19, dating a 25 year old. Will it work? What will my parents say?
Q. hi iam 19 and going on a date with a woman who i think is gorgeous but she got 4 kids different ages young; oldest is 7 and she's 25 do u think it might work out and also i am worried what my folks might say aswell. just want to know what ur ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hey confusedguy,
don't take this the wrong way , but your last post is proof that you shouldnt go out with the girl with four kids.
She needs someone to comitt themselves wholeheartedly to her, someone who will share responsibilities in raising ... (read in full...)
What would my sexuality be considered as?
Q. I am male and married. However when I was 15 years old I had a "relationship" with another 15 year old boy for about 6 months. We did mutual masturbation, oral and some anal sex. As far as I know, no one knows about our "relationship". I enjoyed it, ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi,
the fact that you mention nothing about your wife and moreover if you even enjoy sex with her leads me to think you are gay.
If you genuinely enjoy sex with your wife and find women physically appealing then you are bi-sexual.... (read in full...)
What do you consider cheating?
Q. Say a girl is engaged, still in college, while her fiancee is 300 miles away. She dates another boy on pretty much a regular bases. She makes out with the other boy and even does it while spending the night in his bed wih him, no sex, but wearing ...
A. 1 April 2008: I wouldnt buy her excuses mate. It's cheating no matter how she puts it.
Time to throw away the engagement ring!... (read in full...)
Is it dishonest to be seeing more than one person without discussing it with the other parties?
Q. I've never really just dated before. So far my relationships have been monogomous and long-term. However, for the first time I am finding myself dating two men. I like them both and am trying to avoid being with one person again until I'm sure it ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi there,
As a guy, I personally would break up with you if you admitted you were dating someone else. To me it would be obvious, why go to all the effort when she is going to be smooching with another guy the next night when I can get a date with... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sulking because I paid a bill to help him out, when should I start pushing him to get over this?
Q. I hurt my boyfriends pride yesterday by paying a bill for him to help him out with money. We have been dating for 7 years and do not live together. He will not talk to me now because I hurt his pride. How long do I let him be mad before I really ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi there,
as a guy it annoys me when I see other guys behave like this. As it makes us all seem like pathetic little alpha males who need to be the dominant ape in the family.
In your situation I would tell him to grow up and stop being a dickhead... (read in full...)
How do I apologise to my teacher for causing problems?
Q. This is another of those teacher/pupil situations... Please don't lecture me, because the damage is already done! Basically I've been obsessively crushing on a teacher for over a year now, I got very depressed last year - I even considered givin...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi there,
Well I was a high school teacher and at one stage I also had a young girl who used to follow me around everywhere ( including home where she would wait outside!)
So I believe I can offer some good advice.
First, you feel you need to... (read in full...)
How can I get talking to him again without seeming too flirty and desperate?
Q. Recently I met this real charming guy, he seems like a nice guy and I want to know him better, when he tries talking to me I kinda avoid him, I don't know why I do that.. now he has stopped trying, how can I get talking to this guy again without ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi there,
well you have some damage control to do. You see as a guy it is really hard to work up the courage to talk to a girl as you think if she is not interested in you she will tell everyone that you hit on her and then you have to suffer the ... (read in full...)
I am female and I have really hairy arms and have 3 tatoos... specifically male opinions please.
Q. Hey all, I would like to know the opinions of the males out there if I could please? My question is on the appearance side of things. I have really hairy arms (black hair), what do you guys think of this? I have just waxed them because I am sooo ...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi there,
I admit I would be a little put off by tatoos. But only if they were prominent ( like the singer Amy Winehouse ).
But a lot of guys don't care and plenty will find them attractive. Personally it would only be a deal breaker for me if th... (read in full...)
He masturbates in his sleep. Why does he do this?
Q. This is a random question! =P I love my boyfriend very much. We have an amazing sex life as well, and we've both said how it gets better and better everytime but he masturbates in his sleep! first of all i found it quite offensive, becau...
A. 1 April 2008: Hi again,
I guess the easy answer to why he stays hard is because he doesnt cum. He obviously enjoys sex so much he doesn't want it to end by him cumming ( which will deflate him by the way ).
