Why did my ex girlfriend do this?
Q. I'm very disturbed by an action my ex girlfriend did. Why I don't like her in any way is because, when she dumped me, she lied to me, and wanted to be friends. This is why I don't like, nor do I trust her. However, this action isn't what d...
A. 22 April 2013: So you can take control by either blocking her or removing her as a friend. Don't put too much thought in to it, just do it. And carry on with your life as before the 'unblock'. ... (read in full...)
Seven months since a guy dumped me. Any strategies to get me over this tough time, please?
Q. I was in a relationship with another guy for 7 years. It appeared to be perfect, however obviously not for him. He told me he wanted to be alone and 'find himself'. Within two months he started a relationship with another guy and seems to have mov...
A. 27 December 2012: Ah darling, you will happy again without him. It just takes time. Carry on with the no contact thing, or get it started right away if you haven't yet - it's crucial, like ripping off a bandaid quickly, it smarts but it's better for you. Really.
K... (read in full...)
We work in the same building. She initiated the conversation. Could there be a chance that she's interested in me?
Q. I work in quite a large organisation in a big office building. For the past 3 days I have walked from the car park into the building behind the same girl. This has been purely coincidental however I won't complain as she is very beautiful. Tod...
A. 22 December 2012: *wherever not whoever.
And I hope you don't agree with Bruce that all women are gold diggers ;0)... (read in full...)
We work in the same building. She initiated the conversation. Could there be a chance that she's interested in me?
Q. I work in quite a large organisation in a big office building. For the past 3 days I have walked from the car park into the building behind the same girl. This has been purely coincidental however I won't complain as she is very beautiful. Tod...
A. 22 December 2012: Hi
I think she could well be interested. She's noticed you and she initiated chatting to you. She could also just be a friendly person.
Maybe next time you bump into her, ask her for a coffee? It should be more relaxed than talking in the f... (read in full...)
Seven months since a guy dumped me. Any strategies to get me over this tough time, please?
Q. I was in a relationship with another guy for 7 years. It appeared to be perfect, however obviously not for him. He told me he wanted to be alone and 'find himself'. Within two months he started a relationship with another guy and seems to have mov...
A. 21 December 2012: Hello
It's not the best time of year to be single, and much worse when it's your first Christmas without your ex. You're bound to be feeling low, so don't beat yourself up about it but maybe resolve to move on in the New Year?
I can see why... (read in full...)
I am worried about his drinking, and how he'll react about his son's birthday and what he'll do when he'd drunk!
Q. It's the anniversary of when i started seeing my boyfriend tomorrow. We have been together for a year. He is much older than me, and has bipolar disorder. I'm really worried though. He got drunk yesterday, a nd is out drinking again today, and i'm ...
A. 21 December 2012: p.s. my answer was in order of the points you raised in your post, but his out of control drinking and lack of regard for you are what worry me the most. "Usually very reliable" isn't good enough. ... (read in full...)
I am worried about his drinking, and how he'll react about his son's birthday and what he'll do when he'd drunk!
Q. It's the anniversary of when i started seeing my boyfriend tomorrow. We have been together for a year. He is much older than me, and has bipolar disorder. I'm really worried though. He got drunk yesterday, a nd is out drinking again today, and i'm ...
A. 21 December 2012: Yes I think you should wait for him to contact you. Why should you try to contact him again? Yes it's your anniversary, but I can see so many red flags in your post; I know this isn't what you are asking (at least, not directly) but anyway ...
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I thought the second date went well but she never responded to my text afterwards. Is she not interested? Should I ask her out again?
Q. I met a woman online and we had a fantastic first date. She is very pretty, funny, kind and we had a lot in common. She asked me out on a 2nd date and texted me afterwards saying she had a great time and she couldn't wait to get together again. ...
A. 19 December 2012: Maybe she feels that because she initiated the second date, you should initiate the third. Maybe she doesn't want to appear too keen. I agree with the other advise: call her! Good luck. ... (read in full...)
He got pissed off and told me to leave when I told him I didn't like oral sex...
Q. I have been talking to this guy for 4 months now and I think the relationship is based on sex. He drives trucks and is on the road a lot which leaves us to hang out 2 or 3 times a week. Whenever we hang out its just at his house we watch movies eat ...
A. 19 December 2012: What you do from here is be very glad you didn't give in and you said "no" when you did. Don't contact him, don't speak to him at all, unless he contacts you in which case feel free to tell him how you feel, keeping it cool and concise. Then no ... (read in full...)
