Troubles. All I seem to do is work and sleep. So why is she so distrustful? why does she think I'm cheating?
Q. My gf has been thinking I've been cheating on her. I work hard and once and a while I have to work late. She thinks I should have bankers hours. I have a kid and I scream at her in front of him and it really upsets me. All I do is work and s...
A. 13 February 2013: Sounds like your gf has trust issues, either from her past she has had a partner cheat on her, or else you have done something which has caused her to distrust you.
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Can I move on from my resentment towards my ex boyfriend and his lies and this other woman?
Q. Even though we had broke up again, this time he had a threesome with his up stairs neighbors. He said it happened only one time. The husband and my boyfriend had sex with her that was her fantasy My boyfriend denies ever being with her befor...
A. 13 February 2013: Hon, your bf cheated on you with another woman both physically and emotionally. By telling this other woman personal things, like you dont satisfy him and talking about her fantasies are huge red flags.
I suggest you go and get yourself checked ... (read in full...)
Please, somebody help me. I found out about my boyfriend's affairs and I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey... well, I couldn't be in worse shape right now. My "boyfriend" and I are in a very dark place. At first, I would defend him whenever people would talk bad of him. And I would just like to say now that my friends have always said that my ...
A. 4 February 2013: Sorry but this guys is a jerk. You are young, you have no other committments [ie., kids] with this guy, so dump him and move on with your life.
You deserve better.... (read in full...)
Are we moving to fast?
Q. I've been dating a guy for 3 months and the beginning was rough but things have turned out great. I spend the night at his house almost everyday, he takes me to work some days at 7 am, I've net his mother 3 times. He has even joke about how ...
A. 1 February 2013: IMHO - you should slow the relationship down a bit - considering you have only know this guy for 3 months and already you are questioning whether you trust him....
"How ever ive read a few questionable texr in his phone" this is a huge red flag... (read in full...)
I found a receipt for heart shaped jewelry, so whose got it!
Q. My husband and I are going through a very rough time in our marriage. About a year ago he came to the conclusion that "marriage just wasn't for him". Although things were not great, this totally took me by surprise He later filed for divorce, but ...
A. 1 February 2013: Hon, since you admit there are serious trust issues and now you are finding receipts for jewellry, I think the writing is on the wall.
Time to investigate discretely and get all your evidence together, look at his bank statements, mobile phone re... (read in full...)
Is this fair? I do so much for him and he does so little for me. What should I do?
Q. Well my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and lets just say I'm getting tired of being taken advantage of. He doesn't have a car so yes I drive him around and I pay for dates and I helped him get a job and yes he still asks me ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hon, stop being his mommy and put your foot down. Stop lending him money, stop driving him around and stop paying for dates. Time for your bf to grow up! He is loving having you as a personal bank and chauffeur. ... (read in full...)
Is my fiancé acting up? Has she been too spoilt in the past? Not sure what to do.
Q. So here's my story. My fiancé and I are supposed to be getting married in July but we have been having problems. We have been engaged since March 2012. To give some quick background we have dated for 4 years and lived together for 3. We live...
A. 23 January 2013: IMHO - you are in for some fun and games if you and your gf don't sort out the finances. I suspect that if you had to hit a rough patch and loose all your savings, that she would drop you in an instant. She is very materialistic and unrealistic.... (read in full...)
Married to a man 20 years older than I
Q. This is a letter I am sending to my husband.. I have no idea how he is going to respond.. So if your a guy.. Please feel free to reply.. That way I can prepare myself.. For whatever transpires. Thanks "Since I spoke to you about us.. You m...
A. 23 January 2013: "My Darling Husband, I am very unhappy. Our marriage is a mess and we need outside help to fix things. I am prepared to do whatever it takes to make our marriage work. Do you want the marriage to work? It is either a YES or a NO. A Yes mean... (read in full...)
Should my husband go to the funeral of his ex girlfriend's father?
