How do I deal with the death of my child?
Q. I am a mother of three, have just lost our middle child to a seeming suicide. He leaves behind a wife and young son. He was diagnosed as bipolar recently, but chose not to take the medication. He suffered extreme mood changes, highs and lows, and ...
A. 19 January 2011: I cannot offer you any constructive advice as I have never been in the position you now find yourself in.
I just wanted to say that I am sorry you are in such pain.
Have you considered contacting HOSPICE - they have bereavement groups, and they... (read in full...)
He's the one who cheated so why is he blaming me for the marriage problems?
Q. My husband cheated on me 4 years ago yes when we fought I brought up the affairs...the one I caught him see he was on a dating site and met several women....I have been on here asking for advice..about this..now that he up and left because again I ...
A. 18 January 2011: Sorry sweet, but your husband is going to blame you for his shortcomings, this is call 'blameshifting', everybody else/you are the reason why he had an affair.
You are not to blame for him having an affair - he did that all on his own. He is re... (read in full...)
My BF is overly jealous and I really don't know what to do about this!!
Q. Please give me advice.. I have a boyfriend. He is a very very jealous man. He never allows me to attend my friend's birthday party or any party in my college because he said there will be many handsome guys there. He also calls me many times in...
A. 18 January 2011: What should you do?? I suggest that you RUN!
This man is manipulative and controlling and if he admits to slapping his ex gf, then a physical abuser as well.
Not boyfriend material at all.
He will continue to block your activities, y... (read in full...)
Away boyfriend is convinced other guys hit on me when that's not the case!
Q. My boyfriend is a Marine and gets extremely jealous even at the thought of another guy flirting with me. We are many states apart and I obviously have the occasional worry of girls hitting on him. However, he takes it to another level. He is ...
A. 18 January 2011: Sorry Sweet, but when a partner starts accusing the other partner of cheating... well... its usually the accusing partner that is trying to deflect attention away from themselves while THEY are cheating.
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I'm really in love with him but don't want him to put his hands on me in anger again
Q. ok me and my husband have been together for 5yrs now we have a daughter and everythang..will he has slapped me choked me and throw me cross the room,an not only throw me a cross the room but im late on my period like 2weeks late so i mite be ...
A. 18 January 2011: The only advise I can give you is to get out - WHILE YOU ARE STILL ALIVE!!
This man does NOT love you, he sees you as a PUNCHING BAG.
Take your child and get out NOW!!
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He actually looks sincere but I know he's lying!
Q. I love my bf to bits. We were best friends before, so I know he has a habit of falling for his friends. I still gave in and we been dating for almost 2 years. When we were friends I saw one of our friends flirting with him, and I asked him--he sa...
A. 18 January 2011: If he has nothing to hide, he wouldnt have reason to lie to you, also the fact he has deleted all his emails to her shows there is something going on.
He has lied to you and by asking him if anything is going on with this girl, do you think th... (read in full...)
Husband had sex with prostitute while on business trip and I can't get over it
Q. We have been married for 8 years now and were courting for almost 4 years before marriage. Everything was going great and we have had a very satisfying and fulfilling relationship. We understood each other perfectly and cared for each other. Until ...
A. 18 January 2011: I strongly suggest that both you and your husband see a marriage counsellor.
It sounds like there are a lot of underlying issues in your relationship that need to be addressed.
Have you had yourself tested for STD's and HIV?... (read in full...)
Should we go out just as friends or should I move on?
Q. I met a girl who I really liked a few months ago, through some friends. I got chatting and walked her home. I got her number and a couple of days later I texted her to asked if she wanted to go for a coffee. She said yes and we arranged a date. ...
A. 18 January 2011: This girl was just looking for some fun. Sorry but she is cheating on her bf by going out with you, and honestly is that the type of gf you want?
If the relationship had to continue, the thought that she cheated on her bf with you will always b... (read in full...)
Boyfriend seems to need something else from his ex
Q. My boyfriend and I have a great relationship. We are both very affectionate, our sex life is great, we stimulate each other mentally and physically and we both have outside interests, we're also very well matched in our interests, our sense of ...
A. 18 January 2011: Sorry but it sounds like your bf is having an emotional affair with his ex.
There is only space for 2 people in a relationship - you and him. You must decide whether you are willing to accept a 3 person [the ex] in your relationship.
If the ... (read in full...)
I don't trust my online girl with all of her story changes
Q. ok to try to make this as short as possible I am going through a divorce met a girl on myspace who is 19 Im 34. She lives in the next state over well we talked online and on the phone for a few months. And I have fallen head over heels for her. The ...
