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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now.He's 34 and Im 25 and Ive stuck by him through thick and thin.when his car broke down,i took him to work for four straight months. He lost that job last month, i was still driving him around,spending time with him,encouraging him,and being there for him.evry since he lost his job,he started going clubbing EVERY single weekend with his friends. I told him I had a problem with that,he continued.for tha past week he started acting strange-not calling me back,not trying to spend time with me-so I had a feeling he was cheating.I asked him on Sunday and he said yes.I was devastated,but I want to work through this.we met up yesterday 4 lunch and he was acting like he wanted to still be with me-but yet again he went out last nite,still isnt calling like he use to. Is he just tellin me he wants to work it out so he wont hurt me. should i just leave him alone for awhile? i dont know what to do and I dont want to loose him
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (21 February 2008):
 I don't want to sound too harsh but it appears to me that you're being used. You're schlepping him around and he's out partying with his friends and cheating on you. What kind of relationship is that? It's a good one for him . . . not so much for you.
You need to tell Freddie the Freeloader to take a cab . . . right out of your life.
Good luck!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 I think you should give him more space so that he can ponder about his future and whether he still wants to continue with you.
It is like those swines who like the mud bath and do not want to get up. You leave them till they want to get up.He has some issues only he can deal with himself.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 Hi,
It looks like he has settled on his lifestyle choice, which involves going out without you and whooping it up.
Unless he is going to give this up, you are going to have to give him up. He really doesnt seem to be too concerned that he cheated on you so it's time to move on mate.
Dust yourself off and tell him no thanks, he can enjoy his clubbing but you want a relationship. The alternative is to sit up at night waiting for him hoping he hasnt got off with some girl - that is no way to live .
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reader, rcn +, writes (21 February 2008):
 It sounds like he's working it out on his terms. He gets you and doesn't have to change his behavior. If you're wanting a steady relationship, the first thing to do is find someone who has steadiness in their life. With him wanting to play all the time, how can you expect him to have higher expectations being with you, than the way he's living.
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