My friend and I started getting cosy, but I refused sex, he went into a sulk, I'm not talking to him now, am I right?
Q. so there's this guy i truly care for,but i dont think he feels the same way he's going through a hard time and a separation right now and he has 3 kids.we fooled around and he wanted to have sex but i said no to him evr since that he has had very ...
A. 22 February 2008: Good on you. Life's too short to be dealing with this type of crap. ... (read in full...)
He's my soul mate, but I can't go on like this, how can I end it?
Q. For the past three years I have been in love with a man whom i beleive is my soul mate, but he and I are not together. He drinks, cant get his life together and is usually depressed. HE and I are both artists and connect on many deep levels but ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi,
you remind me of a friend of mine who had this tumultous relationship with a girl. He said he has never felt so connected to anyone in his life and when the touched it was bam!
But they split up as she was a crazy person - totally nuts and even... (read in full...)
My friend has sex with an ex, she's getting married, what should I tell her to do?
Q. OK... I have a friend who is engaged to be married. She's been with her guy 2 years now and From what I can tell when we are all together they are crazy for one another. The other day I get a call and she was crying. She went to visit one of her ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi,
Well first and foremost it is your friends decision whether to go through with the marriage. The fact that she slept with someone else ( while serious ) is not really the main problem here (unless her fiancee finds out).
Is she still very y... (read in full...)
If we argue my boyfriend will often call me by his ex wife's name, why is he doing this/
Q. I have a question about my boyfriend of 4 yrs. He is divorced (it was just in the final stages when I met him) and he is bitter about the fact that he had to split the proceeds from the sale of his house etc .. Anyhow, I have noticed that whenever ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi,
I can relate to this question because it used to happen to me. I met my wife after an 8 year relationship with my ex. And yes, for the first year or 2 if we got in an argument ( which were very rare ) I would sometimes call her the other na... (read in full...)
I have tried dating sites but they don't help, I want to settle down but I'm extremely shy and work all the time! any suggestions?
Q. Ok, here is the thing i just turned 26 and im starting to get to the point where i want to settle down, find a nice woman to spend my life with that shouldnt be to hard right. The problem is i am extremely shy. so i don't talk to women. i dont know ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi,
good advice from other people here, but one thing I think should be mentioned. If you are a workaholic it can really turn girls off. New relationships need both partners to spend time together, you might be earning a load of money but what goo... (read in full...)
My friend and I started getting cosy, but I refused sex, he went into a sulk, I'm not talking to him now, am I right?
Q. so there's this guy i truly care for,but i dont think he feels the same way he's going through a hard time and a separation right now and he has 3 kids.we fooled around and he wanted to have sex but i said no to him evr since that he has had very ...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi,
It looks like he has lost a valuable friend by behaving like an absolute arse. If he wasnt a divorcee going through a hard time you would think he was a real player given the way he is behaving.
The fact that he got upset when you refused ... (read in full...)
Do girls like porn?
Q. do girls and women also watch porn and if they do, which types?...
A. 8 February 2008: my wife does, but only on occasions or if I'm away from home. ... (read in full...)
...he was watching porn and masturbating, without even asking how I'm feeling!
Q. My boyfriend and I were having sex when I felt a severe abdominal discomfort and I asked him to stop. After taking a rest for about 5 minutes, he wanted to force himself into me again but my pain was still there so I said I didn't want to do it ...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi ,
just the tone of your post worries me. He tried to "force himself on you" and didnt care how you were feeling.
Now for us guys it can be very frustrating if sex finishes early, but if a man has any idea how to respect a woman you ask how your... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is getting a divorce, now is having second thoughts, he still loves his ex and me, what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9mths. When we were friends he was honest to tell me he was divorced (no kids) so when we got together it never crossed my mind again until November 07. He mentioned that he got a divorce letter so I got ...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi ,
the first thing here is you need to change the first sentence where you state he was honest about being divorced. But he was not honest with you was he? He was still married and in the Process of getting a divorce.
Which means you are his rebo... (read in full...)
How long should a couple date before getting engaged and then eventually getting married?
Q. How long should a couple date before getting engaged and then eventually getting married? We have been dating 3 years and 2 months. I am ready to get the show on the road. What is your opinion?...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi,
there is no set time. But if you look at some of the posts on this site you will see that for a lot of woman as soon as they start pushing their men into putting the ring on the finger their man suddenly goes cold. So be warned, a lot of guys ... (read in full...)
Do I not turn him on like I used to?
Q. Ok so I've been dating this boy for about 2 years now, we love having sex. He used to look at me,touch me,kiss me in the wierdest places (palm of my hand) but now he doesnt even look at me, he still loves having sex at me, but he doesnt look at me ...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi again,
yeah dancing can be rather silly. but therein lies your problem. He has let you know what is going to really turn him on and you are having trouble doing it.
