Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 12 January 2013: OP, your wife is very, very unlikely to cheat on you just for an extra inch or two of penis. You say yourself that she's a kind and intelligent woman, so give her credit! Do you have any other reasons to think she'd be unfaithful?
I think you shou... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 10 January 2013: Some women prefer larger penises. Some, but by no means all. The thing about a bigger penis is that it is often quite painful for the woman. Some women (SOME) get off on the pleasure/pain thing but not everyone. If this was a very important issue ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 8 January 2013: I can't say it any better than Yos or the other contributors but I want to add that if you keep obsessing about this with your wife, you'll drive one or both of you mad. She is (so far) tolerating your baseless insecurities, but don't expect that to ... (read in full...)
I married to a gay man and I'm confused. He didn't tell me he was gay until I got him his visa. Will our marriage last?
Q. Hi I am 48 years old and believe that sometimes my perspective on things can be considered strange. Anyway I am married and my husband is younger then me. We meant in line 4 years ago so our relationship wasn't about sex, I had this feeling ...
A. 5 January 2013: Sorry about your mother passing away. What a tough time for you.
I also have some understanding about poverty in Mexico and it's probably not the easiest place in the world to be gay .... but it absolutely does not excuse him using up 4 years of... (read in full...)
Is it possible for someone in the medical profession to have a satisfying sex life?
Q. Is it possible for someone in the medical profession to have a satisfying sex life? I ask this because I am 20 years old and am starting medical school in about 2 years. I have only kissed one girl in my life who was a girlfriend of mine in high ...
A. 5 January 2013: Hello
I work in healthcare and I can assure you that being a medical student and eventually a doctor will in no way hinder you from having a normal sex life. If anything is going to hold you back, it's your lack of confidence.
I know of man... (read in full...)
GF of 6 months is blowing hot and cold. Should I be patient or let it go?
Q. Hi, I started dating girl a six months ago. We are both in our late twenties. She had not long broken up from a serious relationship. The first 5 times or so we went out on dates was fantastic. But since then and for a couple of months she has ...
A. 5 January 2013: Hello
Sorry to say but I think you must let it go. It sound like she's not interested but either can't say it for fear of hurting you, or she's stringing you along for a bit of attention.
If she's not over her ex, that's a red flag rather than... (read in full...)
I married to a gay man and I'm confused. He didn't tell me he was gay until I got him his visa. Will our marriage last?
Q. Hi I am 48 years old and believe that sometimes my perspective on things can be considered strange. Anyway I am married and my husband is younger then me. We meant in line 4 years ago so our relationship wasn't about sex, I had this feeling ...
A. 5 January 2013: I think he could have made a brilliant best friend if you weren't in love with him, and he hadn't deceived you about your relationship and his sexuality in order to get a visa.
A lasting marriage? Unfortunately I have to say "no". Unless you rewi... (read in full...)
I love my BF and we see each other everyday but he never calls me at night. Am I being selfish?
Q. Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for about 4months, I'm 18 and so is he. He was my first everything. I'm completely in Love with him, and he tells me he's in love with me. He's the best ever and he comes everyday to spend time with me. We text ...
A. 5 January 2013: You asked him why he doesn't call you at night. What was his answer?
It's normal to think of him at night time and miss him, because you love him, but think of it from his point of view. He's probably studying or sleeping.
I think he shows y... (read in full...)
He wants to break up --- is my old engagement ring just an excuse?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 6 months where things have been progressing quite quickly. This morning he called to call off the relationship because he realized 2 days ago that I was wearing an engagement ring from a previous man. Please note that as we ...
A. 4 January 2013: This still doesn't explain why he says he only realised what the ring represented a few days ago, when you say you told him from the start. I really don't get the sudden turn around, the abrupt dumping over the phone rather than talking about it ... (read in full...)
He wants to break up --- is my old engagement ring just an excuse?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 6 months where things have been progressing quite quickly. This morning he called to call off the relationship because he realized 2 days ago that I was wearing an engagement ring from a previous man. Please note that as we ...
A. 4 January 2013: If I understand this correctly, he knew from the start that the ring was an engagement ring from your ex fiancé. Which does make it odd that he only got offended by it two days ago. Unless it's been building up and he couldn't say anything, then ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 3 January 2013: Your clever wife refuses to tell you it's small because it's not small. It's average. You're basically asking for her to lie!
I expect she's very content with your sex life, so stop looking for problems and just enjoy!
If you keep bugging her... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mum that I don't like my birthday presents or just keep them, throw them in the back of the wardrobe and never use them?
