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How do you handle when your partner, who promises you the world and to never leave, breaks their promise?

Q.   How do you handle when your boyfriend/girlfriend who promises you the world and to never leave, breaks their promise? Its hard for me to accept that someone who loves you would walk out on you like that. How do you cope? Moving on or staying and ...

A.   11 December 2010: My fiancée, a woman I had loved with all my heart and soul for over three years, who I had been talking about marriage, home, kids, future with that whole time, who showed my such devotion and remarkably strong love for so long, upped and left me ... (read in full...)

Guys, should a girl be outgoing or hard to get?

Q.   Ok, I'd like to clear something up. As a girl, I naturally have some trouble understanding guys. I'm getting 2 different messages from things I read/people I talk to. One is that guys like it when a girl is the friendly one, goes out of her way to t...

A.   10 December 2010: Not every man is the same. Some like the chase and have to "feel like a man" by pursuing you. Others will feel like you're not interested if you don't meet them halfway. Personally, I need a woman to at least be receptive of my advances, at least... (read in full...)

Will he become bored with oral sex?

Q.   My boyfriend and I both virgins discovered how much fun oral sex is! I am not ready for sexsex, and he is ok with that, besides i am really getting the hang of blowjobs. (and if u must know he has a wicked tongue) My questions are will he become ...

A.   10 December 2010: Men NEVER get sick of blowjobs. Even after 30 years of marriage, a man will still want oral (and as a man who also has a wicked tongue, I can tell you that I never tire of giving oral either). He may want to try actual sex at some point in ADDITION ... (read in full...)

How do I stop myself from losing all hope of ever finding my Prince Charming?

Q.   I'm 20 years old and only a year from graduating college. I am the epitome of a hopeless romantic. My bookshelf consists of piles of historical and contemporary romances, love poems and fairy tales. I spend my Friday nights watching romantic ...

A.   9 December 2010: Stealing a quote from another aunt on this site: "Prince Charmings exist in fairy tales. It's probably time to get practical and look for plain old Mr. Charming, nice guy who'll be a little goofy, sometimes silly, occasionally stupid, but will love ... (read in full...)

I don't understand how he can say he has no sex drive but still masturbate daily!

Q.   Hey everyone! I have a couple of issues and would greatly appreciate some insight. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now and have a child together. He is 32 and I am 25. When we got together, we were having sex 2 or 3 times a ...

A.   9 December 2010: First, masturbating isn't always even a sexual thing. (Weird, I know.) It's a relaxation thing, personal time, even just a comforting habit. There is no pressure to perform, no timing to worry about, just a little solo-time. Sex with a partner is a ... (read in full...)

My mum called me a whore for having sex aged 17, but she is the one with 12 kids all to different fathers!

Q.   So today me and my bf had sex, anyway my mom found out because my sister is a snitch and she only looks for ways of getting me into trouble, anyway so my mom was bitching me out about having sex with my bf. She started calling me like a whore an...

A.   9 December 2010: Oh wow... that's... Yikes. But she's probably hoping that you'll do as she SAYS and not as she DOES. Even though she knows she's got a problem, she's hoping that you'll learn from her mistakes and avoid doing the same things she's done. She wants ... (read in full...)

It feels like he doesn't care about having a good sex life!

Q.   Ok my situation is..i have came right out and told my fiance before that i want Sex more often and want it to last alot longer, but it seems like he does not care to satisfy our Sex life, this is really bothering me because i should not have to be ...

A.   9 December 2010: I hate to say it, but mentioning it to him once isn't enough to change an ongoing problem. It requires continual communication and mutual effort. Right now you feel like he's not pulling his own weight, but sitting back and assuming he should just ... (read in full...)

Why is it easy for women to stop looking after marriage, and so hard for men?

Q.   {Moderator note: two questions from the same poster combined} Just a quick question. After a woman gets married it's easy for her to look at a man and not feel attracted to him or think of him sexually or get aroused by him. So why is it so hard for...

