Did I say something wrong?
Q. advice needed please!!!! im not to familar with the dating scene as i have recently come out of a long term abusive relationship so i am not to familiar with how to date. theres a guy that when i drive past him (not very often) always looks at me, ...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi, I dont really think saying "get a bottle in" is so bad. It wouldnt put me off, why should it. It's innocent enough. But there are a multitude of other factors here which could easily put a damper on the situation. 1. You work to 11:30... (read in full...)
Do men prefer women confident in their looks?
Q. I'm worried, because I know I'm not unattractive, but I complain sometimes about my hair, or my make up etc. I'm worried this puts my long term boyfriend off me, because I keep seeing people say on this site that men prefer women that are confident ...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi, what puts guys off more is a woman who obsesses about her looks not a woman who wears little makeup. Personally I hate woman who pile on the makeup it makes them look unnatural and false. ... (read in full...)
Advice on the perfect handjob please, tell me what I'm doing wrong!
Q. I need some advice about how to give a better hand job. Now I have tried 3 times now to make him cum but I just can't get him to. I am pretty sure I have a right grip. Its pretty firm but not too firm. I always get this cramp in my arm and its so ...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi,
the grip really is crucial, its just the same with us guys and a woman's private parts we all wonder if we are doing something wrong.
Here's a clue, the biggest problem I always found was the girls tended to try harder and harder with more vi... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love with my best friend, we are going out now, but I'm very inexperienced, how do we move on to home base?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend and it's soooo good. I'm not very sexually experienced though, and I want to take our relationship (we've been seeing eachother for a few months now)to the next level. This is something which i'm understandably ...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi,
First, just let nature take its course. You will know when its right. Tell him to be gentle as it will hurt a little the first time, but not too much if you go easy.
The most important thing is to buy some condoms and keep them hidden away ... (read in full...)
She left me for someone who abused her and got her pregnant, it's hard to shake of these feelings for her, what should I do?
Q. I had been hurt by my ex and she went back to her ex and really hurt me. She promised me that she wouldnt hurt me again, and because of how i felt i wanted to beleive it and i did. But she went back to him. And on top of that he was and still is an ...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi,
what a tragic story.
While I really feel for your ex , and she is a victim here, it still doesn't mean you should get back with her.
For a start you will have to bring up a child fathered by a man who is an abuser, that child will act a... (read in full...)
She asked me if I found her friend attractive, I said yes, now she's mad, whats the go?
Q. My Girlfriend asked me if I was attracted to one of her friends, and I never want to lie to her so I told her the truth, that I thought her friend was attractive, but I don't want to be with her friend, I only want to be with my girlfriend and I ...
A. 6 February 2008: Message from the moderator to the poster of this question.
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How do I tell my boyfriend's best friend that I will break up with my boyfriend to begin a new relationship with him?
Q. I have feelings for my boyfriend's best friend, we have a lot in common and I really can imagine us dating. How do I tell my boyfriend's best friend that I will break up with my boyfriend to begin a new relationship with him?...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi,
If your bf's best friend is any type of friend at all he will tell you go to take a jump.
If he reciprocates your feelings then I guess you deserve each other.
At least break up with your boyfriend now to save him further hurt - if you ha... (read in full...)
How can I respond sensibly to my girlfriend when she asks why I look at porn sometimes?
Q. Hi this looks like a nice site. Hoping I can get some sensible advice. I'm living with my girlfriend, and we have been talking about getting married. Been together more than 2 years. She can be cool, knows I go to strip clubs with the guys some ti...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi,
It all depends if you think you are equals in the relationship. If you do then would you have a problem if your girlfriend went to clubs with her girlfriends and oogled guys with big dicks?
What I'm trying to get at here is make you realise ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but I am attracted to someone else. Do I move on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 3.5 years, but it has been rocky for the last year. He is constantly too busy to spend time with me, and when we get together he is usually too tired to do anything. I get so frustrated and lonely, and question ...
A. 5 February 2008: No, there is nothing wrong with that at all. Though the sooner you let your current boyfriend go the better. There is not point dragging things out.
But don't rush into anything with this other guy, beware the rebound factor ( things often aren... (read in full...)
Can anyone possibly help me with that "married man dilemma"?
Q. Can anyone possibly help me with that "married man dilemma"? First, I am very aware of the sentiments of most of the advisers here, so let me say right off the bat that I have always agreed on the point but I am in such deep distress right now that ...
A. 5 February 2008: Hi,
just think of one thing. He may seem like the perfect man, but he is still just a man. This means some days he will wake up in a bad mood and take it out on you, he will get sick, he will want to stay at home and do something when you want to g... (read in full...)
AM I A FOOL?
Q. I had an affair which has subsequently culminated in the end of my marriage. My lover attempted to leave his wife several times during our affair but never quite found the strength. He finished our relationship around the same time my marriage broke ...