Q. My husband's x-girlfriend's father passed away. They have two children together. She tried to trap him into marriage.. Didn't work. She has also tried to cause many problems between us.. She hates me.. Should he attend her father's funeral? I ...
A. 22 January 2013: I do believe that he should go to the funeral, and I do believe that YOU should accompany him.
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I don't want to look fake but I don't know how to do my makeup
Q. IM blonde blue eyes and i dont feel i am the prettiest of girls so inorder for me to look nice i like doing my make up but i have no idea how boys like it, i dont want to come acroos as fae but i still want to look nice, can you help me?...
A. 22 January 2013: Hon, why dont you go to one of the cosmetic houses in the bigger stores and book a free facial? They will be able to advise you on how to do your make-up to make the best of your features.... (read in full...)
My partner is constantly belittling my looks, my opinions and my intelligence.
Q. I love my partner and he loves me, but I dont feel like he appreciates me. I am an attractive lady and have always had a lot of male attention my whole life. I am now 36 yrs old and look probably 28 yrs old. Not that I am basing who I am off my ...
A. 22 January 2013: Hon, this man is an emotional and verbal abuser - either get both of you into counselling. His behaviour wont get better it will probably get worse.
Two choices here, either accept the way he treats you or else start calling the shots - he has t... (read in full...)
Starting to feel used in this relationship -- am I blowing things out of proportion?
Q. I have a range of niggling issues with my boyfriend who Ive been seeing for 6 months. On the whole he is kind and loving but I have noticed that when we go out for a meal, the cinema or somewhere else I end up paying... he never offers or reaches ...
A. 16 January 2013: Ouch honey, this guy is a user and I am sure you can do better.
With regards to his issues with his phone - yes.. classic sign of a cheater - being overprotective of their phones.
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Is there any truth to these lies and excuses from my husband?
Q. On 3 different occasions I found condoms in my husbands truck. To start with, ever since he got this truck it never left his side and after awhile I noticed he was going out of his way to make sure I couldn't go in there. He would lock it up and ...
A. 16 January 2013: Sorry hon, you can listen to all his excuses but his actions tell a very different story. WIthout a doubt he is cheating. Okay so where does that leave you? Either you can Lawyer up and then boot his sorry ass out or you can continue with th... (read in full...)
He cheated and I continuously gave him grief. How do I let him know that I am sorry?
Q. Hi guys Little advice please. 7 months ago i found out my parnter had been cheating on me at the beginning of the year. i knew he was up to no good and my suspicions were confirmed when she contacted me months down the line telling me she h...
A. 14 January 2013: So he cheated and is now bearing the brunt of your hurt and pain - so what!! Why should you be sorry?? He selfishly went out and cheated - do you really think he spared one thought about you while he was with another woman? He should be ma... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend of 9 years screwed up. Separated for a year but he wants to win my heart again. What should I do?
Q. I'm at a crossroads. I've reciently broken up with my boyfriend of 9 years. At the time, I was very unsure about the future of our relationship. To make a long story short, during the last 4 years of our relationship, he had become a complet...
A. 10 January 2013: Re-read what you have said about this ex bf - why on earth would you want to put yourself through all the emotional abuse all over again. He says he has changed, words are cheap and he is just telling you what he thinks you want to hear. Keep... (read in full...)
Guy trying to steal my girl becoming a nuisance
Q. hi ladies and gents, i need a little help with my gfs/fiances problem friend. before i came onto the scene, they where dating and she gave him a little tail once in a while (from what i gather). but they never became bf/gf because he was too ...
A. 10 January 2013: Sorry but this is NOT your problem. Your gf must draw the line between herself and this guy. Sounds like she is encouraging him, this is the reason why he wont go away. Why has she not blocked his number on her mobile? Why does she keep chattin... (read in full...)
Why do I feel guilty when he is the one who can't be trusted?
Q. I broke up on trust issues.he is pleading to not go.I know I am doing it for good and If i stay I will fall again in the circles of accusations and justifications.Being a LDR it just not helps. My question is why I am the one who feel guilty? ...
