Fears about having children. I am not sure I want to bring children into this awful world.
Q. Dear cupid, My wife and I originally got married with having kids as a possibility but 100% sure. We have since changed our minds back and fourth several times throughout the years. She went for years thinking that we would and then just a fe...
A. 24 July 2015:
The world is not the problem....The people in it are. The world does not teach your children love, respect, and discipline...you do. The world maybe awful, but what you give your child is what really matters.
That is like saying your friends... (read in full...)
Should I forget about sleeping with her because I ccan't protect myself?
Q. I want to have sex with a girl but I think she practises safe sex and have had girls and guys before. I don't know what to do because I don't want to get anything because she's slept around and I know she doesn't use condoms. So should I try for...
A. 17 July 2015:
You know she may not be the safest person to sleep with, yet you are trying to find some safe way to potentially kill yourself...and you want others to help you decide your own death???
What are you going for...sex...at the risk of getting some... (read in full...)
If a husband finds out his wife lied about multiple sexual partners, how should he deal with it?
Q. If a husband who was virgin before marriage finds out his wife had multiple sexual partners and hook ups before marriage and lied about it, then how should the husband deal with it?...
A. 17 July 2015:
There is nothing to deal with. The past is the past. If she is having multiple partners now...then you have a problem.
Things could have been the other way around just as easy.
If she is loyal to you and you alone...what is the problem?... (read in full...)
I want to give oral sex to my girlfriend, but unsure how to proceed.
Q. Hello! I really want to give oral sex to my girl, however I am really inexperienced. Her vagina is really "salty" and has a slight unpleasing smell. I can feel it on my fingers whenever I finger her, and it tastes salty. From doing my own res...
A. 13 July 2015:
Very easy my friend...When you go down there...just think it's the best meal you have ever eaten...and in fact...in time...it will be :))) Why??? No meal you eat from now on will respond in the same way as a woman being pleasured.
The more ... (read in full...)
It is possible that a guy doesn't know if he cums or not?
Q. Okay so this is rather embarrassing to ask but how does guy not tell if he cums or not? I mean is that normal? My fiancé and i wanted to try something neither of us have done before so we decided to have sex in water. He said hed pull out before he ...
A. 13 July 2015:
Sorry, but I have never heard of a guy who cannot tell. Once you have hit your peak, it is very to stop that process. It's not like going pee and you can control it the same way.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
What is love? Can anyone help me define true lasting love? How do I recognise true love?
Q. What is love? Do you have to first experience it to know how to recognise it, to understand how it feels? It seems to me as if most couples just go through the motions, they don't actually have love nor really understand it. They get together...
A. 6 July 2015:
"Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its fait... (read in full...)
Am I being difficult and expecting too much? My life is settled, now I'm looking to meet a guy for a relationship with sex.
Q. I went on a first date with a guy of 45. I am 40 with a grown up son, professional and have my own place and ready to date again after concentrating on work and the parenting side of life. I work out and stay healthy and feel very grateful in that ...
A. 6 July 2015:
Welcome back to the dating world. :)))
So...as you can see things have not changed much. Still the kind of guys out there that no one wants to be with, and the good guys hiding in the shadows.
What you have here is a situation you do not... (read in full...)
Should I quit my job...and look elsewhere for a relationship with a girl?
Q. Well this may sound pathetic and funny but after breaking up with my last girlfriend 4 years ago...its been very hard for me to find love... It sounds cheazy when a guy says it ...but i really do feel that i need help. I was nt that bad with gi...
A. 30 June 2015:
Let me ask you this...
Women want men who have a job, because it signifies responsibility, shows signs of being a good provider, and maturity.
You...would like to give up your job to find a woman....Do you see any wrong with this way of thi... (read in full...)
Ladies: How much pain do you feel during first time sex?
Q. Hi everyone Hope you all are fine. I am gonna marry next month.I had never sex in my life. I just watched some porn videos. I wamted to know especially from female how much pain you feel during wedding night sex!!! my gf told me that she scared ...
A. 29 June 2015:
First rule....
The penis is not the answer to a woman's orgasm on it's own. Most men believe the bigger the better, the longer you can last the better, the more toys in the bedroom the better, the harder you push in and out the better, and ... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who was missing one of their hands?
