My boyfriend has female friend that he is entirely too close to
Q. So ill be honest, its a bit messed up, My boyfriend has a friend hes entirely too close to, She calls and texts him constantly, he makes plans to go places we didnt intend on because she gave him the invite. At first she wasnt a problem, then the ...
A. 15 January 2013: Goldiefoxxx, sorry you're having such a hard time. I responded to your new post. I wish you well x ... (read in full...)
Where do I from here? Unhappy marriage. I've fallen for a married man I met on a dating site.
Q. I have been married for over 23 years , with 2 kids and have been unhappy in my marriage for over the last 15 years as my husband had a drinking problem As a result I have lived in an abusive relationship. He gave up drinking about 4 years ag...
A. 13 January 2013: Well ideally, you'd leave your husband, set yourself up as a single woman, and start dating men who are not in committed relationships.
I can't think how else you're going to get what you want/ need, and you won't get it with the situatio... (read in full...)
Anyone been in a relationship with a Bf in Turkey? I'd like to help him get a Visa to visit me here. How could I help?
Q. So me and my turkish boyfriend have been going out for just over 5 months now. I met him back in august when i was there on holiday and spent a month with him, I then went back in December to see him again for just over a week and I met his pare...
A. 13 January 2013: Your boyfriend will have to apply for a visa through the UK Border Agency. He has to be 18 or over. Here's a link to their website with some information:
http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk/visas-immigration/visiting/general/
He can visit for up... (read in full...)
Deception.
Q. I am presently in a relationship for past three years and five months. Here's the problem, we both have each others facebook accounts passwords, so I went on his account without his knoweledge recently, not that this is regular thing cause we both...
A. 13 January 2013: You need to talk about this with him as soon as possible. Try to remain calm. Expect him to deny it.
Maybe take some time away and stay with friends or family. Give yourself some time to get over the shock so that you can think clearly about yo... (read in full...)
My GF doesn't want to lose her virginity until we're married, but that won't be for 10 years! What can we do?
Q. I have been together with my girlfriend for nearly a year. We both never had sex, we only experimented with foreplay etc.(Basically everything but just the most vital part, sex) She told me she will only be willing to do that once we get m...
A. 13 January 2013: Well you're describing a problem with no solution unless one or both can compromise.
I can understand her fear of getting pregnant outside marriage, but agree it's an excuse rather than a valid reason; you could easily avoid unwanted pregnanc... (read in full...)
How should I greet her? First date with a girl I met online.
Q. I have been speaking to this girl on a dating site now for a week and we are going on a date tomorrow. Any tips? When I greet her is it just a casual hello,? Any advise or tips will be muchly appreciated !...
A. 12 January 2013: What SageOldGuy said, except maybe not the "25 years" bit ;)
Also you could give her a peck on the cheek if she seems comfortable.
Good luck and have fun! ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 12 January 2013: OP, your wife is very, very unlikely to cheat on you just for an extra inch or two of penis. You say yourself that she's a kind and intelligent woman, so give her credit! Do you have any other reasons to think she'd be unfaithful?
I think you shou... (read in full...)
Should I talk to her in the mornings or look like a loner?
Q. Hello Ok basically every morning before school I wait for my bf (C) and his older bro (S) who is in 6th form to be dropped off and his bro's gf (K) who is in the year above but is the same age as me waits for them as well. The thing is we wait i...
A. 12 January 2013: I don't think you'll appear weird by talking to her. It's just being friendly, and I'm sure she'll be friendly back. Sounds like you're both a bit shy, that's all. ... (read in full...)
Need help reading situation.
Q. so i met this very cute french girl (and i mean damn beautiful) at a uni pub crawl we met at the 3rd of 5 bars we spent most of the night together talking (about 4 hours) the first hour or so her friend was with us but when we got to the last bar...
A. 12 January 2013: I'd say she definitely likes you! Next time you send her a message on Facebook, include your phone number. Give her a clue that you like her - she's not a mind reader either!
When she texts/ phones you, ask her out. It can just be casual, like a c... (read in full...)
