Girlfriend's past haunts me every day
Q. Ok I love my girlfriend very much but her past haunts me everyday. I know of 6 of her past encounters. She has told me about all of them. One she had slept with the lead singer of a band. Another she told me recently that she had gotten so ...
A. 24 September 2009: I agree with CaringGuy. You saved yourself, which I not only respect, but have in common with you. But not everyone is the same with sex, and many girls DO treat it casually, or at least did in the past. What's important is this:
1: Is she hone... (read in full...)
After being away in the army so long she only wanted sex once and it's driving me mad!
Q. I recently returned from the army to my wife. In base there was not a female we could interact with and having no sex for so long drives one mad. Don't get me wrong even if I could interact I wouldn't cheat on her. On my first night here, we got b...
A. 24 September 2009: You went crazy with no sex while on base, but men like you and I want sex very deeply, it's important to us to feel loved and desired. But many women (most even), miss the emotional closeness much much more. You missed the sex, she missed you. She ... (read in full...)
Is he still married?????
Q. I found my boyfriend's pay stub yesterday and on it it says that his taxable marital status is:married. Does that mean he is still legally married? ...
A. 24 September 2009: He could be divorced but never got around to informing his company's accountants. But it's possible that he is still married. There's no way to know just from that.
Now, how he files his TAXES, that would be a better indicator. Personal... (read in full...)
How do I pursue this relationship further without seeming desperate?
Q. A new guy has just started working at my place and I have noticed I am interested in him. He is in my age group and he has been around me and chatting to me when ever possible at work. Our conversations are flirty and also he has filled me in on ...
A. 24 September 2009: I agree with GreekGeek. Ask him some time what his plans are for the night. If he's free, mention casually that you're free too, hey wanna go try this nice bar in the area? Or restaurant, or whatever place you think the two of you could go.
Perso... (read in full...)
Where does the cum go during sex?
Q. Okay im just curious and just a lil confused. When a girl has sex with the guy, withought a condom where does all the cumm go? does it stay in or does it come back out. And when girls clean their genatalia waht/how do they do it ive heard of...
A. 24 September 2009: I had an old friend that would put in a tampon after her boyfriend finished in her, so it could soak up a lot of the cum, but some girls wash out with water and soap, or leave it in for a while, or even let it drip out while imitating a porn star. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is very sexual when it comes to masturbation, but when it comes to me she wont let me get involved!
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged together] Sexually my girlfriend and i are having considerable problems due to lack of experience on both our parts and she also has vaginismus (which she is currently seeking ...
A. 24 September 2009: It's perfectly normal for a girl in her 20s to masturbate, just as it's perfectly normal for a guy to. I don't know how often you do, but I assume she wouldn't be upset to find out that you take care of yourself while waiting for her. Maybe you ... (read in full...)
How do I give good phone sex?
Q. My boyfriend wants to have phone sex with me. I would love to try it but an not sure what to do to make it enjoyable for him. I know to moan and breathe heavy and that kind of stuff, but what else do guys like. What are some things I can say to him ...
A. 24 September 2009: Anonymous has a good point. (The swearing would depend on how you and your guy talk, but I mean the other point.) Feel free to masturbate yourself while you talk if you can effectively talk while you do. Your breathing and moaning will be all the ... (read in full...)
How do I give good phone sex?
Q. My boyfriend wants to have phone sex with me. I would love to try it but an not sure what to do to make it enjoyable for him. I know to moan and breathe heavy and that kind of stuff, but what else do guys like. What are some things I can say to him ...
A. 24 September 2009: Just tell him, in graphic detail, what you would like to do to him if he were there with you. Basically narrate your perfect sexual encounter with him. Your moaning and breathing can be used as a little emphasis on some points.
If you mention ... (read in full...)
Helppppp!!!! Could I possibly be pregnant?
Q. dear cupid, I've been on the pill fot 3 months now and I'm on my 7 day break from it, but I have yet to get my peroid. I'm starting again on Thursday and I am starting to worry. I have not had sex in over two months but on Saturday, two da...
