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writes:I'm a girl who is pretty and independent. I've come a long way to U.S to pursue my dreams.I never had a relationship as I was too much into a one sided relationship for 7 years hoping that one day it would turn into love which never happened. I moved on and it took me a while to adjust to a new country,culture and make friends. I met this guy who became my friend and made me smile in hard times. My parents really want me to settle down (since a 26 year old single girl in India is a BIG deal) in a year or so. I have been dealing with much trying to forget my past,make my self comfortable yet I'm still ready to think in that direction as I really like this guy that I have known for the last 9 months. The prob is, he is 25 and not ready for any kind of commitment in 1-2 yrs and is very immature too. He said he loved me but he has career plans for the next 4 years he wont marry. Since we have different plans for the future, we decided to part ways. He has moved to another city and so will I in a few days.He told me its over and to find myself another boy. It really makes me sad,unwanted and unloved. This is the 2nd time I am heartbroken. Should I give this a shot and try to figure it out or let him go and move on with my life?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 May 2015):
 Let it go and move on with your life. You want to be with someone who WANTS to be with you. You will not be happy longing for a man who doesn't want you. He's telling you loud and clear, he does not want you.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (25 May 2015):
"He told me its over and to find myself another boy."
What does this statement means exactly??? Does it mean you should stay and hold on as tight as you can? Or does it mean to find someone who will respect you?
If this statement is true as you say..."I'm a girl who is pretty and independent."
Why are you being dependent on a guy who does not want you? If you are pretty as you say, then finding another guy would not be a problem...and his lost. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2015): Unfortunately you have no choice but to move on. He broke up with you. You cannot keep the relationship going no matter what you desire. He is finished. Block all friendship attempts and all social media and find a new friend. You will and the next time you will choose someone available.
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