Some queries about my relationship. Should I go on the pill? He'd like oral sex but I'm not comfortable with it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year. We have used condoms, and the pull out method , when we have had sex. He wants me to try using the pill. I'm nervous about it though, as I have never used it before (he is the only person I have had sex with ...
A. 11 January 2013: CMMP, I agree that stepping outside the comfort zone is often a good thing, which is why the second half of the sentence you quoted said "if you haven't tried it, it might be worth trying". I just don't want the OP to feel she has to do something ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has female friend that he is entirely too close to
Q. So ill be honest, its a bit messed up, My boyfriend has a friend hes entirely too close to, She calls and texts him constantly, he makes plans to go places we didnt intend on because she gave him the invite. At first she wasnt a problem, then the ...
A. 11 January 2013: Goldiefoxxx, I don't think you've done the wrong thing in breaking up with him. You two weren't compatible. There were two separate women you were uncomfortable about, and you were uncomfortable about the way he was behaving around them. You trusted ... (read in full...)
Saw my GF for the first time on Skype and she didn't look like her photo. Is she lying?
Q. So I have met my girlfriend about a year ago over the internet, big mistake. She said she does not date over the internet first time I asked her, then I won her heart and we have been together for a month now. She sent me pics of her but this mor...
A. 11 January 2013: You're not dating and she's not your girlfriend. She's someone you are friendly with online, and nothing else until you've met up in real life. Sorry if that sounds harsh. I know you're young, but please be realistic.
So your acquaint... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband that I cheated on my ex with a co-worker? Or leave the past in the past?
Q. Been happily married for a few months after I'd been with my ex for a few years. Do you think I should tell my husband I cheated on my ex and had a six-month affair with a co-worker? Now I don't have any contacts with either my ex nor my former a...
A. 11 January 2013: I don't think you should tell him. I presume you didn't have a talk about this issue before you got married - the "have you ever been unfaithful" talk. So if he hasn't asked you certainly shouldn't tell him now. ... (read in full...)
Some queries about my relationship. Should I go on the pill? He'd like oral sex but I'm not comfortable with it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year. We have used condoms, and the pull out method , when we have had sex. He wants me to try using the pill. I'm nervous about it though, as I have never used it before (he is the only person I have had sex with ...
A. 11 January 2013: Withdrawal method isn't reliable, OP. You're not on the pill so you should be using condoms every time. Why aren't you? Are you happy to risk pregnancy?
There are lots of options with oral contraceptive pills. Some may give you side effects ... (read in full...)
Is a brazilian wax worth the pain?
Q. So i'm really nervous now, I've booked myself in for a full Brazilian wax in a few days. But my friends have made me really nervous saying the pain is terrible!! I have a bad pain threshold, but I think of it as deal with the pain for something that ...
A. 11 January 2013: I don't find it painful, really, but everyone's different. The results outweigh the small amount of (very brief) pain for me, and it's far better than shaving.
If you go to an experienced person, they should be pretty fast and that makes it less ... (read in full...)
He met me, we've been friends for 7 months. The same day he had sex with her. Do I confront him? Or what else should I do?
Q. okay this kid and I were talking for about seven months but we werent exclusive! a few days before my birthday we hung out and remind you we barely see each other, but when we do we dont waste a minute, but the last time we hung out we didnt ha...
A. 11 January 2013: I'm very glad you didn't have unprotected sex with him.
Why do you say that he loves you? His actions say that he doesn't love you. If he's telling you he loves you he's either a liar or doesn't know what love means.
He just wants sex. He wo... (read in full...)
I need to get over him. Why do we keep breaking up and reuniting. How can I get over him?
Q. We've had an on and off relationship for over 3 years now. He loves me, i love him, but i always break up with him. Right now we are apart, but everytime i see him my eyes water , and i melt. all the memories come flooding back. My bestfrie...
A. 11 January 2013: You say "right now we are apart", which makes it sound like you might get back together.
Is that realistic? If not, the first step is to accept that it's over. You won't be able to get over him unless you accept it's over.
After that, i... (read in full...)
I need help ASAP! This guy is acting so dumb!