A. 22 September 2009: Yes, it's possible. The little swimmers can move from outside to inside, even if he doesn't ejaculate or penetrate. His pre-cum will contain some sperm, and if it gets on your near your opening, it could get all the way inside, though the odds ... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't make an effort during sex, what to do so I can enjoy sex?
Q. Why my boyfriend like me on top during our sex? He is lacking of effort as to do some preliminaries not just jump into fucking. He does not want to kiss me all over my body specially my neck and back. I mean, he just touches my ears, neck, and run ...
A. 22 September 2009: You suck him, but he doesn't eat you? That's not fair. You ride him cowgirl, but he won't ride you missionary or doggy? That's not fair. You keep going until he climaxes, but he doesn't make sure you climax? That's not fair.
If he loves you, he ... (read in full...)
Any other ways to get a sensation like this?
Q. I am 14 years old, and i am DEFF not known as a "bad girl" and no one would guess that i touch myself in ways! sometimes when I am alone, i will take offf my close and finger myself. is there any other way I can get a good sensation like that?...
A. 22 September 2009: That's entirely normal. Feel free to explore your body with your fingers, or vibrators, or even detachable shower heads (as an ex of mine said she liked). Just be aware that if you're using a dildo or vibrator internally, you can very easily break ... (read in full...)
How do I build a wall between me and this colleague...?
Q. I had sex with my colleague, whom I have fancied for a long time, (I never hinted that I liked him though), he has been having fantasies about me as well. So, we did it but spoke first that there won't be feelings involved, as he has a girlfriend ...
A. 22 September 2009: That's the problem with sex. It's an intimate and deeply personal thing. You had casual sex with a man you already had some feelings for, and it cemented those feelings for you. You betrayed the trust of your BF and yet want to stay with him.
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Is his motive just for a booty call or something else?
Q. Since I broke up with my ex 4 months ago, we have been communicating every now and then. But our talk wasn't usually good, there was this blaming and starting a fight on my side. He tried to ignore me but somehow, he would communicate back in a ...
A. 22 September 2009: Sounds to me like he's not entirely over you either and is trying to figure things out. Late at night, many men (myself included) get more sentimental or lonely, and he might have missed you and wanted to see you more at 3:00am than he lets himself ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity last night but he was huge and the pain was unbearable!
Q. I am 24 and just lost my virginity last night. Almost all my friend lost their virginity during teenage, so I told my bf that I have had sex with few person before but when I saw his penis size, I almost fainted, he is about 9" and very very thick ...
A. 22 September 2009: 1) Yes, 9" is abnormally large for a man if he's measuring it right (along the top, without pressing into his hips, while standing). The average length is 5.5" to 6.5", and the average circumference is about 4.5" to 5.0" around. At 9" long, he would ... (read in full...)
Is it right to have sex before marriage or is it better to wait?
Q. Is it good Sex before Marriage? We have seen many questions from teens who loss their virginity in teen age and some boys and girls wait for his/her life partner and enjoy the virginity loss with his/her life partner. So, is it right to have sex ...
A. 22 September 2009: The problem with premarital sex (I'm Christian, so understand my bias in favor of waiting, but know I've succumbed to temptation and gone to third base multiple times) is that it hurts you, or at least has the potential to. Every time you are sex... (read in full...)
I would love to have a boyfriend and have sex...
Q. I'm 24 and I still live at home with my parents and brother. I've not had a boyfriend since I was at school and I am still a virgin. I'm very shy and don't go out much. I would like to have a boyfriend and have sex. What should I do?...
A. 22 September 2009: All I can do is sympathize with you. I'm a 25 year old male virgin who has a job, friends (mostly male, or female but married), and try to get out when I can, but have trouble meeting many new people because I'm not into the whole club-scene and ... (read in full...)
Lost my sex drive for years and now its come back really strong!
