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Why are some guys sooo obsessed with anal?

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Question - (18 February 2008) 11 Answers - (Newest, 25 June 2010)
A female Canada age 36-40, *sian tealeaf writes:

Why are some guys sooo obsessed with anal?

Some guys out there think it's great to fuck girls in the ass and some are really sick enough to have such things like magnam flashlights in girls asses on their porn files etc so what's the deal about this? and why do they like to degrade women like this and yet they get all weird when they hear a girl say she'd like to fuck a guy in the ass? Men always say girl's cum hard from anal, but guys have g-spots too, and yet they won't venture near that. I'd like to do a guy in the ass and make him cum hard... any answers to this?

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A male reader, ivanovich01 United States +, writes (25 June 2010):

Not every guy is obsessed with anal sex. I actually have somewhat of an aversion to anything anally-related. Something to do with the possibility of contamination from fecal bacteria. The idea of anal sex sort of repulses me. I know others who feel similarly.

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A male reader, Xanthas United States +, writes (27 August 2008):

I am one of those anal-obsessed guys. I love the sight and feel of ass around my penis. No clue why.

I don't consider it degrading at all, it's just fun. I enjoy my own ass being played with as well, and I experimented with how to enjoy anal myself long before trying it with another person.

Enjoying anal sex is an easily learnable skill, if you know how (or know someone who knows how). Most guys don't know how, thus, most girls they try it with (very unfourtinately) learn to dislike anal.

Anal, if done right, involves NO pain whatsoever. Pain is an indication of something done wrong.

Also, I don't enjoy it only because I have a prostate. I enjoy anal very much without ever once touching it (and yes, it makes orgasms MUCH better, for both sexes).

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008):

no prob glad i could help :]

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A female reader, asian tealeaf Canada +, writes (21 February 2008):

asian tealeaf is verified as being by the original poster of the question

asian tealeaf agony auntjust wanted to say thanks to you all...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008):

oh!thanks for clearing that up anyway a majority of men see this as a homosexual act but if its a guy doing it to a girl its not beacause of the different genders but a penis is a penis sex toy or no and a guy doesnt want that sort of thing(well most guys anyway)as for your friend the only thing i can think of is that this is his fetish he seems way too obsessed about it and (in my oppinion)needs some help with that.hope that cleared some things up

-michael

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (19 February 2008):

Collaroy agony auntHi,

Its an interesting question. I have to admit that when I look at porn that I can get rather turned off when the inevitable pussy to ass scene comes up. I never get why a guy with a big cock wants to move from the pussy ( where surely it is nice and tight if he's hung) to the ass where he has to squeeze it in - maybe only half way. O.k that is porn and not real life ,but it is a reflection of what men want - and obviously they want ass fucking.

The only thing I can think of why guys prefer the ass is because it is tighter, the pussy can get very wet/loose and friction can disappear during sex so I guess for guys who find this a problem ( not me! ) then maybe the ass is the way to go. Still, this is one man who doesn't get it either.

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A female reader, asian tealeaf Canada +, writes (19 February 2008):

asian tealeaf is verified as being by the original poster of the question

asian tealeaf agony auntin response to the confusion here i should of said that whats good for the goose is good for the gaander. i really dont want to fuck a guys ass , its the whole idea of the fact that men are ok with giving but not taking..if u know what i mean. and its very very disturbing to me as a female, since like the one female responder wrote. guys have prostates which act as a g spot too but women dont ... i just want to know why men are soo enthralled by thios rather taboo and degrading form of sex act/ my friends bf cant seem to get enough of sticking weird things or wanting to anyways up her ass and his porn consists of all this. he clearly has issues one might think since hes soo obsessed with this. is it a power trip their looking for? is it the whole im degraing and making this girl into a dirty dirty girl , the kind he can go off and brag to all his buddies about etc. just what is it? sorry for the confusion guys, i have a friends kid at me legs all day and its taking my mental concentation away..

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A male reader, leonard j. Douglas  +, writes (18 February 2008):

Lots of men and women see anal sex as Homosexual,well,it's not. And it's just another area of both gender's bodies that have lots of nerve-endings that help to induce sexual arousal and give both gender added sexual pleasure,alone or together in their love making. It's called Whole-Body-Sexual-Pleasuring. And it can be either an outer finger stimulation of the rectal area, or the insertion of a finger or fingers or an other object into the rectum,Guess, You could call a man's anus,"The male vagina",as it is often used in the same way.

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A female reader, O Connor Ireland +, writes (18 February 2008):

O Connor agony auntso you think its degrading for a man to do it to a woman but its ok for you to want to do this to a guy? thats pretty weird, and something i have never heard a woman say they want to do. some guys like anal with a girl because the anus is tight and gives them intense pleasure cos of this. as for flashlights, wat do you look up?!! to be honest i wouldnt be worrying about the fact that some men like anal, i would be worrying about the fact that you would like to do that to a man.

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A female reader, hello1 United Kingdom +, writes (18 February 2008):

hello1 agony auntBecause no one want something stuck up their arse! Like you said if you ask a straight guy about being done up the arse their cringe, they don't want to go through the pain. I think it's porn fault, all porn videos I watched there's always anal sex in there somehow and it's such a turn off. I also don't believe women get pleasure from anal sex, men have a prostate but women dont. Women that say they enjoy it are either

Lieing

Or like the pain

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008):

wow umm little confused here first you ask why men are so obsessed with anal(not to mention saying that its degrading) then you go on about how you want to do anal with him (with a sex toy im wagering)well as a guy i could see it as well a little weird guys dont want to do that beacause it seems a little homosexual at least thats my take on the matter still really confused about your post though.

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