Q. i had a rough year last year. i lost my grandfather, i lost my horse, i became ill with anemia and just when i thought as a family we could wave goodbye to the bad times my dad was diagnosed with kidney cancer just before christmas although he is ...
A. 3 January 2013: Did your mum keep the receipts? If yes, you could suggest that you go out shopping together, return the items you don't like and choose some things you do like? It might be good for you both to have a day out, having a bit of retail therapy and ... (read in full...)
I had sex with a random guy to get over my ex and now I feel so ashamed....
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, first love, and the guy i lost my virginity to a few weeks ago and i still feel incrediblely heart broken. I went to a party and drunk loads to try and forget about it and ended up having sex with a random guy. I feel ...
A. 2 January 2013: Think of it this way. You've learned that sleeping with other guys won't speed up the heartache of breaking up with your ex, and that drinking too much alcohol can make you do things you later regret. Two good lessons in life.
Don't give yourself... (read in full...)
Why, after 23 Years am I having trouble over this? My view of my wife is shattered
Q. so after 23 years of being married this question has come up. Why now I don’t know. Before I met my wife, she had a boyfriend in in high school. They waited until after graduation to have sex. While she was at collage he cheated on her. I me...
A. 2 January 2013: I'm wondering how and why this came up after 23 years, but anyway ...
Your wife is still the same person she was before she told you this.
You are judging her for her behaviour at a time when she was probably quite distraught. Being cheated on... (read in full...)
My BF has been messaging another girl for 2 months. What should I do?
Q. So I'm on here because I don't quite know what to do. I just found out yesterday on New Year's Day that my boyfriend has been messaging some girl, trying to get into her knickers for the past 2 months. The girl in question sent me the proof. I'm n...
A. 2 January 2013: Relationships do include bad patches and periods of boredom. Do you really want to worry what he's up to each time you go through a bad patch or seem bored?
Don't meet him tonight. Sleep on it. Stay strong and re-read the great advice you've g... (read in full...)
Are his reasons for keeping it casual and unofficial valid?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a little over 6 months. We were boyfriend and girlfriend until the end of November when he broke up with me. He said he wanted to break up because he's too stressed because he got fired from his job and he needed t...
A. 2 January 2013: Hello
I don't think it's a valid reason, no. How does being official with you add to his stress levels?
Does being casual/ unofficial mean that you are both free to see other people? You say he's not seeing anyone else, but do you think he's k... (read in full...)
Am I being used for sex? Is this love?
Q. I feel like I'm being used for sex, but the only time we ever spend time with each other is arguments of me not loving him, not being attracted to him that why I'm not always wanting sex. Today first time in like for never he says I'm not emotiona...
A. 2 January 2013: Being in love shouldn't be as hard work as this. You question whether it's love, and I don't think it is, at least not on your side. You don't sound happy at all.
Why can't you leave him? Couples break up all the time, and yes it does hurt one... (read in full...)
My online love interest said we weren't just going to be bed buddies!
Q. Hello everyone, I started internet dating and first person I spoke to was really nice, we spoke for a long time and he said wasn't looking for just bed buddy but a relationship. Ended up sleeping together, thing is he seems to be treating me l...
A. 2 January 2013: Hello,
How quickly did you sleep with him after meeting in real life?
No matter what someone says online and how long you've talked for, it's no replacement for getting to know them in real life.
He could have been being honest when he sai... (read in full...)
Please share your thoughts on my situation with sex with my husband.
Q. My husband says that he mentally tries to delay his own orgasm and I wish he wouldn't because my body can't take it. Pleasuring him goes on so long that I dread sex. Rather than delaying his orgasm LESS he gives me suggestions on how I could last ...
A. 1 January 2013: It sounds like he thinks good sex, or love making, is about banging away for as long as possible. It's not! It's about intimacy, him pleasuring you orally and with his hands, kissing you etc, as much as penetrative sex. No wonder you're not getting ... (read in full...)
Could I catch something from being fingered, what should I do?
Q. last night i got fingered for the first time, i didnt really care about it at the time. but now it kind of hurts and im worried that his fingers were dirty or something. would i catch something and what should i do?...
A. 1 January 2013: I doubt you've got an infection. It's more likely that you're sore down there because the fingering was a bit too rough, you weren't that turned on (wet) so it wasn't lubricated enough, and now you're just a bit inflamed. It's delicate tissue, and ... (read in full...)
Was his flirting a trick? Is he actually trying to get me out of a job?
