings for the ex). But it sounds like it's just become a sore subject for him, ... (read in full...)
Was it weird that my husband asked me which of my previous sexual partners had the biggest penis?
Q. My husband of 2 yrs asked me who I'd slept with in the past had the biggest penis. Now, I know he's not insecure cause he's well endowed himself. My response was to laugh and asked him why the hell he wanted to know! he said he was just curious. ...
A. 28 September 2009: Men are paranoid creatures, even the ones that are well endowed. He likely was fishing for a compliment (even though women aren't so obsessed with penis size as men are) and wanted to know how he compared, or who was the previously best lover. In ... (read in full...)
Is complete hardness a very important factor?
Q. Hello. Question for the ladies. I have a 7 3/4" penis with a 5 3/4" girth. My wife says it is by far the biggest she has been with. The question is: sometimes if we have sex too long or a lot of foreplay, it loses some of its erectness. It is st...
A. 26 September 2009: First, nice one. I'm only 6.25" x 5.5". You're at about the 95th percentile in both length and width. I'm no woman, but I'm thinking that even a little soft, even if you shrink half an inch in each direction, you're still bigger than many men at ... (read in full...)
Why do our b/f's insist that we swallow?
Q. I have been dating my b/f for 6 months now and we haven't had intercourse yet. I told him several times that I am saving myself for marriage and he calls me a priss all of the time. He claims I am sexually pent up. But I take care of his needs ...
A. 26 September 2009: Wait, women actually swallow? I had come to think that was a myth that existed only in the fantasy world of pornos. Heck, even spitting, even sucking was a non-occurance for me. My last relationship lasted three years, and she let me finish in her ... (read in full...)
I'm having a second affair after I promised I would never leave him again, do I stay with him or follow my heart and be with the man I love?
Q. This could be a long post but I have to lay it all out. I am a married woman and have been with my husband for 13 years. He was my first serious relationship (I met him when I was 20). About 6 years ago I had an affair and told him I was leavin...
A. 25 September 2009: You're not being honest with yourself. You're thinking the choice is between the husband you don't feel for, or the man you want to be with forever. That "forever" is a lie. Twice now, you've had long-term extramarital affairs. Even if you DID leave ... (read in full...)
I needed a hug, not a French kiss!
Q. is it normal that a girl would just want a hug from her boyfriend rathar than a french kiss ,,you see ,2 of my friends died at a car accident, and i was crying so when we met , i hugged him and i started crying he hugged me back but then afterwards ...
A. 25 September 2009: I'm a man, and even I care more about hugs than kisses. I can't remember the last time I got a french kiss, or even a really good regular kiss, but hugs are enough to get me though. And this is coming from a totally straight male.
You're normal, ... (read in full...)
How can I control my sexual urges better?
Q. I don't know exactly what I'm asking here, but I'll try to explain it. It's been a while since I've been in a relationship, about a year, and I don't really feel particularly lonely (although I would love to meet someone nice). My problem is that ...
A. 25 September 2009: I'm single, male, 25, and I just got out of a relationship where I ate her for three years and she kept promising that she'd return the favor some time, but ultimately didnt.
If you figure out how to control your urges, let me know because ... (read in full...)
Guys: Is monogomy a myth?
Q. guys have you ever been completly faithful to a woman throughout your relationship-I'm starting to wonder whether faithful men are a myth,all my boyfreinds have cheated...
A. 25 September 2009: I have never once cheated. I haven't kissed anyone else, much less slept with anyone else, while in a relationship. Ever. Even though my last girlfriend wouldn't even return the favor (in three years, I ate her over 100 times, she gave me less than ... (read in full...)
Does it turn men off if a woman has alot of gay male friends?
Q. This might seem like an odd question but when a straight woman has a lot of gay male friends is this a turn off for straight men? Background I moved to an area last year where being gay is considered illegal and is sort of undercover inotherwords ...
A. 24 September 2009: First, I think you might be spoiled by interesting guy-friends that have no sexual tension. Straight men are GOING to want to have sex with you, by definition of "straight". They shouldn't be trying to get you in bed immediately, but if what you say ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's past haunts me every day
Q. Ok I love my girlfriend very much but her past haunts me everyday. I know of 6 of her past encounters. She has told me about all of them. One she had slept with the lead singer of a band. Another she told me recently that she had gotten so ...
A. 24 September 2009: I agree with CaringGuy. You saved yourself, which I not only respect, but have in common with you. But not everyone is the same with sex, and many girls DO treat it casually, or at least did in the past. What's important is this:
1: Is she hone... (read in full...)
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