Is it out of line for me to try and initiate spontaneous sex ? I keep getting rejected by my wife
Q. hey there, I have been in a relationship for seven years now and my wife continues to reject my spontaneous advances. I understand things could be approached the wrong way, but I try and be fun or cute and at times alpha to initiate somethin...
A. 7 November 2014: Mr. Dutch, These issues are called living up to your vows. You didn't think life was going to let you make those vows and not test them to see if you were telling the truth did you?? We are all tested, and the better our relationships, the bi... (read in full...)
Is it out of line for me to try and initiate spontaneous sex ? I keep getting rejected by my wife
Q. hey there, I have been in a relationship for seven years now and my wife continues to reject my spontaneous advances. I understand things could be approached the wrong way, but I try and be fun or cute and at times alpha to initiate somethin...
A. 6 November 2014: Mr. Dutch, Thank you for giving us more insight on your efforts, and I commend you on those efforts. Too many times I hear men want sex, but have done nothing to receive such reward. And yes, sex is a reward, not a right. Unfortunately,... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he says I am his "guilty pleasure"?
Q. What does it mean if a man tells you your his guilty pleasure? What would it mean to you if you were to say this to someone or someone was to say this to you? How would you translate this in your inner world? Personally, humorous, passing c...
A. 5 November 2014:
Normally it means he is after one thing... You have it, he wants it. The guilt part means he has no plans for a long term commitment, just to enjoy the "Pleasure" part.
If you want the same thing, then their is nothing to worry about. If yo... (read in full...)
The man of my dreams but not the place of my dreams
Q. I'm in such a bind, it has gotten me pretty depressed. I have an amazing boyfriend who thinks the world of me, and I wanted him as well since the first time I laid eyes on him. My wish came true, he became mine, and we get along amazingly. One of ...
A. 5 November 2014:
Okay...Lets look at your sacrifice and feeling of loss...
Does New York have..."My wish came true, he became mine, and we get along amazingly. One of the best I've ever had hands down."
Maybe it has..."the man of my dreams"
Or you co... (read in full...)
How do I know if she is ready for sex?
Q. hello dear reader my name is zion. am 27yrs of age.have been with her "lilly" close to 2yrs i love her very much even angels in heaven know i realy do,up till date she never visited me at home for once not even visit to any man's house except in ...
A. 5 November 2014:
You will know you are ready for sex with her when... You are ready to marry her, look after all her needs, your kids, and provide a home for your family.
She maybe ready for sex, but are you ready for what happens if she gets pregnant? Se... (read in full...)
Is it out of line for me to try and initiate spontaneous sex ? I keep getting rejected by my wife
Q. hey there, I have been in a relationship for seven years now and my wife continues to reject my spontaneous advances. I understand things could be approached the wrong way, but I try and be fun or cute and at times alpha to initiate somethin...
A. 5 November 2014:
When you met and started having sex, what was the reason for that?? Simple...her heart!!. You touched her heart, and she would have given you the world. Now you just want sex...but are you still touching her heart like when you met? Are you stil... (read in full...)
I'm falling for a wrong guy again, am I stupid?
Q. hello there. my name is Anna. I have a good guy friend. I never thought of falling for him. But i think now i do. Recently he graduated for his bachelor degree. A week before, he asked me to come to his graduation ceremony even for minutes and ...
A. 4 November 2014:
Falling for the wrong guy is not stupid. Knowing he is the wrong guy and still trying to have a relationship with him...That makes you stupid.
Knowing he is the wrong guy and staying away from him...That makes you wise, and keeps your heart a... (read in full...)
I'm worried by his taste in porn
Q. Hello, well I been with my boyfriend for 8/9 yrs we have 2 kids and very active in this relationship as far as intimacy and time together. I'm 31 he's 33 I'm white he's black. Well here it is, he watches nothing i mean nothing but ebony granny porn. ...
A. 19 June 2014:
Men like porn like this because of what the women represent…They are old, and needy for someone to have sex with them.
So the question is…what is your sex life like? Do you need him sexually? Or do you turn him down when he wants it?
