I am not sexually compatible with my husband. How can I get him to stop being such a prude?
Q. (Mod Note - OP's own title) I can't say how glad I am to have found this site. I am a 28yo mother of three boys. I have always been very sexual. I can remember masturbating as early as 5 or 6. My first sexual incounter was with the little girl...
A. 10 February 2010: I'm with Emilysanswers here. There's going to have to be some moderator involved in this and some compromise. He wants it once a fortnight and you want it every day, so it's going to never be as much as you want if he's going to be having it more ... (read in full...)
How do I know what his sexual fantasies are, and do I tell him mine?
Q. Im 23 and my partner is 26 we have been together for 3yrs and are both madly in love but our sex life needs a bit of sparking up but how do i know what he is into, what his fantasies are and how do i let him know what mine are with out bluntly ...
A. 8 February 2010: Ask him. If you try to be subtle or drop hints, he isn't likely to tell you anything that he has kept secret this long. If you want to share fantasies, start by opening up to him about yours, then ask him to share his. Reassure him that you won't be ... (read in full...)
He tells me I am hot so why aren't his friends all over me?
Q. Heeey ! 3 kso i love thiis websiite ! alright , well i was seiing thiis one guy once and he is prettyy much one of the more popular kiids , and were not seiing each other anymore , but were stiil really good friiends , and idk but i thiink he stii...
A. 8 February 2010: Off the top of my head, I can think of several reasons. Either they're just interested in being friends (women aren't the only ones that put people in the Friend Zone), or maybe they think you wouldn't be interested in them so they don't want to ... (read in full...)
Is sex under 15 a good idea?
Q. Hi there, I have been wondering if sex is a good idea under 15. I have been really curious after a sex ed lesson earlier this week and as such am fairly confused on what to do! My boyfriend is lovely, as always, but I can tell just by looking ...
A. 4 February 2010: As a rule, no. It sounds nice, but you'd regret it later... And that's assuming it doesn't leave you with a reputation for being easy, in which case you'd regret it now. For now, enjoy being a teen, date casually, kiss some, but stop there. You'll ... (read in full...)
I always thought Valentines day was about the guy treating the girl. Now my boyfriend thinks I don't care.
Q. This Might Sound Bad But I had No Idea That I was Supposed to Buy Something for My Boyfriend For Valentines Day. We're Going on 4 years Now and Every Year he always Does something Extreme For me and I Love it! Though I have Never Bought Him Anything ...
A. 4 February 2010: Heck yes it's a day for couples to be romantic for each other, both ways. The boyfriend usually picks his girl up, pays for fancy dinner, brings flowers or chocolate, etc. But the girlfriend is expected to be romantic too and not just by dressing up ... (read in full...)
What happens with "the friend zone"?
Q. um well this is not a question as such but is the "friend zone" a load of rubbish. I mean can any relationship last if it didnt start out with friends. and usually being friends gives a better understanding of some meaning you can form stronger ...
A. 4 February 2010: I agree that it's best to start as friends before jumping into a relationship so you can form a mental and emotional connection before you throw sex into the mix. But "Friend Zone" generally refrs to when someone likes a friend that has no ... (read in full...)
I like recieving but feel uncomfortable giving. Is this weird?
Q. I let my boyfriend go down on me and touch my boobs bt i dont feel comfortable touching his penis is this weird ?...
A. 2 February 2010: You may wish to read this other question from a male poster who provides oral to his girlfriend but gets nothing in return:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-partner-of-4-years-will-insert-a.html... (read in full...)
What little things do girls do that you love?
Q. okay, i know i'm young, yeahyeah. blahblah 'dont have sex,' blah! thats not what i want to hear, what i want to know is little things that you love that a girl does. and i dont just mean during sex, but other times too, like to be romantic or ...
A. 2 February 2010: I love to be, as previous girlfriends have called me, a "teddy bear". I love being that trusted, safe, loved man. When a girl rests her head on my chest while were sitting on the couch watching a movie, maybe even falls asleep like that, I feel ... (read in full...)