I imagine there are a lot of girls reading this who... (read in full...)
Newlywed's husband addicted to porn!
Q. I have only been married a few months now and have recently discovered that my husband is, what I call, addicted to porn. I didn't really bother me at first and he didn't know that I knew what he was doing. But as time has passed it seems he is A ...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi,
all I can say is its ultimatum time.
You should be bonking each others brains out every day as newlyweds yet he's looking at porn.
hell, I do it, but not as a substitute for the real thing.
this is a worry which you have to address now.
... (read in full...)
Should I ask my boyfriend of 4 months to marry me?
Q. I really love my boyfriend so much, we've been together for 4 months and i want to marry him, i dont know what to do about it, shall i ask him to marry me or shall i wait for him to ask me, or has it not been long enough for me to ask him yet?...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi,
If you want to guarantee to drive a wooden stake into the pulsing heart of your relationship then ask him to marry you. If someone gave you this idea I would advise you to never take advice from this person again. 4 months into the rela... (read in full...)
Do you think he likes to flirt with me or is it just normal conversation?
Q. I just came from a trip a week ago from Europe and this guy with whom I have a crush, told me before I left that he knows I would enjoy my trip but just don't have too much fun! He ended the message saying to take care and I'll talk with you soon...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi,
I am of the opinion that no single guy maintains a new friendship with a girl unless there is some sexual connection. This is from a guys perspective and I know of no guys (straight ones anyway) who would engage you like this unless they were... (read in full...)
He has a son to someone else and I don't know if I can handle it...
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years and at the beginning we didn't really take the relationship seriously, I cheated on him and so did he on me. Now we want to be committed and really do love one another.. but there is only one problem, he ...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi,
I think you answer your own question. You will not be able to accept it. The baby is never going to go away and if he is the man you say you admire he will do the right thing and play a part in his son's life which means contact with the girl... (read in full...)
19, dating a 25 year old. Will it work? What will my parents say?
Q. hi iam 19 and going on a date with a woman who i think is gorgeous but she got 4 kids different ages young; oldest is 7 and she's 25 do u think it might work out and also i am worried what my folks might say aswell. just want to know what ur ...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi,
for the first part I thought, what the hell 19 and 25 no big deal there.
But then you brought up that she has 4 kids.
My word, that is a hell of a lot of responsibilty to take on as a 19 year old and that is exactly what your parents will... (read in full...)
Birthday ideas for my boyfriend please.
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend's fifteenth birthday is coming up (it's in a little over a month), and I am absolutely CLUELESS as to what to give him. I want it to be something special, but at the same time, not too totally over-the-top, as...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi,
if he likes sport, get him something related to his favourite team. Scarf, tee shirt, etc
If he likes music, get him a CD he is missing.
If he likes a particular T.V show, buy him a box set of a whole season ( you can get them so cheap these ... (read in full...)
She insists on keeping her male friends! Is it "Ultimatum" time?
Q. Should I be upset about my girlfriend having male friends?She says they are just friends but I'm not sure I should believe that.I asked her a couple months back if she chatted or got messages from them.She said no then today after I pressed her,she ...
A. 31 March 2008: Sorry, you did say that. My apologies.
My advice still stands though... (read in full...)
I understand that he wants his space but I think he might be cheating!
Q. I am not sure whether I have a problem or it is my boyfriend. I will tell you both sides of the story:- After the honeymoon period of the few relationships that I have had wears off, they have failed. None of them have lasted more than 10 mon...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi,
it sounds like he is hiding something from you. But it doesnt necessarily have to be cheating.
You might need to confront him about it. It doesnt help that you are suffering from depression, this can only darken your suspicions.
Maybe its... (read in full...)
Best friend - deleted from life...
Q. Hi Me and my best friend had sex on many occasions and then we decided to stop and he even told me to I could join this forum he's a memeber of, which I did since I was into the same music as him, then all of a sudden about 3 weeks ago he say...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi there,
This all sounds very confusing. Maybe its because you are very upset, but the bottom line is if he is deleting you then don't contact him - ever. If you do you are merely confirming what he said about you stalking him.
why do you want to ... (read in full...)