Ex was peeing while talking to me?
Q. Ex bf of many years talking to on the phone often. he has now married. the other night i was talking to hime on the phone and he was taking a leak while he was talking to me. Is this a way some married guys get off?? or does he just feel comfortable ...
A. 18 December 2012: Does he have to hide in the bathroom to phone you when his wife's around? If yes, he possibly feels he is making it more authentic by taking a piss while he's there.
If not, he's just emptying his bladder. I don't know anyone who gets off on d... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, then got upset at me joining a dating website, so he joined the same site. What do I make of this?
Q. He dumped me just over a month ago, out of the blue. we were serious and talked about a future. He said he wanted to be alone, not date anyone and focus on his kids. Since then I have told him how much I love him and want to work it out. He has r...
A. 18 December 2012: *Continue not contribute. Sorry. ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, then got upset at me joining a dating website, so he joined the same site. What do I make of this?
Q. He dumped me just over a month ago, out of the blue. we were serious and talked about a future. He said he wanted to be alone, not date anyone and focus on his kids. Since then I have told him how much I love him and want to work it out. He has r...
A. 18 December 2012: Did you join Match to make him jealous? How did he know you had joined? I think he is feeling jealous but don't know why he joined up, except to hurt you - he said that he wouldn't date anyone for the moment, didn't he?
I think you should ignore h... (read in full...)
I agreed to FWB, but now I'm not so sure!
Q. 10 months ago my friend gave her friend from college my number, we got talking and arranged to meet up (me, him, my friend and her boyfriend) and go on a day out. My friend told me that he liked me however I didn't feel the same and somehow we ...
A. 18 December 2012: I agree with all the other advise you've been given, and would like to add that I don't think you should be sending him pictures. They could get into the wrong hands. Good luck and please wait for someone who likes you and wants you for more than ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else not like using skype to talk to their partner?
Q. I was wondering if anybody else dislikes talking to their partner through things like Skype and windows messenger? I'm absolutely fine talking to my boyfriend face to face, on the phone, email, text... but through Skype I don't know, there's so...
A. 17 December 2012: I feel the same. Messenger is even worse than Skype, where at least you can see the facial expression (less room for misunderstandings!).
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My boyfriend has outbursts of anger but says he's only expressing himself. These episodes make me uncomfortable!
Q. So I asked a question about my boyfriend a couple of days ago. We're on holiday and he was telling me my top was see-through. We got over that and had a really nice day, sightseeing and enjoying our time together. Then yesterday he wanted to go and ...
A. 17 December 2012: My reply to your first post was that this guy's behaviour is controlling, possessive, aggressive and not acceptable.
I feel sorry for you being trapped on holiday with him.
There's a big difference between bottling your feelings up and ... (read in full...)
Do you think this text was meant for some-one else?
Q. Do you think txt was meant for someone else? Jsut want to know if you think im being paranoid or is this dodgy, A guy I have been seeing for a year now has been away to a friends birthday for the weekend. He has sent me a message everyday while he's ...
A. 16 December 2012: No I don't think you're being paranoid and yes the text is dodgy. You need to talk to him.
I agree with the point aunt honesty is making. Describing the relationship as "seeing" a guy makes it sound non-committal. After a year, it should be more ... (read in full...)
Do you think I am wasting my time on some-one who is polite but not interested?
Q. Hi everyone. Well I am at a loss, I met a girl online, and I think we are connecting. We've talked the past few days sporadically through the day because she's at work and I'm at school. I really like this girl, and haven't felt like this a...
A. 16 December 2012: I think you should ask her for a date and sooner rather than later, because you're obviously not enjoying being in limbo. And you won't know whether or not she's really interested until you ask her out.
It's not clear how long you've been cha... (read in full...)
Is he a player? Have I done the right thing?
Q. For convenience, I am going to call the guy Matt. Matt and I got to know each other at the end of September at a house party. We are both on the same course at uni and therefore spend a lot of time together due to being in the same lectures an...
A. 16 December 2012: I don't know that he played you, because he made the comment about not wanting to lead you on. Inviting you to Nando's could be interpreted as a 'date' but anyway it didn't happen and he took his chances with someone who was happy to have sex with ... (read in full...)
Is this normal male behaviour or is he being overly possessive?
Q. My boyfriend and I are on holiday, staying in my friend's apartment. She and her boyfriend live here. My boyfriend got upset with me last night as I came to bed in my pyjamas and he said the top was see-through and he hoped I wasn't letting N (the ...