I like recieving but feel uncomfortable giving. Is this weird?
Q. I let my boyfriend go down on me and touch my boobs bt i dont feel comfortable touching his penis is this weird ?...
A. 1 February 2010: You're far from unique in that. In fact, my ex was the same way. Sadly, while it's not weird at all, it IS hurtful. You like him to give you pleasure, but don't want to give him any back. That's selfish. I know you're uncomfortable, but you ought to ... (read in full...)
Below the belt questions... do I look right down there?
Q. Hey, im 14 years old. And i dont think i look right down there. But my boyfriend says i look great.? Should i beleve him? Do you have to shave before sex? Also could you please tell me how to give oral sex? Thanks heaps :) xx...
A. 23 January 2010: Every woman looks different down there, sometimes very different. That's normal and it's going to be up to your partner whether he likes it. No doubt some will love it and some won't. If he says he likes how you looks, trust him.
As for shaving,... (read in full...)
Is 1 hour a big enough distance for a relationship not to work?
Q. Is 1 hour a big enough distance for a relationship not to work. I've hung out with this girl who i like a lot and shes told me that she likes me a lot, thinks im cute but she's busy and lives 1 hour away and thinks that it would be too hard to d...
A. 21 January 2010: I made a relationship work with a 40 minute drive each way and I still saw her several days a week. But then again, I didn't really mind driving and had nothing better to do after work. It's going to be up to you guys if it would fit your schedule.... (read in full...)
I'm a lesbian with a boyfriend
Q. Ok. This is quite messy and odd for me. But about 4 months ago, my best friend's bf came home from college and he and his best friend came over to my best friend's house. The four of us drank and had a good time...and by the end of the night, I ...
A. 12 January 2010: I don't think you're actually lesbian, or you wouldn't be saying "the sex isn't bad at all" in reference to a man. You can be bisexual and lean more towards women than men, and there's no shame in being bisexual as opposed to fully lesbian. In fact, ... (read in full...)
Not sex just helping each others urges...
Q. ok so I might get together with my girl later and I want some tricks on how to please her with my finger and mouth. we aren't having sex we are just helping each others urges. btw I am 18...
A. 8 January 2010: I hate to say it, but if you're using your mouth and fingers to help a girl relieve her urges, then that is still oral sex. Some people say third base is different than full blown sex, but as Bill Clinton made pretty clear a decade ago: sex is sex. ... (read in full...)
This woman will do things my wife will not do
Q. I am currently married 10+ years. Was married nearly 10 previous. Have posted an ad for a descrete sexual relationship and found my potential match. She is willing to do things with me my wife will not. She wants me to do things that my wife would ...
A. 6 January 2010: Listen to Ginalolabridga, she knows what she's talking about. You say you want one day of sex to get it out of your system, but that one day's pleasure will cause a lifetime of pain and guilt. It's NOT worth it.... (read in full...)
Why after an orgasm do men leave women hanging?
Q. Hi. Ok I have a question I no a lot of women would liked answered. Why is when a guy has a orgasm first its over they get up and go on with there day. They just leave the girl hangen they don't even try to finish what they started. Guys what if your ...
A. 6 January 2010: Funny, it was always the other way with me. I make it a point to ensure any woman I'm with climaxes at least once whenever we're together, but I've yet to find a woman that cares if I do. I guess we're both just dating the wrong sorts of people.... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I DON'T love his habits...
Q. I've been with my current boyfriend for over a year now. Previously, I dated someone for four years, who would technically be the perfect catch. My ex-boyfriend was motivated, had at least two jobs while attending a huge medical university, and has ...
A. 4 January 2010: I hate to give this advice, but people don't often change much. And you sure as heck can't change a person against his will or without his own serious effort.
If he's the type that gets lots of tickets, fails classes repeatedly, embarras... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend touch me?
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 18. I've been with him for 6 months, and I'm completely in love with him. He's my first "real" relationship, as in the first that didn't revolve around sex. He cooks for me all the time, he keeps me entertained every ...
