I can't stand him but I still need him for some things. Should I break things off?
Q. I am currently in a reaionship which is due to be a year this february. I do not and can never like him. We women date for two reasons, either for love or because we need something from the guy. Yes I needed something from the guy and i know he ...
A. 3 February 2015:
I do not see how you are in a relationship if you can't stand the person. The only thing you are doing is allowing hate to build up inside you.
You know what kind of "man" you are interested in, so go find it. Plus, you do not need to be with s... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex since our baby was born 6 months ago! Is my husband getting sex somewhere else?
Q. My husband and I have not had sex since our 2nd child was born... Almost 6 months ago! Once we were in the clear 6 weeks after I gave birth I was ready. He said he wanted to make sure I was healed before we try. Funny how he didn't seem to be so ...
A. 28 January 2015: "but after having another baby I don't feel sexy." If you don't feel sexy, how do you think he see feels towards you? If you don't feel a certain way on the inside, you will not show it on the outside, and we men have very good sexy antennas.... (read in full...)
Who should be her priority, her husband or her adult child?
Q. I have a question and I desperately need an answer. My wife and I have been married for almost 22 years. She has a son approaching 29 years of age from her first marriage. He lives with his father. Her ex suffered a heart attack a few years ago, a...
A. 27 January 2015:
The real question is...what should your priority be as her husband to your wife??? To treat her child as if he was a complete stranger, or to be your wife's husband and be there for her no matter what??
Switch things around...What if it was yo... (read in full...)
What does he mean by "soul mates"?
Q. I've been friends with a guy for 3 months now and we have a lot in common and he said we're like soul mates since we have a lot in common. What does he mean by that, or what is he trying to tell me?...
A. 27 January 2015:
The term soul mates is normally used when people believe the are perfect for each other. As you said "have a lot in common."
Fact is there is...it happens but not often...why? Human relationships and are not set in stone. Meaning, once you mee... (read in full...)
In a new country for 6 more months and I still don't have friends, how do I combat this loneliness?
Q. Hello all! I'd like to introduce myself as a current exchange student in Toronto and I have been here for over 6 months. In 2015 I have found myself without any friends in this city and it's daunting. I have recently overcome an addiction to cocaine ...
A. 27 January 2015: "but social events I'm too nervous to do on my own." You have just answered your own question problem. How are you going to have friends if "I'm too nervous to do on my own."? People are very easy to talk too. I normally have a smile on my ... (read in full...)
Marriage woes after 2nd baby
Q. Dear People, I would like some advice on some marriage problems I am facing, which have peaked since having my 2nd baby, 3 weeks ago. I am recovering from a brutal c-section - my second - and still in immense pain. Husbamd is generally a goo...
A. 23 January 2015:
Hello There,
Congrats on your 2nd baby :) And I pray you have a speedy recovery.
As for you husband and pain... He is a man and he loves you. The problem is...exactly those two things. Men fix things. That is how we are built. Your pain, he... (read in full...)
Is depression forcing me to break up an already rocky relationship?
Q. I can barely be civil to my so-called bf. as the days pass, it just gets worst and worst since he stays nonchalant and tries to joke with me. Not once has he asked if I'm okay or what's on my mind. I tried to tell him what was wrong and he cut me ...
A. 22 January 2015:
The plug has already been pulled. Now you just have to wrap up the cord,and put the whole thing away. Never go back to an ex. Get on with your life and forget he ever happened. People who bring you down should be around you.... (read in full...)
Where to Now? And how to stop this jealousy too?
Q. I wrote in a few months ago about an argument between me and my boyfriend. I had gone on his phone as he had been hiding it everytime he got a message which made me doubt what he was upto. I know I shouldn't have but I needed to know as it was ...
A. 21 January 2015: Hi OP, Everyone here can give you the best advise in the world, but I don't think you are ready to accept them. You seem to want things your way, and not looking at what you have now...which is...a time bomb. I know it is in a woman's nature ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is ruining our relationship with video games. How do I get him to stop?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7months, and we are in a long distance relationship. We see each other for 2 weeks a month, so we get to see each other as much as we can. Things were going fine, but he is very addicted to video games, and he's 27 ...
A. 20 January 2015:
Ask yourself this...Would you marry a guy like this??? If the answer is yes...then stop complaining. If the answer is no...because you want a man who will look after you and possible kids, have a home together, a job, and motivated for his fami... (read in full...)
Am I doing anything wrong? I like a married man and he likes me.