Some ... (read in full...)
I'm married and in love with a third person!
Q. Hi folks, i'm in trouble. Long story short, i'm married to a man and now i'm in love with another girl. I haven't done anything stupid called cheating yet but i guess you guys might find this mentally cheating. Things just happened that we sometimes ...
A. 19 June 2014:
Simple...Do not give up your marriage for lust. Lust and love are two completely different things.... (read in full...)
Why do so many women have issues with men watching porn?
Q. I'm just a bit curious. I dont understand why some women get mad just because they caught their husbands/bfs watching porn? what's the deal? I used to watch porn with my bf, I dont see the big deal... It doesnt bother me... but why does it bother o...
A. 19 June 2014:
Simple Answer…If your boyfriend likes watching porn and masturbating rather than having sex with you…How would you feel?? ... (read in full...)
How do I accept that my appearance is ordinary?
Q. I've been recently watching porn videos (not masturbating just missing sex) and I'm surprised at how flawless some of the actors are. How can people look like that? This was amateur and she didn't have a blemish on her! How can I accept that I h...
A. 19 June 2014: Everybody on the planet is ordinary. Some try not to be by doing foolish things to themselves, at great expense, and for some, with great suffering. So if you consider yourself ordinary…awesome. ? Plus the ladies in porn are body spray painted…w... (read in full...)
I've made the worst mistake ever ...
Q. I got very drunk last night with my fiancé and a few friends. By the end of the night I was pretty inebriated. I often feel the desire to have sex when drunk however she was not interested because of the way I was acting earlier in the evening. I ...
A. 16 June 2014: Although what you did was harsh for any woman, what happen needed to happen for her sake. You might be thinking WHAT?!? How could you say that?? Life has a way of teaching us how to be strong with our problems, and the things that hurt us the ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my married best friend
Q. I am in love with a married women who happens to be my best friend. we have had a kiss and have had some touching but then we plan things and then when her and her husband have an argument she tells him. he is too forgiving but last time when we had ...
A. 16 June 2014:
I posted this to someone else, and same thing applies to you. What if it was your wife?
"The lips of another man's wife may be as sweet as honey and her kisses as smooth as olive oil, but when it is all over, she leaves you nothing but bitterne... (read in full...)
What does this comment mean?
Q. I work with this young married woman. As part of our job we deliver certain things around our place of work to different departments. Usually she walks behind me when we do this and she keeps slapping my bum. I once asked her what her husband woul...
A. 16 June 2014:
Do you want to be on the platform or on the train tracks when this hurt train comes at you??
"The lips of another man's wife may be as sweet as honey and her kisses as smooth as olive oil, but when it is all over, she leaves you nothing but ... (read in full...)
I don't think my husband understands what having a baby really entails! He seems to think its all fun and games
Q. Me and my husband are planning to try for a baby after our honeymoon in 7 months time but I worry my husband isn't prepared for what it entails. Whenever we talk about it he seems blase like yeah it'll work itself out! I am a child of ten in my fa...
A. 16 June 2014:
You are right…raising a child in not easy, but it can be fun and exciting. I love being a dad. But you are also going about this the wrong way.
There no books, research, or medical studies for YOUR child. Every child is unique. There are no... (read in full...)
Men, how much do you notice and/or care about saggy breasts?
Q. I'm very close to moving to the next stage of a relationships and getting physical with a man who I have been seeing. I am quite worried though about my breasts which are quite saggy after having fed four children. So honestly men, how much do ...
A. 16 June 2014:
The size and shape of a woman’s breast can be a thing of attraction to us guys, yes true. But just like breast come in all size and shapes, so do men’s opinions and feelings towards them. For me it’s not the size and shape, but the sens... (read in full...)
Trying to spice things up -- how about my cheerleader uniform?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been looking for ways to spice things up in the bedroom. i recently found one of my old cheerleading uniforms from high school and discovered that i can still fit into it...and i'm thinking that it might be fun to try a ...
