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writes:My parents own a company that I have worked at for the past 3 years. Through out my years there I have always been attracted to one of the men that work there. Recently we've hung out and have begun sleeping with each other. As it stands now things are just casual, neither of us have told anyone we work with that we've been hanging out together. If it continues should I tell my parents? The co-worker I am sleeping with also happens to be one of my fathers favorite employees...
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reader, bc2283  +, writes (26 February 2008):
that's harsh, he works there and your parents are his employers. Keep it out of the workplace
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (25 February 2008):
 Hi,
first off, everyone in your workplace knows, don't kid yourself about that ( save for your father probably ).
No two people can share emotions without it becoming obvious to everyone around them. So it is really a case of whether you want to tell your father before he finds out.
If the guy is honest and treat's you well then why not tell your father?
Your boyfriend is the only one who can have trouble, if you guys split up then he loses his job.
good luck.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (23 February 2008):
 People you work with probably already know something is going on between you and him, even though you think that nobody knows.
The only concern I would have would be the fact that the other employees might feel your beau is getting preferential treatment because he's getting in the sack with the bosses daughter. That can lead to disgruntled employees.
You're old enough to make decisions on your own without permission from Mom & Dad, but it might be nice to let them know you are "dating" this guy, if that's what you're doing. If you're just doing the horizontal hula with him, that might be a little harder to explain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): I think it would be best if you had this man ask your father for permission to date you. Maybe both of you could go to him and your mom together and ask if it would be ok to date each other. Tell them you both are very attracted to each other and feel a special connection. If they object to it, then ask them, "do you remember what it was like when you met each other and started dating? Do you remmeber how you felt inside and about each other? When you felt that connection?" If they say yes, than say "well, that is how we feel." If they object, remind them that you both adults and can do whatever you want with or without their approval, but you came to them out of consideration, rather than dating each other behind their backs.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 Do you have any future plans ?Are you serious in your relationship?
If you are planning to get hitched, then you should let your parents know.
If you have doubts about him , then hold a bit longer until you are very certain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Hi HunnyIf you are serious about this man then yes I would tell your parents before someone catches on and word get round as even though you have been carefull its amazing who picks up on something like this hunny TAKE CARE LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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