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writes:So for all who were following my story of the guy who I was expecting to come to my house but never showed up... (original story below for anyone else) Well it appears he's just fine. I didn't contact his parents or anyone, but I noticed he changed his dating profile pic and logged on a few times. Sooo my question now is? What kind of person tells you that they really like you, has you meet their parents (twice for that matter), talks about how they see you as girlfriend material but are worried you will think they are moving too fast, texts you constantly for 3 weeks, makes plans to come to your house and up to the last half hour before the planned date is still texting you as if all is well. And when they don't appear you nicely ask several times if all is well and then as more time passes, you call and say you are worried about them... and they don't respond at all. Ever. I just do not get it. Is this guy some kind of psycho? He was texting me all day, every day, constantly so I don't know how he had time to be out dating anyone else and besides if he was and he liked them, why is he changing his profile pic? I texted him nicely after he changed is profile pic and asked if he could just let me know why he acted the way he did and if he wasn't interested a simple I can't hang out tonight would have been fine instead of making plans with me. And I still don't get why did he act so interested if he wasn't? I mean he kept asking me to hang out with him, it wasn't like I was the one chasing him. I am still puzzled by his actions, its probably the weirdest thing thats ever happened to me. Original story...Really confused by this guy's actions. We met on a dating site about a month ago. Really seemed like we hit it off. We started talking every day and we went on a several dates. We went out to dinner and I met his parents. He wanted me to hang out with him more than I was able to so it seemed like he had interest in me and gave indications he was interested in me becoming his girlfriend. We made plans for him to come to my house and up to the last minute he acted like he was excited to see me and said stuff like I'll be leaving soon, I'll let you know when I leave. After an hour I texted and asked if he'd be leaving soon. No response. Asked/called several times, still no response. It's been 2 days since I've heard from him and I don't know what to think. Did he get in an accident, is he arrested, is he some kind of weird psycho that gets off on trying to make a girl think he likes them and them majorly blowing them off without another word? I just don't get it.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (8 January 2013):
 He is a committment phobe and out to play the field. He has behaved in a horrid and upsetting way so now remove yourself from his life and let him get on with it. He will behave in the same manner to other girls going forward so you will not be alone. Don't look at his picture or check on him anymore. You texted him, gave him time to answer and he did not respond so cut him out of your life. This type will probably get back in contact within a few weeks when he has met other people and they don't compare to you and he realises he made a mistake but don't fall for it.
I was pretty sure he was fine and that he had for whatever reason changed his mind but I am sad that this is the case and that it has hurt you. Really he is not nice. not worth it and not for you. x
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 January 2013):
 ouch... he screwed up.
best thing to do for your own peace of mind is to block him...
then you can't see what he's doing.
and chalk it up to his bad behavior NOTHING YOU DID! this is not a reflection on you in any way.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (8 January 2013):
 I've also had some very odd experiences with online dating and been quite hurt by it so I sympathise.
There are people out there who just go out and do what they like with little care for the effects their behaviour might have on others - he's one of them. Making him a not very nice person, and not someone you'd want to be with anyway. I think that's the bottom line.
There's no way to rationalise his behaviour and I know it's easier said than done, but try not to over think it - it's just a waste of your time. And there's no point trying to get an explanation out of him. Delete his number.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (8 January 2013):
 Hi
Don't worry about him there's more than a few of these types on dating sites. Some other girl probably took his fancy so he moved on because he can.You won't be the first he has done it too I bet,nor the last.He will change his pic so it looks like he's new on there I expect.I never use them now, 6 monthsof it years ago taught me enough.
As for the parent meeting,maybe they approve or not,his women! Or maybe he is proving to them he is dating and looking to keep them quiet - who knows.
You know you behaved right,he just played you, don't bother contacting him,he won't answer.
Good luck with your search
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reader, CMMP +, writes (8 January 2013):
The guy has issues. Plain and simple. Who knows the exact reason, but I feel reasonably sure it has nothing to do with you. It's possible he has commitment issues or any number of disorders, but one thing is certain: this behavior is not normal.
For your sake don't go replaying what happened to try and figure out where you screwed up, because you didn't!
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (8 January 2013):
 Who knows? He might just be busy? Or he might have other dates? Does seem weird but there could be a million reasons. Just get out there on more dates.
If he shows up he shows up.
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