Q. My continued dating adventures have recently led me to confront this issue. Would you date someone who was missing one of their hands, and why or why not? I'm interested in all perspectives. ...
A. 23 June 2015:
If that hand contain all there is to be desired by that person...then NO.
Do you need that hand something??? Maybe you are concern about what other people will think, rather than what's inside that person's heart.
... (read in full...)
How do I get my head around the fact that he's rejected me because I have a child?
Q. My ex and I were together for a year and we've been broken up for 4mos. He came back a month ago wanting a second chance but then changed his mind. He says that he doesn't want to be with me because I have a child. I'm trying my best not to cry w...
A. 23 June 2015:
Why are you crying??? You have a guy who wants you to give up your child so he can be with you...really? What are you suppose to do with your daughter?
He is using her as an excuse to leave...and I say thank goodness. He knew you had a child ... (read in full...)
Has he got a compulsive addiction? Dating him for 4 years. My bf's unusual obsession is joining free dating sites.
Q. I have been in a relationship for more than 4 years. This has been held back by my bf's unusual obsession with joining free dating sites. It had been a good few months and I really thought he at last had learned his lesson. Clumsily he ac...
A. 22 June 2015:
Perfection...Vs...right and wrong. You know what he is doing is wrong, even if you don't want to accept it. Sorry to say...but he has not been your boyfriend for 4 years. Because once he starts sending sexual picture of himself to someone else... (read in full...)
Are men turned off by bigger women?
Q. I've always been a bigger woman and I've always wondered if it was a turn off to men. I'm overweight, nothing too drastic. I have bigger hips and thighs than the average normal weight person. This is the result from years of eating prob...
A. 2 June 2015:
YES...Men are turned off by ANY size woman who complains about how she looks and don't enjoy herself.
Do you know how many women I see that are beautiful, smart, sexy, and have a lot going for them, and they constantly talk about their size, ... (read in full...)
Is my sister's mental illness a reason for me to not have children?
Q. So, I'm at the age (early 30's) where my partner and I are thinking it's probably time we look at starting a family. But we're undecided as to what to do. I've always been a maternal person. I've always been excited about the idea of becoming a mu...
A. 1 June 2015:
Choosing to have children should not be based on what everyone else is doing, or who is sick or not. Kids are not pets, and you cannot just take them back if you feel it's not working out the way you planned.
Is it possible for your child to dev... (read in full...)
Does the chemical BOND supposedly experienced during or after sex really exist?
Q. This BOND that apparently bestows everyone, especially women, during sex, the one that does not allow them to freely participate in casual, (and safe, of course) sexual endeavors - does it still count if you are a woman who hardly ever climaxes in ...
A. 26 May 2015:
As "Janniepeg" stated "I would think it exists even without orgasms."
The bond begins when man gives you everything you cannot buy in a store...Love, respect, affection, attention, and so on. This what makes sex for a woman even better. When... (read in full...)
My sister slept with the guy I liked and she knew I liked him!
Q. Hi hope you can help me out , I've liked this lad for a few years he used to come into where I worked and I used to see him on the weekends at the pub he's slept over mine a few times and we've kissed but I'd just split up with my boyfrien...
A. 25 May 2015:
A man compare to your sister...hmmm...Who do you think you should love more?
Yes you like the guy for a long time...nothing happened between the two of you. Your sister took the opportunity and got what you wanted.
So why are you mad? Are you... (read in full...)
He is immature doesn't want commitment and told me to find someone else. Do I just move on then?
Q. I'm a girl who is pretty and independent. I've come a long way to U.S to pursue my dreams.I never had a relationship as I was too much into a one sided relationship for 7 years hoping that one day it would turn into love which never happened. I ...
A. 25 May 2015:
"He told me its over and to find myself another boy."
What does this statement means exactly??? Does it mean you should stay and hold on as tight as you can? Or does it mean to find someone who will respect you?
If this statement is true as... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone and NEVER be jealous?
Q. Is it possible to care deeply for or even love someone and NEVER be jealous? I have always thought that being jealous meant being afraid to lose someone. That is because you love or care for them so much. And it is a feeling which overcomes us, wh...
A. 21 May 2015: YES...you can have a relationship without jealousy. As some others have said...and it is true...Jealousy has NO place in ANY relationship. First off...what do you have to be jealous about?? What are you afraid to lose? Was that person yours to... (read in full...)
