Should I talk all the time on stay quite during a movie date?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are going to the movies in a couple of weeks. We have been dating for two months and this is our first actual date. Iv been out to dates at resturaunts and iv met my ex s parents but iv never been to the movies on a date. am i ...
A. 17 January 2011: Ideally, you shouldn't talk during a movie because it's rude to all the other people in the theater. If you like, you can whisper very softly into his ear, but generally it's better to keep mostly quiet during the movie then talk about it afterward. ... (read in full...)
Should I kiss my boyfriend?
Q. i am in love with my boyfriend, i just need some tips on what to wear, how to kiss. your answer will be appreciated...
A. 17 January 2011: Dress however will make you comfortable. Don't put on high heels unless you like them. Don't obsess about dresses or skirts unless you like wearing them. Be happy with yourself and love yourself. If he doesn't like you, or tries to change you, then ... (read in full...)
I dislike most people is that bad?
Q. I'm 22 years old, male, living in Canada and I can honestly say I dislike most people. I'm not necessarily one of those anti-social, "I hate the human race"-types, but most people I know/meet that are around my age, I can't stand that much. To m...
A. 14 January 2011: Welcome to your early 20's. Most people DON'T have common sense and just about everyone needs to mature in some manner (including both me and you). Just find a small group of friends that are immature in ways compatible with yours and live and let ... (read in full...)
Should my girlfriend and I transfer colleges?
Q. My girlfriend and I are both 19 and have been dating for 2 years. We both just completed our first semester of college. The problem is, we made a decision to go to separate colleges back when our relationship was still new. But we know now that we ...
A. 14 January 2011: The thing is, whenever people move to be closer to a loved one, all that stress of moving, meeting new people, learning a new area, etc builds up and you will end up resenting the lover you did all this for. Many relationships survive that, but many ... (read in full...)
He's asking me what I want in the bedroom and I don't know what to say!
Q. -I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. -We are very private so none of our friends know about us. -I lost my virginity to him, therefore am not very experienced in the bedroom -We are both of legal age (me 18, him 20) So we wer...
A. 14 January 2011: You don't need to be wild or kinky, he just wants to know what you're interested in trying. If he makes all the suggestions, he'll think you're just humoring him and aren't really interested. He wants this new sexuality between you two to be fun for ... (read in full...)
No christmas or birthday card from my boyfriend, is it OK for me to be upset?
Q. I wrote on here a few weeks ago about how my boyfriend of 5 months didn't get me even a card for Christmas after I got him a $200 gift. My birthday was a week later and I did not get even a card for that either. Am I being a baby or do I have a r...
A. 14 January 2011: I remember. You bought him a Wii, didn't you? I could forgive him for not getting you something as cool, but between both Christmas and a Birthday, you deserved at least acknowledgement. Maybe a gift, maybe an extra special day at a fancy event ... (read in full...)
(Why) do women prefer bad boys?
Q. I've got a new question for you, inspired by another post... One for the ladies, and one for the men :) When I range my friends on a scale from bad-boy til decent, and compare it with their success with dating (not necessary including happy ...
A. 13 January 2011: Don't forget the challenge and eventual sense of accomplishment a woman can get from turning a jerk into a healthy adult. (Not that there's much chance of actually changing him.) That danged mothering instinct pulls many women towards bad boys ... (read in full...)
How could I be so smart in every other department in life but be so brain-dead over this dead-beat boyfriend??
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I'm not sure if I'm in love with him, but I must be... He's been unemployed for 2 years and gained 70 pounds in 2 years. (The year he was actually good-looking, talented, and employed, he was constantly ...
A. 13 January 2011: Not to be sexist, but the stereotype is that women are only attracted to men that never give back, cause fights, cheat, etc and good guys that actually treat women well will always lose the girl to some jerk. You've no doubt heard that,"nice guys ... (read in full...)
I love my BFF's ex!
Q. Three years ago my friend Ashley dated a boy named Luke. I found him to be quite annoying and often argued bitterly with him. They only dated a month, but she was devastated when he broke up with her and still doesn't like to be around him. A few ...
A. 13 January 2011: You respect your friends, right? Then they likely have good reasons for it not to work with Luke. Chances are pretty good that it wouldn't go much better with you (and honestly, the things you found annoying will be annoying again soon enough). Guys ... (read in full...)
Missing the ex as just in a friend?
Q. Do you ever miss your ex not in a romantic way but just their friendship and company? Or is that impossible?...
A. 13 January 2011: Absolutely! I have no desire to be with my ex again,to kiss her or more, to even date her. I don't want her. But I still occasionally need someone to talk to and miss having her company, or think of an old joke that I know she'd like. The love is ... (read in full...)
I feel bad for cheating on my partner but feel this is something that I have to do!
