How can I get my husband to Man up?!
Q. Is there a site where professional women can talk about their lives with blue-collar husbands? I heard something about that on 20/20 or something, but I really didn’t catch more detailed info. When I got married in my early 20s I was a junior a...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi again,
thanks for the further info, it explains a lot.
I guess what most people are going to advise is you either put up with it or leave for different pastures.
Your man sounds like a bit of a Himbo if you ask me, you have all the benefits... (read in full...)
How do I get him back?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago for a stupid reason. We were together almost a year and a half and I love him more than anything and I know he loves me too. The problem is he says that I hurt him really bad and he just needs time to deal ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
It all depends how you "hurt him really bad". If you were unfaithful to him chances are he won't want you back and you will just have to learn your lesson and move on.
But if it was simply a case of things you said to break up with him - my sug... (read in full...)
It's all wearing me out emotionally...
Q. My husband has a very fiery temper and when he gets angry he can be very rude and swear and shout and insult me, calling me 'thick' and a 'bitch' etc .. I have told him so many times that this hurts me and upsets me but the next time we argue it ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
First and foremost don't get involved with the person from your work. It will only makes things worse for you until you can sort your problems out.
Secondly, as your husband won't go to counselling with you , I suggest you take a break for a ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to Man up?!
Q. Is there a site where professional women can talk about their lives with blue-collar husbands? I heard something about that on 20/20 or something, but I really didn’t catch more detailed info. When I got married in my early 20s I was a junior a...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi,
Initially I was thinking that you are being very superficial by criticising his earning power. But that would be a little harsh as your concerns are real and need to be addressed.
First, has your husband always been this submissive t... (read in full...)
How can I move on from an affair?
Q. I'm trying so hard to get through the heart ache I feel after my three year affair with a married man, I too started out married. I must say what is helping me get through this is to see that other girls have been through a situation that i...
A. 18 February 2008: Hi,
You will never hear from him again. The reason being is that he never loved you, you were an old flame who he knew he could share illicit sex with. Guys can really spin the love story to a willing female and we see it on this site so often, t... (read in full...)
Is it disloyal for my bf to hang out with his ex's family or should I be ok with it??
Q. Is it disloyal for my bf to go hang out and party with his ex wifes family where i am not welcome to go along? His ex is not in this picture. Or is ok for him to to maintain a relationship with these people? should i be ok with this?...
A. 18 February 2008: Hi,
If you are not welcome along that is a bit rude, but in a way understandable. You are the new girl who replaced their sister and would be a reminder of a failed relationship.
And you can't force people to stop hanging out with their friend... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or selfish to want a man to say nice things and want to make love to me?
Q. I have recently met someone who I like. He has been on his own around 4 years (although he has dated quite alot) and I have been on my own around a year (I have had one or two dates). This man is very quiet and I am the one who does most the t...
A. 18 February 2008: Hi,
I think you are overreacting a little here. One month is an awfully short period of time to be picking over the itsy bitsy pieces of a relationship.
This is not to say your concerns aren't real, but for instance it may take a while for hi... (read in full...)
He takes offence when I don't swallow his cum.
Q. I tried really hard to talk to my boyfriend about him cumming in my mouth, because he loves the thought, but whenever he has in the past, I've had to stop myself gagging. I don't think it's the taste, but kind of the gooey texture.. I just don't ...
A. 18 February 2008: Hi,
I feel sorry for women these days, even one of the posters above stated he wouldnt've married his wife if he knew she wouldnt swallow before hand. What a swell guy. Good grief, I didnt realise men like this existed these days ( well , at leas... (read in full...)
This old friend helped my wife through hard times in the past, but isn't flirty/sex talk out of line?
Q. My wife and I are recently married (1½ years). Since we were dating and a few times since our wedding she gets calls, text messages and e-mails often sexual and flirtatious in nature from an old friend. When she was single she says they talked a ...
A. 18 February 2008: Hi,
well she didnt take up a reltionship with this guy, so obviously the sexual connection isnt there. Still, I can understand how you will feel uneasy, but unless the emails are highly sex related as opposed to the odd "hey sexy" type of thing, y... (read in full...)