Q. I am 23 yrs old, female. About 2 years ago I went on antidepressants, but I only stayed on them for about 6 months, I stopped because it was causing lots of strange side effects, the worst being constant shaking. Anyway I noticed once I went off ...
A. 22 September 2009: Many drugs, among them antidepressants and birth control, are notorious for loss of libido. I haven't often heard of it going away for so long after going off the medication, but it does happen, and in some cases the lost sex drive never comes back ... (read in full...)
I'm looking for some clarification when it comes to dating...can anyone help?
Q. I've been out of touch with the dating world for years now. Now I'm completely over my ex and getting out there dating guys, but I'm not quite sure what the usual expectations are when dating. I'd love some clarification on any or all of these ...
A. 22 September 2009: 1. If you two are in a monogamous relationship where you're not going to be seeing anyone else (or at least, not as more than friends), then you're boy/girlfriend even if it's just started today. I suppose it's whenever you agree that you're "a ... (read in full...)
Do his comments reflect what he'll think if he sees me naked?
Q. This is going to sound really silly but here goes. I've been seeing this guy for a few months now and the other day we were bumming around watching tv when a song clip of Rhihanna came on. He made some comment about her having really fat thighs. ...
A. 21 September 2009: It's entirely different when we see women on TV than it is when we see girlfriends. Celebrity women exist to be judged by appearance, even singers only get the job because they look good in short shorts and are willing to dance around. If he judges ... (read in full...)
Can good looking women make men insecure?
Q. Everyone tells me that i am a very beautiful women and i have a good personality. I was in an abusive relationship for many years, but finally got out. My ex even used to worry about other men looking at me whilst we were out shopping! I am not a ...
A. 21 September 2009: I've always been intimidated by attractive women, but that's only a result of some low self+esteem and having had some messy breakups before. Men usually want attractive women, but know that a good looking girl can much more easily replace her man ... (read in full...)
What are your opinions on sex before marriage?
Q. Hey all. I don't believe in sex before marriage, or so I think. I'm 17 and never really been in a relationship with anyone so it isn't something that's really bothering me. I've been brought up as a Christian and I agree with no sex before marriage...
A. 21 September 2009: The problem with premarital sex (even besides the religious aspect, and as a Christian I share your view) is that it hurts you, or at least has the potential to.
Every time you are sexual with someone, you're giving part of your heart to that per... (read in full...)
Oral... should I or shouldn't I?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to perform oral sex on him but I always refuse. I can tell he really wants me to and we have already had sex. Should I do it or not?...
A. 21 September 2009: Coming from a man whose two previous girlfriends refused, I can say it hurts to be denied. NO, you do NOT have to give him oral. And YES, even if you do, he'd better be EARNING it (I hope he's giving you oral too). But I gave both previous ... (read in full...)
What is the male equivalent of a feminist?
Q. What is the male equivalent of a feminist? I know officially it is about women having equal rights to men which of course is correct but i think in todays society it is thought of (and a lot of people that call themselves feminists think of it as) b...
A. 21 September 2009: Not sure. It doesn't seem to be acceptable in today's world for men to even have a word for that. Either you believe women are superior in every way, or you're a brute. Women get to call the shots in a relationship, then if they leave get to take ... (read in full...)
I'm depressed being a woman and being stuck with my sex organs...
Q. Lately I've been feeling incredibly depressed about being a woman. My boyfriend is amazing and is always doing everything he can to make sure I'm completely satisfied in bed. I like sex a lot and have it frequently and almost always finish. Yet all ...
A. 21 September 2009: Wanna trade? I'm not thrilled to be a man. My ex got an average of at least 5 orgasms whenever we were together, sometimes as many as 10 or more. I could give her oral and go for an hour straight on her, leaving her with 8-12 on good days (up to 15 ... (read in full...)
She can only orgasm through the shower
Q. My girlfriend can only orgasm using the shower, she's unable to make herself orgasm either through masturbation and while oral sex brings her to the edge it never goes all the way through. She enjoys sex but gets frustrated by it all. Any ideas...