Q. I started talking to this guy a month ago, he is the type that acts like a player but he really doesn't get too many girls. We go to college together in California and after we began talking about 4 days later we had sex, I know that was a no no. ...
A. 10 January 2013: OP, you know the answer to this, you've written it several times in your post. He's using you, he's done this to other girls, he's completely non committal.
I'm not saying this to be negative or critical, but to try and get you to think about th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has female friend that he is entirely too close to
Q. So ill be honest, its a bit messed up, My boyfriend has a friend hes entirely too close to, She calls and texts him constantly, he makes plans to go places we didnt intend on because she gave him the invite. At first she wasnt a problem, then the ...
A. 10 January 2013: Goldiefoxxx, I understood from your other post update that you were going to take a big step away from this boyfriend. What happened?
You didn't handle this at all well. I know you're upset and angry, but aren't you above all this drama? (answer ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 10 January 2013: Some women prefer larger penises. Some, but by no means all. The thing about a bigger penis is that it is often quite painful for the woman. Some women (SOME) get off on the pleasure/pain thing but not everyone. If this was a very important issue ... (read in full...)
I asked my BF to have STD tests before we sleep together. He says he can only get results over the phone, not on paper. Can I believe him/ how can I check the results?
Q. Hi guys. I have a matter about health. Me and my boyfriend are going to see each other soon, he will stay with me for 2 weeks. We have planned to sleep together this time, it will be the first time of us. And for health safety, I asked him to take ...
A. 8 January 2013: If you don't trust him to tell you the truth about his test results, you probably shouldn't have sex with him. ... (read in full...)
Is my friend a jerk for making this disrespectful comment about his African American lover?
Q. This older guy who I am friends with, told me that if he ever got married in the future, he would never tell his wife that he had a sexual relationship with an African American woman because, she would look down on him and so would the entire ...
A. 8 January 2013: I agree with SVC except that I don't think it's because he's old school. I think it's because he's from a country where there are almost no people who aren't white. Some people from certain parts of Europe are still very bigoted or ignorant. I am ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 8 January 2013: I can't say it any better than Yos or the other contributors but I want to add that if you keep obsessing about this with your wife, you'll drive one or both of you mad. She is (so far) tolerating your baseless insecurities, but don't expect that to ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend went off of her medication and changed. Now I feel needy like I need medication!
Q. I was introduced to this woman 4 months ago and we instantly hit it off. Our conversations were long and in depth. There was a connection I have never felt with anyone before.. physically, spiritually, emotionally and we both made a comment that it ...
A. 8 January 2013: You're welcome SBD. Talking about mental health issues is really, really hard but it sounds as though you both have good communication and honesty on your side.
She herself must have noticed a big difference in herself since she stopped the Zolo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his best female friend are too close for my comfort. What can I do?
Q. My Boyfriend and his best friend are really close, too close for my own comfort zone, she texts him saying she loves him and he does the same, at all hours of the night at that. They are both really touchy with one another and it drives me crazy an...
A. 8 January 2013: Good on you, Goldiefoxxx. You're doing the right thing. ... (read in full...)
Update on I was expecting to hear from him but haven't heard a word for 2 days
Q. So for all who were following my story of the guy who I was expecting to come to my house but never showed up... (original story below for anyone else) Well it appears he's just fine. I didn't contact his parents or anyone, but I noticed he cha...
A. 8 January 2013: I've also had some very odd experiences with online dating and been quite hurt by it so I sympathise.
There are people out there who just go out and do what they like with little care for the effects their behaviour might have on others - he's one ... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends boyfriend 2 days before their baby is due. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've had this friend for 3 years. Me and her met because I hooked up with her boyfriend unknowingly. He split with her before I found out, but still cheated on her with me. Then cheated on me with her. So me and her became friends, long story sh...
A. 7 January 2013: I think you should vow to stay away from this woman, and her partners, for the rest of your life. It's an extremely toxic 'friendship'.
If you feel you MUST get one up on this woman by telling her you had her man, have the decency to wait until af... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his best female friend are too close for my comfort. What can I do?