Q. I have been in this job over two months, this colleague is now more of a friend to me he is a senior. He is always helpful and we do get along but I am worried what his agenda is now. We do have a flirty relationship but professional one too. ...
A. 1 January 2013: I sometimes bcc an email to my manager or the manager of whoever I'm dealing with. It's no big deal, it's just a way of demonstrating to the bosses that you're dealing with a situation/ keeping them up to date. It's normal practice, so normal that ... (read in full...)
Two months together but not "official" yet. Is he up to no good? I want to lose my virginity with him. Can you give me advice please?
Q. modnote: OP - People will ask so please advise in followup why you cannot obtain Birth Control in US?? Hi all, and Happy New Year! So I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now... we're pretty much a couple even though there isn't any o...
A. 1 January 2013: OP, I'm sure you already know this but the contraceptive pill doesn't protect against STIs and I get the feeling this boy has a sexual history. You might want to consider using condoms as well as the pill, unless he's happy to go and be screened ... (read in full...)
My LDR BF was attacked and is still recovering. I want to talk to him but can't. What can I do?
Q. Hello and happy new year. A very unfortunate thing happened to my boyfriend when he went back to his country. He's from south africa and he came to visit me. We stay in touch mostly through social networks. Two weeks ago, when i was closing ...
A. 1 January 2013: Hello,
I think your boyfriends family are probably too busy looking after him to give you much thought. It's not that they don't care, but he's their priority. If he was unconscious for a few days he was probably intubated (tube in his airway) ... (read in full...)
Two months together but not "official" yet. Is he up to no good? I want to lose my virginity with him. Can you give me advice please?
Q. modnote: OP - People will ask so please advise in followup why you cannot obtain Birth Control in US?? Hi all, and Happy New Year! So I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now... we're pretty much a couple even though there isn't any o...
A. 1 January 2013: OP thanks for the follow up. There must be a way for international students to have access to health care. It's your responsibility to find out. Not just for the birth control issue, but in case you need any other health care. Is there someone at ... (read in full...)
Two months together but not "official" yet. Is he up to no good? I want to lose my virginity with him. Can you give me advice please?
Q. modnote: OP - People will ask so please advise in followup why you cannot obtain Birth Control in US?? Hi all, and Happy New Year! So I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now... we're pretty much a couple even though there isn't any o...
A. 1 January 2013: There are two important things you need to do before you have intercourse with this boy.
Firstly, you need to establish whether or not you are a couple. Talk to him. Not when you're in the bedroom or anywhere else getting hot and heavy. Talk to ... (read in full...)
BF loves to cuddle and I can't sleep! Is it because I'm too warm, or because he's in my space too much?
Q. Hi there... basically I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now really very happy together got a real good honest relationship. I have an issue he is really cuddly, I on the other hand am not so much. I do enjoy a hug now and again bu...
A. 31 December 2012: I suspect you're too warm and also feel a bit smothered? I don't think anyone can sleep when it feels like there an octopus all over you. Other people's limbs on you feel heavy as well as warm.
Maybe you could go to sleep holding hands or touching... (read in full...)
Ok I need to get this of my chest why is this girl saying this and talking this stuff about me ?
Q. Ok, here it goes my brothers gf is saying that she loves me when she hugs me every time I hug her. It was weird she went to hug me and my brother step in the way of the hug like he did not know that I was going to hug her then she step back like wtf ...
A. 31 December 2012: Ah OK, thanks Janniepeg. Wow.
OP, my advice stays the same but with more emphasis: stay away from her.
Your relationship with your brother will never, ever be the same again if you have sex with his girlfriend. Your whole family will thin... (read in full...)
Ok I need to get this of my chest why is this girl saying this and talking this stuff about me ?
Q. Ok, here it goes my brothers gf is saying that she loves me when she hugs me every time I hug her. It was weird she went to hug me and my brother step in the way of the hug like he did not know that I was going to hug her then she step back like wtf ...
A. 31 December 2012: It's good that you say you don't want to hurt anyone. You would obviously hurt your brother a lot if anything happened between you and his girlfriend!
I'm not sure why the two of you keep hugging one another and think you should stop doing th... (read in full...)
Did I ruin our LDR because I asked her not to be online with others while talking to me?
Q. hey frnds my gf and i we live about 4 hrs of drive away from each other and meet around like 2 times a month and our dates are usually enjoyable.. shes 23 and am 22.. she used to work before but not at the moment i.e. stays home all the time and am ...