I caught him masturbating with the vacuum, today!!
Q. I am a married mother of 3. My oldest is a boy, he is almost 14. I caught him masturbating with the vacuum, today!! I am dumbfounded. His dad is going to talk to him, tonight. How can we deal with this, explaining the disgust and immoral act... ...
A. 18 February 2008: Hi,
I dare say your confrontation will not go down well. You see it as bad as bestiality and a disgusting and immoral act. What is immoral about it? he is 14 for crying out loud. Obviously you have very strict religious views about sex so I woul... (read in full...)
Has anybody ever been in an open relationship but been in love with their partner??
Q. Im just wondering, is there anyone out there who has ever had an open relationship but were in love with your boyfriend at the same time? I've recently discovered a couple that i know, they are in love, together for 3yrs, but have an open ...
A. 18 February 2008: Hi,
Google Polyamory..you will find plenty of people who have relationships with multiple partners concurrently. But Polyamory involves forming a relationship with another person its not just sex. Polyamorists argue that humans through their ge... (read in full...)
Turns out the girl I slept with is much older than me and married with kids!!! I had absolutely no idea!
Q. Dear Cupid, Not sure what to do about my problem, so here we go... I was out on Saturday night, at a bar near where I live. I met a girl I liked, we had a few drinks, and we continued on to a club. More drinks, and we ended back at my frie...
A. 18 February 2008: Dude, what are you worried about? Just politely thank her for the evening but you dont want to pursue a relationship with a married woman. End of story.
Don't worry, she won't wait long before she is after her next conquest, and there are plen... (read in full...)
How do I know if a guy is flirting? And how do I flirt back?
Q. i was wondering if anyone can tell me how i can tell if a guy is flirting with me or not as i'm new to the whole dating scene also what should i do if a guy flirts with me? should i flirt back and if so how do iflirt with him? if it's a guy that i ...
A. 18 February 2008: Hi,
if you are new to this scene ( you are 18-21??) then I wouldn't make the first move. Unless he is really shy, chances are if he is interested he will make the move.
Just be yourself, that's the best way. The one thing that puts people off ... (read in full...)
I slept with my sister's ex husband and I feel terrible about it!
Q. I feel in a terrible situation, I went out the other night and got quite drunk, I bumped into my sister's ex-husband, they have been divorced for about 7 years, we started to dance with each other, chatted about old times but it didn't stop there, ...
A. 17 February 2008: They are divorced after all, so contact will be minimal - she has moved on. But yeah, I would deny it if it ever comes up ( why not? ) and tell him to take a jump ( not on you preferably!:)... (read in full...)
Is it true that men prefer women of lower IQ than them?
Q. I read an article in Metro which said (although it was at Valentine's event for geeky Massachusetts Institute of Technology students) that men often prefer to have sex with a woman of lower IQ. Do you think that's really true, because I know som...
A. 17 February 2008: The partners of Jessica Simpson,Paris Hilton,Nicole Ritchie obviously do.
But most us guys ( those of us with some brains that is ) prefer a smart girl.... (read in full...)
I never surrendered to the persistencies of this married man, but it's very hard to resist the urge. Ways to make this easier?
Q. i did make a mistake when i fell for this married guy who's in my office and senior to me...but the best part is this i never allowed him to touch me and i simply refused to get physical with him....now i've stopped talking to him...even he didn't ...
A. 17 February 2008: Hi,
If you are work colleagues and need to communicate don't stop. Chances are people in the office will already be aware "something" is going on ( I personally have never seen an office affair being effectively hidden - it's so easy to tell ). ... (read in full...)
Inevitably in between waxes the aspect is not totally shaven, and my bf cannot stand hair! Is he in minority? What do guys usually prefer?
Q. My boyfriend likes all pubic hair completely shaved/waxed and he can't stand even a tiny of bit of facial hair. I do wax but obviously in between waxes some hairs do grow back (I'm talking about my face here). Is this the norm or is he in the ...