What does privacy in a marriage mean to you?
Q. Thinking In regards to a traditional old fashioned marriage like your grandparents had/have, what does privacy in a marriage mean to you? What is considered snooping into other peoples things? Examples? What is considered snooping as far as social...
A. 21 May 2015:
You don't have a "privacy" issue...you have a "trust" issue.
Privacy in a marriage is being along in your bedroom, and you don't want anyone else to know what you are doing.
Snooping is a lack of trust in someone. Which leads to insecuritie... (read in full...)
Should I just go ahead and divorce? Is he likely to cheat again?
Q. We have been married for 13 years. Today my husband confesses he has cheated on my twice. He says whatever my verdict is, I am his only love and will always be. I am sure that this is the first time and I regret that we are apart now as I moved t...
A. 20 May 2015: Hi There, Divorce is always the easy way out of. Fixing your relationship...now that is where the challenge really is. Sure you could walk away, but what if he really regrets what he did? What if this regret is what was need to for BOTH of you... (read in full...)
One minute he wants space, the next minute he's worried...
Q. I had to break it off with him 5 days ago because he told me he wanted space. Would come back tell me he missed me and go on as normal. But if i asked about us he'd say he wasnt ready for a relationship, the demand of it. I waited for nearly a month ...
A. 20 May 2015:
Although it is easy to blame your ex for your pain, you cannot blame him now for what you are doing to yourself.
This question..."Can someone maybe tell me why he's doing this?"
Why are YOU doing this to yourself??? You deleted him from eve... (read in full...)
How can I get over feeling I'm too old to have a girlfriend at 26? How should I flirt, talk to and approach women?
Q. The fact i'll be 27 in a few weeks and I still haven't had a girlfriend yet, obviously still a virgin, the fact that I didn't have my first girlfriend and didn't lose my virginity around the age-range most people do just makes me bitter and ...
A. 15 May 2015: "I want to experience a couple of break-ups, drama, even if it means getting cheated on, before i'm ready to get married and settle down."
Folks this is the truth about the saying "Misery loves company".
Here you are already depressed and sw... (read in full...)
How do I get my lazy bf to clean up after him self?? Bitching hasn't helped.
Q. I've been dating my.boyfriend for over 2 years and we live together I'm 21 and he's 22. We used to have fun together, do stuff together, go everywhere together. But now all he does is sit at home stay in side and play his stupid video games. He don'...
A. 15 May 2015: You cannot change people, but you CAN teach them. I never understood why women complain about men when you have the tool to teach us. It's call SEX !!! Why did GOD give women the ability to be amazing in bed??? To teach men how they should b... (read in full...)
I'm embarressed by my body, how will I ever get a boyfriend?
Q. I've always been insecure about my body ever since I was a teenager. This has made me paranoid and nervous about ever finding a boyfriend. I just don't feel like my body is 'normal' by society's standards. I don't have the nice body that so man...
A. 15 May 2015: Hi There... Your first problem is believing your body gets you a man...WRONG!!! 2nd...Do you really want a man to love you just for your body? 3rd...what standard does society have?? This world which is completely F**ked up is what you are using... (read in full...)
How can I get over feeling I'm too old to have a girlfriend at 26? How should I flirt, talk to and approach women?
Q. The fact i'll be 27 in a few weeks and I still haven't had a girlfriend yet, obviously still a virgin, the fact that I didn't have my first girlfriend and didn't lose my virginity around the age-range most people do just makes me bitter and ...
A. 14 May 2015: WHOA!!! Hold up there!!! Young people are foolish when it comes to relationship, dating, sex, love, emotions, and all that stuff. It takes most people into their 30's to figure out just what they want from the opposite sex in order to settle d... (read in full...)
When is my man likely to feel motivated enough to tell me that he loves me? what could be holding him back?
Q. When will my man say that he loves me? We've been together for 4 months. I've asked some of my girlfriends and they've said he should have said it after about 3 months. We spend every free moment we can together, we have similar interests, he al...
A. 13 May 2015:
YES... you should be worried...About the fact you are obsessed with three words, rather than all the "action" being used to show you how much he loves you.
Anyone can say I love you. Showing it...that is where love really comes to life.