A. 5 February 2008: Hi,
your lover sounds weak. I bet he wasn't expecting you to call his wife that time , I would put money on it that he's promised her that it's all over . Although you shouldn't have rung his wife, in a way it showed him how being a cheating... (read in full...)
Our relationship is going stale, he's perfect in every other way, now his friend is flirting with me, what should I do?
Q. I've been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now. My boyfriend and I recently got back together after a 5 month long break. The problem is, I don't know if I'm really in love with him. He is dependable, sweet, and loves me. He treats me so well. ...
A. 5 February 2008: Hi,
It looks like you have too much of a good thing. But then again you can't force yourself to love someone can you no matter how well they treat you. Perhaps you should let him get on with his life, it may be hard, but as he treats you so well ... (read in full...)
Is his controlling behaviour normal?
Q. my boyfriend is coming across as very controlling recently he trys to make sure how long I can stay out for and who my friends can be. I can't wear skirts and he is going on a boy's holiday and I can't go on a girl's one. I do not understa...
A. 5 February 2008: Hi,
listen to everyone here. The only advice you are going to get is telling you to dump him and quick. What other advice do you expect? something like this perhaps "Oh, I'm sure he's a really nice guy, and its your fault after all , he woul... (read in full...)
If people only find love when their NOT LOOKING how does anyone ever find love?
Q. Dear cupids. I just have to say I love this site its awesome. Just a love question (sigh is there any other kind. My question is that "if people only find love when their NOT LOOKING how does anyone ever find love????? surly one of the two people h...
A. 5 February 2008: I had just split up from my long term girlfriend of 8 years( literally that day) and was meeting up with a mate for a drink.
I was waiting for him in the pub and looking forward to the single life for a change.
But then this girl walks in the crow... (read in full...)
Why would he say he loved me and change his mind as soon as I said I love you back?
Q. Guys I really need advice. I seperated from a long term relationship of (8 years) and started dating a new guy within 2 weeks. We were seeing each other all the time and he seemed so keen on me, telling me he loved me wanted to be my boyfriend that ...
A. 5 February 2008: Hi there,
sorry mate, but you just picked up a dud that's all. A lot of guys have problems with commitment and go through the motions for a few months before moving on to the next conquest. The problem for these types of guys is they are unable t... (read in full...)
He ignores me when he's around his friends. Is this typical for guys?
Q. My boyfriend seems to ignore me when we are around his friends. When we are around my friends he treats me exactly the way I want to be treated, but when we are around his friends, I feel so ignored. I get jealous when I see his friends showing ...
A. 5 February 2008: Hi,
first and foremost this is really easy.
when your boyfriend ignores you, you get up ring a taxi and go home , no goodbyes no nothing. Or ring a girlfriend see what she's doing, then tell your boyfriend on your way out that you are going to... (read in full...)
I'm still quite young, I want to go traveling and see the world but my fiancee wants to settle down...
Q. Hello, I really do hope someone can help me, I love this man who recently proposed to me, however I am constantly thinking about my friend and I know that I shouldn't but I speak to him quite a lot, against the wishes of my Fiancee. I feel so ...
A. 5 February 2008: Hi there,
This is like a cautionary tale for people who are very young wanting to get married. Your fiancee has been there done that ( I imagine he is a quite a bit older than you ) and naturally wants to put his feet up more. You on the other ha... (read in full...)
Sex was never the greates, now his porn habits are growing, and our sex life is waning even more, help!
Q. I've been goin out my bf for 2yrs, when we first got together we had a healthy but not very adventerous sex life.I also knew like every other guy that he looks at porn which didnt really bother me... until now cause ive been gettin less action than ...
A. 4 February 2008: Just in case you are interested in some male advice ( don't know why you wouldnt be ).
Perhaps part of the problem is that you never had a great sex life to begin with.
With all relationships sex is full on groping hard core wham bam for the firs... (read in full...)
Will the age gap matter, or could it work for us?
Q. hmmm well i feel i had no where else to go so my frustation is here wow where to start , im an older guy and have a much younger girlfriend ,we have been seeing each other for a little over a year, my problem is that im 20years older then her , i ...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi,
Yes you will have trouble. But in a way that is the true test of a relationship. The biggest threat will be from her parents, you are probably only a few years younger than them.
She will also change, at 25 she will be a different pe... (read in full...)
How do you give a hand job to an uncircumsized penis?
Q. this is quite a personal question but i am really desperate to have it answered so i hope someone will be able to. when you give a guy who is uncircumsized a hand job, do you just do it over their foreskin or do you roll the foreskin back or...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi,
easy, just make sure there is plenty of moisture, for an uncircumsized guy if the head isnt moist it can be painful if you pull the foreskin back and massage the tip.
Use lube or spit is fine, but yeah pull that foreskin back , that's why u... (read in full...)
