Is it inappropriate for my boyfriend to give his number to other women?
Q. Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to continuously accept other girls numbers and/or give his number out to other women? I'm in a long term relationship and I've noticed that my boyfriend has done this several times through out the course of ou...
A. 8 May 2015: How would your bf feel if you randomly handed out your mobile number to other men? I don't think he would like it at all.
Time to have a chat with him.... !
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I feel like my boyfriend is crossing boundaries in helping his female friend. Do I have a right to be concerned?
Q. Here's my situation. My boyfriend has been helping his female friend for the past week or so because she is going through a break up and child custody issues. Which is fine except I feel like he's crossing boundaries a little bit. He's been talk...
A. 8 May 2015: Yes I would be concerned if I was you, if this lady needs help she should be talking to a counsellor.
Trust your gut feeling, and since you are posting here, your gut is telling you something is off. I would hazard to say that at best he is havin... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me for another women. What can I do to stop thinking about the situation & being jealous of her?
Q. My ex fell out with me and dumped me for another woman who is still a friend of mine on Facebook. I know he was seeing her before we fell out - hence the argument - although she always maintained she didn't know we were still together. Howeve...
A. 8 May 2015: Why are you jealous of her? Because she got your CHEATING, LYING exbf? Yes, face it - he was cheating on you with her... And she was cheating with him while he was with you. Well I must be missing something, because I don't see what you should be ... (read in full...)
My conceited narcissistic boyfriend keeps putting me down and I lost all my motivation!
Q. Hey everyone, I have been in a relationship for 2 years and not so long ago I realised how conceited and a narcissist my boyfriend is!he is always praising himself and how good at work he is and how he is being praised at work,I mean it's one thin...
A. 8 May 2015: Hon, do yourself a favour, Google Narcissism and related behaviours.. then decide if that is what you want to put up with.
You have only been with him for 2 years and already he treats you badly... don't stick around as it will only get wors... (read in full...)
Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways?
Q. Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways??He is still calling on occasion which after the phone calls I only feel worse and now he wants to get together for sex. I admit I was weak and suggested it and we did where I spent the night. ...
A. 8 May 2015: "Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways?"
Well, its like this... you ALLOW it, he is your EX for a reason.
Stop responding to his calls, BLOCK HIM - and move on with your life.... (read in full...)
My ex makes me doubt myself and feel worthless, but I still have to see him because of our child!
Q. I have recently came out of a five year relationship and we have a child together. However we came to an arrangment of him having our child, but lately he turns up whenever he feels like it and chooses the days that suit him and not me. I don't ...
A. 8 May 2015: Time to restrict how much contact you have with this man. Don't always be available for him when he wants to see you/your child unless it is pre-arranged via agreed visitation.
If he texts you don't answer him unless it has directly to do with ... (read in full...)
His behavior toward my belongings was vindictive and unstable. I think I am being emotionally abused!
Q. I think I am being emotionally abused. I have been on and off again with my boyfriend of 2 years. He's acted out , mostly when drunk. I have gotten really mad, broken up with him twice, and he always begs forgiveness , promises to change and then ...
A. 8 May 2015: This man is an abuser, sorry but there is no easy way of saying it. The way he treats you is with total dis-respect.
The only way out of this, is for you to get this man out of your life. Block his mobile number, don't make any contact with him... (read in full...)
I truly love my boyfriend so why do I want to call this married man?
Q. Dear Aunts, I love my boyfriend of seven years fully. Yet, there's a married man after me. He drops by where I work weekly and always talks with me. He brings me gifts mostly every time and says he simply likes our conversations. I keep telling h...
A. 17 February 2015: If you really love your boyfriend then you should go NO CONTACT with this married man. He is trouble - and if you stupidly pursue an affair with him - you will ruin your relationship with your boyfriend and if his wife finds out, and don't for one ... (read in full...)
I told him no contact and I blocked him, but he got mad. Should I unblock him to send him one last message?
Q. I started No Contact on Sunday so that I could start healing from my ex (of 10 months). Before cutting him off, I sent a one liner email saying "I wish you the best." Then blocked him on Facebook and erased him from my messenger contact list. ...
A. 23 January 2015: Hon,
If he knows why you have broken up with him, then ignore him he is playing at being the victim.
If he has no idea why you are NC, then you owe it to him to explain why you don't want any contact with him.
If he is abusive then rather j... (read in full...)
I don't like being called a bitch! Do I try harder to be friendlier to my boyfriend's mates?
Q. I think I'm over reacting but I thought I would ask anyways. I've always been an emotional person and I get my feelings hurt easily. A friend of my boyfriend has really hurt my feelings twice now. The first time was he called me an 'effing bitch...
A. 16 May 2013: Stop worrying about what other people think and start worrying about yourself.
Your bf is an emotional abuser and you should not put up with that kind of treatment. It never gets better, only worse.
