New relationship, how long should I wait before having sex, I'm 28?
Q. how long should a nice girl wait before getting naked w/ a new boy? i'm 28 and dating again for the first time in years. my ex was the first guy i ever went 'all the way' with, and we'd been dating close to two years before we did (i was 25 when w...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi,
It's all a case of trust, is he looking for a quick shag to move onto the next conquest? I think the answer is no as by the sounds of it he is behaving like a gentleman.
So he will not want to spoil the relationship and make you think he is ... (read in full...)
He's big, but he cums too quickly, how can we deal with this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been together for alittle over a month and just recently started having sex. My boyfriend has quite a big penis. We have had sex about five times now and each time he ejaculates quite quickly which doesn't give me enough ...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi,
a lot of friction on the penis can cause most guys to cum quicker. This is one time being big is not a help, as he is most likely a tight fit for you. As the others said enjoy plenty of foreplay to get you loosened up ( and to bring you off ... (read in full...)
Do guys really want platonic (best) friendships with women or have secret expectations?
Q. Do guys really want platonic (best) friendships with women? I always thought it was great, that two people could be best friends no matter what gender/orientation, but recently on these relationship sites it seems straight guys who are best bud...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi,
Sorry to say but in the real world it is very rare for a man to develop an ongoing friendship with a women purely for platonic reasons. There are plenty of guys who do but usually these are old college mates or workmates or whatever.
I can ... (read in full...)
Have been sleeping with one of my father's favourite employees, if this continues should I tell my parents?
Q. My parents own a company that I have worked at for the past 3 years. Through out my years there I have always been attracted to one of the men that work there. Recently we've hung out and have begun sleeping with each other. As it stands now things ...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi,
first off, everyone in your workplace knows, don't kid yourself about that ( save for your father probably ).
No two people can share emotions without it becoming obvious to everyone around them. So it is really a case of whether you want to ... (read in full...)
Does anyone out there agree with staying a virgin until they are married?
Q. heyx I was just curious, is there anyone out there that agrees with me when i say i want to stay a virgin til im married? Does anyone think thats good? Im 15, and believe that you shouldnt have sex untill you have had your wedding. do you think th...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi,
most people offering advice are religious here. So if you plan on marrying someone religious as well you should be fine to wait. But I read statistics which said 83% of girls commiting to chastity vowes will end up having sex before they are ... (read in full...)
We were flirting and he was touching my leg...now we are going out...is this a date??
Q. I went on a business meeting and met a guy as part of business and just had a casual meeting over a few drinks. Through out the meeting, he was flirting, touching my leg, laughing etc, and then 4 days after the meeting he left a message on my ...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi,
Just a warning , when you go out for drinks and if he tries to soften you up for sex ask him for his home phone number, if he doesnt give it to you it means hes married.
Otherwise enjoy yourself, and yes it is a date, but he should have ... (read in full...)
I didn't turn him on
Q. Hello - I am not sure if i just need to sound off, or need some feedback...I think feedback to be honest. I recently met a man who is 43. I liked him alot and fancied him alot. I am mid 40, divorced and (about a year ago) out of a LTR. Th...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi,
as a guy let me tell your first. It has nothing to do with you not turning him on: nothing - that's crazy talk and you need to get it out of your head.
Now, it's a case of how much you like him as to how much effort you can put in to find out... (read in full...)
Are black men different in bed?
Q. Hi I would like some honest answer. my wife and i have a great sex life that involves having sex with others at swinger parties. resently we have watched a few home made pornos from the net that have had large black fellow in. these have realy...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi,
Is the issue really over black versus white or the fact she prefers guy's with big cocks (does she prefer these blokes at your swingers parties?).
There is no evidence to prove ( save for first hand accounts ) that black men are better in bed t... (read in full...)
What do you do when you have a holiday booked with another partner when the ex whom you still love asks for reconciliation?
Q. what would you do if an ex boyfriend you really loved split up with you, you had no contact with him for months and you made a go of things with someone else and you have got a holiday booked with them. then the ex texts and tells you they love you ...