A. 10 January 2013: Hon, it is because HE makes you feel like all the problems are your fault and by doing that, it makes him feel better and justifies his actions.... (read in full...)
Her marriage has ended but husband won't leave!
Q. I've been involed in a relationship with a married woman and we have fallen in love with each other. Her marriage has ended but he won't leave. They were only married for just about 2 yrs. been bad from the beginning. I've never felt love like we ...
A. 10 January 2013: So who told you that her husband won't leave? If she told you, are you really going to believe a person who lies to their spouse, who cheats on their spouse?? Do you really think that person is telling you the TRUTH?? ... (read in full...)
I am sick of my B/f sneaking around behind my back to jerk off! Is it normal for men to be like that?
Q. Okay so anybody's advice would be excellent, especially a womans. I'm 18 and have been with my 22 year old boyfriend for 1 and a half years, our sex life is average, and I'm always keen even if I don't finish. He's jerked off to internet porn during ...
A. 9 January 2013: Hon, sounds like your man is addicted to porn. There is nothing you can do that will change him. He has to want to change himself and by the sounds of it, he is happy with who he is.
You deserve better, move on with your life and leave him and ... (read in full...)
He cheated, said it was over so why is her number still in his phone? And other women's too?
Q. My guy and I had been together off and on for 4 years over the phone and finally got together last year and he moved in with me. One day he asked me to marry him and of course I said yes and things were going great then about 5 months ago he cheated ...
A. 9 January 2013: Sorry but your man is still cheating on you. All he did was tell you the things you wanted to hear so that he could carry on with his cheating.
You have now agreed to marry him... bad move! He will not change - he is a serial cheater and thin... (read in full...)
I hoped splitting up with my husband would result in Bf wanting to be closer. So why is he now hesitant about us getting closer?
Q. Hello People I am married unhappily, and have been seeing this younger guy for 3 years, i am 51, he is 45. We see each other once ot twice weekly, at the beginning he said it was like a FWB relationship, as time has passed, i have got a lot close...
A. 9 January 2013: Sorry but your lover was enjoying the no strings attached set-up and now that you are becoming 'available' he has lost interest.
I take it that your relationship with your bf is the reason why you are splitting from your hb?... (read in full...)
My Bf talks nicely to me only when he needs money from me. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid I feel that my bf of 3 years talks nicely to me only when he needs money from me, other times he never calls, ignores me and bullies me. I have already given him a lot of money for this student loan. I don't have any proof for this ...
A. 9 January 2013: Both Honeypie and CMMP have given excellent advice. Follow it!!... (read in full...)
He thinks we're in a relationship, but we haven't had a date yet! How do I deal with this?
Q. I agreed to a blind date suggested by a mutual friend of myself and the gentleman in question. We spoke in person just long enough to arrange the date, but haven't actually gone out yet. I've just learned that he changed his Facebook status t...
A. 9 January 2013: Okay, so he might have changed his status because he is in another relationship [not with you] or, as I suspect, he is already "married" to you and has planned what kind of house and car and how many kids you are going to have...
You already ... (read in full...)
I'm a mess. What can I do? I've been in love with my Gf for a long time. But I've fallen for a second girl at college and now this second girl is pregnant.
Q. Guys, I'm in a pickle. A very large pickle. I've been dating my very lovely and intelligent girlfriend for six years, since we were 14. Before I continue, I need you all to know that I really, absolutely and unabashedly love my girlfriend with all...
A. 9 January 2013: I would like to say to you that you have some very difficult times ahead. Firstly you have to tell your gf about the other woman. Be totally honest - do not lie about anything. It will then be up to your gf to make the decision as to whether sh... (read in full...)
Conflicted: Is it really love? If so, now what? If not, how can I escape?
Q. I am trying to decode this relationship I am in. I am having an affair (reluctantly) with a married man and I am also married but have been separated for years. He refuses to let me go. He has tried with my encouragement, but he is very weak for me ...