Q. please advise:- I like a married man, he likes me too. we share intimacy like few kisses/smooches /holding hands etc but not physically involved beyond that extent. we like each others company he is a top level guy in my office and I've been emp...
A. 20 January 2015:
LIKE..........LOVE. There is one word missing in between those two words...LUST. That word is a very dangerous word, and has destroy many, oh so many marriages.
Guess what happens when your marriage breaks up? LUST is the first thing to lea... (read in full...)
He has 4 kids by different women! How do I ask him about this? How to continue to love someone with so many children?
Q. Dear cupid. Im 35 years old with no kids and never been married. Just met a guy i love so much, i went into his facebook account just to find out about before i can be serious about our relationship. To my suprise he has 4 kids with different woman ...
A. 20 January 2015:
Hi OP,
Take my advice very seriously...My father has 9 kids (including myself) with nine different women. He is in his late sixties, and still chasing women. Don't even try with this one.
What makes you in such a rush to have kids? My grandm... (read in full...)
Why do girls always come and tell me how attractive some guy is?
Q. About half of my friends are females. I tend to get along with them more I guess because most guys I meet are more immature. Still, I'm a guy not a girl. Why is it that all my female friends feel the need to tell me about how attractive some ...
A. 20 January 2015:
You are a hypocrite. Did you not just call them your friends??? And who do friend tell each other? So how can you say they are your friends but don't want to hear what your friends have to say?
The girls are simply treating you as they would a... (read in full...)
What is "smothering" and how do you not do it in a relationship?
Q. Hey there My question is divided into 4 parts. I was wondering what actually is smothering your partner? Why it is bad and how to differentiate between smothering and being available for her? Also, I understand that still most women wait on...
A. 20 January 2015: HI OP, Smothering is pretty much something everyone does at first when the fall in love. You just can't get enough of that person, and want to be around them all the time. However, there are a few things that can cripple a new relationship faste... (read in full...)
My boy friend lied about liking big breasts and now I feel self conscious about my small chest
Q. Hello, this might be a bit redundant as there are some similar questions on this site. Anyway, I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and everything's great. However, I recently found out he's lied about his physical preferences. ...
A. 15 January 2015:
What relationship has ever stayed together based on breast size alone?? You were together for a year...why...was there a chance of your breast would getting bigger? So obviously it was not your breast size that has kept you together for a year... (read in full...)
Flirting with my best friend's wife...should I go further?
Q. My best friend started dating this girl years ago. My gf at the time and her were bffs. My friends gf and i had this chemistry that is so lustful and exciting. We would mess around a bit and eventually it came out in the open. We admitted guilt and ...
A. 15 January 2015:
Yes...get more intimate with your buddy's wife. After all, if she was your wife, you wouldn't mind one of your friend getting intimate with her right???
It's not happen to you, because you are single...wonder why?
The fact that you have n... (read in full...)
How can I let my classmate down easy he is infatuated by me and I don't see the same for him?
Q. Dear cupid,I have enrolled myself back in to school for my education"diploma" im very proud of myself I am finally doing something for myself and it feels great.So there is a young guy who is 25 years old he seems to be infatuated with me that's ...
A. 15 January 2015:
"I am old enough to be his mom." Then you are old enough to speak to him like an adult. Tell him like it is. Yes the truth will hurt, but it is always needed.... (read in full...)
Can a single man genuinely love and accept a woman who has children?
Q. I am in the process of reconsidering my marriage due to a lot of mental abuse. I have told my husband about this. A few months ago I made an acquaintance with a man and he knew I was married and have 2 children. The fact that I have children did not ...
A. 14 January 2015: First of all...GOD will never send anyone to break up your marriage...In fact he did say "do not commit adultery." That being said...What have you done to make your marriage better??? People love to believe that when you have problems in your ma... (read in full...)
Why do women have to be so confusing?
Q. i got this girl we are best friends, so she says but everyone thinks we are dating and im so confused. we got real close when my mom passed just a few months ago,she has a young daughter that i love and she loves me, so she gives me all the signs ...
A. 14 January 2015:
Women are as confusing as a man...and that word MAN is what she is looking for. She has literally thrown herself at you, and what do you do?
She wants a MAN who she can depend on to take control of the situation. A man who she knows will look af... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is pressuring me into a threesome!
Q. Me and my fiance are very close but I feel like as many times as I talk to him about this he just wont understand we were at a party and I was the only sober one well him and his friend pressured me into some stuff the next morning he did not talk ...