Do men fantisize about ordinary people and is it normal?
Q. I am married with two young children and found porn and a 2 pictures of my husbands colleague on his PC. I am convinced that he masterbated to the porn as well as pictures of his work collegaue even though one was of her at a christmas party and ...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi,
Firstly, if you havent seen him masturbate how do you know its not just your imagination getting the better of you? You can't be sure he is masturbating, and if the pictures aren't sexual then it is harder for a bloke to masturbate - we are v... (read in full...)
We had sex and then we broke up! Can I really be put in jail because of this?
Q. Ok, I was dating this girl for over a year, and we had sex a few months ago. Just recently (last night) we broke up, I do love and care about her, I just felt like the relationship was far too serious, and I did not want to be in anymore. After we ...
A. 4 February 2008: I believe the American Aunties will be best to answer this. But from my understanding the law differs from State to State. But I imagine in any State she will be considered a minor, so if she goes through with her threat you could be in a lot of ... (read in full...)
Do you think it will just mean casual sex to him?
Q. I slept with a guy a few nights ago, since then we are still in contact via text/calls, and whenever I think about him I find myself smiling. He calls me various pet names, which is confusing me, because I don't know what this is, or where I stand...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi there,
This may be a surprising , but not all guys who engage in one night stands want it to end there. A lot of guys will enjoy the connection you had and be keen to get to know you - and gee you two might just have had an awesome time tog... (read in full...)
I suspect my bf is married. What can you suggest? Am I reading too much into this?
Q. I think my boyfriend my be married but I am not sure. We have been seeing each other since last fall and here is what I have observed: We see each other twice a month for a date night (always checked by schedules). We have lunch or drinks 2 or 3 ti...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi,
One thing you dont mention. Do you have his home phone number? This is the one the catches all cheats, they will never let you call them at home ( as they don't want the wife/girlfriend to answer ). If he gives you the "I don't have a home num... (read in full...)
My husband is having Cyber sex
Q. i have been married 28 years i recently discovered my husband was having internet sex with web cam. he said he was looking at chat line and was very excited by what women would show him he bought a camera because they expected something in return w...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi , While I have no problem with a bit of porn to spice things up between couples, I think actively engaging in web cam sex is a very thin line between out and out infidelity. Internet porn can be very addictive, but I can never understand why... (read in full...)
Has he lost interest in me after having sex??
Q. I have been dating this guy for a while. We finally had sex with him a week ago. Now he dosn't call as much and dosn't seem too interested in me. Was he just using me? ...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi,
Unfortunately there are guys out there who are only interested in the chase. They will sweet talk you , treat you like a queen, and as soon as you "put out" they move onto the next conquest.
The best way to look at it is to thank god you don'... (read in full...)
Why did he ask me to sit on his face??
Q. Hello, I'm 15. I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. We haven't had sex before, but we've done little things. The other night, he asked me to sit on his face! So that my front was near his mouth. I asked him why, and he assured ...
A. 4 February 2008: some people really need to get out more....:)... (read in full...)
He makes himself look as the victim.
Q. I have been engaged for almost one year....it's been a lil bumpy breaking up making up...mainly over dumb things and this past sunday we had just made it past a breakup (we had broken up for 2 1/2 weeks) and we had talked and realized that this is ...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi there,
wow, what a coward this guy his. Getting his friend to try and get you to crawl back to him.
It looked like you were prepared to forgive him if he apologised and the fact that he didn't take up this offer demonstrates his character - ... (read in full...)
My marriage is breaking up, but I love her too much to leave! What can I do?
Q. Hi, I hope you can help, i recently got married only 7 months ago and two days ago we had an arguement over mobile phone texts which isnt alot a know but it has been a build up over a year or so of things and she has now walked out on our marriage ...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi,
can I just ask one question, what were the arguments over the mobile texts about? I feel you have left something out here, as it seems a rather frivilous excuse for leaving a marriage .... (read in full...)
Nasty Ex - How do you get over an ex that won't let you go??
Q. How do you get over an ex that won't let you go?? I have been apart from my ex for just over a year, he dumped me on new years day 2007, we are in a really complicated place, he apparantly doesn't want a relationship, yet he sleeps around with ...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi,
he will continue to destroy you until you have the courage to tell him to piss off.
Why does he have your mobile number? It is so easy to change it , yet you haven't ...why is that?
You are still under his control, like a lot of other ... (read in full...)
If a girl doesn't text back, does it mean she isn't interested?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know something, when you text a girl and she dnt text back, does it mean shes not interested?...
A. 4 February 2008: Oh for god's sake. Call her. Boy, people have forgotten the art of conversation these days.... (read in full...)
Homeless poor and pregant...should I try and make it alone??
