I was molested by my stepdad, now with kids of my own how do I tell my mom I don't want them in their house!?
Q. Since I was about 6 years old till I was about 16 years old my step father molested and raped me, it was an every day thing. It finally got to the point were I wouldn't even fight him anymore, I would just let it happen. I finaly got the courage to ...
A. 20 March 2008: Hi again,
All these men who abuse need to have cover in case they get exposed. So you will find most of them are deeply loved by family , of course not by those who they abuse.
Your mother is reacting the way I thought she would, but you have to ... (read in full...)
How can a man be in a relationship with one woman and have another one on the side?
Q. why do men act as if they are god? how can a man be in a relationship with one woman then have a nother on side as cutt buddie explain? ...
A. 19 March 2008: Hi,
A lot of men find it much easier to have sex on a regular basis with more than one woman as they don't build up the emotional attachmet woman do. This is not true for all men ( I personally couldnt do it ) but there are a lot of players out ther... (read in full...)
It really turns my boyfriend on to think of me having sex with other men - he even wants me to tape it!!!
Q. Well I really need some advice I've been dating this guy for 2 years. I fell in love with him everything amazing he was my first the sex amazing the bond pretty much everything I ever wanted but all of a sudden we started opening up and it really ...
A. 19 March 2008: Hi there,
well this is a rather common fantasy with married men who are comfortable in their relationships and feel unthreatened by an outside party being intimate with their wife( i have to admit it is one of mine). But it is usually just fant... (read in full...)
We're "off" again! What do I do here for the best???
Q. My boyfriend and I are on again off again. When wer'e off he is always going back to his ex. He says he wants only me yet there are little signs that say otherwise....
A. 19 March 2008: Hi there,
I can only think you have very little self confidence. Why else would you keep taking him back? He is leaving you and have sex with another woman, how can you let him play with your emotions like this? Tell him that it better work out with... (read in full...)
I was molested by my stepdad, now with kids of my own how do I tell my mom I don't want them in their house!?
Q. Since I was about 6 years old till I was about 16 years old my step father molested and raped me, it was an every day thing. It finally got to the point were I wouldn't even fight him anymore, I would just let it happen. I finaly got the courage to ...
A. 19 March 2008: Hi,
I have a friend who is a counsellor and it alarmed me when he said in the majority of the cases the mother disowns the daughter when she finds out she has been abused.
You are now an adult, I agree with the other posters , you need to see a th... (read in full...)
How can I "talk dirty" to him?
Q. Okay, I have a slight problem. My boyfriend loves, loves, loves to talk dirt. Like across MSN and through texts and in person. I cannot talk dirty to save my life. I have all these things I could say but I can't let them out. And it makes me feel ...
A. 19 March 2008: Hi there,
I think I can help. I love writing dirty texts and messages to my girl, but she would always struggle writing back to me. So I always told her to keep it simple.
If you struggle to express yourself through modesty or worry over appeari... (read in full...)
Case of the "X"
Q. I have been seeing this guy I work with for about 6 months. I have never been invited over to the new house he stays at but have been to his old spot. He says that I can't come over because we work together and for work purposes, I shouldn't know ...
A. 18 March 2008: Hi,
yep he's lying alright. And I would put money on it that she is living at the new house.
Dump him, seriously, lifes too short.... (read in full...)
Left Wanting More...
Q. Hey :) I broke up with my 2 year boyfriend, whom I lost my virginity to, about two months ago and a month after I started out with another guy. We've been having sex too but I'm quite disappointed, and I know it sounds cruel and it's not the mos...
A. 18 March 2008: Hi there,
Is he really small or just small compared to your previous partner who was big? If he was just your second lover maybe you were just fortunate to have a large penis before? You may just need to adjust to the smaller size.
Because if he is... (read in full...)
He doesn't 'return the favour' in oral... what could I do about that, without telling him specifically?
Q. Ive just started sleeping with my bf he's amazing and we're so close it's amazing and the sex is great, any way i went down on him the other night and he omg he loved it....last night he hinted that he wanted me to do it again which i did happil...