A. 30 December 2012: I think, unfortunately, she does want to break up, and you'll have to accept it. I am sure it wasn't your request for her to stop playing about on the phone as that was very reasonable. It sounds like she was already unhappy. Being irritable with ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and feeling pressured by my own longings to have sex with my Bf. But I'm scared of getting pregnant. What should I do?
Q. okay so im a teenage girl and i kind of feel pressured to have sex,not by anyone though, i have a certain longing for it.i want to wait till im married because im still a virgin but sex is so tempting to do. And i have the guy i want to do it with ...
A. 30 December 2012: Hello,
It's natural to have these urges, but you're legally underage.
You and your boyfriend must make an informed decision. You are too young to give legal consent to sex, so you would be doing something illegal and your boyfriend could ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my boyfriend is he was/is a ladykiller?
Q. My brothers friend and i have recently began a relationship after a few months of fwb. We really like each other and have talked about moving in together in march after my lease is up on my own flat. My brother however has put serious doubt in...
A. 29 December 2012: I don't think you and your boyfriend are ready to move in together. It's very, very early days and you have good reason to question whether he's ready for commitment. So, take your time and get to know him.
Are you saying you're keeping your rel... (read in full...)
Why does this guy block me after he acts like he likes me?
Q. Why does this guy keep blocking me even after we made up? He is a guy I am very interested in and wanted to befriend with. Last year, he invited me to be his friend on facebook, which I immediately accepted. After a few months, we tried to flirt ...
A. 29 December 2012: Hmm well it's quite possible that he did like you when he added you on Facebook, then realised that his feelings have changed. Or maybe he was just being friendly?
Facebook is a terrible way to be in touch with people - or try to get to know peo... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend that a guy tried to kiss his fiancee in a nightclub?
Q. I was in a nightclub the other night when a guy i know tried to kiss my friends fiancee. She moved her face so that he kissed her on the cheek rather than the lips he was aiming for. They then just continued to chat. I am now in a dilemma as to wh...
A. 28 December 2012: His girlfriend did absolutely nothing wrong - there's no "guessing" about it. She did the right thing; she didn't cause a fuss and there was no betrayal. She doesn't want a fight between her boyfriend and this other guy, so why not just respect ... (read in full...)
We meet up, have sex and then he doesn't call! Whats it all about?
Q. I am in a dilemma here. I met a guy in September at a party, both drunk. We kissed and talked. I bumped into him at a bar 2 weeks later and we just went straight home and jumped into bed. 3 weeks later we meet again at a party and home again. We ...
A. 28 December 2012: OP, I feel that he shouldn't judge you for having sex before a relationship developed because that's exactly what he did too. How dare he judge you without also judging himself? It might be what a lot of men think, but it's still double standards. ... (read in full...)
We meet up, have sex and then he doesn't call! Whats it all about?
Q. I am in a dilemma here. I met a guy in September at a party, both drunk. We kissed and talked. I bumped into him at a bar 2 weeks later and we just went straight home and jumped into bed. 3 weeks later we meet again at a party and home again. We ...
A. 27 December 2012: I know, easier said than done when you have low self esteem, but why not ask him out on a date? Nothing ventured, etc. Send him a text asking if he'd like to go for dinner or a coffee. And don't jump straight in to bed. Hope it works out. ... (read in full...)
He's married but keeps looking at me. I can't stop thinking about him!
Q. i really like this local guy who i see sometimes on my commute. theres been lots of eye contact between us and theres definate chemistry there. but he is married he stared at me one evening for about ten seconds i was in shock and didnt say ...
A. 27 December 2012: I think you should sit down and give yourself some time to consider whether you really want to start up something with an Unavailable man, or whether you are indulging in a fantasy. Nothing wrong with a fantasy or having a crush, but this guy is off ... (read in full...)
Seven months since a guy dumped me. Any strategies to get me over this tough time, please?
Q. I was in a relationship with another guy for 7 years. It appeared to be perfect, however obviously not for him. He told me he wanted to be alone and 'find himself'. Within two months he started a relationship with another guy and seems to have mov...
A. 27 December 2012: Ah darling, you will happy again without him. It just takes time. Carry on with the no contact thing, or get it started right away if you haven't yet - it's crucial, like ripping off a bandaid quickly, it smarts but it's better for you. Really.
K... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my wife. I keep a voice recorder in the house and heard her and my younger brother being over familiar. I am confused.
Q. Hi all, Seeing other posts, I think I can get opinion here. Please suggest for below a thing that occurs in my home. Me and wife, 28 and 24 yrs and are married for 3 years. We have good relationship. But due to some suspicion, I kept voice rec...