A.   9 December 2010: That hasn't been my experience at all. As a man, I've always found that I automatically stop looking at other women when I am in a relationship. When things are going so well, and this woman I'm dating is so beautiful in my eyes, there's no one else ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend a pervert? How do I deal with ex-girlfriend syndrome?

Q.   So there's two major questions in my relationship. Is my boyfriend a pervert? And is he not over his ex girlfriend? Me and my boyfriend have been together now for 7 months and we have a happy relationship so far. Prior to him I've steered ...

A.   8 December 2010: Most men look at porn. Most men also have the sense to avoid talking about it. Whether internet porn, dirty magazines, etc, it's just a rather harmless diversion that men use to blow off stress. If he's still attracted to you, still has a fulfilling ... (read in full...)

Building trust after being cheated on.....

Q.   Just wondering if anyone has any advice on dealing with trust issues after being cheated on? Can couples therapy/councilling help, or are the trust issues always there? Also, has anyone had successful relationships after being cheated on (with the ...

A.   8 December 2010: This isn't what you want to hear, but I've been cheated on by two women. The first is (last I heard) still cheating on her newer boyfriends. She never changed, never learned. The second is now engaged to the guy she cheated on me with, and they are ... (read in full...)

He told other girls I was good at giving blow jobs?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months and I can honestly say we love eachother. He has told me since the begining that I give awesome blowjobs. Today we were joking around and I asked if he ever told anyone how good I am. He said yes I told 2 ...

A.   8 December 2010: My most recent ex-girlfriend told a group of her friends (6-10 of them, mixed genders, sitting together at a table) that she enjoyed my skills at giving her oral, and described it to me as bragging about her boyfriend to them. I took it as a ... (read in full...)

How do I know she is wet? Will I be able to feel it?

Q.   So i'm pretty much just wondering how wet girls get when they're horny? I've been with my girlfriend for a while now and we have made out and i have felt her up and stuff, but nothing downstairs. I can tell she wants to move forward and do other ...

A.   8 December 2010: Many women will get wet much the same as men will get erections, just from thinking about sex or being excited from making out, and especially during foreplay (such as your feeling her up). How wet she gets will vary, but it's generally a bit wetter ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend googled my name and it came up under a girl's myspace page!

Q.   Now to all of you who know my gf insecutities I have another question about it now here's the problem she recently searched up on google for my name then my name came up under some girls myspace and now she thinks I am cheating because the google ...

A.   8 December 2010: Unless you have an EXCEPTIONALLY rare name, there's likely to be someone else out there with the same first and last name that you have (I know I do, and my last name is pretty rare), so it absolutely could be someone else. If she's paranoid though, ... (read in full...)

Do most boys choose their X-Box or PS3 over their girlfriend?

Q.   It seems like my boyfriend's life is playing on his xbox or ps3, I dnt understand why he would rather play on that instead of talking to me on the phone etc. Anytime I go to his house he would rather play on his xbox than me?! Is this normal? ...

A.   8 December 2010: He's young and immature and right now, it sounds like he's more interested in time with games and friends than he is interested in having a relationship. Some gaming is fine (after all, a girlfriend shouldn't be his ENTIRE life and a guy's entitled ... (read in full...)

Is getting turned on by people touching my ears normal?

Q.   I feel really weird, I have this strange attractions to ears, i love it when my boyfriend touches or kisses my ears, i even make him bite my ears, I just love it.. But it makes me feel weird because it a ears and surely it shouldn't turn me on if ...

A.   8 December 2010: It's normal enough. There's a reason people nibble at necks and ears. I have nearly brought one of my ex's to climax through ear nibbling alone! But what's normal isn't as important as what you like. If you enjoy having your ears touched or bit, ... (read in full...)

How do I stop self-destructing the relationship with the guy I have?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and while everything looks fine from the outside, I truly feel like I'm self-destructing my relationship. I love him, and I want to stay with him, yet I am pulling away because I'm afraid of getting ...

A.   7 December 2010: Allow me to pass along a very simple piece of advice that has helped me in the past: "He's with you because he WANTS to be." You aren't twisting his arm into being with you. You aren't forcing him to love you. He's with you because he wants to... (read in full...)