Now, before you say why should I?, I agree that this problem shouldnt be all a... (read in full...)
I don't know how to fully open my heart to this great guy I am with
Q. i was just wondering if anyone would have any advice,for me.i am living with a great guy now and we love each other,but i dont know how to fully open up my heart to him because i fully opend up my heart in the past ,i got really badly burned by a ...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi,
well you know there is one surefire way you will lose your current relationship and that is if you keep yourself closed to him like you are now.
So you have two choices, one, continue like you are now and have a life full of insecurity a... (read in full...)
Am I a horrible person for thinking I can have my cake and eat it too?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He's a lovely guy who cares about me deeply but who doesn't want sex with me. We're affectionate but there's no sexual chemistry there at all. In the early stages of the relationship, I was always the one ...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi,
I wont judge ( but I imagine others will )
Here are the pros and cons as I see them:
The cons:
Your partner may just find out and will most likely be very upset you are being unfaithful - you could lose everything you treasure.
You reall... (read in full...)
My sex drive is gone.
Q. i can just take it or leave it, but even when i take it, i never have an orgasm or come with my partner. i never have with any partner. im 37 and i realise it must be a mental thing but i love and trust this guy im with so what the hell is my ...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi,
I understand that a lot of women can't orgasm through penetration only. So you are not alone there. But can your partner not get you off through oral stimulation?
Have you thought about using your vibrator to stimulate your clitoris whi... (read in full...)
Why do I seem to scare men away? Is there a hidden rule somewhere that I don't know about?
Q. This thing keeps happening to me. I meet someone they flirt, they look for excuses to see me again, we end up having the longest phone conversation and they laugh and giggle and you'd think they like me and then they don't call back or they don't ...
A. 8 February 2008: Hi,
I am looking through your post trying to find clues why these guys wouldnt call you back.
There's only a couple of things I think it could be: first never talk about your ex, guys are the same as girls they just don't want to hear it, all... (read in full...)
Now he wants a relationship I'm not so sure.
Q. Recently a man I know split up with his wife as she had been cheating on him for 6 months. He found out about it in the summer and she told him that her and the man she was seeing had feelings for eachother but neither were prepared to leave their ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
firstly, you are right to be worried. He is on the rebound big time and it has only been a month since he split up with his ex.
This is not to say you guys cant hook up or are not right for each other. You could be the perfect match. But h... (read in full...)
I am having an affair. Part of me wants to stop, but part of me doesnt.
Q. I am having an affair and I am unable to end it. I have been married for 8 years now and I have a great hubby. But..6 months ago I met a guy who just blew my mind. At first it was just great conversation and flirting.. but I admit I knew where it ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
I would think that if your relationship with your hubby was as good as you say , then you wouldn't be having this affair. Something must be missing, and until you find what it is you are liable to slip back into this sad state of affairs.... (read in full...)
Do I not turn him on like I used to?
Q. Ok so I've been dating this boy for about 2 years now, we love having sex. He used to look at me,touch me,kiss me in the wierdest places (palm of my hand) but now he doesnt even look at me, he still loves having sex at me, but he doesnt look at me ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
you guys may have fallen into a routine. Do you have an adventurous sex life? I say this as you guys have been together 2 years so the initial spark has died down and you both know exactly what is coming in the bedroom. I would spice thin... (read in full...)
Why is he watching porn so often?
Q. I just found out my BF watches porn just about 3times a week. We have sex together about more than 5times a week and its always great. I think I am very good looking girl and I love sex .. I do whatever and I am not shy at all ... I found on his...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
don't worry about it. As long as your sex life is still going strong you have no worries. A lot of us guys get very stimulated watching porn ( and a lot of girls for that matter to ). We often watch it as a precusor to sex to get us really g... (read in full...)
My ex is the man of my dreams. Should I tell him?
Q. This is a really sticky situation; I was with the guy of my dreams (since 7th grade) for about 5 months and I ended up cheating on him with my ex-boyfriend of a year and a half. There was a LOT of drama which included a lot of his friends and ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
If I were you I would put all my thoughts down on a letter , it is the best way to lay out your feelings and emotions, and write it don't type it. Explain how you have changed, and how much you regret what you did but it was a mistake and will... (read in full...)
My gf calls my best friend "hun," is that a form of flirting?
Q. hey just want to know what you guys think, i just got back, i was away from my gf for a year and 4 months; i was reading some of her msgs and that's when i seen msgs of her calling my friend hun, for example "hun dont worry about it" - would u say ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
The partner of one of my best mates call's me hun ( and everyone for that matter ). I think babyduck's got the best idea, does she call anyone else hun?
Still I wouldnt read too much into it.... (read in full...)