A. 17 September 2009: Try to switch up your oral technique, insist that she guide you on what works best, and don't be afraid to use fingers WHILE using your lips. Aim for that clit with your tongue, and take your time.
I don't want to get too explicit, but I would su... (read in full...)
How long does a guy usually last when you go down on them?
Q. So my BF and I have reached 3rd base. (hands onley so far) His b-day is coming up soon, and I think I'd like to try going down on him... All I'm wondering, is how long does a guy usually last? I'm not worried about the whole coming in mouth thing, ...
A. 17 September 2009: Not long, but the time will vary based on how much you are enjoying it. I've taken 15+ minutes when my ex was doing it just as a sacrifice for me and I knew it, as she put no effort into it and made me feel guilty for even wanting it (even though I ... (read in full...)
Should I stay for the sake of our child and lose my sanity or go?
Q. I'm married to an older man who I don't love, and probably never have. He kept throwing perks in my face and I took the bait. Now eight years later and a three year old I find myself depressed and wanting out. I sometimes feel like I'de rather be ...
A. 17 September 2009: Honestly, if you stay JUST for the child, you're not helping the child as much as you think. You'd be raising the kid in a whole family instead of growing up knowing that Mom and Dad broke up, but the kid will forever have trouble understanding how ... (read in full...)
Why most Women are attracted to Bad Men
Q. Every woman on the planet that has ever been involved with a man that was not worthy of her has asked of herself these questions..."Why can't I find a decent guy, Why do I always meet the wrong men and When will I find a man who really loves me?" ...
A. 17 September 2009: Oddly, I've seen a backwards form of this in my last relationship. I was engaged to my ex after three years together, and noticed that she was becoming more and more like her mother, and was pushing me to be more and more like her father. When we ... (read in full...)
Staying at his place for the first time....
Q. Ok so my boyfriend has asked me to stay over at his, because he works late and likes to have a drink, but doesnt want to have to drive me home. Im very excited, but also a little worried. I dont know if hes expecting sex (but he wont be getting it!) ...
A. 17 September 2009: "Im just worried about how I look in the morning!"
Speaking as a male, and sharing the opinion of several male friends: Girls look AMAZING in the morning. That crazy unbrushed hair, total lack of makeup, but naturally glowing skin in the morning.... (read in full...)
Why is my gay best friend so possesive over me?
Q. I have a male gay best friend. We have known each other for 6 years now but over the past 2 years or so he has become really jealous of my relationships with straight men and is very possessive over me! I have no doubt that he is gay and have nev...
A. 16 September 2009: Just like a straight man, utterly sure he's 100% into women, can have some lingering feelings for other men that he won't admit to himself... the same can happen in reverse. He might not be 100% gay. There could be some small, subconscious ... (read in full...)
Staying at his place for the first time....
Q. Ok so my boyfriend has asked me to stay over at his, because he works late and likes to have a drink, but doesnt want to have to drive me home. Im very excited, but also a little worried. I dont know if hes expecting sex (but he wont be getting it!) ...
A. 16 September 2009: I just want to say, I'm so happy to hear that you're not planning to give him sex so easily!... (read in full...)
What are the laws on underage sex in Maine, USA?
Q. I recently posted a question about me having sex for the first time the weekend after this upcoming weekend. Im 14 and my girlfriend is 13 and she lost her virginity last year. I posted this question on a few other sites like this one but most of ...
A. 16 September 2009: In some states, it's actually considered statutory rape to have sex with a minor, even if you're one too. There are people that are on Sex Offender lists for life because they had sex as young teenagers... consensual mutual sex inside of dating. Now ... (read in full...)
How soon into a relationship should I reveal I'm a virgin?
Q. Hi cupid people, I know another 40 year old virginity rant but ah well - tis unique cos its all about me this time :) Basically I am a 24 (and 3 quarters) year old virgin although I'm not terrible looking and I have had ex's who have offered to ...