A. 18 March 2008: Hi there,
for a lot of guys who arent very experienced ( and this is the litmus test - if he doesnt go down on you he isnt experienced ) the female vagina is a treasure chest that no man can master. So a lot of guys are intimidated by it.
But... (read in full...)
I'm going to a slumber party with some women friends and I'm male.
Q. Hi, it's me Paul. Again I want to thank all the females for their anwers and everything for helping me out but now I got another situation. After I went out with my female friends for the girls night out that weekend they invited me to join them for ...
A. 18 March 2008: My apologies if I offended you. But seriously dude, your over 30 and going to slumber parties with girlies, what reaction do you expect from people?... (read in full...)
I'm going to a slumber party with some women friends and I'm male.
Q. Hi, it's me Paul. Again I want to thank all the females for their anwers and everything for helping me out but now I got another situation. After I went out with my female friends for the girls night out that weekend they invited me to join them for ...
A. 18 March 2008: A slumber party? you are over 30? I think you are pulling our collective leg mate. Nice try.... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Hi,
It was an accident, pure and simple. He and his mates were behaving like prats so it is natural you were peeved, and while it might be a hard one to come back from.
Chances are he is going to snub you for a while, I think sending flowers ... (read in full...)
How to I tell my one night stand I'm pregnant?
Q. i had a one night stand with a guy just over a month ago and now im pregnant. im still in contact with him but how do i tell him?...
A. 17 March 2008: Hi,
well I can only assume that you are keeping the baby. So you simply ring him and tell him. He had unprotected sex with you so he is equally to blame. You are going to be a single mother so you will need his financial support to help you. By law ... (read in full...)
I have some issues with regards to marriage, maybe someone here could really advise me in what I can do?
Q. I have some issues with regards to marriage, maybe someone here could really advise me in what I can do. My husband and I just recently moved to the States, and I was told from his parents' experience that not everything comes all at once when m...
A. 17 March 2008: Hi,
Sorry to say, but it looks like you two simply are not right for each other. It is a terrible thing to suggest a marriage is doomed based on a few sentences, but you paint a rather gloomy picture. He appears to have very little respect ... (read in full...)
Are people required to change because their married now?
Q. My husband and I dated for 4 years before marriage and we have been married 1.5 yrs, are in counseling already. There is no emotional, physical or spiritual connection anymore and I don't want to live like this. I have a habit that is not ...
A. 17 March 2008: Hi there,
I also like the odd puff myself. So I certainly am not going to judge you on that.
I think you are now seeing a very controlling aspect to your husband's personality. Maybe on the surface it could be argued that he is simply trying t... (read in full...)
How long does it take to get "loose"?
Q. How long does it take to get "loose"? I have been having sex with the same guy for two years and he is about 5 inches. Will this make me loose? Can I ever buy a vibrator or will this also make me loose? I have been doing kegals, but I just want to ...
A. 17 March 2008: Hi,
look forget about it. Stop worrying it doesnt matter.
Some men also worry about their penis being not big enough to satisfy their partners. But the reality is different, you can have the biggest penis or the tightest vagina it makes little d... (read in full...)
Relationship Advice Sought.
Q. My partner and I have been together for twenty years. We have a good relationship and he is a wonderful man and treats me well. We take good care of one another and together we share all the relationship duties : mortgage, bills, groceries, ...
A. 17 March 2008: "he is a wonderful man"
"love with the other man"
"but I assure you I am a good man"
these quotes from above are not typos, I can only assume the poster is a fake. Who else would confuse their gender so easily ?... (read in full...)
He's not a creep, he's HOT! Is he just playing me?
Q. OK theres this guy I know. I've noticed he's quite flirty-which doesn't bother me in fact he says he flirts with everyone. Now he SAYS he's just playing yet he winks and looks at me longingly. He's also offered his place for me to 'esc...
A. 17 March 2008: Hi,
well he's coming on to you without actually making much of an effort. He probably doesnt need to, so I guess if you are also after some fun then that's what he is offering so enjoy yourself.