A. 4 January 2010: My thoughts:
- He could be a little confused about his sexuality. Possibly he wants men, or doesn't know what he wants.
- He could be timid. It's possible that however much he wants you, he's afraid of doing something wrong and offending you.
- ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to take this opportunity?
Q. To all the aunts and maybe some uncles, I would appreciate any input. I have an absolutely wonderful boyfriend whom I have been together with for almost 4 years. We have been through everything, and stand by each other through everything. I lo...
A. 4 January 2010: I urge extreme caution here. EXTREME caution. Even if he SAYS he's ok with it, even if he BELIEVES he's ok with it, he may not be when it actually happens. He might not even understand how he's feeling then, but could just start lashing out or being ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is cheating with a "cougar" and now has an emotional attachment to her. Should I move on?
Q. So I have been with my bf for 16 years. We have 2 teenagers together and pretty much live as if we are married, just no papers. Recently this past summer, he was out of town and met some 61 year old "cougar" in a bar. My bf is 41, so I can't really ...
A. 4 January 2010: I agree with Angzw that you should call her. I also agree with you that this is wildly inappropriate and he SHOULD cut all ties with this woman.
Ordinarily, a man CAN be friends with a woman without it being out of bounds. A married man can have... (read in full...)
Best male friend with feelings? My boyfriend is not happy!
Q. I hope this doesn't sound too silly and immature. But sometimes, people just don't know what to make of a situation or how to put a question into intelligible and/or coherent words and thoughts... My best friend (whom is a man) and I have been ...
A. 4 January 2010: Ouch... tough one, truly. But you have to make a choice. If you intend to stay with your boyfriend, then he's right that your best friend IS too close. You're spending significant time alone with this other man that's CLEARLY infatuated with you ... (read in full...)
This woman is trying to break us up for her daughter... what do I do?
Q. To be very honest, I am very happy with my relationship. Before ever saying yes to my boyfriend, we were best friends and accepting to take our friendship to a new level has opened me up to so many new, wonderful experiences. So what's the ...
A. 4 January 2010: Honestly... it doesn't seem that this church is bringing EITHER of you closer to God. If he wants to hear the word of God, there are likely multiple churches in the area he could go to. Right now, you're not going at all and he's hearing more about ... (read in full...)
Dating a 15 year old girl at 24, for some reason, her mother in not keen...
Q. Im 24 and ive been dating my gf for awhile now, she is only 15 and i love her more than anyone ive ever been with including my ex fiancee and she tells me shes in love with me to. Is it foolish to think this truly is love that she could be my ...
A. 4 January 2010: That's a pretty big age difference at that age. It's also an illegal age. Regardless of what state you're in, I don't believe there's one in the union where you couldn't be thrown in jail for sleeping with a 15 year old when you're 24. If her mother ... (read in full...)
Do guys really have so many erections in a day?
Q. Your possibly gonna laugh when you read this but i;ve always been curious and i'd rather make myself look stupid on here than in public lol! but is it true that guys really get loads of erections a day some say 5 some say 10 some say more or is i...
A. 4 January 2010: Depends on the guy and depends on his age and just depends on the day. Sometimes, sure, a guy can get five or ten in a day, but other days he could go an entire day without any at all.
It's not painful at all, even if it lasts a little while be... (read in full...)
Do men prefer fake over real breasts?
Q. Are fake breasts better than natural, small ones? I mean, I know this has been asked before. But it seems like they are. I've asked many guys and they say "Hey, if it improves her beauty, then it's all good!". And I read this article: http://...
A. 19 December 2009: I fell in love with and proposed to a girl with A cups. She was, and indeed is, a beautiful woman. Hey come to think of it, I've never dated anyone larger than B cups. I never found large breasts attractive... at all.... (read in full...)
Do girls go on top or on bottom?
Q. I have a question, during sex is the female normally on top? i no its more of a choice thing but generally are girls expected to go ontop??...
A. 17 December 2009: Missionary - man on top
Doggy - man behind woman
Cowgirl - woman on top
Standing - face to face
Shall I go on?