A. 24 February 2008: Hi,
I am wondering if your ex knows about you going on holiday with your new guy. If he found out the jealousy bug would have reared its ugly head and he would just be driving a wedge between you two - it seems a big coincidence that he is putt... (read in full...)
He said we'd practice more next time so I don't think he enjoyed it as much? How to improve it?
Q. Hi. I am 18 and a virgin and have been going out with my boyfriend for two months. The other night we got pretty intimate and it got a little awkward and i'd just like some opinions from you what i should do. I gave him a handjob and while he came i ...
A. 24 February 2008: First of all the handjob.
A friend of mine who claims to be the handjob queen says one thing is the key to given great handjobs: Wetness.
Keep his dick wet either with your spit ( not as gross as it sounds ) or easier lube: just go to your loca... (read in full...)
My friend and I started getting cosy, but I refused sex, he went into a sulk, I'm not talking to him now, am I right?
Q. so there's this guy i truly care for,but i dont think he feels the same way he's going through a hard time and a separation right now and he has 3 kids.we fooled around and he wanted to have sex but i said no to him evr since that he has had very ...
A. 22 February 2008: Good on you. Life's too short to be dealing with this type of crap. ... (read in full...)
Am I boring? What things could I do when we stay in at night so he doesn't get bored?
Q. Hi, Just a quick history. I have been with my partner for nearly 3 years, and we are great together. We are open and honest with eachother and always talk to eachother if one of us is upset or angry with the other. Just recently he broug...
A. 22 February 2008: Hi,
are you ready for some home truths about your boyfriend?
He has got you wrapped around his little finger, he knows that he only has to whinge and complain and you will come running. What a jerk. How about for once he finds something to amuse hi... (read in full...)
I can't get the fact that she went to a 'naked party' out of my head.
Q. I'm having a real problem getting my girlfriend's past out of my head. I know there have been some other questions like this on the board, but nothing that really matches. Basically, I've been dating a wonderful woman for three months. She's am...
A. 21 February 2008: "I would have been less bothered if she said she got drunk and slept with three guys that night."
No you wouldnt. You would be writing here telling us how you are going crazy thinking about your girlfriend sleeping with these men.
The point... (read in full...)
To men: do you ever think of your wives/girlfriends while masturbating to porn? Why would you prefer porn to homemade erotic videos?...
Q. well, i was working with a guy who's very tight with me on a lot of subjects, and he later showed me some new porn dvds he had bought the other day... he made a comment about this porn stars parts which he described as" looking very very tight". ...
A. 21 February 2008: Hi,
well for the first question. I guess as a guy if a women has a small vagina then we assume she is tight. Some girls in porn videos open up very wide so you assume she is not tight. But the best indicator I guess is how smoothly the guys dick... (read in full...)
White collar workers (men) - and their (non)interestingness in bed or otherwise? Are these prejudices?
Q. I have got a question for men...who are in some sort of profession e.g. doctors, engineers, lawyers etc etc or into books. I would like to know how is it like living with them...also are they supposed to be boring in bed or otherwise. ...
A. 21 February 2008: Hi,
I read that 8 in 10 businessmen who travel away from home will sleep with a person other than their partner at least once in any given 12 month period.
Bu the quality of lover is not directly related to profession. A brusque sexist const... (read in full...)
Should I tell him what she said or not??
Q. I was on myspace and one of my friends sent me a message that my boy friends ex had written saying that Corey (my bf) was telling her how he loved me but loved her more than me. But when I confronted him about it he just said his cousin was the one ...
A. 21 February 2008: Hi,
is your age right? you dont sound 26-29.
anyhoo, you are hardly in the position now to demand answers as it didnt take much for you to sleep with another person in revenge.
Perhaps you two would be better off not seeing each other at all, if... (read in full...)
Any suggestions, why she doesn't tell all?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for over 4 years now. In the beginning I was told she was divorced , that I was the first guy she had been with , she had several dates but nothing else. It would never bothered me even if she had been with ...
A. 21 February 2008: Hi ,
It looks like she is keeping her options open or at the very least indulging in flirtatious behaviour.