A. 16 December 2012: It sounds as if he was awake all night stewing over your pyjama top. That's not normal. And videoing you to demonstrate your top being see through is entirely abnormal and downright weird.
It isn't normal male behaviour. It's controll... (read in full...)
The stranger. What does he want? Need advice.
Q. hey everyone,i'm a girl and i'm 17 years old,i saw this guy of 31 years old in a shop near to my school about 3months,he was totally a stranger for me, but i liked him a lot, anyway we were seeing each other everyday but we didn't talk ,after that ...
A. 15 December 2012: 1) He's significantly older than you.
2) He dates lots of girls.
3) You felt confused and afraid when you met him.
These are your instincts kicking in. Pay attention to them!
I don't think he's the right guy for you to be pursuing, and ... (read in full...)
How do you go from being friends to friends with benefits?
Q. How do you go from being friends to friends with benefits. Heres the short version. I Met a guy december last year, foundnout gis nane and added him on fb. I basically told him straight out i only wanted sex and he did to. Well we.flirted (quite ...
A. 15 December 2012: It sounds as if he wants a girlfriend rather than a FWB. He's had 2 girlfriends since he's known you, and importantly he isn't over his ex.
Maybe he hopes to get back with his ex? He might not want to complicate things by starting somethin... (read in full...)
My FWB says that he's not cheating on his girlfriend with me because apparently I'm not a service , I'm just a girl who he likes in lust
Q. I am 19 years of age and now is in an affair with a man who is 29 who has a girlfriend he has been dating for 8 years. He says shes his best friend, with her he has a so called life , clean clothes to wear. But he is unsure if he wants/or is going ...
A. 11 December 2012: I wonder if his girlfriend of 8 years would agree with his definition of cheating. It's a definition I don't understand. Of course he's a cheat.
You are setting yourself very low standards. Firstly, you're in this affair with a man who's not emot... (read in full...)
Should I allow my boyfriend to do something sexually that I'm not comfortable with?
Q. My boyfriend of over a year keeps asking me to let him cum on my face... We've done literally everything else and I feel he should be happy with all the stuff we do. He just won't leave me alone about it. I think I would feel really disgusting and ...
A. 10 December 2012: Have you told him you'd feel disgusted and degraded? And if yes, he's carrying on bullying you about this?
You need to put your foot down and tell him no, it's never ever going to happen so he might as well drop it.
I don't like that you sa... (read in full...)
Why am I so hesitant about having sex with this man? What could be holding me back?
Q. I met this man on an online dating site. The first time we went out he scared me be the way he was over excited to see me. He literally ran towards me to hug me I felt so frightened that I automatically put my hands up. We had talked on the ph...
A. 8 December 2012: What's holding you back is your gut instinct screaming at you not to have sex! Our instincts are usually right.
I don't think the 3 months talking on the phone counts. So it's still very early days. And you're right to be put off by his overly s... (read in full...)
Is he a player if he's busy on the weekend?
Q. Hi, I just met a lovely guy, he's South American and seems like the perfect guy. He's sweet, attentive, funny, complimentary etc. We met only 3 days ago and slept together on the first night - there was so much chemistry and we were both pretty ...
A. 5 December 2012: Time will tell if he's a player.
You only met 3 days ago so it's quite possible he already had plans for the weekend. It doesn't mean he's going to be unavailable every weekend.
But listen, you are going much too fast. You are both 'fast f... (read in full...)
My ex contacted me and wants to communicate again. I feel guilty for refusing her request, advice?
Q. My ex has recently contacted me after no contact for six years. We had been together for 18 years and she left me for another man. I have found out that she got married and now has separated from the guy she left me for. The split really hur...
A. 5 December 2012: I agree with the other answers. Don't feel guilty, you owe her nothing. If you feel generous you could send her a polite email explaining that you've moved on but wish her all the best etc.
She has friends and family (presumably) and a counsell... (read in full...)
I just found my boyfriend on a gay website...
Q. I have just found my boyfriend on a gay website and on a dating website. We have been together for 6 months and we are very close and he's really close with my 2 kids. I have asked him about this and he says he didn't set up the gay 1 and that he ...
A. 4 December 2012: It's very odd. You say you have no interest in his past but do you know whether he has an ex who either loves or hates him enough to try and sabotage your relationship?
How did this person get your email address? That's a bit creepy ... I guess ... (read in full...)
I just found my boyfriend on a gay website...