Anything else, relationship, commitment etc forget a... (read in full...)
I was thinking about waiting 3 months before telling him of my pregnancy!... Is this right? What should I do?
Q. Im 29 and i've just found out on 6 weeks pregnant! The problem is i've only been with my boyfriend for 3 months and we haven't even told each other that we love each other! He's going to move into a new house in a month and i'm scared he will t...
A. 16 March 2008: Hi,
I think you need to tell him now. It won't make a lot of difference if you tell him now or later. It takes two to make a baby and if you were reckless so was he.
To me its a case of him being aware of his responsibilities, he has to know ... (read in full...)
Only 6 days till I get married and I am so scared.
Q. Hi,I need help I'm getting married this weekend (22nd march). I am so scared all of a sudden, i ahve spent since last ay planning this beautiful wedding but then its 6 days away and i am terrified. We had hen/stag do's last night and while it was...
A. 16 March 2008: Hi,
I am confused, why were you so concerned about his brother that you spent all that money chasing after him? And what business is it of his what texts you send your fiancee. Or am I missing something here, your post is a little confusing.... (read in full...)
Is my experience causing his nerves??
Q. I really want to have sex with my boyfriend, and he seems to want to as well. Thing is, every time we're about to have sex, he cant get hard. I know its just nerves, and as I've told him, I'm willing to wait, but I was wondering if there was ...
A. 16 March 2008: Hi,
not all us guys are able to instantly get wood when we have an attraction to a girl. For some of us the intimacy needs to be reafirmed before we feel comfortable having sex with a girl. So I would suggest just to take things easy. Start slow... (read in full...)
I feel like a slave but he doesn't hit me too hard so maybe he will be better after we have children...
Q. My husband comes from a family where the men are always in charge. He was very nice to me when we were dating and after we got married he changed like he thinks he is my master. I feel like a slave sometimes and if I don't do what I am supposed to ...
A. 14 March 2008: Hi,
there is one thing that you can guarantee. If you have a baby he/she will be treated just as badly as you. Now you might feel you can deal with it, but will a baby who is unable to protect him/herself fair any better?
This man is a monster ... (read in full...)
I know for a fact he wasn't cheating so where did this girl come from?
Q. me and this guy were together over a year and we had a great relationship, everyone thought that we were going to get married and well i thought that we were too. The only problem is that he dropped out of highschool and he didn't have a drivers ...
A. 14 March 2008: Hi there,
It's most likely a rebound relationship. For some men they can jump back on the dating train the moment they break up with their partners.
So for you I guess you just have to move on and start over, that's what you were doing already ... (read in full...)
Husband still receives calls from "the other woman" after moving back in, now what am I supposed to do?
Q. In 2003 my husband left me, saying he needed to find himself! We spent a year in counselling only for me to eventually discover her had another woman. She contacted me and said they started the "relationship" in 2000. My husband said not until he ...
A. 14 March 2008: Hi,
first let me say how sorry I am for you ending up with such a cheating rat. My advice is to be as far away from this man as possible, don't think his little games will end there. I'm sure he will come back again with some other bs reason for ... (read in full...)
How common is it for a guy to give his girlfriend oral sex?
Q. How common is it for a guy to give his girlfriend oral sex? My girlfriend says she wants it but I don't know if I'm ready. Any advice would help. Thanks....
A. 14 March 2008: For me its every single time. Why? because the pussy is god's greatest gift to mankind, now its time for you to find that out, get your mouth down there boy and enjoy natures greatest gift - there's nothing better than bringing your girl to orgasm ... (read in full...)
What can I do to please my new boyfriend?
Q. So, i have a new boyfriend. and we have touched and rubbed each other. Mostly i'm the one that's being touched and rubbed, but he told me (in a nice respective way) that he'd like to get some pleasure too. But I don't know what to do. I'm not rea...
A. 13 March 2008: no worries, always willing to help out a fellow Aussie.
... (read in full...)
What can I do to please my new boyfriend?