As her boyfriend of 4 years you deserve to know where you stand, is she going back to her husband? If not why the serious emails? If s... (read in full...)
Why won't he talk about his ex??
Q. Hey, Theres this guy who for the past three months I have grown quite close to we both really like one another but we are taking it slow. Recently I asked him about his ex and why they seperated.. He asked me who told me about her to which I rep...
A. 21 February 2008: Hi,
Gee we can't win with you girls! Every guy is told when you meet a new girl whatever you do never ever ever talk about your old girlfriend. A new girlfriend will ask about your old girlfriend but its just like your girlfriend asking when she... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend feel the need to talk to another male friend?
Q. have a question about orgasms. How can my bf help me have an orgasm? How can I help him to have one? Is it possible for either or us to have more than one? I would love it if we both had one at the same time. Is this possible? Regarding sex ...
A. 21 February 2008: Well us guys cant have multiple orgasms ( proof that God is indeed a female ), but you can. If you haven't had one yet ( I assume from your post that you havent ) I would advise you to explore your sexuality first. Masturbation is the best option to ... (read in full...)
My cheating boyfriend wants to stay together, I think, does he?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now.He's 34 and Im 25 and Ive stuck by him through thick and thin.when his car broke down,i took him to work for four straight months. He lost that job last month, i was still driving him around,spending ...
A. 21 February 2008: Hi,
It looks like he has settled on his lifestyle choice, which involves going out without you and whooping it up.
Unless he is going to give this up, you are going to have to give him up. He really doesnt seem to be too concerned that he chea... (read in full...)
I lost a lot of weight, and want more sex than my man can provide, how can I change things around?
Q. Hi, I am a 26 year old happily married woman. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and together for 8. We are very happy and compatiable. The only problem I have with our relationship is that he doesn't want sex NEARLY as much as I do. ...
A. 21 February 2008: Hi,
just wondering, when you say by 9pm he is out. What do you mean? Is he "one of the boys" who goes out every night with his mates? No wonder he is too tired. If I were you I would tell him that he married you not his mates and you need a good s... (read in full...)
Is my brother in law trying it on?
Q. Hi there, Okay, so I've now been married two months; however my husband is stationed overseas. I love my husband, and aside from being apart am very happy. My husband's family lives a few hours away and I visit as often as I can. Over the l...
A. 21 February 2008: Hi there,
tread very carefully. some may say it is only a wink and a friendly touch on the knee. But as a guy , no one on our team gets flirty like that unless they are keen on you.
You are vulnerable at the moment and this would not be the first... (read in full...)
Was he wearing the trunks when with her... or not???
Q. Heres the deal. I probably set myself up for this by being such a nice guy, but now I need advice on how to handle this situation. We're married for quite a few years now, and last spring, out of the blue, an ex-boyfriend of my wife's contacted...
A. 20 February 2008: Hi,
this could be anything, and most likely totally innocent.
But I can understand how you are feeling. At the end of the day you have every right to ask the question to your wife: "what is this man doing in our lives?"
Men do not have platoni... (read in full...)
I dream my girl cheated on me, am I being paranoid?
Q. i recently had a dream of my girlfriend cheating on me. and in the past i have always been very reluctant to trust any girl that i have been with, including my current girlfriend. we have been together for nearly 16 months now, and no strong trust ...
A. 20 February 2008: "and no strong trust has really developed"
"that i'm weary about other guys being too close with her"
Hi,
dont know if you are ready for some hard truths but you have asked so I'm going to give them to you.
The above two comments from you si... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't think of me when he masturbates, is this a problem?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't think of me when he masturbates, is this a problem? He says men don't masturbate about the woman they love??...
A. 20 February 2008: Hi,
I would say most guys don't think of their partners when masturbating. For me personally its a mix, my girl pops her head into the party so to speak. But its a fantasy play, you see the hot girl on the bus with the great looking arse and you ... (read in full...)
We had an affair since I was 13, I want knew things now but am worried about losing this man
Q. Hi there, I am a 21 year old woman and when i was 13 years old i started working at my local restaurant where i met my boss. Work was a much more stress free environment compared with home life and when my boss came onto my i just went with t...