For... (read in full...)
He doesn't even try anymore. How to put the sparkle back into our relationship?
Q. I have 2 kids with the guy i've been with for 3 years . He slept for half of mothers day, we got some icecream when i demanded it but he also got to wash his car while i ate the icecream in the car. I complimented him the whole day without hear...
A. 11 May 2015:
If you keep doing all the nice things and reward him with sex, there is your problem. If he wants sex, then he has to work for it. Show you respect, affection, love, attention, and everything you cannot buy in a store.
You do not reward bad b... (read in full...)
My guy never wants sex yet he's always using porn. Is it ok for me to cheat?
Q. Hello well i love sex who doesn't. MY MAN that's who we never have sex his always tired body hurts not to mention he doesn't take any notice when i dress up get my hair and nails done.when I'm out he is constantly watching porn like all the time ...
A. 8 May 2015:
I am one who normally fights to save marriages. Boyfriends...NO!!! They can be replaced very easily.
I agree with Honeypie. Your man has chosen to live in the fantasy world.
You need to find someone who wants you, not a fantasy.... (read in full...)
I hated my job so I quit and now my husband is very unhappy with me
Q. hello everyone , it's been a while since I have been here.... I have got married recently and I was so happy to finally find the man of my dreams ... but couples' real life is a entire different thing that what I've expected... We have money diffi...
A. 8 May 2015:
Your husband is right. I am not saying that because I am a man also...But you NEVER leave a job unless you have found another one first.
Better to have some income no matter if it's "far below my profile and I hated it," than to have no inco... (read in full...)
Why do I eventually lose interest in men I am too shy to approach?
Q. I have this strange repetitive pattern and I'm trying to make sense of it.. Basically, I tend to start fancying a man, am too shy to approach them but i think about them for ages… then after a time the desire goes away.. Can you explain a ra...
A. 8 May 2015:
Simple...If you are shy too talk to someone, you will lose interest...why?? Because you have convinced yourself that you can never have them. So, why hold on to something you cannot have? In your mind anyway.
I bet you could have them...but f... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling weird around my dad?
Q. I feel weird saying this but I feel very weird around my dad for some reason. I am a 17 year old female and I have lived with my father since I was about 10. My mother is unfortunately very mentally unstable, which is why I do not live with he...
A. 7 May 2015:
How do you feel about yourself?... (read in full...)
Is it sex that he's after, or am I just projecting my past experiences onto this courtship?,
Q. I had a second date with this guy I met online and he's pressuring me to invite him to my place. I don't know him, so I said no. He was very persistent, and said he's not looking for sex. Anyway, I didn't let him in, but needless to say, I didn'...
A. 6 May 2015:
Let's get you thinking like man shall we...You meet a girl online and really want to get back to her place...ALONE. If you are thinking like a man...what would he be thinking?
Does persistence sound like "No Pressure" to you?
Want to kno... (read in full...)
Every man I've ever been involved with has sought out porn featuring women who look different than me!
Q. Why does every man I'm with seem to prefer the typical porn star look to me . Without fail every man I've ever been involved with has sought out potn Witb womrn who are compeltely different to me , usually young and blonde and thin I'm pretty s...
A. 5 May 2015:
It is human nature to want what we cannot have or don't have, as you have stated.
To be honest...most men and women have no idea what they want, even if it smacks them in the face. Even if you gave the man a woman that looks exactly like the wom... (read in full...)
I like guys. Yet lesbian porn turns me on. Does this mean I might be bisexual?
Q. Okay, so first off I know it's impossible for me to be a lesbian because of my strong romantic, emotional and sexual attraction to men. I don't have an emotional or romantic attraction to any woman and never have. I remember in 9th grade, two of my ...
A. 5 May 2015:
It simply means...You still have a lot of hormones. :) What turns you on does not define your sexually. We are all curious about what feels good sexually. If you didn't have those desires at all...then I would say you have an issue.
Sexual de... (read in full...)
He just just sits there steaming. Why doesn't my husband of ten years accept that sometimes people do want to give me a compliment?
Q. I was wondering if anyone could help....my husband of 10 years hates when people compliment me. If we go anywhere and someone tells me I'm pretty he cringes. I always respond with a nice thank you. He just just sits there steaming. Why?? ...