I'd say it's pretty normal to expect a woman to be on top SOME OF THE TIME at least, but to say she's expected to do ALL the w... (read in full...)
My boyrfriend is treating me to a vacation in Firenze after which I'll be on vacation for 3 weeks with another man.
Q. [Moderator note: Please do not post identifying information about yourself] My boyfriend will bring me for a 10 days holiday in Firenze and he will pay everything for me. But at the end of the holiday I will tell him that I booked a flight for a 3 ...
A. 16 December 2009: Heck yes, he'll feel used! You're planning to let him pay for a vacation (and everything) for you, then you're going to dump him for another man? If you're going to leave him, do it BEFORE he spends that much on you! "Feels" like you'd be using him. ... (read in full...)
My boyrfriend is treating me to a vacation in Firenze after which I'll be on vacation for 3 weeks with another man.
Q. [Moderator note: Please do not post identifying information about yourself] My boyfriend will bring me for a 10 days holiday in Firenze and he will pay everything for me. But at the end of the holiday I will tell him that I booked a flight for a 3 ...
A. 16 December 2009: Heck yes, he'll feel used! You're planning to let him pay for a vacation (and everything) for you, then you're going to dump him for another man? If you're going to leave him, do it BEFORE he spends that much on you! "Feels" like you'd be using him. ... (read in full...)
I have a really nice guy for a boyfriend but am attracted to a player
Q. I'm completely confused. For months now, I've been going back and forth between these two guys. I've been available for both of them, but now that it has come down to it, I'm lost. The first guy, I've been with for 11 months today. But I hav...
A. 15 December 2009: Please gently break it off with the nice guy. You like him, but you don't love him, not really. And you're not respecting him or his feelings if you continue to cheat on him like this. As much as you WANT to love him, your unshakable attraction for ... (read in full...)
I get a sinking feeling when I realise it will never happen again
Q. My husband is circumsized, and lately I've found myself CRAVING sex with an uncircumcised man. I've been with both cut and uncut men before, and hands-down I've found sex with uncut men to be more pleasurable. My husband knows that I've been with ...
A. 14 December 2009: Honestly, I'm with Tisha on this one. I'm a cut man and always figured uncut is better, but don't know how MUCH better or how it's too different.... (read in full...)
My friend has my jacket, she said she didn't, but then she wore it, what should I do?
Q. Why did she wear it? So my ex best friend has my jacket and I asked for it back a long time ago (we haven't been friends for 7 months on the 13th) and she said that she didn't have it, but she wore it to school today and for the past two weeks sh...
A. 14 December 2009: It's possible that she didn't know she had the jacket until she recently found it in her house, possibly being in a closet since Spring. You say you haven't been friends in a long while, so maybe she feels it's easier to just keep the jacket then ... (read in full...)
I'v been faking orgasms, and I want a real one!
Q. Dont know if something is wrong with me or what. but my boyfriend and i have been intimate for 2years and he is my first and i have not yet had any O's wit him. i be faking it and i really want to have one so any suggestions on what i should do??...
A. 14 December 2009: Sadly, that's what happens when you fake. You're lying to him and cheating yourself. At this point, it's really going to hurt him to know you've been faking for two years, but he thinks what he's been doing has been working for you. He has to break ... (read in full...)
Am I a lesbian? Will I ever fall in love again?
Q. So I haven't had feelings for a guy since last year. I went out with this guy and he gave me goose bumps, he made me smile and laugh. But he cheated on me, then he dumped me by getting my two friends to call me up. Three days later he had a new ...
A. 14 December 2009: I think you just haven't moved on from the guy that hurt you. There's no guarantee in life that you'll find guys that you're really attracted to every year. You haven't found a guy you like since the one that dumped you, but that doesn't mean your ... (read in full...)
Please help me understand boys!
Q. hi i need help understanding boys. how they flirt, what they enjoy talking about, what they find funny, are they really as laid back as they seem. any thing really cos i am clueless. so if any guys or gals here have any info on how boys tick please...