Q. So, i have a new boyfriend. and we have touched and rubbed each other. Mostly i'm the one that's being touched and rubbed, but he told me (in a nice respective way) that he'd like to get some pleasure too. But I don't know what to do. I'm not rea...
A. 12 March 2008: I am 100% sure he wants you to grab his penis and give him hand relief. If you have never done it, dont worry its easy, simply grab his dick and gentle move your hand up and down the shaft carefully massaging the tip, keep some tissues handy though ... (read in full...)
When is it okay to sleep with someone you are dating without giving it up too easy or playing too hard to get?
Q. When is it okay to sleep with a guy you are "seeing" without giving it up too quickly OR playing too hard to get? So...I met this guy a couple of years ago. We were just really good friends(I actually met him thru my ex). When my ex and I broke up...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi,
after you guys have known he other so long and have been "dating" for 7 weeks I think you need to progress your relationship in all matters. He will not see you as being loose if you sleep with him , I'm sure he is waiting to get a sign from... (read in full...)
I've decided to go travelling...but how do I tell my partner??
Q. hello, I have recently decided to go travelling with a friend early next year, for a year, it is something i've really really wanted to do for a while. The only problem is i'm currently in a 2 and a half year relationship and my partner is settled ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi,
Well coming from down under I myself went travelling as did all my friends when we were in our early 20's. It is something you just have to do if you have the travel bug. If you don't go then you will always regret it.
But the one thing th... (read in full...)
Is the guy I'm dating acting odd?
Q. Was dating a guy for past 9 months. Everyone once in a while, he would send me these bizarre text messages (I believe he is drunk when he sends them) and accuses me of things that were ridiculous...like why did the gardener have my garage code and ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi,
It looks like he has a problem with the booze. These are the sort of comments that rear their ugly head when the liquor takes hold.
It was a good idea to move on. Good luck in the future.... (read in full...)
My soon to be in laws want a traditional hindu wedding, we dont, what can I do?
Q. I am about to be married. My fiance' is East Indian, I am white. He was born here in America, so he has a lot of the same beliefs that I do and agrees with me on how things should go. His parents, however, are from India and expect him and me to do ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi,
It is your marriage and your choice where you get married.
However, as with all traditional cultures most simply think they are right and their way is the only way, of course a lot of Christians believe this as well so it is six of one half a d... (read in full...)
My ex wants me to meet his other ex, why?
Q. My daughter's dad and I are spending a lot of time together. I don't have the feelings I use to have for him anymore. He's cheated on me, twice, put me down...and now I see some change in him. The thing is that, it's not there for me. We have ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi,
this is a really complicated situation, but only because your ex has made it so. He has spread his seed throughout the land and has children lining up all over the place.
So it's no wonder anyone involved in his life lives it in turmoil.... (read in full...)
I've met someone else during the time my BF was in jail, but this person is much older, what to do?
Q. i'm 19 and my boyfriend is 29, well me and him haven't really been getting along for the past year or so, he left me, ditched me and has no legittimate excuse for the reason why he's gone,well now he's in jail for about 1 month and half, during that ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi,
the jailbird boyfriend is hardly the catch of the day is he?
Go with the new guy, give the old boyfriend the heaveho.... (read in full...)
She doesn't feel the same way... how can we still be friends?
Q. I am male and I am deeply in love with by best friend (female). She has known for years how I feel and has made it clear that she doesn't feel the same way which I respect. However, we have stayed close friends. We go on holiday together, she cooks ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi,
At the end of the day you are so close to her because you have feelings for her. She in turn knows that she has a man she can call on to help her out of tough spots. As far as I can see, she gets a lot more out of this relationship than you do. ... (read in full...)
Can a person male or female, truly have the belief or values which consider that cheating on someone they absolutely love is totally wrong and they have always considered it that and then go to a person.
Q. Can a person male or female, truly have the belief or values which consider that cheating on someone they absolutely love is totally wrong and they have always considered it that and then go to a person; Who considers it just something which ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry, I'm very confused. Who are we talking about here? Can you explain what you mean, is it simply a case of your partner cheating on you and making some lame excuse for it?... (read in full...)