A. 16 September 2009: I'm 25 (and I half, I guess), male, and a virgin. I HAVE done oral in both directions (though 90% in favor of recent girlfriend, probably less than 10% for me). But I have never penetrated, and have held that back for marriage, and am still holding ... (read in full...)
In a black hole of emotional distress
Q. Theres this girl that i hang out with and shes 18. We spend a ton of time together and ive fallen in love. But im 16 and that could be a problem. Also just recently she got a Bf they were kissing the very first day. That night i told her how i ...
A. 15 September 2009: All I can say is that God knows who will make you happiest in the long run, not just today. He knows that maybe this girl would make you happy for now, maybe even for a while, but that ultimately you would be hurt. She could divorce you, or leave ... (read in full...)
After one month apart she got a new boyfriend but I still want to marry her!
Q. Me and my ex have been together for 5 years and after a month apart she got a new boyfriend. I had planned to marry her before we broke up and still I want to marry her. What should I do?...
A. 15 September 2009: Ouch. That hits close to home. I was engaged to a girl, we had spent 3 years together, we even had the wedding half planned and the date set, but then she dumped me three weeks ago without a reason except that she "loved" me but is no longer "in ... (read in full...)
Woman like bad boys??
Q. Hi. I was wondering about all the myths out there about women love a "bad boy" or a "jerk." Can this possibly be true over someone who is down to earth and nice instead of cocky and rude?...
A. 15 September 2009: That's been my experience in general, yes. Most girls our age (18-25 or so) are surprisingly immature and will go for interesting men over supportive men. Guess which movies are more interesting, action/mysteries or slow artsy films. The jerks are ... (read in full...)
M I being melodramatic over him not getting me a b-day gift?
Q. I'm still hurting over something my boyfriend did a few months back, even though i know it will sound trivial. Here goes: on the lead up to my birthday, he said he really wanted to get me something nice, pretty much bombarded me all week for hints ...
A. 15 September 2009: No, that was a pretty jerky thing to do. Even if it's a small thing, he needed to get you something. Particularly after teasing and building you up like that.... (read in full...)
Is this normal when rimming?
Q. hey guys =] recently me and my fella starting messing around rimming each other, using flavoured lubes n licking 'em off. But everytime im going to go do it to him, he'll run off to the loo and return a few mins later (im pretty sure hes havi...
A. 14 September 2009: I've rimmed my ex several times, and always felt fine afterwards. She never ran off to the bathroom before or after, but she was always immaculately clean, even pink. There was always a slight taste, as I assume is normal, but it's possible that in ... (read in full...)
Should I call him to confirm the date or should I wait for his call?
Q. I had a very nice date last Friday with a man I met online. He bought my dinner, so I texted him the next day (Saturday) to say thank you and that I had a great time. In his text reply, he said we should get together again soon and after ...
A. 14 September 2009: Call him up casually, start by saying you're sorry for having to go like that but it was just so late at night, then say that you're still interested in seeing him Saturday... where and when? It you don't sound like you're worried or anxious, just... (read in full...)
Was he just keeping me warm, or does he like me?
Q. had a sleepover at my friend's house (lots of girls + guys sleeping in a big tent in her garden) her twin bro was there im good friends with him but nothing more but i was sleeping next to him + was shivering and he was SO nice like got me loads of ...
A. 14 September 2009: Cuddling and putting his hand on your lower back, then sleeping while holding you?
My vote is yes. He most likely likes you at least somewhat.... (read in full...)
Could I still get pregnant?
Q. Today me and my boyfriend was in bed, we didnt have full intercourse but he put his penis inside me with no condom but didnt ejaculate or move it about, could i still get pregnant?...
A. 14 September 2009: While the odds are much much lower than if he finished inside you, yes, it's possible. Some sperm are in precum, and that will dribble out even without much motion.... (read in full...)
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