Regardless of what you do, you will never p... (read in full...)
Thinking about moving in together so I wanted to go furniture shopping, he just tells me to go on my own so he can go out drinking! Is this what our life is going to be like?
Q. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. We have recently been talking about moving in together, but it has started causing problems between us because we have such different ideas about what it will be like. At the moment we have ...
A. 16 May 2013: I think that you should rather put off living together. I would have thought that moving in together would have been a big exciting step, choosing stuff together to make a life together. Clearly you bf is not interested and it sounds like you are ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my wife's sudden interest in astrology?
Q. I recently saw my wifes Internet search history on her phone and she had visited a horoscope site and specifically looked up "how to seduce a Scorpio". Sounds innocent enough, except for the fact that I am a Cancer!! Been married 19 years. Should ...
A. 16 May 2013: Ask her! You will be able to see from the way she answers if she is lying or not.
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My boyfriend's female friends don't like me
Q. Hey thanks for taking the time to read this. As much as I love my boyfriend, his friends are a bit of an issue for me. Our relationship use to be long distance at one point and his friends use to encourage him to cheat on me behind my back w...
A. 16 May 2013: Sounds like these so called 'friends' of his are a bit more than friends. When a couple has a problem they should be sorting it out between each other, not running off to cry on someone else's shoulder. These friends are also not friends of ... (read in full...)
Do I have any right telling my boyfriend to stop talking with this girl that I feel uncomfortable with?
Q. Do I have any right telling my boyfriend to stop talking with this girl that I feel uncomfortable with? This girl has only known my boyfriend for about a week and she has been talking very openly about how much she likes sex and been telling him...
A. 16 May 2013: Hon, you need to speak to your bf - it sounds like the conversation has already moved over the boundaries and become inappropriate.
Your bf must be the one to tell this girl to back off that he is in a relationship.
You bf also has poor bo... (read in full...)
Will it be weird if I'm the only one wearing a long dress?
Q. Im going to graduation soon and i bought this white long dress to wear during graduation. It looks really nice to me but all of my friend says they are going to wear knee length dresses. I want to know what are your opinions and advices and should i ...
A. 16 May 2013: Hon, wear what YOU want to wear and look beautiful! If all your friends had said they were going naked would you want to as well?
Wear your long dress as long dresses are very elegant and classy.
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Should I just leave? Or try to wait things out?
Q. Hi. 2 years ago I got with my boyfriend, we got a house together, one year ago today we got engaged, I was very happy. About 6-8 months ago things started getting tense and there were lots of arguments. Over the months it's gotten worse and worse ...
A. 16 May 2013: Hon, to be honest, you should cut your losses and leave.
It sounds like you are in a toxic relationship.
You could try a relationship counsellor, who will also help your bf through this bad patch of coping with your cheating on him.
But as y... (read in full...)
How can I stop missing the other man? He was a selfish, controlling, manipulative jerk.
Q. 18 months ago, I ended an affair I was having with my neighbour. I was married and so was he. I not only ended it but told my husband, his wife, sold my house, moved to a different neighbourhood and never contacted him again. Even though I've...
A. 13 May 2013: Hon, you need to find yourself a counsellor who will help you worth through this. It sounds like you have done everything to try and make things right in your marriage, however there seems to be something missing. A counsellor will help you ... (read in full...)
Sister and husband had an affair, and I am expected to act all happy at family gatherings!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'd married my first love for more than 10 years. we have one college daughter. Few years ago, I found out he cheated with my younger sister. I filed for a divorce, but never left our house beacause he was begging, crying ...
A. 13 May 2013: So sorry OP, but you have had a double betrayal. Your husband and your sister.
You were not the reason your husband had the affair but you are paying the price, you will never be happy so I would suggest that you divorce your husband, and make sur... (read in full...)
Is it too soon in our relationship to consider starting a family?
Q. Boyfriend and I are together 8 months. I'm on the patch so this may be a silly question! I finished my period last week and had sex with the boyfriend and now my breasts are very very sore, all over and nipples and a bit veiny. I also felt dizzy and ...
A. 13 May 2013: Possibly you were getting all these symptoms as a side-effect of the patch you were wearing?? It is far too soon to tell if you could be pregnant.
However, you and your bf are still very much in the getting to know each other stage, why on earth... (read in full...)
There were five condoms in the drawer and now there are none!
Q. Hello my question is my baby father had like 5 condoms for one we don't use them I check his draw beside every time and seen he had them now its empty my suggest to any women what would you but he doesn't know that I even know about. I've worried ...
A. 13 May 2013: OP, since you were already checking his bedside drawer to see if the condoms were still there, I would say that you dont trust him.
The only way to sort out this issue is for you to ask him what happened to the condoms. He might have thrown t... (read in full...)