A. 20 February 2008: Hi,
firstly you dont owe him anything. Despite all his smooth talking you have to realise he was a grown man who seduced a 13 year old girl. The older you get the more you will realise how sickening this is, I imagine you are already starting to f... (read in full...)
'Piggy in the middle' of family feuds and I can't stop crying...please help.
Q. hello, this is going to be a long one, so i hope you have time? Its been bubbling up for years now, it started at my dads 30th birthday party ( i wasn't born yet!)so my mum arranged this party for him, she invited lots of his friends and his moth...
A. 20 February 2008: Hi there,
what strikes me about this is how cruel all the people involved here are. This is your mother,your grandmother and this Sarah person. First they are using you as a vessel to take out all their problems with which is very unfair to you.... (read in full...)
He said we can advance by the time I reach 18 if I still like him. Why shouldn't we date now?
Q. I am 15 and i like someone who is 20. We both have feelings for each other but because of the age difference we have to wait until i am 18. he said that when i am 18 if i still have feelings for him than we should make the relationship serious. but ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
He is obviously worried about going to jail. So if you really like him you will respect his decision . If you dont care then by all means keep pressuring him, but if your parents found out they would probably contact the police , he would then... (read in full...)
Another Example Of A MAN!
Q. I have 2 beautifully little daughters, one is 5 and the other is 2. The 2 year old's father (27) is a long story but to make it short... We lived together in the apartment upstairs from my mom, my younger (aged 16) cousin lived there too. That means ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
first off, revenge is only sweet for a very short period, it solves little in the long term.
Your cousin was only 16 when she was seduced by your ex partner, so be a little understanding that at that age girls are very impressionab... (read in full...)
I rejected her twice, when I realised I liked her she became unavailable for me, although we are still good friends! What can I do?
Q. This girl and I have been pretty good friends for almost the last year, over that time she has asked me twice now to be her boyfriend. Unfortunatly both times I was scared to be in a relationship especially since I have never had one yet and I was ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
It looks like you missed the boat buddy. For one, by rejecting her twice you forced her to deal with her feelings for you, she found that she could have you as a friend and accepted that. But you just cant turn her on like a switch, it is ve... (read in full...)
I rejected her twice, when I realised I liked her she became unavailable for me, although we are still good friends! What can I do?
Q. This girl and I have been pretty good friends for almost the last year, over that time she has asked me twice now to be her boyfriend. Unfortunatly both times I was scared to be in a relationship especially since I have never had one yet and I was ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
It looks like you missed the boat buddy. For one, by rejecting her twice you forced her to deal with her feelings for you, she found that she could have you as a friend and accepted that. But you just cant turn her on like a switch, it is ve... (read in full...)
Don't want to leave my feelings unspoken too long before she finds someone new, but should I tell her now, after her recent break up?
Q. Hi. My (female) best friend has just (about 6 weeks ago) broken up with her boyfriend of two years. Since then we have been spending quite a lot of time together and I feel like we've become even closer than we always have been. The problem ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
yeah its a tough call, you dont want to be the rebound guy, but then again if she jumps from relationships pretty quickly then that is not such an issue.
I think for your own piece of mind you need to know where you stand. It will make yo... (read in full...)
Wondering if many people out there have met someone later in life and whether there is hope for me yet!
Q. Hi, I'm in my early thirties and still haven't met the love of my life. I've had quite a few short term relationships (weeks/months) but nothing that you would consider serious I don't know why this is the case. I've had my heart broken a few tim...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
Just a suggestion. What do you girlfriends think of the guys you met? Ask them for an honest assessment.
I have a girlfriend in her mid 30's, beautiful, intelligent but she is attracted to arseholes. One after the other she picks the same typ... (read in full...)
How can I make my marriage work when I am always having to prove myself??
Q. I feel like a crybaby, i am a strong person normally but for the past year i have done nothing but try to prove to my husband of 4yrs that im not cheating on him. I love him and have never ever done anything to make him think i would have cheated....