A. 13 June 2014: I find putting on a show to be unnatural, and therefore a turn off. Why? It’s not something people do unless you are a striper or work somewhere that requires it. I rather a natural approach, such as… Cheerleading uniform…girlfriend walking ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's dad told him we were sleeping together! We aren't!
Q. I met my boyfriend's dad last year. We have been friends and that's the extent of the relationship. Recently his dad said in front of me and him that I have been sleeping with dad. Why would he say this? Now I have major issue with boyfriend. ...
A. 13 June 2014:
Let's put it this way...Let's say both of you ended up getting married someday...He would now be your father-in-law. How would you feel to have your fathe- in-law trying to sleep with you??
So question is...Is this boyfriend really worth it?... (read in full...)
My last relationship was an open relationship but my reputation in my small town is ruining my chances in my current relationship with an amazing girl
Q. My last relationship was an open relationship, we had one night a week that was open to other, we tried swinging, and had more then one threesome, it started out fun and exciting but quickly turned bad. Living in a small town people know your bus...
A. 13 June 2014:
Since her father is a minister, take him aside and speak to him. Explain to him your faults and regrets. If he wishes to pray for your forgiveness, then let it be so. Show him you are manning up to your faults. Start there and see where it goes... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and my best friend live at each others' houses in my absence! What's going on?
Q. So, I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and she is the love of my life, I can't picture my life without her. but recently she has been hanging around with my best friend alot, I recently found out that (after we had a huge argument) ...
A. 12 June 2014:
Imagine your girlfriend as your wife, and then ask that question. Would it be okay for your wife to be sleeping at your best friend’s home for a week, because you had an argument?... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm having an orgasm during sex? And why is it so difficult for my boyfriend to give me a clitoral orgasm?
Q. Hey! This is a really kind of an intimate question. But I was wondering what female orgasms feel like? I'm sexually active with my boyfriend of 1 year. Masturbating by myself, I find I experience this very intense kind of orgasm that cons...
A. 12 June 2014:
Hi OP…The reason you have better orgasms with yourself and not your boyfriend, is because you have de-sensitize yourself from real sex. When you train your body and clitoris to a certain simulation, you come to expect the same from you boyf... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my music teacher..should I tell him how I feel?
Q. Hi, I am a 14 year old freshman in high school, and I kind of have a crush on my music teacher. It's not just because of looks(although he is extremely hot) but because of his outstanding personality as well. He is kind and caring and sweet an...
A. 12 June 2014:
Use your crush when choosing a boyfriend your own age. If you like what you see in your music teacher, then that is what you should look for in a boyfriend.... (read in full...)
My wife is leaving me for another man! How best to be a good father to my son during the impending divorce?
Q. I am 32, and my wife's 29, and have a 5-year-old son. Last night she admitted to me she's leaving me for her co-worker, he's 42, and has three children, aged 12, 14 and 16, he's married but left his wife for her. I feel crushed, heartbroken, my ...
A. 11 June 2014: If this statement is true “I'm bigger than that, I'm more sensible.” Then the very first thing you must make up your mind to do is…DO NOT HATE!!! No matter what…leave hate out of it. Why? It is the easiest, most destructive thing you ca... (read in full...)
Did he forget about this CD filled with pictures of his ex? Should I be angry with him?
Q. Hi There, When I first got together with my other half , I can;t remember why we were discussing it but he told me he had deleted all inappropriate pictures of his ex-wife. Two years ago I found some pictures on his computer which he told me he...
A. 10 June 2014:
“I came across one from like 2003.”
Let me state the obvious…it’s now 2014. If the pictures are of her from 2014, then yes...You have a right to be upset. The fact something from 2003 has you over analyzing your guy… is amazing. He may not even... (read in full...)
How the HELL do I talk dirty? Please guide me. lol
Q. For the love of God - I can NOT talk dirty to save my life. Actually, I'm 32 and never talked dirty to anyone. Now, here's the weird thing. I can "sext" my boyfriend (of 4 years) some of the nastiest shit ever was but I can't say anything when we're ...
A. 10 June 2014:
Let him talk…you talk with your body. Sometimes it’s not what you say, but what you do. If he says something like “Do you like my D,” simply say “let me show you how much”, then do something you know would drive him crazy. The old saying “act... (read in full...)