Q. I have been with my partner for just over two years now, but its always been a very rocky relationship. He has an issue with other women, well he did until the last 6 months. He has cheated on me 7 times and had other little things with a few other ...
A. 13 January 2011: If your boyfriend cheated on you THAT MUCH and for so long, I don't honestly believe he'll ever stop completely. He may be good for six months, even a few years, but he'll cheat again and sooner or later give you an STD, or get another girl ... (read in full...)
Using lubricant for sex makes me feel useless! Is there anything I can do?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex i feel in the moment but then i just like become unwet. it is horrible and now i feel like he is getting mad at me for it even though i cant control it. im kinda anti lube.. no clue why it just makes me feel weird. ...
A. 12 January 2011: I completely understand that the lube feels artificial to you, like you need help to have sex, but you need what you need. Many men need viagra to get it up, however much they might be in the mood. MANY women need lube. You like him, right? You're ... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy it?
Q. Do women enjoy anal? I expect that it differs from person to person, but on average? Or is it only something a girl would let a guy do as something special for him? ...
A. 12 January 2011: Friend of a friend preferred anal to vaginal, said she enjoyed it more. But she was one of those girls that figured she was still a virgin as long as she only got it from behind and even when she started having vaginal sex, she was terrified of ... (read in full...)
He's trying to change me on so many levels. When will these changes be 'enough' for him?
Q. Hi, i really need some advice!! Iv been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Im 22, he's nearly 30 and he's a christian. Iv never felt like this about anyone before and i really really love him. When we first met everything was great! He was just as ...
A. 12 January 2011: I'm a christian too and ya know what? I don't recall ever hearing a sermon that said it's wrong to kiss or cuddle. It sounds like he's going through a bit of an adjustment here and trying to make up for past mistakes (as he sees them, including ... (read in full...)
He's apologized for his remark, but I'm feeling broken and lost inside. He means so much to me.
Q. I don't know what's wrong with me now. There was a misunderstanding between my boyfriend and me. He thought I was talking bad about his friends and said something to me that made me feel less important. I love him so much but I feel as if I don't ...
A. 12 January 2011: So what did he actually say to you?
Without knowing what he said, it just sounds like he was insulted that you spoke poorly of his friends and he insulted back. Sounds just like a fight to me, and not really a relationship changing one. Whatever... (read in full...)
Can sophomores date freshmen?
Q. This may seem like a silly question when compared to the degree of severety other questions on this website demand, but I am doubtful of my own reasoning. I recently have acquired an infatuation for this girl who's a grade below me. She is very ...
A. 12 January 2011: Go date her! I've known many sophomores that dated freshmen. No one gets hung up about it for long. And maybe she likes you, maybe she doesn't, but until you ask, you won't know. Better to find out now than risk letting your chance pass you by.... (read in full...)
I've tagged along while she shops for lingerie, so how do I get her in the sack?
Q. okay so I am really good friends with this girl. Like, I've known her since grade 5 and I am in grade 12 now. We talk about anything, including A LOT of sexual stuff. She has even taken me lingerie shopping. My question is, how can I get her to...
A. 12 January 2011: As nice as the three answers below me are, and as much as I agree that you need to repect her but make your move, please be aware that you may have let yourself fall into the Friend Zone and she may shoot you down when you approach her romantically. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have cyber sex, but I'm concerned that if he records the session, it will leak out!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a long-distance relationship and he wants me to have cyber-sex with him. Its been a year into our relationship and I'm not sure of the whole thing. What if he records the session just for his sake and it gets leaked by ...
A. 12 January 2011: Cybersex is much the same as real sex. If you don't trust your partner, you shouldn't have it. If you have to be pressured into it, you shouldn't have it. And if you do have it, your partner may always kiss and tell. That's the risk, always has been ... (read in full...)
How do you find out your partner's ring size without giving the game away?
Q. Hi all. First of all, I'm not thinking of popping the question, at least yet, just in case you get that impression from my question lol. I'm just curous as to how you find out your partners ring size when it comes to buying an engagement ring with...
A. 11 January 2011: I just asked mine early on in the relationship (at the time we were talking about a promise ring) and made a note for later. Some people ask a girl's friends (who always seem to know these things). Barring that, walk around the mall with her and ... (read in full...)
Should we still have sex anyway?
Q. I have been married to my husband for almost 3 yrs, it fell apart because I treated him like a nobody and wasnt very greatful for the things he did for me and our son. And now that I saw my mistakes he chose not to be with me anymore and I ...
A. 11 January 2011: What happens if you get pregnant again just as you two file for divorce? What happens if being with him makes it harder for you to get over him but he leaves anyway? What happens if you catch an STD from him that he got from another woman?
It's ... (read in full...)
