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writes: So I have met my girlfriend about a year ago over the internet, big mistake.She said she does not date over the internet first time I asked her, then I won her heart and we have been together for a month now. She sent me pics of her but this morning I woke her up by a call on skype. She answered with video. She didn't look like the girl in the picture. Was she just tired and looking different or what was going on? Is she lying to me and acting like someone else? I need a serious answer please.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (12 January 2013):
 Dude stay away from the net anyone can be anyone for all u know I'm not a huge muscular stud who can toss tires like fat guy cupcakes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2013): Your "dilemma" is the reason why internet relationships never work! You cant even call it a relationship!This is because (stating the obvious) you've never met in person! Behind a computer screen you can be whoever you want! look however you want (fake pics/photoshop etc) which in turn shows that youre not dating a real person! your dating a fantasy. its not real.This will not work because when you do meet face to face you'll be faced with reality and it will not be what you were expecting because this girl hightened your expectations and youl feel let down that the girl you thought she was/looked like, doesnt exist.You dont enter a relationship for it to end, so you will feel let down and decieved. and may even resent her. So it wont last.Which is why face to face personal relationships are the best way, getting to know someone over the internet is silly because while youve got that opportunity to make each other seem more than you are (lies/decieving) you'll do it , everyone has, and you'll of been decieved into thinking the one your talking to is more than they really are. Face to face you get body language, tone in voice, eye contact which helps to understand the person your dating better. End it, and find someone in person. Or if you do carry on online, try not to give too much away and arrange to meet and know each other better in person before a relationship is established.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2013): depends on how different she looks. I mean, is she of a totally different ethnicity, hair color, height etc??? Does she look 100 lbs heavier on Skype than in the photo??
otherwise, could be that she just looks different cos she just woke up. So do you.
Never consider an internet-only relationship to be a real relationship. So you shouldn't be investing that much into this relationship yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2013): My guess is since she had just woken up, she didn't have a chance to put on her makeup yet. Some women look VERY different when they wake up in the morning, before they put their makeup on, fix their hair, etc.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (11 January 2013):
You haven't been "together" for a month if you've never seen her in person. There is no reason to get too serious until you had a chance to meet her.
Sorry but you have to realize how this question sounds. I'm not trying to get down on you but it's good to remember that relationships are flesh and bone not chips and hard drives.
You should treat her as a friend that you'd like to meet and have a plan to meet her. If meeting her is impossible or very unlikely then you definitely should be friends only, and go get yourself a girl you can actually see in person and not have to wonder if she's a scammer.
To answer your question, people love pictures that make them look there best.
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reader, Just_Me_200  +, writes (11 January 2013):
I was in an "on line relationship" or two myself at your age and must at least half agree with what Daisy_Daisy has said about the relationship deal, of course, it could all be true love as well as several of my friends on line are now married to the partner they found. Anyway to Answer your question, you have a chance that she lied if the picture is dramatically different, like a different nose shape, eye colours, lips and hair lines, etc. but then we need to also consider how recent the photos were, some people can change alot in a year. Also her webcam may have been bad which would alter things as well, as well as the fact it was first thing in the morning. some girls have fantastic skill with makeup, you would go to sleep with girl A and wake up next to girl B just because the makeup poofed, so next time try and catch her later in the day, especially if you know shes been out somewhere and will probably have made the effort to do her makeup Best of luck x
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (11 January 2013):
 You're not dating and she's not your girlfriend. She's someone you are friendly with online, and nothing else until you've met up in real life. Sorry if that sounds harsh. I know you're young, but please be realistic.
So your acquaintance: try Skyping her later in the day when she's had a chance to do her hair, etc. Most of us ladies don't wake up looking our best. And she would have sent you her most flattering photo. If she still looks nothing like her photo, then yes she was dishonest.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 January 2013):
 Believe me.... my girl looks decidedly more like Smokey the Bear, than Cinderella, when she wakes up in the morning.... and I'm quite content to let her undertake the necessary transformation before I pass judgement on "how she looks" that day.....
I recommend that you do the same with your Skype-friend...
Good luck....
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