A. 15 December 2010: Sorry that you are going through a divorce and feeling lonely but this online relationship is certainly not the way to go.
She is stringing you along - she has no intention of ever meeting with you - you are just fun to chat to and I am sure tha... (read in full...)
I want to watch my wife with a bigger guy
Q. I am married and have a great relationship. But I have this fantasy of watching my wife with a bigger guy. How do I talk her into it. We have stories we tell each other over the phone and they involve me watching or taping.she loves them but said ...
A. 15 December 2010: Sorry but you are being selfish here - your wife has said that she wont do it so leave it at that - keep the fantasy in your head!
If you try and force your wife because it will get your rocks off seeing her having sex with someone else - can you ... (read in full...)
Its been a week and he hasn't called, should I forget about it?
Q. A few weeks ago, my roommate was telling me about a cute single friend of her boyfriend's and she thought I should meet him. Soon after, we met when a bunch of us (friends) went camping together and I was interested, so a couple weeks later I ...
A. 15 December 2010: Possible that he has had a busy week with his finals, now that all that is over he will call you - IF he is interested in you.
Dont sit at home waiting for the phone to ring!... (read in full...)
Why am I the bad guy here?
Q. So I am told things about a guy I was seeing until a week ago..that he beat his ex wife (my friend) and put her in the hospital...so i call him to tell him what I was called and told..and he gets pissed at me..I wasn't spreading the rumor...i wanted ...
A. 8 December 2010: Did you hear from the ex-wife that he beat her up?
If he is guilty then of course he would be pissed off - he doesnt want everybody to know that he is a wife-beater.
If he did indeed beat up his ex - be very wary - you really dont want to be ... (read in full...)
I treated her so badly she has finally snapped, will she ever come back?
Q. Hi Everybody I need some serious help and please don't say things like that's what I get because I already know it's all my fault. I just loss my gf and I'm I think for good this time. I took her for granted and not once was insecure about h...
A. 8 December 2010: You obviously realise that you have a problem with the way you have treated her, it is a good start.
However, as to whether she will come back to you, that is entirely up to her, she might feel that there is no hope for the relationship and move... (read in full...)
Am I weird for feeling confused?
Q. I guy I was dating told me things that a lot of men I have dated have never told me-----he told me that he could see living his life with me, that he was falling in love with me, that he was surprised that no one ever asked me to marry them, etc. ...
A. 8 December 2010: This man is avoiding commitment and really has no idea what he wants.
If he is your soul mate, then go to relationship counselling however, I think you are wasting your time, I dont think anything serious will come of this relationship.
Sorry!... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend cheat on me with his psycho ex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now. From the begining his ex, mother of his two children, has been harrassing me. She's jealous of me and wants him back. She is also jealous that her kids love me. She really went off the deep ...
A. 8 December 2010: Okay, some red flags here - he was alone with her in the early hours of the morning, and failed to tell you that she was with him.
He also claims you are his everything - so if he was so into you why wouldnt he disclose the fact that he has had ... (read in full...)
Do you think that getting a hand job during a massage is really cheating?
Q. I am a little bored and was intrigued by all the ads for Asian massage places and something called "table shower". My question to you all is do you think that getting a hand job during a massage is really cheating? It seems to me that it is not ...
A. 21 October 2010: Sorry but yes, this is classed as cheating, well.. certainly in my book it is.
Rather role-play with your wife if this is your fantasy.
Dont do something silly that will ruin your wife's trust in you.... (read in full...)
Do women like to catch a glimpse of a man's penis or balls?
Q. Do women like it when men wear shortish kind of shorts and maybe you catch a glimpse of what he is packing here or there (san undies, of course). I love it when I happen to catch a glimpse up a woman's skirt, or into her shorts, or down her top to ...
A. 21 October 2010: Defintely not!! ... (read in full...)
B/f won't have sex, says I don't turn him on!
Q. I'm 25, and my boyfriend doesn't like to have sex with me, he says i don't "turn him on" what do guys like while having sex?...
A. 20 October 2010: Why are you still with your bf if that is how he feels about you??... (read in full...)
How often should I swallow cum?
Q. Me and my boyfriend like to do sex everynight.I really enjoy to give him a blowjob.He tells me to swallow his semen.I don't like swallowing.Is it harmful for body?Is it helpful?How many times in a week should i swallow cum?...
A. 20 October 2010: As often as you like - if you dont feel like it one evening - well then dont!
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Its been 2 weeks with no contact from him should I just move on?