I have a terrible issue with her past as she has slept with around 30 guys to my 6 women.
Q. First of all I am in a long distance relationship with a girl (33) who I have been seeing for the past year. She moved back to another European country 6 months ago. We fell very much in love, but like many guys I have a terrible issue with her...
A. 31 March 2008: You are relaying two problems here ; one her sexual history and two the issues with you having to wear a condom.
I think the first issue is the one that is really serious though as we see this a lot on this site. Unfortunately for you you are suff... (read in full...)
How can I let go without feeling like I am putting his kids on the street?
Q. 30 years old and have been divorced for 2 years now. I have 3 children 12,10,6. I met this guy who is 44 years old and has 4 children 16 year old twin boys, 13 year old boy. He and his 3 children live with me and my children and he treats me like a ...
A. 31 March 2008: Hi there,
I almost thought this was a joke email as I am left wondering what on earth you are still doing sharing a house with this man.
He's a user who has got himself a moneypot - you!
Some people just go through life causing chaos and sucking ... (read in full...)
If you have a boyfriend and you kiss a guy that is one of your ex boyfriends and you kissed only once, is that cheating?
Q. If you have a boyfriend and you kiss a guy that is one of your ex boyfriends and you kissed only once, is that considered cheating?...
A. 31 March 2008: Kissing is an intimate thing shared between two people, so yes I'm sorry to say but you cheated.
Now its only a matter of asking yourself why ?... (read in full...)
How can I deal with his obsession with football?
Q. im going out with this guy for 3 months now, i love him but he is obsessed with football ! its his whole life.. he plays matches every week and in every match he gets badly injured and has collapsed twice before. its very serious! this is really ...
A. 30 March 2008: Hi,
chill ok? He is into football like a lot of boys, and be real here dude, he is not getting seriously injured all the time is he? You just don't like seeing him going hard into tackles and falling over as you worry he will get hurt.
If you are ... (read in full...)
Pregnant on a period?? help!!??!!??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having unprotected sex and he has been "letting it go" in me and we really want a family... so we have been trying to get pregnant but on the day that I think we concieved my period came down the very next day.... Plus I ...
A. 30 March 2008: Oh my god, where are your parents?
What are you doing playing happy families when you are still a young girl.
Geez I too am getting tired of trying to offer advice to these young girls who want to play grownups.
But take some advice, get ready to... (read in full...)
He masturbates in his sleep. Why does he do this?
Q. This is a random question! =P I love my boyfriend very much. We have an amazing sex life as well, and we've both said how it gets better and better everytime but he masturbates in his sleep! first of all i found it quite offensive, becau...
A. 30 March 2008: Hi there,
as long as he isnt neglecting you sexually then you have nothing to worry about. He just has a very high sex drive .
I'm sure there are many girls who wish there partners were as highly sexed as your boyfriend is.
If you feel in the ... (read in full...)
Here's a question for the men... can you ever see yourselves settling down with just ONE woman???
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 8 months, and it's become a bit serious in the past 2 or 3. We see each other every night and make love all the time. We have said "I love you" and he's even starting talking about me being "the one"- like the one ...
A. 30 March 2008: Hi there,
First let me say I have never cheated on any girlfriend or my current partner. I think it is the ultimate betrayal.
Now for you, your boyfriends words are very telling. And what they tell me is that you pick a certain type of man. And... (read in full...)
Vibrators how often is too much?
Q. Hi Guys, just a question about vibrators? Is it bad for you to use them a lot??? I use mine almost everyday I cant help it!!!! help!!!...
A. 30 March 2008: Hi,
my wife used one every day for years, and all shapes and sizes as well. So don't worry about it, enjoy yourself!... (read in full...)
She insists on keeping her male friends! Is it "Ultimatum" time?
Q. Should I be upset about my girlfriend having male friends?She says they are just friends but I'm not sure I should believe that.I asked her a couple months back if she chatted or got messages from them.She said no then today after I pressed her,she ...
