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writes:Hey, Theres this guy who for the past three months I have grown quite close to we both really like one another but we are taking it slow.Recently I asked him about his ex and why they seperated..He asked me who told me about her to which I replied no-one. I was infact just trying to get to know him better. He said someone must have told me about her I assured him that nobody had.e told me to change the subject and refused to talk about it.I just want to know what the big secret is.Any advice?x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): I personally don't think he is required to tell you all about his ex and why they seperated (I am assuming he is now divorced/single?)....don't force him to open up about this....he may feel it is not appropriate to tell you such information about a relationship that went wrong for fear you will judge him....build a foundation of trust and friendship first, and when he feels safer in that, he will tell you in his own good time....why do you care so much unless you were trying to make a judgement about him and his realtionships....we all have a past, some good, some not so good, leave it in the past and get to know him and his character today and how it relates to you.....fair enough?
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reader, gabba's say +, writes (21 February 2008):
 I am not to speculate but maybe he has something to hide? Unless his last life was so head doing, that he gets flashbacks of Nam and cant bring himself to relive the situation by talking about it. I would be suspicious.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 Hi,
Gee we can't win with you girls! Every guy is told when you meet a new girl whatever you do never ever ever talk about your old girlfriend. A new girlfriend will ask about your old girlfriend but its just like your girlfriend asking when she is trying to squeeze into the jeans she hasnt worn in a year, "does my bum look big in this" .
Every male is conditions to merely shrug the past relationship off,you are supposed to say at most that it didnt work out and she never enters your thoughts anymore -that's it.
Your boyfriend may think you are trying to trick him into admitting he still has feelings for his ex. Just be glad she is not in his thoughts. Good luck.
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