Q. I am 21 and have been in a long term on off relationship with a 29 year old for 3 years. We have broken it off many times but always end up going back or sleeping together. Unfortunately the last time we slept together i fell pregnant. He told my ...
A. 4 February 2008: Hi there,
Sorry to see you are in this mess. First, as you live in the U.K you can at least take advantage of the social security system. Go to your local DSS office and tell them you are pregnant and homeless. They will be able to provide ... (read in full...)
Should I go through with this marriage?
Q. I need help! I have been living with my fiance the past 2 years and engaged for 1 year. We are supposed to get married in 4 months! I just found out from a friend he cheated on me the first year and a half we were together. He has now admitted to ...
A. 3 February 2008: Hi,
that was big of him to admit that for the last 2.5 years you are worthy enough for him to remain faithful. He sounds like a real swell guy. I wonder what his reaction would be if you admitted to sleeping with someone during your relation... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex with two different men. Now I am pregnant and confused!
Q. I had unprotected sex with two different men a week apart, dec 29 and jan 3rd. I was supposed to start my period on Jan 19th but I didnt, I took a pregnancy test on the 23rd and found out that i am pregnant but I dont know who would be the dad. Can ...
A. 3 February 2008: Get a DNA test after birth. This way you will at least be able to get some financial assistance form the father. This will teach him to put on a condom when he goes out on the pull.
You will also want to get yourself tested out for STD's ,you coul... (read in full...)
She is the love of my life, but her ex is in the way
Q. Last June, I bumped into a girl I once worked with. We never had a relationship at that time - in fact we were both married. A few weeks later, she contacted me saying she was single and miserable (recently broken up from a two-year relatio...
A. 3 February 2008: Mate,
seriously, you have to get the hell away from this woman. I dont mean to be harsh but she is playing with your emotions here and there is only one realy loser - you.
You do realise she will be having sex with her ex again dont you, do you r... (read in full...)
Any thoughts about my flirting with this older, married man at work? Can't stop thinking about him.
Q. Hey okay this is a complicated one, there's this guy at work and we are really close friends outside of work. We have a really good relationship both in and out of work and we tell each other a hell of alot of stuff. Basically he phones me...
A. 3 February 2008: Hi,
In any office I have worked in the guys get round and talk about the "eye candy", especially the married ones.
Do you really think he would have provided a sympathetic ear if you weighed in at 15 stone plus? No, he sees you as an opportun... (read in full...)
I'm 8 months pregnant and 16 yrs old, but I want to have a singing career, any advice?
Q. I have a problem, i wonder if any of you can help. Im 16 years old almost 17 and (foolishly!) im 8 months pregnant. However ive just noticed that i have a real talent for singing and i would love to pursue this career. i dont want to be tied d...
A. 1 February 2008: Hi,
there is nothing stopping you embarking on a singing career after you have a baby.
But that's not the real issue here is it. Just by reading your post about how you want to shoot off to America to be a singer, that to me signals that you feel... (read in full...)
I was going to meet my online date but he revoked the meeting. No sign of him since, do I move on?
Q. I have been online dating on and off for a few years and just haven't found that special chemistry. I emailed a guy from a dating site back in August and he finally replied just this month telling me his job kept him busy for that time of the year. ...
A. 1 February 2008: Hi,
sure he may have lost his job, but given his history of contact with you my best bet is he is playing games with you.
Online dating sites are full of all sorts of social misfits, you have to be very careful.
Put this one down to bad expe... (read in full...)
He hates condoms!
Q. I've recently began having sex with my boyfriend, and I went on the pill, so we could have unprotected sex together (as we know we have no STIs and are regularly checked anyway). Yet, now I've decided to not be on the pill, as its easier if he just ...
A. 1 February 2008: At 16-17 years of age he is damn lucky to be having sex to start with. Asking to have sex without a condom is madness, who the hell does he think he is.
Tell him no condom no sex... (read in full...)
What did my teacher mean when he said "I'm not playing favourites now"?
Q. ok first off me and my bff's were walking down the hall way to get my sweatshirt so we could go outside and 2 of our teacher both menwre standing by the lockers and and to go outside and i said i need my sweatshirt so then the teacher that always ...
A. 1 February 2008: I dont know, why don't you relay this message to your parents. I am sure they will at least be interested in why your teacher apparently flirts with an underage girl.... (read in full...)
Together 7 years, still only 22 , now a guy and my girl's work is making her think about things, should I cut her out to make her appreciate me more?
Q. I am so incredibly confused. I'm 22 years old and my girlfriend and I have been together since we we're 15. I always thought that we would be together forever, however about a month ago i noticed a slight change in her behaviour as she seemed to be ...
A. 1 February 2008: Hi,
You see this all the time with couples who get together at such and early age. It rarely works out over time.
I think you are best to have a break, it sounds like she is enjoying the attentions from another man and there is little you can do t... (read in full...)
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