Q. I have just found my boyfriend on a gay website and on a dating website. We have been together for 6 months and we are very close and he's really close with my 2 kids. I have asked him about this and he says he didn't set up the gay 1 and that he ...
A. 4 December 2012: What made you suspicious enough about this guy to go looking for evidence? ... (read in full...)
Can FWB relationships work and become something else later on?
Q. I live with a friend of mine who I have know for about 15 years, we met at school and have always been good friends. We hung out in the same group and when we were at college became closer. When I broke up with my ex I needed help with the rent and ...
A. 4 December 2012: p.s. I didn't mean no sex forever, if you two both want to try at a relationship. Just don't let it be based only around sex if you want more than that. Just because you've already has sex it doesn't make a 'proper' relationship impossible! ... (read in full...)
Can FWB relationships work and become something else later on?
Q. I live with a friend of mine who I have know for about 15 years, we met at school and have always been good friends. We hung out in the same group and when we were at college became closer. When I broke up with my ex I needed help with the rent and ...
A. 4 December 2012: It would make sense to say no to sex again, whatever happens.
If you'd like a relationship then tell him that's how you feel and see what he says. If he feels the same way, tell him things moved too fast sexually and you would like to slow the... (read in full...)
Is it ok to ask the doctor for an x-ray so I can see my condition?
Q. i have scoliosis, one of my hips are flat and the other comes out alot which makes my body tilt to one side. im curantly doing physiotherapy. i haven't had an x ray at all, according to the GP my scoliosis isn't that bad, but i think it looks bad, ...
A. 3 December 2012: Hi,
I think you'd have had an X-ray by now if it was thought necessary, but maybe not. Mistakes/ oversights happen unfortunately.
Do you already see a specialist at the hospital? They would be the right person to ask, although your GP could als... (read in full...)
Do I love my wife? I like/love other women too. Am I a person who loves many women?
Q. I think this is a common issue... I am not so sure. But I am in a condition that I have love/likeness for other women than my wife. I have emotional relationship with few women. we share our thoughts and flirt. I keep in touch with them always. i...
A. 2 December 2012: No, I don't think you love your wife. You don't respect her. She deserves better.
If you want to practice "polyamory" it has to be out in the open and agreed upon by all concerned.
I hope that you're having protected sex (using condoms) ... (read in full...)
In love with my friend but she wants me to leave her alone. She's my best friend and I miss her ....
Q. Hi I'm back. I'm female and been in love with my best friend also female. This summer she been in and out of mental hospital for bipolar disorder. We recently been back friends. I want us to be more than friends but she only want to be just fri...
A. 2 December 2012: Hello,
Is this you? It helps to have more information, which is why I ask ...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/she-is-bipolar-and-said-she-cant-be.html
I think that she has to focus on getting well. You don't mean to, but you may be givin... (read in full...)
We were getting along fantastically until I told her how taken I was with her, now I don't hear from her.
Q. You guys have prevented me from making some monumental blunders in the past..see some of my past posts..But I've NEVER needed your help more than I do now! Scenario: I live in Wash, DC. I'm cycling back from tennis practice when I hear, from acr...
A. 30 November 2012: I agree with your decision: you shouldn't send any more texts.
I think it's quite possible that she was just looking for someone to play tennis with, nothing more than that. Unless she said something to suggest otherwise? Flirted?
And who... (read in full...)
What do I say to my ex when she comes to see me to get her back?
Q. My girlfriend of a year ended our relationship over things I've done. I feel like a part of my soul has been taken. She has given me chance after chance, and I've blown it each time. All I need is for a fresh start, and one more chance to prove that ...
A. 29 November 2012: Why is it that you think you'll be different this time? That you won't blow another chance she might give you? Has something happened, other than you missing her? Have you really changed/ been to counselling/ had an epiphany? If you have genuinely, ... (read in full...)
I have no peace after this relationship ended!
Q. I'm not even sure if this is a question... I just need to write this out, and maybe get some clarity... Ten years ago, when I was in high school, I was in love with someone. I hung out with her occasionally, but kinda distanced myself, because ...
A. 28 November 2012: So she has confirmed that she doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment. Take note her use of the word 'like' rather than 'love' and continue moving on with your own life.
It really is better to have no contact with her or you'll n... (read in full...)
Do I need to take out clit piercing for a pap test?
Q. I have a pap test this week and I have a VCH (clit piercing). I was curious if I would have to take it out for my pap test? I've never taken it out before, but it's been over 2 months since I got it so it's healed. ...