A couple of questions about sex for you...
Q. I've been dating me boyfriend for three years and two of those years we have been having sex, But I have never done it on top! To be honest I'm a little scared to and I'm not sure how to do it. So I have two questions, How do I give by boyfriend ...
A. 12 March 2008: Hi,
you have been having sex for two years and never been on top?
Boy! o.k. its easy, simply get him to lie on his back with his legs close together, then straddle him like you would riding a horse , you will now be positioned over his penis, a... (read in full...)
I don't do oral, and I get embarrassed. But are there any more exciting alternatives, or ways to spice things up so that I can help him more without giving in to sex?
Q. I really love my boyfriend. And he really loves me. But he is more experienced than me. He is used to sex, and I'm not ready for that step. He is a good guy and understands that, but some days it is harder for him to not have more. I don't do oral, ...
A. 11 March 2008: Hi there,
I would doubt he is as experienced as he makes himself out to be ( its the oldest trick in the book mate )
But this is not addressing your problem. What are you prepared to do? I ask this as your options are limited if you don't do oral ... (read in full...)
It's not you... It's me?!
Q. After dating a guy for a month, having a blast together and talking about future dates and fun plans together... I had a "bad day" at work and was really quiet while spending time with him that evening and it upset him in the long run - ...
A. 11 March 2008: Hi,
it's the oldest line in the book isnt it. But at least he is being honest with you, and when you think about it he is right. It is him not you. He is the one with the issues and he is intelligent enough to recognise that these issues may be harm... (read in full...)
Should I still pursue this guy as I had a REALLY good time or just leave him alone?
Q. I've been flirting with a guy for several months and we finally were able to meet for sex. We have both been eager but nervous to get together, as we are both sort of shy and reserved. It ended up that he could not get it up, but gave me some ...
A. 11 March 2008: Hi,
I have had ths problem in the past. When you meet a girl you really like I found it very hard to get an erection as I was so nervous. As opposed to a one night stand where I was always relaxed and had no problems.
If you really like him, gi... (read in full...)
Is there a safe suppliment that will enhance his size effectively? How do I talk to him about it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other and plan to spend the rest of our lives together. We talk about everything, only have never mentioned one thing in particular to him. I have had past physical relationships with other ...
A. 11 March 2008: Hi there,
sorry we are being a little bit mean towards you. I guess for us guys we all group together when we hear that one of our team isnt able to satisfy his partner size wise, it gets us all thinking if we are really satisfying our own part... (read in full...)
Is he attracted to her?
Q. My husband has been secretly flirting with coworker, hugging, texting, posing for pics, late night phone calls, and even a secret handshake only the two of them know. He has never hidden being friends with someone before now, but he said he hid it ...
A. 11 March 2008: Hi,
oh my god, you work with this girl? How humiliating this must be for you. I honestly don't know how you keep your sanity as all your work colleagues must be gossiping about it as well (if you work with other people as well dont worry they will... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is paranoid and possessive but he kissed someone else, do I stay?
Q. Im 16 and so is my boyfriend. We've been together just over two months. He's very paranoid and i've had to stop talking to a few guy mates as he's got so worked up about it and its caused arguements. Anyway a few days ago he came to me in tears an...
A. 11 March 2008: Hi,
what this is called is controlling behaviour. Unfortunately a lot of guys ( and girls for that matter ) need to control the actions of their loved ones. It makes for a terrible life for the partner as they lose all their friends ( cont... (read in full...)
Is there a safe suppliment that will enhance his size effectively? How do I talk to him about it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other and plan to spend the rest of our lives together. We talk about everything, only have never mentioned one thing in particular to him. I have had past physical relationships with other ...
A. 11 March 2008: sorry to say , but no chance. The only way to get surgery and from what I hear it only increases the size when its flacid ( so whats the point!)
At least you are honest, but is it really a big dick you want or just one that is normal sized. Have... (read in full...)
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