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What do I need to say to my boyfriend? Because I really had never had sexual relations before I had sex for the first time, recently, with him.

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Question - (30 April 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 1 May 2015)
A female India age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I had sex for the first time, but my boyfriend thinks now thar I was not virgin since I was loose and didn't have pain and he saw no blood .?

but I really didn't have sex before please help

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A male reader, Garbo United States +, writes (1 May 2015):

Garbo agony auntHis claim is primitive nonsense. In fact, if he is so insistent on virginity then why is he going around "devirginizing" a female outside of marriage? What gives him the right to bust virginity before marriage then insist you are not virgin? What if he was too incompetent to "rip" you properly because he is too little? It could be, as said, million reasons why there is no blood. You should not sweat over his primitive claims. He can simply Google this issue and find an answer.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (1 May 2015):

Honeypie agony auntYour BF is ignorant. It's really that simple.

Like Lawncare said.. GOOGLE hymen Myths and show him. And if he doesn't believe you, dump him.

Just to give you an idea....

Dr. Sara Patterson-Brown. She found that at least 63 percent of the women she asked about bleeding and first intercourse reported that they did not experience bleeding.

63% That is almost 2/3 of the women asked.

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (1 May 2015):

BrownWolf agony aunt

Even if you did have sex before, what does it matter? If he says he loves you and truly mean it, then it should not matter if you are a virgin or not.

Maybe he does loves the fact of taking your virginity and not you. I assume he has had sex with virgins before. How would he know what virgin feels like compare to a non-virgin?

You just give him the most highly possession a woman has to offer and he is complaining about it?? You need a better boyfriend...sorry.

Maybe he was just to small to feel anything. I am sure you didn't complain about him. If you are going to have sex with a man...make sure you get respect before and after. If not...time for him to go.

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A male reader, lawncare United Kingdom +, writes (1 May 2015):

lawncare agony auntA hymen can break a thousand different ways in a woman's life: riding a horse, playing sports, walking, cleansing. It often wears through post-adolescence so by your age one wouldn't expect to have one. Just google 'hymen myths' with your partner and if he maintains that you're lying, dump him. There are a million different headaches that life will bring you and having a boyfriend bleating about not having some magical membrane to snap is not one that anyone needs.

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