What does he mean by this?

Q.   What does it mean if a guy tells me "You are so wet, it's amazing" WHILE he is inside of me? How does my being wet feel to him? ...

A.   7 December 2010: It feels GOOD to him, and not just physically. Men usually associate how wet you are with how aroused you are (even though you could well be very horny but not terribly wet, or vice versa), so he almost certainly means that you're wetness is a ... (read in full...)

Am I a lesbian? Will my dream of finding my prince come true?

Q.   I'm a 17 year old girl who is worried about my sexual orientation. obsessionally worried. and I really want help. So first of all let me lay down the basics, I have always only felt oriented to guys. Ever since I was as young as 2nd and 3rd grad...

A.   3 December 2010: People are not just "gay" or "straight". There's a whole scale from one to the other. You could just be bisexual, which is extremely common and normal. You are physically interested in women, but likewise physically AND mentally attracted to men. ... (read in full...)

How can I make him stop wanting so much sex?

Q.   How can I make my boyfriend behave the way he used to? Ever since we started having sex, that's all he wants, and he's not happy until he gets it. It's gotten to the point where the only way I can even talk to him or be happy around him is if he's ...

A.   3 December 2010: Honestly? He sounds a bit immature about the whole thing, but given your age is it possible he's not had much (or perhaps any) sex before? It might just be new and exciting to him and the novelty hasn't worn off. Talk to him, let him know how you ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for a husband to watch porn?

Q.   Just a simple question before i freak out pleaasseee... Is it normal that the husband watch porn??? And trying to hide it from me! What is it all about? Should i react? Should i get mad? Should i confront him? What is it? Should i get jealous?? What ...

A.   1 December 2010: Long story short: Yes. It's normal for any man, of any age, in any relationship status to look at porn. It doesn't mean he's not attracted to you, or doesn't want to have sex with you, or even that he's not completely satisfied by you. 90% of the ... (read in full...)

Has my ex moved on? How can I tell?

Q.   I broke up with my bf about 5 months ago and I have no contact with him since. He had tried to contact me the first couple months, but I ignored him cause I just want to give him clear signal that our relationship is over. It appears that he had ...

A.   6 August 2010: Wait... so you broke up with him, and ignored his attempts to keep in touch, but now you're still going through his email and are worried that he doesn't care enough about you? You cut all ties to him months ago! I hope he IS moving on with his life ... (read in full...)

Why isn't he hard the whole time we fool around?

Q.   my partner is 42 and I am 22. We do not have full, penetrative sex but we do fool around, have oral sex and I give him hand jobs. However, I have noticed that when I give him hand jobs or oral he will be hard, but when we take some time to kiss or ...

A.   6 August 2010: Men have no control over our hardness, and lack of hardness does not mean he's not interested in you. But basically, it will only be up when it thinks it's about to get sex. When you've giving him a blow job or hand job, his penis is getting sex and ... (read in full...)

Pregnant from blow jobs?

Q.   I'm wondering if you can get pregnante through blow jobs exetra.Is that possible ???...

A.   6 August 2010: Unless you immediately spit it out (or allow him to finish outside of your mouth) and some of it lands on your crotch... and even then it's nearly impossible unless some gets INSIDE your vagina. If you give a blowjob and spit in a tissue or swallow ... (read in full...)

Should I have sex with him even though he wont wear condoms and I'm not on birth control?

Q.   i've been with my bf for 1year. hes my first love and im his he's two years older than me.. we are both vigins.. and homecoming night b4 his big game.. i well lets just say i wanna have sex with him.. he gave me i ring and we are getting married ...

A.   5 August 2010: Put simply: If he won't wear a condom, he doesn't deserve sex. If he wants sex, he'll wear one. If he won't compromise, then he's not worth your virginity. Period.... (read in full...)

Marriage - why should any man bother?

Q.   Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...

A.   5 August 2010: You make a compelling, and depressing, argument. If I weren't so hooked on the dream of a stereotypical suburban life with a wife, kids, lawn, etc, I wouldn't want to marry either. After all, that money people spend on the wedding ceremony itself ... (read in full...)