Sex with two different men when dating?
Q. I'm new to dating....is it ok to have sex with 2 different men when neither of them are committed to you??...
A. 10 June 2014:
Smart move OP :)Good luck on finding that special someone :)... (read in full...)
Starting life from scratch at age 28! How do I start?
Q. What do you do if you realize you have to start from scratch at the age of 28. I got abused in my childhood and sadly I let it affect me my whole life by playing the victim mentality- always feeling sorry for myself and basically just coming off ...
A. 10 June 2014:
Hi OP, I am kind of confused. You say you started life from scratch by doing what exactly?
Are you starting at a point where you are not putting yourself down anymore? No longer letting your past affect you? Starting to see how amazing life... (read in full...)
Why is he being so tepid in bed?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend since October. We started having sex often and regularly a month into the relationship. He's not that great in bed. I thought this would change as we got closer, playing and developing a sense of what the other likes. ...
A. 10 June 2014:
“He has also admitted that he's a bit uncomfortable w/ how experienced and experimental I am in bed.”
You may not see the hidden problem in this statement, but you should.
Let me explain a little to you. We men like to be the first ones to op... (read in full...)
Sex with two different men when dating?
Q. I'm new to dating....is it ok to have sex with 2 different men when neither of them are committed to you??...
A. 9 June 2014:
Would you be okay with the guys to date having sex with another and you?? If yes...then go for it.... (read in full...)
How do you know if it's going to be just FWBs or lead to something else? I want to avoid being used!
Q. This is a general question which I'm sure will have varied opinions but I'm asking because of situations I've been in which I just don't know how I could have prevented. I'm going to use the classic girl / boy situation because it seems the most ...
A. 5 June 2014: When you use your body to pleasure someone you are not in a relationship with, how are you not being used??? No one is using you, as you have already offered up yourself. You said “Certainly not for me and I've learnt that the hard way.” I do ... (read in full...)
What to do when I am sure my fiance is still in contact with his ex-girlfriend, the love of his life
Q. Okay, here it goes. I live with my fiancé and we each have our own computers and cell phones and don't share our passwords and have a level of privacy. He told me when we got serious that he didn't want me to have contact with my ex-boyfrien...
A. 5 June 2014:
You feel bad when this is behind your back, why don’t you bring it to your front? Are you afraid of hearing the truth? Even if it’s the truth you do not want to hear? You are planning on marrying the man, so when do you want to find out the trut... (read in full...)
I wasn't the one who messed up so why am I the one hurting?
Q. My ex and I had been together almost 4 years. He moved from England to Canada with me 3 years ago in August. We definitely had our rough patches, mainly to do with him speaking inappropriately to other girls. Anyway, on Sunday morning I checke...
A. 5 June 2014: What you have to do is simple yet hard. You are in a new country where you can start fresh. He is not the only man in the world. Ask yourself this question…Are you will to keep him knowing he is willing to be with someone else? The hard part is ... (read in full...)
Will my wife ever get over me leaving her?
Q. I left my wife of 20 years about a year and a half ago. We had been arguing for most of our marriage about everything possible (money, how to bring up the children etc.) and had no common interests, and I just had enough so I found a flat and left. ...
A. 5 June 2014: I was once in your place…argued about everything, and was ready to leave. I went on vacation alone to see my mother, and had a good talk with her about what was going on, and she opened my eyes to something. What was that something… What had I do... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always broke and using me for money.
Q. I have a bf and lately i noticed that he was always broke..he borrowed money and doesnt bother in paying..now he uses my phone line and it was cut due to overlimit and up to this time he didnt settle the bill its late for 2 weeks already and the ...
A. 3 June 2014:
Simple...You know it's wrong what he is doing, so why is he still your boyfriend? That's like paying a guy to stay with you.... (read in full...)
I feel like men don't want to enter a relationship with me because I have a child.