A. 17 February 2008: Hi,
it sounds like he is a bit obsessive - the facial hair thing is the big indicator here in my opinion. I imagine you hardly look like the lady with the beard at the local circus, so what's his deal?
As for pubic hair, while I prefer a bit of t... (read in full...)
I just dumped him for the 5th time in 4 years! Do guys act this crappy on purpose?
Q. I met an old flame a month ago in a club and he texted me to see if we could meet up again. I played hard to get because he has messed me about in the past. Anyway I gave in and let him come round. We just chatted, he said he had changed and we were ...
A. 15 February 2008: Hi,
There is one easy way to end this. Change your mobile number. He's a guy who is unable to commit himself to anything, he is wasting your time and will not change.
You should have learnt after dumping him once, but fair enough everyone deserves... (read in full...)
I came across my ex on 'my space' and he recently got married. Now I cant get him out of my head! Do I still love him or what?
Q. O.K. here it goes. I feel so wierd about this and I can't figure out what my feelings mean. I was married to a military man 8 years ago, and long story short: After we married he began looking at swinger sites and after much convincing we decided ...
A. 15 February 2008: Hi there,
I've said it a hundred times on this site , I think myspace and facebook are evil! People look up old lovers and swoon at what they see are perfect lives. Of course these are only snap shots of the most enjoyable moments,you don't se... (read in full...)
My husbands best friend is also my best friend. There is no romance involved, but people are starting to talk and my husband is upset. What should I do?
Q. Ok, this is a strange situation so bear with me. My husband is currently deployed in Iraq. His best friend was deployed with him too, until the guy had a seizure and the doctors decided that he wasn't fit to be overseas. They flew him out rapidly so ...
A. 15 February 2008: Hi there,
I had a similiar situation when I moved over to Australia. My best friend was away overseas and his partner was by herself. We started hanging out together and became great mates. It never entered into either our heads that we would be... (read in full...)
Should I go further with a co-worker?
Q. Hi. I really like a guy I work with. We get on really well and I would love to take things further but don't know what to do. If he doesn't want to, i don't want working together to become difficult. We've been out for a drink a couple of times ...
A. 14 February 2008: Hi,
Firstly if you have been out to drinks with him and it was only just the two of you, he is most likely interested.
But all the same, i would tread very carefully. If you work together and he rejects your advance it will be very embarrasing ... (read in full...)
Should I give my teacher a valentines day card?
Q. Hi i fancy my teacher, should i give him a valentines day card or would that just weird him out? help.......
A. 14 February 2008: Hi,
as an ex teacher I would be very worried If a student gave me a Valentines card. And that is not what you would want is it, I mean you are doing it because you like him not because you want him to feel uncomfortable.
Chances are, especial... (read in full...)
Keep integrity and stay married.
Q. I feel so bad about this situation. I have a lots of bad thoughts about my husband in my head,but I tell him I love him. I'm not really a dirty lier,but I just don't have any chance to really tell what I think. The reason mainly because I tried to ...
A. 14 February 2008: Hi,
apart from sex problems you have not told us what the actual problems are. It is too hard to give advice on this alone. What is the "situation" you are referring to, what are these "bad thoughts" , you tried to "clear things" what are thes... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to meet cheating fiance?
Q. Hello, I've been dating this guy for over a year. We've talked about getting married this summer and having children. Then, this happens... He recently cheated on me and I found out about it. Since then, our relationship has been st...
A. 14 February 2008: Hi,
From a guy's perspective that is a pretty lame excuse. Which to me suggests he is still not being honest with you.
He may very believe in himself that it was a one off ( I assume it only happened one time ) but will you constantly be worried ... (read in full...)
He never follows through and hangs out with me...should I write a note to get closure??
Q. Basically I met a guy online about 6 months ago, we seemed to hit it off, met up a couple of times (just chatted but he seemed keen) and every week almost he texts to say we should go out to a movie or for a drink the following week. But then when ...
A. 14 February 2008: Hi,
you did right by deleting his texts. Basically the way I see it, he hasnt healed from his past relationship and is unable to fully commit himself to a new partner.