Q. so i was seeing this very nice guy since march of this year. it started out good. we would call eachother every day.i tried not to see him every day for the first couple of weeks. he seemed ery interested in me so i went with it. i didnt sleep with ...
A. 20 October 2010: Sweetie, he is using you, he only wants you when he wants sex - he doesnt want committment.
Move on with your life, you deserve better.... (read in full...)
My sister is filing for divorce from her husband because she thinks him and me were playing "footsie"
Q. I am very close to my sister. I am single. My sister has been married for 10 years. I am also close to her husband. I was visiting my sister last Sunday and she, her husband, his parents and I were playing card games on a table. I accidentally ...
A. 19 October 2010: There is more here to your sisters relationship than meets the eye....
Could you imagine going before the magistrate and saying you want a divorce because your hb touched your sisters foot with his foot???
I suspect that she has been looking... (read in full...)
Why do I let him BACK in my life because he has nowhere to go? I've got to get him OUT of HERE!
Q. Dear Cupid: I am an educated,loving,generous widow with one adult child in college. I got hooked up with a man who was married to a family member I never really knew..who is now dead. He had a drug habit (meth), smokes, drinks, has NO ability ...
A. 19 October 2010: Sweetie, you owe him nothing - you need to stop feeling guilty.
He has become what he is because of his actions.
You will have to take a tough stance, give him notice to get out and if he wont, then you will probably have to seek legal actio... (read in full...)
Tips to dump my boyfriend because we are always fighting
Q. Hi everyone! Can you plz give any tips to dump my bf of 3yrs because we always fighting, and he doesn't respect me, he says what ever he want,but i love him so so much,that my problem,i can see that i am just wasting my time with him, he told me ...
A. 19 October 2010: Sweetie, there is no easy way of doing this... tell him straight out that its over, and give him your reasons why.
Stop all contact with him and immerse yourself in your hobbies or going out with friends.
He obviously has serious trust is... (read in full...)
My separated wife says she hates me and that she never loved me
Q. Hi, Im in need of serious help, do to a heart break. My wife and i been married for 3 years and together 4. We have 1 son together. we been seperated for almost 5 months now. I still love her with all my heart and want her back. Shes says that she ...
A. 19 October 2010: Sweetie, I suspect that your wife has been having an affair with this other guy for quite a long time - they have not just 're-discovered' each other.
You need to start looking after yourself and your son, I do think that you need to move on from ... (read in full...)
Ex is paying for rent...should I let him come over sometimes?
Q. I just left my boyfriend...we tried everything to make it work but it just will never work out between us. I still love him and want the best for him, even though I don't want to be with him at all. We have a two-year-old son and we're trying to ...
A. 19 October 2010: As you are now no longer a couple, he needs to give you back your key. Set boundaries as far as when he can come and visit etc.
If you dont do this, you will never be able to move on with your life as he will always be 'intruding' in your per... (read in full...)
She might be pregnant but she is pushing me away, what should I do?
Q. Hi guys, am in a predicament right now. I and my girlfriend met last November, we been dating since then.Although we broke up in September this year fot three weeks,when we got back together, we got carried away, now her period is late and shes ver...
A. 15 October 2010: Start by finding out if she is pregnant - if she is pregnant then she must explore her options. If she is not pregnant - she must sort out some contaceptives since they are freely handed out at clinics.
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I am just so tired of being so lonely, and feeling so undesirable.
Q. My husband and I have had many problems in our marriage, we have been married 30 years, and the past 15 years, we have not had sex. I got tired of being turned down, so I let it go. Due to recent things that have happened in my life, I told him I ...
A. 12 October 2010: It sounds like there is a huge issue of no communication and misunderstanding in your marriage.....
How on earth could you have let this issue go on for 15 years???? You say that you found he masturbates - did you not masterbate at all during t... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this crazy girl who wont leave me alone?
Q. Ok have a problem I got a girl trying to re-add me on facebook she dosnt seem to get the hint after all the trouble she has caused by saying and doing nasty things she has pushed altogether 3 friends away and 2 mates against each other . I've given ...
A. 12 October 2010: Does facebook not have a facility where you can block someone permanently???
Continue ignoring her, if she sends you messages, delete them, have no contact with her at all.... (read in full...)
We're both attracted to each other, but we're both married. What should we do?
Q. About 15 years ago, R and I both started work at the same company. He was married, me not. There was instant attraction on both our parts. We don't work in the same dept, so only saw each other occasionally. No real conversation, just hi, how are ...