Q. I'll try to keep this short. I'm 25 years old and I have a 6 year old daughter I've been dating for the past 4 years since I split from her father. The problem I'm having is I feel like men don't want to enter a relationship with me because I have a ...
A. 3 June 2014:
You can have a man date you and love your child just as much as you do no problem. But it will take work on your part.
Most men will not date a woman with a child if that child has no discipline. If a man sees a spoiled child, and a mother who i... (read in full...)
Husband wants a threesome, how can I fulfill this sexual experience?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I need to know how to go about having a threesome with my husband. First off I am bisexual, so theres no issue with wanting to be with woman sexually. My husband has always wanted to experience a threesome. Its just a fantasy. ...
A. 3 June 2014:
Threesome in a marriage can be very dangerous for your marriage…period. Threesomes are driven by lust, and lust has no off switch once it gets a foothold. I commend you on wanting to please your husband in every way, but would you still do it if i... (read in full...)
I'm happy to be a girl, I just don't want breasts
Q. I have always hated my breasts and I wish I didn't have them. My mom says I will change but I don't think I will because I just look in the mirror and cry and just hate everything I see I want a flat chest so badly and I just don't know what to do ...
A. 2 June 2014: First of all…PLEASE DO NOT HATE !!! Not yourself or anyone else. Today you will hate your breast, next it will be your hair, or some other body part. Fact is…You do not have a spare body somewhere that you can jump into so you can feel better a... (read in full...)
Help me, I'm not studying for my exams because I'm avoiding the professor I have fallen in love with!
Q. I am 32 year old unmarried female, I am working in company and pursuing B E in the evening college, I approached a professor for clarify some doubt about subject. He is married and have 2 doughters 18 year old. I is to got his chamber frequently ...
A. 2 June 2014:
If you were studying for your exams, it would help to take your mind off him. Study hard and forget him. When you pass your exam and have your B E, you will be able to get a better job and meet more people.
I believe because you are unmarried th... (read in full...)
My teenage daughter is breaking the family apart!
Q. I've been married for 10 years and when I met my husband he inherited my 3 children too who were very young at the time, we have also had a child together... I had just left a violent marriage 6 months earlier and we were all still recovering (the ...
A. 31 May 2014: My dear OP…You are not off the mark, you are feeling sympathy for some who needs full guidance. If the world was a safer place, and OTHER kids had parents who made sure their kids have respect, I would say let her have more freedom. But who is g... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my erections when I'm with her in person!
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with an amazing and extremely attractive woman. We have spent a number of weeks together in person now in the real world, and I would definitely say we understand each other very well and are very comfortable with ...
A. 30 May 2014: As others have said...Nerves. Once she touches you down South, you will be erecting a new flag pole. Also, do not be upset if you finish fast...it's your first time. Remember this... You were given two hands, lips, and a tongue...use them... and... (read in full...)
I'm telling the truth now, how do I get him to accept that and have faith in me again?
Q. I admit to lying quite as lot to my boyfriend about being on some internet sites. That was a few months ago now. Since I stopped going to these sites, he has now stopped believing me. We break up every week, get back together and have a real loving ...
A. 30 May 2014:
This sounds like friends with benefits deal to me.
How do you consider breaking up every week a relationship? Then you get back together for what seems like sex and a good time, and then it starts all over again…Very interesting.
I don't thi... (read in full...)
I cheated on my long-term girlfriend after we became long-distance. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a 24 year old male and I've dated the same girl since high school for over 7 years. Words can't describe how much I love this person and I still do. Almost 2 years ago, she moved to Europe for medical studies because she didn...
A. 30 May 2014:
Anonymous 123...Well said!!! As for you OP...Stay long distance.
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My teenage daughter is breaking the family apart!
Q. I've been married for 10 years and when I met my husband he inherited my 3 children too who were very young at the time, we have also had a child together... I had just left a violent marriage 6 months earlier and we were all still recovering (the ...
A. 30 May 2014: First of all…Your daughter is not breaking your family apart…You are! Yes that’s right you are breaking your family apart. I know you may want to hear some sweet words like “How could she do this to you.” But the fact is, if the parents have not... (read in full...)
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