From a male perspective, us guys know you girls like reliable men, so it alway... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he doesn't believe that I am!!!
Q. I am pregnant and he doesn't believe me... What should I do...? He thinks that I've cheated on him and I havent. I don't know what to do. He was supposed to go to the doctors with me today and he never even called me. I called him a million ...
A. 14 February 2008: Hi,
I feel sorry for you. But it looks like he is trying to get as far away from his responsibilities as possible.
You know its bull and he knows its bull, it's just a cowardly excuse to get out of it.
The best thing to do is get family membe... (read in full...)
How can I recover from this emotionally abusive marriage??
Q. I have recently split from my husband who was my partner for 12 years, married for the last three years. On our very first holiday together over 11 years ago, the first verbally abusive fight happened when he got very drunk and spent hours trashing...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi there,
sorry to hear about your problem, it sounds very distressing.
But the answer to your question is yes you did the right thing. Goodness knows you gave him enough time - 11 years of your life - for him to sort through his issues.
No... (read in full...)
Should I ask him how he feels, or will this corner him, and if he doesn't feel it yet, will he ever? We're both divorced.
Q. Hi Ive been with my bf for 7 months now and things have been great. He lives a bit of a distance which makes dropping by not possible but get together weekends. These are blissful even tho we dont do much just enjoy each other's company. We do ca...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi there,
I remember a Seinfeld episode where this happens - it didnt go well there either!. It is a big one to hang out there and must have made you feel lousy afterwards.
But try and look at it on the plus side. It is only a word, o.k its a bi... (read in full...)
How come I haven't settled down with anyone yet do you think?
Q. I am an open mind attractive 34 y.o. woman. I am independent, work full time, have been in UK on my own for 10 years, inteligent, etc. but today i was struck with a question from someone i do care, he said: ' i really do not understand why you do ...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi there,
wow, this is such a complicated problem without any real obvious signs of what is wrong - save for your Abandonement issues of course.
And perhaps this is the root of your problem, when you go out to pick up once in a blue moon ( and n... (read in full...)
Can't find guys that share my sex fetishes
Q. since I started having sex Ive always been into some wierd fetishes; like facials, anal, smoking fetish, and especially- BDSM. I enjoy pain during sex and many other 'strange' things.... I won't go into details.... but all the guys I end up shagg...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi,
yep springing it on a guy is probably not the best way to go! :)
But good on you for being adventurous and open about your sexual preferences. Personally I like things without pain and it would make me uncomfortable to see my girl in pain... (read in full...)
Why is my old school friend chasing me on the net, he's married
Q. Okay, so this guy I've known since high school and fell in love with, but we only went on one date and slept in the same bed one night spooning, started AIMing me the other night. I haven't really talked to him in two years, and since then, he has ...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi,
what a wonderful guy , it was so nice of him to try and win his bet with his mate with you, it really shows how much he thinks of you doesn't it. And the answer to that question is he thinks you are a piece of arse who he might just be able to s... (read in full...)
Was I out of order to tell my partner not to flirt with women on the internet?
Q. Please can someone help me you see I don't know if I was in the wrong with my partner or not so heres the story... I've been with my partner coming up 7 years, we've got kids together and I would say we have a happy, caring and loving relation...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi again,
I understand a bit better now. I wonder if he is using your infidelity as an excuse to explore other options himself.
Despite what you said, what your husband is doing is wrong ( that is why you wrote here!) and is anything but "trustwo... (read in full...)
Is he worth waiting for? I don't want to be a girl he just uses...
Q. Dear Cupid, I went out with this boy but it only lasted for 2 weeks; towards the end of the relationship i started to get strong feelings for him and now they still remain. We have kissed and one drunken night done more stuff, i regret this but im n...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi there,
congratulations on staying firm with this boy. Now I'm not one to say you should wait until you are married before having sex ,but you should wait until the person you are with is genuine and has proven that they respect you as a person... (read in full...)
Was I out of order to tell my partner not to flirt with women on the internet?