A. 12 October 2010: You are contemplating an affair with a married man - so he doesnt wear his wedding ring - a lot of men dont wear wedding rings - that doesnt mean he is available!!
You are married to A - then put your energy into your marriage or else divorce ... (read in full...)
Can you date your half brother?
Q. is it ok to date your half brother?i didint know him till the start of summer, i didint know i had a half brother till dad died then mum said we had a half brother...
A. 12 October 2010: No, sorry hun, no-go on the dating of your half-brother. You both share either a father so this is seen as incest.
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Is it wrong for a stepfather to fall in love with his stepdaughter??
Q. I am 48 and my stepdaughter is 44 is it wrong for us to fall in love with each other ...
A. 11 October 2010: Considering your wife has passed away - there is nothing stopping you from persuing this relationship.... (read in full...)
I'm not fully satisfied, should I just tell my boyfriend?
Q. I'm 25. for a long time I've been very horny. When I saw a man, all I can think about is to do stuff. I have a boyfriend, but we don't have much time together and I'm not fully satisfied. so, should I just tell him what I want?...
A. 11 October 2010: YES, yes, yes.... how on earth is your bf supposed to know you are not satisfied if you dont tell him??
He probably thinks everything is okay since you have not once said anything to the contrary.
Talk to him and express your feelings!... (read in full...)
No more hand jobs!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3 months now. I have encountered a problem though. He won't hardly talk to me anymore, and when we are in the bedroom he won't give me hand jobs anymore. Please help me!!!!!!!!!...
A. 11 October 2010: Do you reciprocate or is your bf doing all the work and getting no pleasure??
Some more information needed.... (read in full...)
He gets very emotional and affectionate when drinking, is it real or not??
Q. I'm curious about what you'd make of people's behavior when they've had a few drinks? Are the things they say insights into their hidden thoughts and desires or just drunken ramblings? I'm wondering because, although my boyfriend is always very p...
A. 11 October 2010: The alcohol helps him overcome his inhibitions about declaring his affection for you.....
So, yes he has declared his real feelings for you....... (read in full...)
He said he loves me.. what now?
Q. i am in love with a man that i have worked with for a few years. we hang out, go to events together, and i guess have been seeing each other for awhile now, and he has told me that he loves me. he has told our mutual friends this as well. i want to ...
A. 11 October 2010: You need to communicate your concerns with this man... maybe he thinks that he is in a relationship with you, just because he has told mutual friends???
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She is jealous but wants to keep her ex in the picture but not mine, what to do here??
Q. My partner and I have only been together for about 5 months. I have had a total of 2 partners before her. She has had myrriads. She ask me the other day to quit communicating with my last ex because she was afraid I would end up having an emotional ...
A. 11 October 2010: Sorry but if she doesnt want you talking to your ex's then she should not be talking to her ex's.
Double standards are a no-no.
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Is it wrong for a stepfather to fall in love with his stepdaughter??
Q. I am 48 and my stepdaughter is 44 is it wrong for us to fall in love with each other ...
A. 11 October 2010: Can you give us some more information - are you still married to your step-daughters mother?
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I almost caught my b/f having a "crafty tug", how do I tell him I'm not freaked out about it?
Q. This question could be a bit long and I apologise for that. The situation is, today I came home from work early and when I let myself in the hall I noticed my partner jumped up and switched off the telly really quickly and sat back down again....
A. 8 October 2010: Sit your partner down and apologise for interrupting him! Tell him that you dont have a problem with him masturbating however, you feel awkward because you caught him 'on the job'.
All men watch porn, and maybe your partner just needed a bit of... (read in full...)
Should I get pregnant out of revenge?
Q. Hello my name is Haibine, i've dating my bf two years, but he had a girl while he was with me but i didn't know that. when find out he told me he leave the i didnt trust him, i was cleaning his room and i find a letter the girl sent him, she told ...
A. 8 October 2010: You are only going to spite yourself if your fall pregnant - and who will pay the price - the innocent child.
Dump this miserable excuse for a man, get your life together and move on!... (read in full...)
Seriously???
Q. I have been married to my wonderful wife for 10 years, been together 12. We have two kids, and are each other best friends. She is 6 years my senior (not that that matters, really- just sayin'...) Before we met, she worked with a guy 15 years older ...
A. 8 October 2010: Hun, sit your wife down and ask her what the relationship is with this man, if he is harassing her at work, she needs to file a sexual harassment charge against him. I suspect that she is enjoying the attention even if she denies it.
The other Ag... (read in full...)
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