Why is he acting this way after I told him about my dinner plans with my friend? I really like him but he's so awkward and quiet with me!
Q. Why is he doing that? I feel really hurt:(? So I've liked this guy for a while now. He's friendly and chatty with everyone else but when it comes to me he's really quiet , awkward and doesn't talk that much. He asked what I was doi...
A. 8 May 2013: 1. you told him that you were going on a dinner date with another guy - he likes you and you are now rubbing it in his face that you are going out with other men.
2. the other woman - he was trying to make you jealous by showing her some attentio... (read in full...)
They've been acting odd ever since we came back from our holiday and asked them to move their car from our drive!
Q. I'm in an awkward situation with my neighbours and need advice... My husband and I live in an area whereby none of the houses have a garage and there is only 1 car space in the drives. There is an alternate parking area which is 10 minutes wa...
A. 8 May 2013: It sounds like you inconvenienced them by coming back home and getting them to move their car.
These people are jerks and are not your friends. Why do you think you might get into a confrontation with them - just ignore them, stop all contact.... (read in full...)
Geting Old and really Confused
Q. I'm in agony. I was involved with a guy and we had sex twice and after that he started being distant and avoiding me, so as time went I tried to let go and forget about him, which was really hard for me to do. When we started dating he told m...
A. 8 May 2013: Sorry but you sound like you are his FWB. He is still out there playing the field, he is not yours and the possiblity of him being anything more than an FWB is very slight.
So either you suck it up and carry on with this arrangement or tell him... (read in full...)
My husband wants to have a baby with another woman. He's says I'm making this out to be a big deal. Am I over-reacting like he says?
Q. Im 20 years old and have 2 kids. My oldest is 4 and she is from a past relationship. Im now married and we just had our son in February. Recently my husband has been talking about having a baby of his own with another woman. I thought he was k...
A. 24 April 2013: I had to re-read this question a couple of times - really, does your husband honestly think that you should put up with the fact that he wants to make another woman pregnant?
I think there is a lot more to his request than he is telling you, and... (read in full...)
My controlling Aunt wants us to change the date of our wedding. How can I deal with her reaction?
Q. Recent events have upset me and dare say ruined my wedding ...Please read... My aunt (my dad’s sister) has always been a bit controlling. I remember when I was a child she'd always have tantrums and cause arguments if things didn't go her wa...
A. 22 April 2013: Your wedding date is far more important than her holiday. Go ahead with your plans for your big day and if she cannot make it... well then too bad she misses out.
And if she gets so upset about it you might never have to see or hear from her agai... (read in full...)
BF shopping for sex toys with his EX?
Q. Hello everyone. I am 22, and have been with my boyfriend (elder than me)around 3 years. We are quite sweet recently. But yesterday he told me that, his female colleague (21 year old, mistress of my bf's friend) invited him to shop sex toy with him...
A. 9 April 2013: Hon I feel that there is more to the issue than your bf has told you. It is a very personal thing to shop for sex toys, if she is already your bf's best friends mistress, then why didnt she ask him to go with her. How would you bf have felt if ... (read in full...)
I cheated, got back together with boyfriend. Does he need to know if I had used condoms?
Q. I recently got back together with my ex-boyfriend. We both realized that we loved each other and after trying to date other people we decided to give it another shot. The first time we broke up was because I had cheated on him, so he has been trying ...
A. 14 March 2013: Yes it is something that he has to know - you had unprotected sex with other men then had sex with him putting his health at risk.
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After taking him back again I found out my boyfriend cheated. When confronted he never even replied back!
Q. A week ago I found out my boyfriend cheated on me after only 4 days of getting back together. We had been off and on since November (we were bf/gf from June through November then he broke up with me in mid-November, we spent a week or so apart, then ...
A. 19 February 2013: 1. he was your ex for a reason - things were not working out.
2. he was only telling you what you wanted to hear so that he could have sex with you
3. you are wasting your time with this guy - do you really want to be treated like that?
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My boyfriend cheated but he is constantly accusing me of being the cheater!
Q. My boyfriend has cheated on me in ?the past and I decided to forgive and forget about all of it but since then all he does is accuse me of ?the same things he was caught doing and I can beg and plead till I'm blue in ?the face for him to believe me ...
A. 19 February 2013: "iv been caught in a few very small stupid lies but nothing like him"
I suggest you reassess your relationship with your bf - as it sounds like you both have trust issues, either resolve these issues with the help of a counsellor [if you feel... (read in full...)
Is it possible to forgive after spouse confesses to being unfaithful
Q. I need help and don't want to unload on family and friends, so I am turning to my dearcupid family. Does anybody believe that it is possible to forgive after spouse confesses to being unfaithful. The betrayal happened long ago, and he lied to me ...
A. 19 February 2013: Hon, you need to find yourself a counsellor so that you can chat to someone.
From there you can decide if you really want to stay in the marriage or want to go out on your own.