Should I tell his girlfriend he was cheating on her with me?
Q. I dated my long-distance boyfriend for four months. His friend told me two days ago that he has had another girlfriend where he lives the whole time. I dumped him when I found out. I know who the girl is. Should I try to contact her and tell her? ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi there,
yes this is a tough one for sure. I'm tempted to say yeah go for it, let her know what a cheating scumbag he is. But these things are never easy, for one unless she is a close friend he will most likely tell her you are a pyscho who is o... (read in full...)
My one night stand ignored me for a while, but now has called. Should I call him back?
Q. About 4 months ago I had a bit of a one night stand with a "friend" - who we shall call James. I say friend very loosely though, we have only met eachother about 4 or 5 times through a mutual friend - who we shall call Darren. It was the most ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
yeah contact him, why not? For a start he probably didnt get back to you because of your relationship with the guy who he fell out with. Now that's patched up he's back looking for you, that's no coincidence.
But one thing, you are past the... (read in full...)
She doesn't see anything wrong with posting trashy pics of herself on line. Am I being out of order?
Q. I'm going to try to be as fair on this question as possible. I'm not going to leave anything out, even things that I did. My girlfriend and I have been together for years. Toward the beginning of the relationship, she posted a picture on one o...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
o.k. I can understand where you are coming from. But some girls do like showing off their assets and wearing bikinis is considered nothing these days. Then again I live on the beach and see girls in bikinis every day. This doesnt take away the ... (read in full...)
I worry that he thinks she's prettier than me.
Q. I broke up with my fiance 4 months ago, and I know it's stupid that I looked at his myspace just now, but I did and there was a picture of him with a girl at a club, and in one of the pics she is kissing his cheek. He is wearing a necklace with a ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi there,
this is why I hate sites like Facebook and Myspace, they are just windows into people's personal business. Nobody has any privacy anymore.
Anyhoo, you know that the best way to kill these thoughts is to never ever visit his webpage agai... (read in full...)
How can I get over my wife's affair, we are seperated but have a little girl
Q. I have been married for 2 and a half years. My wife left me 2 months before our second anivarsary. It was for various reasons and there was fault on both sides. I realize this now after several months of counselling. After 4 months we managed to ...
A. 7 February 2008: I feel very sorry for you. It must be tough going through this.
You are big enough to admit that you were equally to blame for the break up of the relationship. But it must be tough to know that your wife wasted no time in falling into the arms of a... (read in full...)
Buying a house with my girlfriend, how can I make sure she can't touch the downpayment which my parents donated?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are looking at purchasing our first home together. My parents have graciously offered to give us a down payment. They want the house to be in my name which I understand. What should I do if anything so she can't come and get ...
A. 7 February 2008: Gee, maybe I should take it back. I just didnt realise how cold and calculated people can be these days. I still dont get why you want to set up house with a person you apparently love and you are already thinking about what will happen when you ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or does he secretly like me?
Q. Me and this guy have been friends for a while and I'm very attracted to him. I used to try and get it across that I like him. I asked him on a date, and thought it went well, but he never asked me to go on a date after that and I stopped pursuing ...
A. 7 February 2008: Oh dear, you really have to start learning to have more respect for yourself. Otherwise you will just attract guys who want a piece of ass to play with every now and then.
the first step, if a man has a girlfriend stay away. That's easy isnt it?... (read in full...)
We live apart, but have been meeting up for 18 months now, I want to get more of a commitment but not risk losing him, how?
Q. I'm 22 and have been occasionally sleeping with a man (my age) who I met in a club 18 months ago. We're both single and behave affectionately towards eachother when we're together but he rarely makes an effort to see me and I'm unsure how he feels. ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
He's got a great friends with benefits deal going now with his busy life and everything.
After 18 months you are right to want to know if he really is interested on making more of a commitment. But be prepared, you might find that he does... (read in full...)
Should I be more touchy feely with my new boyfriend, does it matter to guys?
Q. This is a question for guys...... i just started going out with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago.We had been friends for about 3 years before we started dating an our relationship is really friendly and not very romantic. We have kissed and what-not...
A. 7 February 2008: Hey there,
Don't worry,guys are much less touchy feely than girls. This is usually a question when get from the guys not from girls!
The fact that you were mates first is a sign that you guys are more comfortable in public just hanging out ... (read in full...)
Buying a house with my girlfriend, how can I make sure she can't touch the downpayment which my parents donated?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are looking at purchasing our first home together. My parents have graciously offered to give us a down payment. They want the house to be in my name which I understand. What should I do if anything so she can't come and get ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
mate are you for real? I don't think I have heard anything so mean in a long time. Here's how I see it: You want to set up home with your girlfriend but you don't want to have the house in both names right? O.K if you are paying for the mort... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
change your mobile number!
dont reply to them, don't talk to them , they are doing this because they know that they will upset you. If you ignore them they will eventually get bored of trying to upset you and go away.