A. 30 March 2008: Hey dude,
you just got to learn to chill out a bit. You have to realise that when we get into our 30's we carry a lot of old and valuable realtionships around with us. It is natural for a man or woman at this age to have many friends of the oppo... (read in full...)
My ex just proposed to me but I've started seeing someone else...
Q. I was with a guy for almost 3 years and we were really happy. However 6 months ago things started going downhill and I found that the little things he does annoys me, such as his snoring and the fact that he burns toast.(silly I know) 3 months ago ...
A. 30 March 2008: Hi there,
wow, you have yourself a situation there.
I guess the first thing you need to think about is how are you coping being without your ex? Does it keep you awake at nights or are you revelling in your new found freedom.
If its the later ( ... (read in full...)
His comments about other women make me feel insecure, and I want to be more confident!
Q. Am a 48 year old, attractive, intelligent woman. I have been seeing this wonderful man for 4 months. Just back from holiday with him. On occasions when we are out, he'll say things like "that barmaid was gorgeous, wish I could take her home" or ...
A. 27 March 2008: Hi there,
I wonder how he would react if you commented on every good looking guy in the room. I think you know the answer .
... (read in full...)
Does having sex too soon sabotage a potential relationship?
Q. Is sleeping with guys 'too soon' sabotaging potential for a relationship? I've always thought of sex very casually, and don't have problems sleeping with guys after a few dates. Often times I'm the one that makes the first move. I enjoy sex, but...
A. 27 March 2008: Hi,
there is a double standard out there in the dating world for sure.
And I believe that if a guy doesnt see you as relationship material if you slept with him so soon, then you are better off without him if he judges you like that. Why would yo... (read in full...)
I'm 18 in three months, could things work out between me and my 26-year-old teacher?
Q. Hey... I am seventeen yrs old...(i turn 18 in 3 months), and i like a 26 year old who teaches at my school. I know this sounds so typical coming from what seems like a love stricken teenager...but the thing is i am falling i love with him and i d...
A. 26 March 2008: Hi,
well there isnt such a great age gap especially when you turn 18 and he will be 26.
But he is still in a position of authority over you and that is very seductive for a lot of people, which as an ex teacher to me is unfair. A teacher woul... (read in full...)
He hasn't called after our first night of sex!!
Q. I met this guy recently and after talking for ages my friend invited him back with me. I was a bit nervous and did explain before we left that nothing was to be expected. We dropped my friend home and him and I sat till light talking and ...
A. 26 March 2008: Hi,
I always say to girls in these situations to count yourself lucky. Would you want a relationship with a man who has such antiquated views of women?
Sadly for a lot of men if you have sex with them on the first date then they think you are easy... (read in full...)
What goes on at Bachelore parties?
Q. Hallo I have a guestion for guys mainly. Is there any sex or kissing or stuff going on at a Bachelore parties?? I heard from one of my friends haveing BP and the strippers were going down on them for $200 .. I find it not only overpriced but d...
A. 26 March 2008: Personally, never been to one. I can't see what is entertaining about watching a heroin addict take her clothes off in front of you.
I guess if you are worried about a man getting a BJ or worse from a stripper the night before he gets married, then... (read in full...)
His arguing and rudeness since our wedding is causing my love for him to disappear...I have no idea what to do.
Q. My husband of one year (although we have known each other for nearly three years) is becoming more and more insulting towards me. Prior to our marriage he was fantastic for 18 months, full of fun, loving caring and gentle. The day we got married he ...
A. 25 March 2008: Hi,
It sounds like as soon as he got the wedding ring on he felt he didnt have to put the act on anymore. The act he needed to put on to allow you to let him live in your house. I assume you are the one with money in the relationship.
Unfor... (read in full...)
Is it shallow to think physical attraction is important?
Q. How much weight do you put on physical attraction? I hear a lot of people say its shallow to think this is important, but is it really shallow? Don't we have to feel physical attraction for a relationship to be successful? Is it even fair to the one ...