Q. My Boyfriend and his best friend are really close, too close for my own comfort zone, she texts him saying she loves him and he does the same, at all hours of the night at that. They are both really touchy with one another and it drives me crazy an...
A. 7 January 2013: I think YOU should tell HIM goodbye, not worry about it being the other way around.
You've told him your boundaries regarding him and this girl (which is exactly what you should be doing - don't feel bad about it), and he's stepping over the... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he told me not to get too attached?
Q. I've liked the same guy for almost 3 years now. He's a good friend as well. Basically the whole time of when I've liked him he's had girlfriends too though. Recently he just split up with his girlfriend whom he has been going out for for almost 2...
A. 7 January 2013: After posting my reply, it occurred to me that you are young to be having sex, even if it's only oral at this stage:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/advice/factfile_az/age_of_consent
You are too young to legally consent, even to oral. Please rea... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he told me not to get too attached?
Q. I've liked the same guy for almost 3 years now. He's a good friend as well. Basically the whole time of when I've liked him he's had girlfriends too though. Recently he just split up with his girlfriend whom he has been going out for for almost 2...
A. 7 January 2013: He doesn't want a relationship with you. It's all about the physical stuff. At least he is honest. ... (read in full...)
How can I get my fat girlfriend to lose weight?
Q. MOD NOTE: This was original poster's chosen title... Hi all Ive been with my OH (other half) for nearly 4 years now - when we first met she was 196lbs at 5ft 10 and it didnt bother me much. I was still attracted. Now, she is 219lbs! and thou...
A. 7 January 2013: I can't blame you for not finding her as attractive with more weight on her. I put on weight in my last long term relationship, and I didn't find myself attractive. The boyfriend didn't care, or at least he didn't say so.
I agree with the poin... (read in full...)
I want sex more than my girlfriend and she told me I can have a F buddy
Q. i'm in a relationship with a girl i love.my problem is i want sex too much.we do everything everywhere and have sex once everyday for at least two hours. sumtimes i have to masterbate a couple of times around this.she recently told me she wont say ...
A. 7 January 2013: Your girlfriend might be quite happy with sex every say if it wasn't a two hour marathon each time! She must be exhausted, not to mention sore. Can't you make do with quickies now and then?... (read in full...)
Girlfriend went off of her medication and changed. Now I feel needy like I need medication!
Q. I was introduced to this woman 4 months ago and we instantly hit it off. Our conversations were long and in depth. There was a connection I have never felt with anyone before.. physically, spiritually, emotionally and we both made a comment that it ...
A. 7 January 2013: Hello
Your girlfriend is probably suffering because she came off the antidepressant too quickly. Zoloft is one of the ones that people are supposed to taper off slowly. The physical side effects of going cold turkey can be absolutely horrible... (read in full...)
Dream trip with my boyfriend ended badly. He wants to move back to his hometown and I can never see myself living there!
Q. Dear all, Hoping for some advice. I've been with my partner for two years. We met in London, my home town, and live there together. I'm 35 and he's 33. This Christmas, we planned what was supposed to be a 'holiday of a lifetime' to Mexico City...
A. 7 January 2013: OP I can sort of understand. The first time I went to Mexico, I was actually a bit scared of Mexico City. All I saw was the slums on the coach ride to Oaxaca - oh, and the armed police.
The second time, I spent several days in Mexico City and... (read in full...)
Why does this guy not respond to my text when I ask a question?
Q. Hi there and thank you for the response back. There is this guy that I like that has this annoying habit of not responding to text messages when I ask a question. For example, tonight he sent me a text message where he was complaining about b...
A. 6 January 2013: Him "hiding" actually does help matters. It gives you more time to get your head straight about him, gauge his level of interest in you, and for you to consider what you expect from him and guys in general.
It's a very good plan for you to refra... (read in full...)
Fear of making love and getting pregnant is ruining my relationship. Help!
Q. Hey, I and my boyfriend have been together for 2 and a half years now. We have had our whole loads of up and downs but in the end, we've always made it through, somehow not being able to stay away from each other. We were both virgins when we got t...