"Have I just pu... (read in full...)
Too wet!!! Please help!!
Q. When I have sex with my boyfriend I get really wet. I'm serious.... really wet but I usually don't even cum!! I just get very wet. My boyfriend says not to worry but I think it bugs him. How can I not get so wet during sex??? ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi there,
don't fret, us guys love a wet pussy. Really!! It feels great and we know our girl is loving what we are doing. It is true there is little or no friction when a girl is very wet, but I don't get why you have to have a tight pussy to... (read in full...)
She doesn't see anything wrong with posting trashy pics of herself on line. Am I being out of order?
Q. I'm going to try to be as fair on this question as possible. I'm not going to leave anything out, even things that I did. My girlfriend and I have been together for years. Toward the beginning of the relationship, she posted a picture on one o...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
Just a question mate, what do you mean exactly by trashy? Was she topless or wearing very suggestive clothing? or do you just not like seeing a picture of her being displayed. ... (read in full...)
Having an affair with my engaged to be married manager. His excuse is he'd lose his friends and family if he broke up. What do I do?
Q. I am a 20 year old girl and in a really messed up situation at the moment. I recently started a new job and on a work night out I got really drunk and ended up kissing my manager. He is engaged to be married and he told me it was just a bit of fun ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi,
Well someone has to say it. But you are deluding yourself if you think he is going to leave his fiancee for you. He is right he will be shunned by friends and family for being a lying cheating rat which is what he is of course, he isnt the... (read in full...)
Should I date other guys before I decide to marry my 1st boyfriend?
Q. I just need some advice. Is it crazy to marry youre first boyfriend? I am so in love with my boyfriend of one year. I never wanted to get married or have kids, and now that I see how powerful love is, i can't wait to have kids. I honestly think he ...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi, You love this guy, and sure he may be the one but you are right you have no frame of reference. But why focus on marriage and kids now at your age, you can date for as long as you want, if in a few years you still feel the same way then get... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Easy,
change your mobile number to start with. Then he can't text you. This sends a message as well that you are not in his control. As long as he can communicate with you at any time he has you in the palm of his hand.
If you are able to move... (read in full...)
Do I say something to her about her fling or simply let it go?
Q. hey people just wanted to know what to do...i've been with my gf for about a year now we do hava good relationship..but there's a few things that bother me and im worried it may effect our relationship..we gave our vrginity to each other.. I ke...
A. 6 February 2008: sorry to say mate, but I see it as you being very insecure.
Look at the posts these men put on here about being obsessed with their wives past relationships, you don't want to go down this road, it is full of incriminations and unhappiness and lead... (read in full...)
How can I stay with my wife and win back her heart? Lately we've had a lot of stress from two bereavements, and we've grown apart.
Q. Hello. In the middle of complete shock - four days ago I found love messages on my wife's phone (no I wasn't snooping, but whatever..) We have been married 2 years, together 5, we knew we'd both met 'the one' and have always been devoted to each ...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi, Well I think you are going to have to take a break form her. She has been deceitful towards you by hiding this developing relationship while still married, so she should be the one to leave the house not you. Obviously she has felt the nee... (read in full...)
Porn is somewhat ruining our relationship, as he enjoys watching it whereas I think it's a sin! How to convince him?...
Q. Hi, I have a boyfriend who likes to watch girl on girl porn, but unlike him I hate it, it's wrong and version of porn and I know it's a sin. How do I help him understand how I feel about it and why it's so wrong because he seems to think it's per...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi, I dont hold up much hope for your relationship I'm afraid. the fact that you use the word "sin" is interesting. It is such a powerful word used by religious people to intone their deep objection to something they have been conditioned to b... (read in full...)
My partner still flirts online, can I salvage our relationship?
Q. I have been with my partner for nearly a year, I have been cheated on in the past and my now partner keeps really hurting me by flirting online and with most women he meets. I really blew my stack at the weekend, as I logged on to my email, and cl...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi there, It seems like you attract cheating men. Before you even look into why you end up with cheating men first get rid of this one. What he is doing is unacceptable and furthermore he doesn't seem to be too concerned about it. This does not sa... (read in full...)
Did I say something wrong?
Q. advice needed please!!!! im not to familar with the dating scene as i have recently come out of a long term abusive relationship so i am not to familiar with how to date. theres a guy that when i drive past him (not very often) always looks at me, ...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi, I dont really think saying "get a bottle in" is so bad. It wouldnt put me off, why should it. It's innocent enough. But there are a multitude of other factors here which could easily put a damper on the situation. 1. You work to 11:30... (read in full...)
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