A. 25 March 2008: Hi there,
well it is superficial if it is the only thing that attracts you to someone, but clearly this is not the case here. You have to be attracted to somone to want to share a physical relationship with them. Some people may not be your "typ... (read in full...)
Is it shallow to think physical attraction is important?
Q. How much weight do you put on physical attraction? I hear a lot of people say its shallow to think this is important, but is it really shallow? Don't we have to feel physical attraction for a relationship to be successful? Is it even fair to the one ...
A. 25 March 2008: Hi there,
well it is superficial if it is the only thing that attracts you to someone, but clearly this is not the case here. You have to be attracted to somone to want to share a physical relationship with them. Some people may not be your "typ... (read in full...)
Is he genuinely trying to warn us about gossip or is he jealous in some way?
Q. Can someone explain to me what this guy's behavior means? There is someone at work that I really like and I've always felt there was "something" between us. I'd catch him looking over at me and occasionally at meetings we'd stare at each other, a...
A. 24 March 2008: Hi,
It looks like a simple case of jealousy to me.
Guy no.1 fancies you but can't work up the courage to do something about it, now he sees guy no.2 showing you attention so his nose is put out of place.
Believe me, you are fortunate not to be wi... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over that my girlfriend has had sex with other guys?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating off and on for the last 2 years, I'm 23 and shes 22. When I first met her she said she wouldn't do "anything" unless she was in a relationship, which kind of got us dating really fast. I had only had sex 2 t...
A. 24 March 2008: Hi,
You suffer from the 'sad loser syndrome' we see from a lot of men who write into this site. No doubt one of these will write a sympathetic post here at some stage telling you how life sucks these days as not all the girls out there are virg... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wrote me a threatening email! How do I respond?
Q. Boyfriend and I are arguing.He did somethign that hurt me and all day I waited for flowers and an apology or both. When I finally received an e-mail from him it was nasty and threatening. I don't know how to respond to that. I feel I should sh...
A. 20 March 2008: Hi,
why dont you tell us what he wrote. Otherwise it's a bit hard to offer advice.... (read in full...)
He never answers his phone and told me to leave him alone! Still, should I give him the benefit of the doubt?
Q. ok ive been with this guy for at least 6 months. but before i started talkin 2 him he had an ex of three years that he left becuse she was unfaithful. and he said that he would never get back with her. everything was going good with us. he would ...
A. 20 March 2008: Hi,
what you have to do is learn to get him out of your head. This will come with time. But believe me, if you hang on you will go through this time and time again.
The mere fact that you apologized to him for cheating on you speaks volumes ... (read in full...)
I was molested by my stepdad, now with kids of my own how do I tell my mom I don't want them in their house!?
Q. Since I was about 6 years old till I was about 16 years old my step father molested and raped me, it was an every day thing. It finally got to the point were I wouldn't even fight him anymore, I would just let it happen. I finaly got the courage to ...
A. 20 March 2008: Hi again,
All these men who abuse need to have cover in case they get exposed. So you will find most of them are deeply loved by family , of course not by those who they abuse.
Your mother is reacting the way I thought she would, but you have to ... (read in full...)
How can a man be in a relationship with one woman and have another one on the side?
Q. why do men act as if they are god? how can a man be in a relationship with one woman then have a nother on side as cutt buddie explain? ...
A. 19 March 2008: Hi,
A lot of men find it much easier to have sex on a regular basis with more than one woman as they don't build up the emotional attachmet woman do. This is not true for all men ( I personally couldnt do it ) but there are a lot of players out ther... (read in full...)
I was molested by my stepdad, now with kids of my own how do I tell my mom I don't want them in their house!?
Q. Since I was about 6 years old till I was about 16 years old my step father molested and raped me, it was an every day thing. It finally got to the point were I wouldn't even fight him anymore, I would just let it happen. I finaly got the courage to ...
A. 19 March 2008: Hi,
I have a friend who is a counsellor and it alarmed me when he said in the majority of the cases the mother disowns the daughter when she finds out she has been abused.
You are now an adult, I agree with the other posters , you need to see a th... (read in full...)
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