A. 4 May 2015: Does your husband compliment you at all? Often? Or not at all?... (read in full...)
Is fantasizing sexually about people (real or fictionous) a sin? If so, how do I overcome it?
Q. I guess it started about twelve years ago. I was eleven and liked to read online stories about my favorite characters. They were written by people all across the world, fans who were just as fanatic as I was. It was an incredible way to live on ...
A. 4 May 2015:
Sexual desire was given to us by GOD for our partners...mainly Husbands and wife.
However, fantasies do lead to one thing that is destroying many relationships and marriages from day one... LUST...Unfortunately, many have fallen victim to th... (read in full...)
Mom has an athletic body but I don't. Does this make me a loser?
Q. My mom has an athletic body and I don't. Does that make me a looser? Im a 14 year old skinny person with a fat belly and my mom in contrast has an athletic body. I feel embarrassed when I'm with her especially at the beach in swimsuits. She ...
A. 4 May 2015:
You are thinking like a typical man already.
There is no need to be compelled to be better than your Mom. Your mom is your mom, and you are you. Even if you had a better body than your mom, you could still never compete with her...why?
... (read in full...)
I love her a lot. But Is it normal that my girlfriend will only have sex with her clothes on?
Q. Is it normal that my girlfriend will only have sex with her clothes on? I love my girlfriend and love our intimate times but she doesn't want to get naked for sex, she only feels comfortable while clothed. She has always struggled with her weigh...
A. 4 May 2015:
It's only been five months, not five years, so give her time.
This is not a problem, it is the test you will NEED to learn in any relationship for the rest of your life...PATIENCE!!! Do not forget...it is HER body not yours. Just because you ... (read in full...)
What do I need to say to my boyfriend? Because I really had never had sexual relations before I had sex for the first time, recently, with him.
Q. I had sex for the first time, but my boyfriend thinks now thar I was not virgin since I was loose and didn't have pain and he saw no blood .? but I really didn't have sex before please help ...
A. 1 May 2015:
Even if you did have sex before, what does it matter? If he says he loves you and truly mean it, then it should not matter if you are a virgin or not.
Maybe he does loves the fact of taking your virginity and not you. I assume he has had sex ... (read in full...)
Why do women expect men to be mind readers?
Q. Why do women expect men to be mind readers? My wife has been grousing around lately. She finally erupted, "Just once I'd like to come home and find you made the salad for dinner!" "You want a salad? Call/text/e-mail and it's yours!...
A. 30 April 2015:
Your wife is right...why??? You should know her...you live in the same house. I bet you know what your friend like and don't like?
What do you do when you come home? Do you play games, watch TV, sit around, bring home your work?
You know yo... (read in full...)
Should a shy geeky guy visit a prostitute to gain some experience before I Try to find GF
Q. I'm a 24 year old male virgin who has never kissed a girl nor have I ever been on a date. I'm not particularly good looking and I don't have six pack abs. Not to mention I'm a giant film/video game/comic book geek as well. I research this to...
A. 30 April 2015:
If you don't listen to Honeypie... then your are a genuine idiot.
Amazing how a penis can control the minds of men. They just want to put it in something...or they will die.... (read in full...)
Mom has an athletic body but I don't. Does this make me a loser?
Q. My mom has an athletic body and I don't. Does that make me a looser? Im a 14 year old skinny person with a fat belly and my mom in contrast has an athletic body. I feel embarrassed when I'm with her especially at the beach in swimsuits. She ...
A. 29 April 2015:
You should be super proud of your mom...why??? So many women out there have such a hard time losing the baby fat, for years, and some never do. Some women look at food and gain weight. Your mom not only gave birth to you, but she took it upon hers... (read in full...)
How can I get over feeling I'm too old to have a girlfriend at 26? How should I flirt, talk to and approach women?
Q. The fact i'll be 27 in a few weeks and I still haven't had a girlfriend yet, obviously still a virgin, the fact that I didn't have my first girlfriend and didn't lose my virginity around the age-range most people do just makes me bitter and ...
A. 23 December 2014: Are you okay??? Your mind has gone to the North, South, East, and West poles... WHAT!!! Who on GOD's green Earth gave you all this information?? There is one sure way to pick up any and all women...100% for sure...Ready?!?!? Okay h... (read in full...)
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