A. 18 December 2012: "Is this love? Or am I just a convenient side dish for him? He expressed a desire to leave his wife until she busted him by spying. Now he has decided to try and have us both." This man is a serial cheater, and wants to have both you and his wi... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, then got upset at me joining a dating website, so he joined the same site. What do I make of this?
Q. He dumped me just over a month ago, out of the blue. we were serious and talked about a future. He said he wanted to be alone, not date anyone and focus on his kids. Since then I have told him how much I love him and want to work it out. He has r...
A. 18 December 2012: Hon, sounds like he has committment issues. Yes, he wants you, No he doesnt want you.....
You are moving on with your life but he has now realised this and is trying to get you back.
To be honest, if you get together with him again, it will b... (read in full...)
I am married with children. But I am attracted to my 45 year old Aunt. What can I do?
Q. I am married,have 2 kids. Live in United Arab Republic. when i was a teenager,i was always having a fantasy of having sex with my aunty(not blood related). she is the wife of distant relative uncle.i know she was not happy with her husband who can'...
A. 18 December 2012: But Hon, you are already in the middle of an EMOTIONAL AFFAIR with this woman! You are ONE STEP away from destroying your marriage and that of the "aunt".
Is the idea of destroying your wife and childrens lives and that of her family worth it... (read in full...)
I trust HIM, not HER!
Q. One more question before I go. There is a girl who texts my boyfriend relentlessly. She's my age or younger and is a compulsive flirt. I also know of her because she coerced my friend's ex-boyfriend to run away with her while he was still dating...
A. 11 December 2012: It is not up to you to sort this matter out - your BF should step up to the plate and tell this girl [in your presence] to get lost.
He should cut all contact with her - even going as far as changing his mobile number.
If he is not willing to d... (read in full...)
My FWB says that he's not cheating on his girlfriend with me because apparently I'm not a service , I'm just a girl who he likes in lust
Q. I am 19 years of age and now is in an affair with a man who is 29 who has a girlfriend he has been dating for 8 years. He says shes his best friend, with her he has a so called life , clean clothes to wear. But he is unsure if he wants/or is going ...
A. 11 December 2012: Sorry Hon, he is cheating on his gf with you and that is the bottom line regardless of what he says.
So it is up to you - are you happy with being 2nd choice?
Time to move on with your life and leave him behind. I have no doubt that if yo... (read in full...)
Female Boss Sending Flirty Winkies Boils Over Into Sexual Harassment?
Q. Female board member flirty texts my husband numerous times per day w/ lots of ;)winky smiles, etc. She constantly leans in and whispers in his ear in public and even takes my seat when I get up. I think she follows school events and knows where to ...
A. 6 December 2012: Did you actually hear you husband tell her to stop? Or did he just tell you that he asked her to stop?
I think that the problem lies with your husband and he is actually enjoying all the flattery and is encouraging it. Time to discuss boundary... (read in full...)
I've never met my long distance boyfriend, and lately I've been feeling insecure and having some trust issues.
Q. Hi everyone sorry this might be long but im really desperate and need adivice, ive been dating this guy for about two years now. we are in a long distant relationship and havent met yet( but we are planning to see eachother soon) and and , bu...
A. 6 December 2012: Sorry but I dont see how you can date someone you have NEVER met!
You are probably one of hundreds of girls he chats to.
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Girlfriend wants to take a 2 week break!
Q. I am 22 years old,I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now.last night she told me that she isn't sure if she can be happy and I deserve someone who is 100% committed to me.she said she wants to take a 2 week break so she can hopefully find ...
A. 6 December 2012: If the title of this post is correct - you have never met this girl - let alone dating her.
Go out into the REAL world and meet a REAL girl to date.
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How do I forgive a cybersex affair?
Q. I met a new guy three years after my divorce . online dating he was very newly seperated ( i didnt know this at first)I think his wife cheated . she moved out with another man. But anyways .. Everything was great He was great . Lot in common, ...