Confusion lead me to look at her phone while she was sleeping.....

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together for a few years. About a year ago we started fighting a lot. Since then we have had sex only six times and we havn't had sex at all in months. She doesn't even want to kiss me or cuddle with me when we ...

A.   5 August 2010: Invasion of privacy: bad. But keeping your wits about you: good. The more she talks to this other guy, including those little "i love you" messages, the more likely that she might be growing closer to him... especially if she's growing farther from ... (read in full...)

Is tossing the salad a reglular part of lovemaking?

Q.   Mod Note...OP's own title: Hey everyone. Is it normal for a man to be turned off by the idea of having anal sex with a woman and by the idea of tossing a woman's salad (pleasing her anus orally). I'm in love with my girlfriend and I find h...

A.   5 August 2010: Well, as expected most of the answers here hate any backdoor play, but some people (both men and women) find it to be a turn on. Personally, I don't want anyone near my butt, but I'm a fan of girl butts. (What can I say? Women are cute all over, top ... (read in full...)

Philosophical questions about sex and disabilities

Q.   This question may seem long and convoluted but there is an underlying unity I can absolutely assure you if you just take the time to read between the lines and try to see how things might look from my perspective. I hope you can see when a disag...

A.   4 August 2010: By “void” I just meant the longing in a person’s heart. There’s no way to determine at what point sex ceases to be required for a person’s mental wellbeing and becomes indulgence. That point varies from person to person and even day to day. And ... (read in full...)

I am in a committed relationship but two other guys, including my boyfriend's friend are hitting on me! What should I do?

Q.   i am in a comitted long distance relationship since one year and one month...i have two problems and don't know how to tackle it.its going to be long so anybody who is patient can go through this.thanks in advance:-) i really love my bf and even he ...

A.   4 August 2010: Do you really love your boyfriend. Because you said you're in a "committed relationship" with him. That commitment means, by its very definition, that you will stay true to him and push away other men that want you. If you would rather be with ... (read in full...)

What did he mean when he said "it was just like talking to an old friend"?

Q.   Hello all, I've been chatting to this guy online for a few weeks now. We've had very good chats etc. On Monday we spoke on the phone for the first time for about 2h. I then got the following email: Hello.. going to bed but thought I should say goo...

A.   4 August 2010: My fiance and I started off as friends of such immediate connection that within weeks of meeting, it was like we had been best friends from birth. It was eerie... this instant and powerful understanding. That bond grew and friendship became love. It ... (read in full...)

Philosophical questions about sex and disabilities

Q.   This question may seem long and convoluted but there is an underlying unity I can absolutely assure you if you just take the time to read between the lines and try to see how things might look from my perspective. I hope you can see when a disag...

A.   4 August 2010: Charles, thank you for the compliment! I’d like to think I’m rational. I am an engineer by trade and rather pride myself on being a geek. Though I think I disagree with the wording of your premise, "If we correctly assume that it is importan... (read in full...)

Why do guys like performing oral sex?

Q.   Hey Everyone, I'm 19 and a sophomore in college as well as my boyfriend. We have done everything we could think of besides sex which is something we are wanting to do very badly every we see each other. I seriously feel like everytime that f...

A.   4 August 2010: Wait anon... you're saying that you only like experienced men that have given oral enough times with enough women that they can go on autopilot and need no direction whatsoever. But the OP is 19 and likely interested in a man that hasn't been around ... (read in full...)

Why do guys ask for a number and then never call?

Q.   Why would a guy make it a point to get a girl's number and not call? I have been told if a man is interested he will call within a day of asking, but I really don't want to buy into the idea of rules and games when it comes to relationships and ...

A.   4 August 2010: Depends on the guy, depends on the girl, depends on the situation. Could be that he was interested, but too afraid to call. Could be that he wasn't interested, but being polite while getting out of a conversation. Could be that he's playing the game ... (read in full...)

Anal bleeding after anal mastrubation, please help?

Q.   I tried anal mastrubation a couple days ago and a day after I noticed blood. It was while I was using the bathroom and I am worried. I don't feel any pain or anything, I just notice the blood. It's not continuous, it's only when I try to use the ...