A. 6 January 2013: OP this may seem like an obvious question, but don't you have access to contraception? If you were on the pill and/or using condoms, your chances of an unplanned pregnancy would be greatly reduced.
There are ways other than penetration that you... (read in full...)
BF of 2 years either doesn't pick up the phone, or he's verbally abusive. Is this because he got sex and doesn't need me now?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years lives in a different city, I visited him 2 days back and we spent a day together. I came back to my work city yesterday. From yesterday he is not picking my calls or calling me back. Even if he picks up, he calls ...
A. 6 January 2013: OP, is this the first time you slept with him? Has this been an online relationship (until now) or a long distance relationship? It's not very clear.
You should not tolerate anyone calling you those names. It's completely unacceptable. Don't pu... (read in full...)
Are public displays of affection at work OK or not? In disagreement with my BF over this.
Q. Hello! Hope you can help with some advice on this small issue. How much physical contact is OK/to be expected from your partner when at work? We work in different departments and when we met up for lunch he wanted to walk with his arm arou...
A. 6 January 2013: It sounds like you work in a public building since you mention patients possibly seeing you. It's completely inappropriate behaviour. As CindyCares says, you could both end up in trouble. All you can do is explain that to him. ... (read in full...)
If I can sleep through my husband's nocturnal fondling could I not also sleep through a home invasion?
Q. I found out one morning my husband was rubbing my butt in the middle of the night to attempt to wake me but I was sound asleep through the whole rubbing ordeal. He told me the next morning but it worries me that if when he's working one night an...
A. 6 January 2013: Our brains have a clever way of subconsciously alerting us to certain things while letting us ignore other things. The science of it is a bit complicated but it's to do with sensory memory.
I think your body/brain knew your husband stroking... (read in full...)
I married to a gay man and I'm confused. He didn't tell me he was gay until I got him his visa. Will our marriage last?
Q. Hi I am 48 years old and believe that sometimes my perspective on things can be considered strange. Anyway I am married and my husband is younger then me. We meant in line 4 years ago so our relationship wasn't about sex, I had this feeling ...
A. 5 January 2013: Sorry about your mother passing away. What a tough time for you.
I also have some understanding about poverty in Mexico and it's probably not the easiest place in the world to be gay .... but it absolutely does not excuse him using up 4 years of... (read in full...)
Why does this guy not respond to my text when I ask a question?
Q. Hi there and thank you for the response back. There is this guy that I like that has this annoying habit of not responding to text messages when I ask a question. For example, tonight he sent me a text message where he was complaining about b...
A. 5 January 2013: Hmm I wouldn't be overly impressed with that habit of his, either. If he's busy he could just text "sorry, got to go, chat later" or something. Not just ignore you.
But I'm not a big fan of having conversations by text. Much better for one of y... (read in full...)
Is it possible for someone in the medical profession to have a satisfying sex life?
Q. Is it possible for someone in the medical profession to have a satisfying sex life? I ask this because I am 20 years old and am starting medical school in about 2 years. I have only kissed one girl in my life who was a girlfriend of mine in high ...
A. 5 January 2013: Hello
I work in healthcare and I can assure you that being a medical student and eventually a doctor will in no way hinder you from having a normal sex life. If anything is going to hold you back, it's your lack of confidence.
I know of man... (read in full...)
I married to a gay man and I'm confused. He didn't tell me he was gay until I got him his visa. Will our marriage last?
Q. Hi I am 48 years old and believe that sometimes my perspective on things can be considered strange. Anyway I am married and my husband is younger then me. We meant in line 4 years ago so our relationship wasn't about sex, I had this feeling ...
A. 5 January 2013: I think he could have made a brilliant best friend if you weren't in love with him, and he hadn't deceived you about your relationship and his sexuality in order to get a visa.
A lasting marriage? Unfortunately I have to say "no". Unless you rewi... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 3 January 2013: Your clever wife refuses to tell you it's small because it's not small. It's average. You're basically asking for her to lie!
I expect she's very content with your sex life, so stop looking for problems and just enjoy!
If you keep bugging her... (read in full...)
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