Aren't I a bit old to be questioning my orientation?
Q. Hey there, Been reading here for a while and I feel you could really help me out here. Well, I'm 19 and I've been feeling well different to my 'usual' self now for about 6 months now. I know what your all thinking, 'your 19, you should know by n...
A. 11 January 2011: Dude, there are married men with several children that are only just discovering their sexual identities. Maybe you're bisexual. Maybe your gay. Maybe you could have realized at 14 and maybe you might not have discovered until you were 50. Just ... (read in full...)
Is a threesome a good idea if my boyfriend suggests it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. He has expressed how he enjoys watching me masturbate with a dildo. He has recently discussed with me how he would enjoy watching me have sex with another man. I just dont want this to ruin our ...
A. 11 January 2011: Quick answer: no. There's an overwhelming chance that it would destroy your relationship and self respect. Just don't do it.... (read in full...)
He spends all his time at his friend's house who happens to have a wife!
Q. My boyfriend and I have recently moved in together to a city which is 30 minutes away from my friends and family. His best friend, however, lives less than five minutes from us which makes it easy for him to go hang out whenever he'd like. To top it ...
A. 11 January 2011: Friends are important, but you're his girlfriend, not his roommate. He needs to put some effort into the relationship while there's one to save. He sounds like he still thinks he's in the college dorm.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't propose, he comes up with lame excuses!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and we've lived together for 4 of those years. He won't propose and comes up with lame excuses. The thought of starting all over with someone else stinks but I'm tired of his excuses. Should I stay or ...
A. 11 January 2011: If you have to pressure him into proposing and force him into a marriage he doesn't want, then it wouldn't last anyway and you'd still be starting over again, but several years older and divorced. Either he loves you and wants to grow old with you, ... (read in full...)
Why is it okay for bigger women to bash slim women, but not the other way around?
Q. This is something I notice a lot, and I find it very insulting. I've always been slim, naturaly slim. I have never dieted or watched my weight and I'm a healthy size 8. It seems that if a slim girl is ever to speak bad of a fat girl, they are given ...
A. 11 January 2011: If 100 overweight women pick on 1 thin woman, that thinner woman still has an easier life (in terms of health complications, dating opportunities, even employment) than the larger women who get funny looks, whispers behind their backs, rude ... (read in full...)
Do others get caught having sex?
Q. I have been caught several times by my parents and my boyfriends parents "messing around"/ foreplay and once having sex, I am so traumatized! Does this happen to a lot of people? ...
A. 10 January 2011: Almost a few times, but always very careful so never actually caught, no.... (read in full...)
I like my girlfriend's "natural scent". Is that weird?
Q. I've noticed that I really like how my girlfriend smells. And I'm not talking perfume or deodorant, I mean her natural body scent. Like for instance when she's all sweaty after one of her soccer games I think she just smells amazingly sexy and ...
A. 10 January 2011: Totally normal. The pheromones are powerful things and you and she "have chemistry" in a very real sense. I hope she understands it's a compliment and not gross.... (read in full...)
I wonder if actions speak louder than words?
Q. Lemme start off by saying I'm not trying to sound selfish or spoiled or anything alone those lines. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and I love him very much. He says he loves me but sometimes I wonder if actions so speak louder than words. ...
A. 10 January 2011: Actions are important, but the big picture really needs to be looked at. Some men show their love with gifts and trips and expensive dates. Some other men show love through services like cooking dinners or putting in time pampering women or taking ... (read in full...)
He wouldn't tell me about her texts if he was planning to cheat right?
Q. So me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months and we love each other a lot. About a month or 2 ago, a girl from his past (not ex, just hooked up) contacted him asking to hook up again. He told her he had a girlfriend but she continued to ...
A. 10 January 2011: He sounds honest and open to me. Until you see him acting suspicious, trust the guy. He cannot control what other people do, only how he responds. His response so far has been to tell this other girl "no" and let you know what's going on. Trust him.... (read in full...)
Could he really forget something that he claimed was so important to him?
Q. my boyfriend went to a all guy party he got there and there was girls so he txt me wanting to come so i did and found out he left my ring wich is always on his necklace at home but had the necklace on i ask about it he says he forgot to put it on. ...
A. 10 January 2011: So he forgot the ring when headed to a party that wasn't supposed to have girls? Then when he found out girls would be there, he asked you to come be at the party with him? It sounds like he's got no interest in flirting with other girls and be ... (read in full...)
His foreplay made me really wet... is this normal?
Q. so last night me and my boyfriend went to the movies but we didnt watch the movie if you know what i mean, we made out the whole time. So anyway when we were leaving the theater it felt like i had gotten my period cause my panties felt wet.. but ...