A. 14 December 2009: That's going to vary SO much, humor in particular. Some men love fart jokes, some are fans of quick wit, some like sophisticated jokes, some prefer slapstick, some even love puns. Some flirt very straightforwardly, some are bashful and barely hint ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to tease my female best friend when I only like her as a friend?
Q. hello everyone, just a simple question, is it wrong to tease a female bestfriend? like hugging too much, acting romantic toward her a lot, being overly nice to her, holding her hand. i only want to be friends and only like her as a friend though...
A. 14 December 2009: We all tease one another in some way. Friends pick on each other, that's fine and normal. But sometimes, innocent teasing CAN cause hurt feelings and can break apart friendships pretty swiftly.
So sure, hug her, hold her hands, etc, but make SUR... (read in full...)
Help!!! Falling out of love...
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 5 years. I am in love with him. The thing is, i dont want to love him any more. I tried to break up with him numerous times but it doesnt work. How do you fall out of love?...
A. 13 December 2009: You've been in a relationship for this long, and you're still in love with him and are still with him. Why do you want to break up? What's wrong? I'm afraid I don't see the problem?
Is he abusive? Drug addicted? Does he cheat? Is he using you? You... (read in full...)
He gets really quiet when I ask him why he doesn't like sex!?
Q. My boyfriend and I (24, 23) have been together for around 3 months. He tells me he is crazy about me and it shows with how he treats me. Really loving, really gentle and affectionate and cute and sweet all at the same time. We spend a lot of time ...
A. 13 December 2009: It could just be that he has a very low drive. Not all men are horndogs, just like not all women are frigid.
But barring that, he could be worried about something, whether work stress, or money, or even a relationship issue that's holding him up. ... (read in full...)
Pills to prevent pregnancy?
Q. What are the names of the pills used in avoiding pregnancy...
A. 13 December 2009: I know my ex tried OTC (Ortho Tri-Cyclen, though there's also Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo) and it messed her up pretty badly when she didn't stick to the schedule properly. So make sure that whatever you use, your doctor has approved it for you and you do ... (read in full...)
Your average sized guy...
Q. How are us average sized guys meant to reconcile the fact that the average sized girl can take more than 50% volume of dick that we have? Our goal is to give maximum sexual pleasure, and in almost all cases, bigger is better (up to a point) (don...
A. 13 December 2009: I'm a straight guy, and a virgin at that, so I can't say anything from experience except that third-base I've done, but it seems to me this is like the old saying "Fat girls give the best head." A man with a large penis won't think he has to work at ... (read in full...)
Why are some guys only interested in sex, I am losing faith in love
Q. why do some guys.. make you think HE REALLY LIKES YOU..but he just wants sex... when you DO GIVE in he never calls you again.. and if u DON'T GIVE in he doesn't call and changes his number?? why are all they looking for one night stands?? ...
A. 12 December 2009: For what it's worth, I'm a straight male, age 25, who's a virgin and even turned down my ex for sex (before she slept with a mutual friend of ours instead and left me for him). So there are women out there that can't keep their pants on, and there ... (read in full...)
Married sex issues! He says I take too long to orgasm.
Q. I've been married for two years been with him total 10.5 yrs. I enjoy giving oral...he does not..he says I take too long...and has "sighed" in the middle of it once. I seem to only get oral when he's been away with work...like it's a welcome home ...
A. 11 December 2009: I've been of the mindset that if he isn't willing to put in the time and effort to get you off, then he doesn't get any more favors from you.
But then again, I gave and gave to my ex without getting anything in return, so I guess I can't really t... (read in full...)
Will he be turned off when he sees me naked?
Q. im scared to let my boyfriend see me without my shit or pants off because im self conscience about my body and the fact that i have "smaller breasts" he went from being with a skinny chick with a D cup to me which im not fat im athletic with a okay ...
A. 11 December 2009: As a guy that prefers smaller breasts over larger, I can vouch that bigger is not always better. So you don't look like his ex... he's not WITH his ex anymore, probably for a reason.
Men like women's bodies, period. If you're even passably... (read in full...)
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