A. 26 December 2012: Yes any husband would be confused and you should talk to your wife. But putting voice recorders in your home is rather creepy. I hope you had very good grounds for your suspicion and your decision to spy! She's not going to like that at all ...... (read in full...)
How do I get people to stop gifting me live Plants? I tell them I don't want them. I give them alternative ideas. They all ignore me
Q. This sounds really stupid, but it is getting on my nerves to the point where it is very hurtful to me. The issue is that I really like plants and I have a green thumb. My wife and my in-laws knows this, so for some years know they have been gif...
A. 26 December 2012: I agree with Aiden, and I'd also be peeved if I'd mentioned several times over that I didn't want a particular kind of present. You have to be a bit firmer with your relatives.
My mum used to collect hippo figures, except that she didn't want to ... (read in full...)
Do I try anal sex or not?
Q. My boyfriend wants to try anal sex with me but I just don't know about trying it. Do I let him have his way or what? and anyone that has tried it can you please explain it like what do you have to do and how does it feel? I only really care about th...
A. 26 December 2012: If you don't want to do it, tell your boyfriend that. If he respects you, he'll back off. Don't do anything you're not happy with. If he pressures you, ask him how he'd like it if you stuck a carrot up his arse.
I don't know the technica... (read in full...)
How should I apologise to keep this friendship? I want to stay friends. But I think all he wants is sex.
Q. I went on two dates with this guy. He seems really nice, complete gentleman. however he is only visiting for a week and i think he just wants to have a nice time while here and i don't know what i was thinking. I went to dinner and drinks with ...
A. 24 December 2012: You don't need to apologise to him, except perhaps for being late for the second date.
He's only around for one week. You were right not to put yourself in a position that might lead to sex after just 2 dates and knowing he's not going to be ar... (read in full...)
Was he over the top to break up over this after 2 years together? Was he looking for an excuse?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up in April of this year. He had found out I was on dating sites again. I did not want to meet anyone, because I was in love with him. I used to go on dating sites to tease the guys on them and had no intention of meet...
A. 24 December 2012: I agree with everyone else, it's not acceptable to be on dating sites when you're in a committed relationship. It's highly shady behaviour, lacking in respect for everyone involved.. He didn't use the dating site activity as an excuse to dump you, ... (read in full...)
Mom can stop being critical of me. How do I handle this. Her comments are Very unkind.
Q. My Mother is a total control freak and I can't get her to stop nagging me. I am 21 years old and have been on my on for just over two years but school and finances have left me in a position where I have to move back in with my parents. I pay the...
A. 22 December 2012: OP please can you just clarify something. You can't have six screaming babies when you're age 18-21. Is this a typo? ... (read in full...)
How can I help? What can my Girl friend do about her obsessed ex?
Q. My girlfriends has an obsessed man who just refuses to leave her alone he keeps texting her and she can't change because her number is on her C.Vs that she has given in Her mother has passed away recently and today is her burial,I could not attend...
A. 22 December 2012: Hello
I think she should be fine at the funeral. There will be plenty of other people around so he won't be able to harass her.
Your girlfriend should change her number when she gets a new job. Or she can simply contact the places she has h... (read in full...)
We work in the same building. She initiated the conversation. Could there be a chance that she's interested in me?
Q. I work in quite a large organisation in a big office building. For the past 3 days I have walked from the car park into the building behind the same girl. This has been purely coincidental however I won't complain as she is very beautiful. Tod...
A. 22 December 2012: *wherever not whoever.
And I hope you don't agree with Bruce that all women are gold diggers ;0)... (read in full...)
We work in the same building. She initiated the conversation. Could there be a chance that she's interested in me?
Q. I work in quite a large organisation in a big office building. For the past 3 days I have walked from the car park into the building behind the same girl. This has been purely coincidental however I won't complain as she is very beautiful. Tod...
A. 22 December 2012: Hi
I think she could well be interested. She's noticed you and she initiated chatting to you. She could also just be a friendly person.
Maybe next time you bump into her, ask her for a coffee? It should be more relaxed than talking in the f... (read in full...)
Seven months since a guy dumped me. Any strategies to get me over this tough time, please?
Q. I was in a relationship with another guy for 7 years. It appeared to be perfect, however obviously not for him. He told me he wanted to be alone and 'find himself'. Within two months he started a relationship with another guy and seems to have mov...
A. 21 December 2012: Hello
It's not the best time of year to be single, and much worse when it's your first Christmas without your ex. You're bound to be feeling low, so don't beat yourself up about it but maybe resolve to move on in the New Year?
I can see why... (read in full...)
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