Alternatively, you need to find a marriage counsellor and B... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to become friends with strange women because he likes them
Q. My husband seems to always want me to be friends with girls that he "gets a kick out of" but it always feels like he wants it so he can have an excuse to be close and flirty with them. I have said I am happy with my current friendships and don't ...
A. 19 February 2013: Hon, huge red flags here - he wants you to be friends with these women because then it would be easier to cheat on you with them.
Your hb needs to grow up and decide either he wants you as a wife or he wants all these women! He obviously enjoyes ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says the past is the past but I have trust issues!
Q. I have been with my fiance for seven years. We broke up for five monthe in 2011. When we were broken up he was awful. He lied to me so many times. He started seeing a much younger girl. We are back together now. And we are planning our wedding in ...
A. 19 February 2013: Honey, first and foremost - if you have trust issues then you need to call off the wedding as these issues will not improve when you get married.
I strongly suggest that you find a relationship counsellor to help you find your feet in this rel... (read in full...)
I told a lie and now its going to come back and bite me!
Q. Hello. I told my partner a lie and now its come back to haunt. I basically I told that I did not slept with the gu y when I di He said he believes me . The guy said he's going to tell him. Am really scared that I might lost him. Should I...
A. 18 February 2013: Need a bit more info... Why is the guy you slept with threatening to tell your bf?
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There's a thief in my house and my parents won't help me pin them down
Q. Okay, so i have a paper round every weekend i get paid £18, and i have been saving my money for ages, basically on Friday i had 5 £20 notes for sure positive certain and a £5 note i counted it all and i definitely did not spend it. So i had £100 ...
A. 18 February 2013: Open a bank account and the moment you get paid - put the money into that bank account.
By leaving it in your purse is temptation for whoever is stealing it.
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Boyfriend is ditching me for work and I'm having a hard time dealing with it
Q. To start, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. From the beginning he's been the type who's needed his space, and isn't much for daily communication. I could accept that, in the beginning. Recently he's come in to more work, and I've...
A. 18 February 2013: Either your bf is working so much overtime because he is in serious debt that he is trying to pay off, or.. he is doing so because it feels better to be working than being with you.
"we had actually spent more than 2 days in a row together... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 18 February 2013: This guy sounds very intense and clingy. You said that you have tried to slow things down and he continues to be moving too quickly for you.
Sit him down - public place like a coffee shop - and tell him that things are going to fast for you, and... (read in full...)
Why is my ex calling me and hurting me when he doesn't want us to be together?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf broke up with me few days back, he called me today, i thought he is gonna give this relationship another chance took his call, stupid of me. He said as far as he is concerned i dont exist and cut the call. Why does he have t...
A. 18 February 2013: Sorry that this is happening to you. Your ex sounds like he is hurting and by by contacting you and hurting you with words.
Block his number on your mobile. Find someone to chat to, someone you can trust and chat to them about how you are feel... (read in full...)
My boyfriend married someone else a few weeks ago. Should I listen to his words that we could be together?
Q. my boyfriend got married to some other person few weeks back. He says they are not staying together, and he still tells me that he loves me and want to be with me forever and will marry me. i am not getting what to do I am not able to go away ...
A. 13 February 2013: This man is only saying things to you that he knows you want to hear and believe.
If he is still so enamoured with you why didnt he MARRY YOU?????... (read in full...)
Guy at work who I really like. But we both have partners. Due to his actions should I change what I wear, so he does not get distracted?
Q. Hi well this is my first post on here so here it goes. There is this guy at work, whom I really like, but we are both with people. We have been flirting even though a friend has told me he's not worth it. Well today as I was walking out the o...
A. 13 February 2013: The way to sort this issue out - STOP FLIRTING.
Cut contact with him down to a minimum, if he touches you explain that it is inappropriate and that you are asking him not to do so.
If he continues to stalk you - go to your HR department and c... (read in full...)
My husband talks to 5 women daily but does not care about me
Q. I have been married 15 years and it has been rocky but I am working on me and fixing me and letting him do what he needs to do and we are doing better. But I still am working on some jealousy issues. He has 5 lady friends he likes to talk...
A. 13 February 2013: You husband is CHEATING on you with 5 other women and I am sure if you had to do some digging you would find out that over the years there have been lots more. Two ways to do this, either put up with his behaviour or else kick him off the fence. ... (read in full...)
Troubles. All I seem to do is work and sleep. So why is she so distrustful? why does she think I'm cheating?
Q. My gf has been thinking I've been cheating on her. I work hard and once and a while I have to work late. She thinks I should have bankers hours. I have a kid and I scream at her in front of him and it really upsets me. All I do is work and s...
A. 13 February 2013: Sounds like your gf has trust issues, either from her past she has had a partner cheat on her, or else you have done something which has caused her to distrust you.
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