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writes:Hi, I am a 26 year old happily married woman. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and together for 8. We are very happy and compatiable. The only problem I have with our relationship is that he doesn't want sex NEARLY as much as I do. When we were both younger He wanted sex all the time, and I wanted it an average amount. However, over the past two years I have really grown into my sexualilty. I have lost mearly 60 lbs and feel pretty good about myself for the first time in a REALLY long time. But this problem with my husband drags me down. I want sex all the time! Im ready to go any minute of every day or night. Also, I have gotten into porn. We watch it together and enjoy it but I want to watch it WAY more often than him, and I want sex WAY more often than him too. But please understand over the past two years our lives have changed dramatically. He graduated from college and got his first, REAL job. He puts in a lot of hours and works VERY hard. He let me quit my really crappy, stressful job and go back to school. When I finished school (which I enjoyed) and got a job (which I love) I only work 3 days a week and the rest of the time I take care of all the household stuff. My life has really lost a lot of its stress and his has continued and in some aspects even worsened. So, now he comes home we eat dinner watch a little tube while he reads the paper, he finishes up his paperwork for the next day and then by 9pm he is out. And i am left horny and hurt! I KNOW with 1000% certainty that he is not cheating on me. When we DO have sex it is AMAZING!! And I KNOW that he finds it just as AMAZING! I guess my question is...Is there anything that I can do to help keep him awake long enough for sex? Or anything I can do to naturally help energize him and boost his sex drive? Please, help...I'm stir crazy.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 you know your own answer, try to have sex when he is not tired and get something real in your life as porn and sex are dominating your thoughts because you are very bored!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): I suggest you visit npsupport.com and stop watching so much porn, perhaps your mind can find other things to do rather than be obsessed with sex. Being hounded for sex is a total turn-off, especially for guys who instinctively want to 'hunt'
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 To have great sex, you need to eat the right kind of food, have enough sleep and exercise.
You can read what I wrote here;-
http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/09/09/not-having-enough-sex/
http://pinksuzie.com/2007/09/16/how-to-improve-your-sex-life/
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 Hi,
just wondering, when you say by 9pm he is out. What do you mean? Is he "one of the boys" who goes out every night with his mates? No wonder he is too tired. If I were you I would tell him that he married you not his mates and you need a good shagging so he better get his arse home and see to your needs, then maybe he can go out for a drink with his mates afterwards if he has serviced you appropiately.
Good luck.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 February 2008):
 This is a tough one. You do not hint how varied your sex life has been in recent years, but an adventuresome sexuality might help. This might mean adding oral sex, various coitus positions, dressing provocatively on his arrival home, sexy talk and any number of things. If some or most of these are missing, why not see if it sparks more interest here?
About 30 years ago, a girlfriend and I became a bit routine in our sexual activity, but she occasionally enjoyed pleasing me orally. She once asked how she could spark it up more, and I suggested that she attack me as soon as I walked in the door and suck me off almost immediately, wherever we were.
The next day, she that and it turned me on immensely. A tremendous release of tension after a day's work. She took me in the kitchen, surprised me in the shower, suddenly while watching TV and most everywhere. Always totally spontaneous and exciting, but she was very oral.
Within an hour or so, we were off to the bedroom for at least another hour or more of cunnilingus to please her, more fellatio and extended intercourse. It continued like that for about three years, at least three times or more per week. Whatever turns your man on, just do it. And enjoy.
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