Q. Please can someone help me you see I don't know if I was in the wrong with my partner or not so heres the story... I've been with my partner coming up 7 years, we've got kids together and I would say we have a happy, caring and loving relation...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry to see that you accepted his lame arse excuse for contacting these woman. If he wanted to learn to communicate with women he could've joined a patchwork quilt class, why does it have to be related to sex? Ask yourself that.
T... (read in full...)
Over 10 times a cheater...now I feel I can live without him.
Q. My boyfriend has cheated over ten times in our home and outside our house. Its always sex and talking on the phone; he says he loves me everyone says its true you can tell he loves you more then anything but nobody can explain or undersand why he ...
A. 13 February 2008: Ask yourself this question, would he be so blase about this relationship if you were to start cheating on him? I bet my house he would go into a rage - these types always do.
Why you are allowing yourself to be treated like this is a question... (read in full...)
I think I might have sexual aversion...
Q. I might have sexual aversion, I think it is called and has anyone got any advice. I have panic attacks when he tries to have sex. It's been like this for a while now. Since he cheated on me. How long will my man put up with this before he might ...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi,
It sounds like you havent gotten over the pyschological scars of your partner cheating on you. This is causing you problems in being intimate with the man who you thought was yours only. The fact that you think he will just run off and chea... (read in full...)
I don't wanna be in love!!! Pleasssse help!!
Q. There's this one guy that I like a lot but he's what people would consider a dork but he's really nice and hilarious. All my friends give me weird looks whenever they see him. You don't understand how many times I've tried to give up on him!!! I ...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi,
your friends sound very shallow and superficial. You could find a guy with all the right looks who dresses like a movie star and who makes girls weak at the knees with the sound of his voice, but this guy could be an absolute self indulgen... (read in full...)
He cut me down to size...but I want him back...will he come back??
Q. At first he asked for space, then he wrote me this after I wrote and told him that I was not handling the break-up well after he had kept blaming me for everything going wrong and wripped me down to shreds. I told him that no one had ever cut me ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi,
sorry to say but that sounds like a pretty convincing break off letter to me.
If you can't see that by reading it I suggest you make an appointment with a counsellor - especially if its true that you are harrassing him. He may get a restra... (read in full...)
Is it too early for a new man, when I still love my ex? Is this just sexual temptation since I didn't enjoy the sex with my ex?
Q. I broke up with him Last WEEK and I already had sex with somebody else! I still love my ex and want to be with him, i just hate the fighting all the time, The lies , the drama, is it too early for a new man? This new guy wants to be with me and e...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi,
You are not an old married woman coming out of a 25 year relationship looking for answers, you are young. So why not enjoy yourself and better still enjoy good sex?
I'm confused that you still think you love your ex despite the lies,drama a... (read in full...)
Texting a married teacher.. he wants sex but keeps saying no to emotional involvement! Help Me please!
Q. I have been seeing my teacher for the past month! ( dont all say its bad he could loose his job etc because he doesnt actually teach me and i am 18) So the problem is he is married! Over the past month we have been emailin and texting quite alot! ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi,
I would tell him to get lost. He sees you as a opportunity to have sex outside of his marriage and probably hopes you will do things he cant get at home. So if this is your cup of tea then its a free world, but I wouldn't kid myself that he ... (read in full...)
Afraid what others will think if I get back with him
Q. My boy friend broke up with me 4 days ago, but then called me. We had a long talk and he told me how much he missed me and how I was the only one for him. All my friends tell me to let go because I deserve a better guy, but I think I still like him. ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi,
If your friends are just nitpicky or judgmental over certain things about them, then don't take any notice of them. But if your boyfriend treated you badly then head their advice.
Maybe you should tell us why they dont approve of him.... (read in full...)
He's my soul mate, but I can't go on like this, how can I end it?
Q. For the past three years I have been in love with a man whom i beleive is my soul mate, but he and I are not together. He drinks, cant get his life together and is usually depressed. HE and I are both artists and connect on many deep levels but ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi,
you remind me of a friend of mine who had this tumultous relationship with a girl. He said he has never felt so connected to anyone in his life and when the touched it was bam!
But they split up as she was a crazy person - totally nuts and even... (read in full...)
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