A. 27 November 2012: The nurse might ask you to remove it while she does the test. If it's healed, it won't be a problem to put the piercing back in. ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex girlfriend do this?
Q. I'm very disturbed by an action my ex girlfriend did. Why I don't like her in any way is because, when she dumped me, she lied to me, and wanted to be friends. This is why I don't like, nor do I trust her. However, this action isn't what d...
A. 27 November 2012: OP, I'll explain what I meant by telling you a bit about me.
I had a relationship with a guy who had an unusual medical problem. I had never heard of it before I met him. I got to know him, got to know about his condition and was interest... (read in full...)
Why did my ex girlfriend do this?
Q. I'm very disturbed by an action my ex girlfriend did. Why I don't like her in any way is because, when she dumped me, she lied to me, and wanted to be friends. This is why I don't like, nor do I trust her. However, this action isn't what d...
A. 26 November 2012: No, I don't think you should report the pin for fraudulent use because she probably didn't do it in a way to be hurtful or disrespectful, or even to 'sugarcoat' you. Since you don't have an account, she probably didn't think you'd even be aware of ... (read in full...)
I fell for him and my heart is broken
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I am suffering extreme heartache and I would like to know how to get over it or reduce the pain. I'm waking up at 6am crying as reality hits that he doesn't want me and has left me and for someone else. It's going to sou...
A. 26 November 2012: I agree wholeheartedly with anon below me. Comments trashing all Internet dating and those who use them are unhelpful and hurtful. These unconstructive remarks are always made by anons.
There's nothing wrong with how you met this guy. What Int... (read in full...)
Help me to be reasonable and rational about this matter please? My Bf wants me to use Birth Control Pills but I think it's risky.
Q. I have been seeing this guy almost for a year. We are thinking about starting to have a future together soon. We are no longer use condoms every time after we became exclusive and came clean to each other about STD history and all. We sometime...
A. 25 November 2012: I definitely think it's worth going and discussing this with a doctor, not just relying on google and your answers here.
There are so many options for contraceptive pills, and some have worse side effects than others. For many people, there wi... (read in full...)
I am in love but he doesn't want to commit!
Q. I'm in love with someone who at the moment doesn't to commit to a relationship. Right now, we both are good friends, we help each other, hang out, text and call each other regularly. We have grown to trust each other and have each others'backs. When ...
A. 24 November 2012: But OP you *know* that he has commitment issues. Do you really want to date someone who has these issues? Wouldn't it be easier, long term, to find someone else who doesn't have these issues?
If you are kissing and cuddling, your feelings are goin... (read in full...)
He cried, real tears, but guess what!
Q. Just over two months ago I left my dating site obsessed boyfriend of four years. I accepted dating sites were part of his life and always will be. He has suddenly started trying to get me back again with the same old bull shit and accused me of ...
A. 23 November 2012: What you have to do to get over it is not have any contact with him at all.
He won't leave you alone because he wants to have his cake and eat it too, and he knows that in the past you've listened to him when he's asked for a second chance (... (read in full...)
I have no peace after this relationship ended!
Q. I'm not even sure if this is a question... I just need to write this out, and maybe get some clarity... Ten years ago, when I was in high school, I was in love with someone. I hung out with her occasionally, but kinda distanced myself, because ...
A. 22 November 2012: It's normal to still be thinking of her. Try reading this link:
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/you-cant-erase-an-ex-from-your-mind-but-you-can-reduce-their-power-and-keep-pushing-forward/
You'll be ok. ... (read in full...)
I have no peace after this relationship ended!
Q. I'm not even sure if this is a question... I just need to write this out, and maybe get some clarity... Ten years ago, when I was in high school, I was in love with someone. I hung out with her occasionally, but kinda distanced myself, because ...
A. 15 November 2012: It does suck, and nobody can explain it ... probably not even her. People change, feelings change, situations change.
The only thing I can say is that you're not alone. I don't know any adult who hasn't been heartbroken to some extent. It's mis... (read in full...)
I have no peace after this relationship ended!
Q. I'm not even sure if this is a question... I just need to write this out, and maybe get some clarity... Ten years ago, when I was in high school, I was in love with someone. I hung out with her occasionally, but kinda distanced myself, because ...
A. 15 November 2012: At what point was she a good person? She wasn't the first time you met her, and she isn't now? Was it when you started dating after the ten year absence? People can put on their "best behaviour" but I suppose it's hard to keep that up in the long ... (read in full...)
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