A. 6 December 2012: Hon, the only advice I can give you is to stop all contact with this man.
He sounds like a predator and you will land up doing things just to please HIM.
Just for your info - he said his wife left him for another man - I seriously doubt ... (read in full...)
After 5 months of dating I'm not sure if I love him or not but he's my boss!
Q. My boss says he's in love with me and after five months of dating, I'm not sure if it's true or if I love him in return. Sometimes, I do feel like I do. But, at others, I'm so confused. We're constantly scared of getting caught since it's highly ...
A. 6 December 2012: Sorry Hon, no good will come of your dating a married man. If he is so unhappy he must do something about his situation.
I suggest that you start job hunting because if you finally decide not to date him anymore things will get very awkward ... (read in full...)
No contact but he is blowing up my phone
Q. I did it in person, I did it as nice as possible, I did it affirmatively. I have ended the relationship, but he has not put me in the past. It's been a month and everyday it's 15 or more texts. So after the 2nd week I text him saying, "I'm sorry ...
A. 6 December 2012: Apart from completely ignoring his texts, can you not block his number on your mobile??... (read in full...)
Why don't I ever attract girls I want to spend time with? Could my personal issues be a reason some girls avoid me?
Q. I only attract the really weird and creepy ones that I don't find attractive. People have told me that I am really cute and that I can be a guy who girls are attracted to, but that's only a few of my friends because they're people I know and can ...
A. 30 November 2012: Hon, get you mom to take you to a dr for a check up - sounds like you might be a bit depressed.
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Was she testing to see if I'm actually interested? Should I ask her out? Or was she just bored?
Q. I have been talking to this girl I have known for two years. We have been chatting a lot recently and she has been asking me to meet her. I have been busy so have not been able to. She has been texting me a lot and hints she wants me to take her...
A. 30 November 2012: Sounds like neither of you know how to communicate.
ASK her out - no dont text her - SPEAK to her. Set a time and date for when you want to see each other.
It sounds like you made a date with her and because she didnt text you for a weekend - ... (read in full...)
What are my chances? I thought it was mutual love from the start. But is she having doubts?
Q. I met this girl a few months ago love at first site on both sides. She is still married and has a kid with this Guy. He lives in another state so I'm not worries but they saw each other a few weeks ago at their daughter's birthday party a...
A. 30 November 2012: Hon, from what you have written, it does sound like she is having second thoughts.
Maybe her seeing her stbx has brought back memories of the good times they had together and now she is wondering if she is doing the right thing.
Perhaps you n... (read in full...)
He's been separated for 6 years but wont get a divorce, am I a mug for staying with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months, he has been separated from his wife for 6 years! But still isn't divorced! He says she means nothing to him and its only a piece of paper. We have bought a house together and I have 1 child and he ...
A. 27 November 2012: Hon, I have no idea why you have committed to this man - bought a house together and have a child together when he wont commit to you.
And to add insult to injury he has told you that he wont ever marry you - time to re-assess this relation... (read in full...)
I cant face going into work, but this makes my anxiety worse. I feel at a complete loss with life, any ideas?
Q. Hi, I am currently having the most difficult year of my life and I am struggling so very much. Since April this year, my dad has died, I have moved house, got married, my uncle has died, my mum is constantly in and out of hospital with serious pro...
A. 27 November 2012: Hon, it sounds like you are suffering from depression. You have been thru a lot lately and you need some help to cope. I would suggest that you find another doctor, one that is more sympathetic to what you have been going thru.
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My boyfriend constantly brings up my past, how do I get him to see I've changed and help us move on together?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 11 months. 16 months ago I split up from my husband and went a little crazy, craving attention from absolutely any guy I met. I slept with a few guys but would also get guys numbers and constantly text them and email ...
A. 27 November 2012: Hon, what you do have to understand is that your bf has no trust in you. He doubts everything you tell him or have told him because he caught you lying to him.
I suggest if you really want to work on this relationship you need to find a counsell... (read in full...)
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