A. 10 January 2011: Men get hard, women get wet. You don't have to touch his penis for him to get an erection, and he doesn't have to touch your vagina for you to get wet. It just means you're aroused. The AMOUNT varies woman to woman and even day to day, but the fact ... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he had a girlfriend yet?
Q. I have a male friend who I've liked as more than a friend for years now, but he always seems so unavailable. I've talked about him with other girls he know as well, and everyone thinks he's such a great guy. However he remains single! We were all ...
A. 10 January 2011: Just because he's a good guy doesn't mean women will want to date him. It's been the experience of myself and my friends that unless you're extremely confident and make the first move, you'll be in the Friend Zone and never get out of it. The "good ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged, but what if someone better comes along?
Q. I have known mi fiancee since past 4 years and been together for 3 years in a long distance relationship and it was pretty stable. I just got engaged recently and have been having marriage fears of 1. "I'M SCARED TO MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS LESS THA...
A. 10 January 2011: There's always the chance that someone will come along that appears to be better for you than your partner, but when you get engaged and married to someone, you are making the promise that you don't care! You're vowing that even IF you meet someone ... (read in full...)
Are guys losing respect for girls today than in the past?
Q. I know the guy I am with does not act like this what so ever, but is it just me, or am I getting the feeling that now a days, men expect girls to bend over and give themselves to them? Are guys really loosing respect for females now a days? ...
A. 9 January 2011: I'm the sort that bends over backwards for women, but then gets treated like dirt. I haven't dated a girl yet that didn't cheat on me. So yes I've lost a tremendous amount of respect for women. Ultimately, men are capable of learning. So when we see ... (read in full...)
Winter formal
Q. Background: ok so i am 16 yr old, a girl, and have a crush on a guy that sits next to me in class. my mom bought me the most beautiful dress ever and says that i have to go to the next dance with a guy. However, i just had a messy breakup with my ...
A. 9 January 2011: That is the dilemma, isn't it? I'd say that you should ask the guy you like. There's not much of a friendship to risk right now, and if he turns you down, it's better to know that now than to pine for him for months to come if there's no potential. ... (read in full...)
Can women being the aggressive one in a relationship be sexy?
Q. When I mean 'aggressive', I mean likes to take control and does the initiating in the relationship. For myself as a guy, I have never been fond of being the one to pursue and have been attracted to more dominant women, who like to take charge a...
A. 9 January 2011: I'm perfectly happy to trade roles back and forth, taking turns in charge as you will, but I agree that it's a must for my woman to at least have SOME urge to initiate things and let me know that she wants it (sex, me, relationships in general, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants two girls to give him a blow job!
Q. My boyfriend really wants to have 2 girls give him a blowjob. I'm not too keen on the idea of one of those girls being me. Should I let him do this with 2 other females so he can get over it and I won't be around to see it?...
A. 9 January 2011: Uh... no. If you are not comfortable with him having this threesome fantasy when you're at least one of the girls (and I can't see why on earth you would), then it would be ten times worse knowing that he had sex (oral counts) with two other girls ... (read in full...)
Why would he masturbate when he has his wife?
Q. I periodically find used condoms in my husbands things. Like in the bathroom under a towel, or this week in his bathrobe. I know he is masturbating in them, but what should I do?? When I was first married I called him screaming and crying thinking ...
A. 9 January 2011: Dunno about him, but I've masturbated even when I had a girlfriend because it's a no mess, no stress, totally selfish quickie. With a woman, one still needs to get and keep her horny, be attentive to her needs, engage in foreplay, keep going after ... (read in full...)
An animal in bed?
Q. When a guy says, "She's an animal in bed". What does that mean? I'm not into rough sex or anything, but the expression always puts me off a little. ...
A. 9 January 2011: So many women get completely caught up in what they SHOULD do, or how people will THINK, or are so worried about holding back and trying to be PROPER. That's all well and good, but in the bedroom, men almost universally want a woman to actually just ... (read in full...)
Tainted goods?
Q. If a girl had sex for 1 or 2 minutes with another man and stopped and this was the only sexual encunter that she has ever had and knew what she did was wrong. Then was loyal to her husband after that for the rest of her lfe would that make her ...
A. 8 January 2011: You don't say that she cheated, just had a small sexual encounter outside of marriage. Not only is she NOT tainted, she's nearly a saint by modern standards.... (read in full...)
I'm worried my size won't make her happy!
Q. okay, so me and my girlfriend have been going out for a while, and I really love her, and we both want to get married, and her being a virgin is really important to me, she says she's a virgin (I am also a virgin) and a lot of me beleives her ...
A. 8 January 2011: She won't have any other experience to compare you to. She will feel that sex with you is just how sex feels. Besides that though, you can't please a woman even with a HUGE penis unless you learn how to use your mouth and hands. Put in the time and ... (read in full...)
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