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
You shouldn't have to prove anything to your husband if you have done nothing wrong. Marriage is a partnership built on trust, if he doesnt trust you and has no good reason to suspect you then he is simply trying to control you. Either that or h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend, who is my absolute soulmate, broke up with me last week.
Q. My boyfriend, who is my absolute soulmate, broke up with me last week. Only the weekend before he had been talking about marrying me and talking about having kids! We have had a happy fun relationship for 1 1/2 years and he has a great relationship ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi there,
it's no coincidence that your problems started the moment he found out his parents were getting divorced.
I think what you need to do is give him time. Don't text or call him until he has got his head sorted out. I'm sure when things c... (read in full...)
Why are some guys sooo obsessed with anal?
Q. Why are some guys sooo obsessed with anal? Some guys out there think it's great to fuck girls in the ass and some are really sick enough to have such things like magnam flashlights in girls asses on their porn files etc so what's the deal about...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
Its an interesting question. I have to admit that when I look at porn that I can get rather turned off when the inevitable pussy to ass scene comes up. I never get why a guy with a big cock wants to move from the pussy ( where surely it is ni... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is jealous of my ex and blew everything out of proportion, he even says he doesn't know if he wants to be with me! What do I do?
Q. I'm so sad... My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. He's so jealous of my "ex"... this guy we both know, who used to be my friend with benefits years before I met my boyfriend. He's been jealous of him since he found out abou...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
what can you suggest for behaviour like this? It sounds controlling, he is emotionally blackmailing you to conform to his moods.
He sounds pretty screwed up, the last thing I would do is go crawling back to him begging forgiveness, what hav... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to Man up?!
Q. Is there a site where professional women can talk about their lives with blue-collar husbands? I heard something about that on 20/20 or something, but I really didn’t catch more detailed info. When I got married in my early 20s I was a junior a...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi again,
thanks for the further info, it explains a lot.
I guess what most people are going to advise is you either put up with it or leave for different pastures.
Your man sounds like a bit of a Himbo if you ask me, you have all the benefits... (read in full...)
Is it forgiveable?
Q. I went out with my boyfriend and his good friend for drinks last night. We had all consummed a lot of alcohol and my boyfriend went to play poker on the other side of the room with a group and I stayed at the bar with his friend. Next thing I ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi there,
You are going to have to accept that it did happen, otherwise why would your boyfriend make all the fuss?
So it's damage control now. For a start his friend isnt much of a friend if he takes advantage of the drunk girlfriend of hi... (read in full...)
How do I handle his lies and suggestions he'll cheat?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been with my partner a few years now. A while ago I found out he went away for a week with his ex (he told me he was visiting a relative but told his mates where he was really going). After confronting him, he reckoned it was ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry to say but the fact that you accepted him back after you found out he went on holiday with his ex signalled to him that he can get away with anything.
You have to ask yourself what will it take to get you to end the relation... (read in full...)
How do I get him back?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago for a stupid reason. We were together almost a year and a half and I love him more than anything and I know he loves me too. The problem is he says that I hurt him really bad and he just needs time to deal ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
It all depends how you "hurt him really bad". If you were unfaithful to him chances are he won't want you back and you will just have to learn your lesson and move on.
But if it was simply a case of things you said to break up with him - my sug... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to Man up?!
Q. Is there a site where professional women can talk about their lives with blue-collar husbands? I heard something about that on 20/20 or something, but I really didn’t catch more detailed info. When I got married in my early 20s I was a junior a...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
Initially I was thinking that you are being very superficial by criticising his earning power. But that would be a little harsh as your concerns are real and need to be addressed.
First, has your husband always been this submissive t... (read in full...)
My friend and I started getting cosy, but I refused sex, he went into a sulk, I'm not talking to him now, am I right?
Q. so there's this guy i truly care for,but i dont think he feels the same way he's going through a hard time and a separation right now and he has 3 kids.we fooled around and he wanted to have sex but i said no to him evr since that he has had very ...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi,
It looks like he has lost a valuable friend by behaving like an absolute arse. If he wasnt a divorcee going through a hard time you would think he was a real player given the way he is behaving.
The fact that he got upset when you refused ... (read in full...)
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