A.   4 August 2010: If it is a tear, be careful that it doesn't get infected. If you're worried, consult a doctor. It could be as simple as irritated dry skin or it could be more serious and there's simply no way to say for sure without an examination.... (read in full...)

Is romance dead?

Q.   Is romance dead? what happened to the days when guys would do their best to impress a girl? when a girl would follow the ten date rule before ending up in a bed with him? Everythings changing an its not for the good, now girls are having to as...

A.   4 August 2010: I don't know that that's fair! Men still lay on the romance when they can, but lately many women DO dislike gentlemen. Women seem to flock to the jerks and immediately put well behaved men so deeply in the Friend Zone that there's no hope for ... (read in full...)

Philosophical questions about sex and disabilities

Q.   This question may seem long and convoluted but there is an underlying unity I can absolutely assure you if you just take the time to read between the lines and try to see how things might look from my perspective. I hope you can see when a disag...

A.   4 August 2010: While I greatly appreciate the careful articulation of your thoughts, the sheer verbosity has obfuscated the specific question you’re asking, I’m afraid. So I’m going to reply to what I believe to be the three questions I see. Question 1 appears ... (read in full...)

Ever get jealous of people that get engaged or are married?

Q.   I see on facebook how people I know from the past are getting married or just recently engaged. I'm a 24 year old single dude, and I get down when I see this. I feel happy for them, but I get a little sad. I had this one relationship (I liked this ...

A.   4 August 2010: I know the feeling. The girl I had a massive crush on all throughout high school just got married a week ago and believe me, being single and yet congratulating her on Facebook was bittersweet. A little envy is normal. Just try to still be happy for ... (read in full...)

Why is it mainly women posting on here and not men?

Q.   Hello Aunts I have one general question on the forum. Why do only women post questions here ? why so less questions being raised here by Men?. what are the thoughts on this. I know it is complex question and not a single and easy answe...

A.   4 August 2010: I don't know if that's entirely fair. I've posted multiple questions myself, and have been going through enough problems lately to warrant a few more if I could find a way to phrase things. But remember that men are taught from early on not to cry, ... (read in full...)

Does this make me a homewrecker???

Q.   I met my bf in college and he seemed like a very nice guy. We started talking a lot and we really liked each other. He asked me to be his gf and i said yes. But soon after i got a call from this girl telling me that he was married and that he has a ...

A.   4 August 2010: So while he started dating you, he was still living with his wife. And even now, he's still not divorced yet. And he's been lying to you from the beginning and even when he comes clean, that's still a lie too. You can do better. Could you ever... (read in full...)

The perfect man...

Q.   If you were to build the perfect man, how big would you make his penis? Me? 7" and thick enough that my fingers don't touch when gripping it. Oh yeah. Circumcision is a must for anything going in MY mouth. What do you all think?...

A.   4 August 2010: Only about 5% of men are 7" or longer, and unless your hands are unusually small, you're asking for a similarly above-average circumference. Circumcision is still fairly common in many places (especially hear in the U.S. where I am), but in England ... (read in full...)

Why do some girls act this way?

Q.   this is more complaining than anything else..its an observation i have made..i have some friends with boyfriends who i would say are the type you would have really absolutely and positvely nothing to worry about..and the thought wouldn't even cross ...

A.   3 August 2010: They're trying to seem more cool, more trusting, more open, more relaxed than they really are deep inside because they know they can trust their guys enough not to actually cheat. You can joke about drugs as long as your guy isn't doing any. You can ... (read in full...)

Why do guys like performing oral sex?

Q.   Hey Everyone, I'm 19 and a sophomore in college as well as my boyfriend. We have done everything we could think of besides sex which is something we are wanting to do very badly every we see each other. I seriously feel like everytime that f...

A.   30 July 2010: Men love giving oral for lots of reasons. We love turning our women on. We love knowing we're making you feel great. We like the control it gives us (just as many women love the control of a blowjob or girl-on-top sex). We love the sounds you make, ... (read in full...)

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