A. 14 January 2015:
So you must sacrifice your morals for a man to marry you??? Really? How can you call this love if you "have to" let your soon to be husband sleep with someone else???
You have to really sit down and think what kind of man you want to marry. A ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband I almost cheated?
Q. So I am married two years to my childhood sweetheart, and I love him dearly. Lately we have been put to test with stress, family issues, his mentally ill mother and trying for a baby. Its all been very stressful and was starting to take its toll on ...
A. 14 January 2015:
Not unless you plan to add more stress to an already stressful marriage. Even though you were drunk, you loved your husband enough to push the guy away...that says alot.
What this shows is that both you and your husband needs to hit the reset bu... (read in full...)
Wife wants me to sleep with another girl?
Q. The other day my wife and me were having an argument about me being extra comfortable with other girls. I'm just friendly and never over friendly with them but she feels otherwise. During this argument she tells me that 'she would really like me to ...
A. 13 January 2015:
When did your hand look like or become a vagina??? WHEN!!!
You have a real woman in your house. But you rather look at women you can't have, and fantasize about internet women??? Smart. I will take fake over real any day!!! WOW!
Your wife w... (read in full...)
Its only been five months but he is pushing me to move in
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. I am 32 and he is 37. Both of us never been married without children. He is being kind of pushy lately about us progressing forward. Meaning wanting to move in together, looking for rings, and talking ...
A. 12 January 2015:
Move in with you boyfriend, or move in with your husband...which sounds better?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't accept help and doesn't progress in life. How should I proceed?
Q. I been in a relationship for two years and I'm really struggling. We never used to have problems until now I'm getting fed up because of decisions she's made. She had teeth pain over a year ago, I took her to dentist, she missed the next appoint...
A. 12 January 2015:
She is a girlfriend, not your wife. Ask yourself if this is the kind of wife you would want. ... (read in full...)
My jealousy and paranoia will ruin the relationship.
Q. Hello. Maybe I am just crazy but here is my dilemma.... My boyfriend works with all women and his clients are all women. How do I ever get over my insecurity of these women? I know he wants me and needs me. And he isn't looking for anyo...
A. 12 January 2015:
You can live this, then you will be fine.
" Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy wit... (read in full...)
What can I do about my insecurities?
Q. Hi everyone, just would like some advice about the situatuon im in basicly me and my bf have been together 3 years and becausr of my insecurities I feel like im ruining the relationship a little as I dont feel goid enough. I no alot of people have ...
A. 12 January 2015: Insecurities will ruin any relationship. You say you are not good enough. What do you need to be good enough for? You have a boyfriend...so you are good enough for that. As for your boobs...really??? Tell me when at any time in this world has boob... (read in full...)
I really like him but he never went to university.
Q. I really like this guy I've been chatting with. He's caring, kind and hardworking but, I just found out that he didn't go to university. I know this shouldn't matter, but I cant seem to get over the prejudice that because he didn't get a higher ...
A. 8 January 2015:
Actually you are not as smart as you think.
What are most women looking for in any man??? Let's see... "He's caring, kind and hardworking". So what University course teaches these subject??
What are you looking for? Love..yes...Do you h... (read in full...)
How can I trust him? Considering his online chats and explicit conversations with other women?
Q. My husband has been chatting to women on a game site, what he has said to them is very explicit. I confronted him and he said he doesn't know why he has done it and it was only words, he said in a conversation that he was going to meet said women, ...
A. 8 January 2015: What is your love life like? No relationship goes south by itself. It takes two people to destroy a marriage. Sure we blame the man because he was caught doing something wrong. But what about you? What have you being doing to keep your man's in... (read in full...)
I'm worried she's getting bored with me
Q. I have a problem that is probably in my head. A couple months ago I met a girl I never gave any thought until two months ago when I realized she had a crush on me. I gave her my number and she was texting me all the time and she seemed like she was ...
A. 8 January 2015:
Text dating is extremely boring. So you should be texting "when can we meet up?" Go out to the movies, The park, beach, whatever...do something other than text and meet at school.
As CMMP said "If you don't make an effort you'll have things ... (read in full...)
It seems that everything I do is pointless
Q. I am not okay with myself. I've been told to be positive and that the situation I am in is not the end of the world by many people but it doesn't help. My Mother and family tear me down at every chance about how much of a failure I am and ask how am ...
A. 8 January 2015:
What is the fastest way to get from point A to point B??? Most people would say "A straight line". WRONG!!! The fastest way to get from A to B is to start MOVING!!!
Do you know how you start living a positive life?? By actually start living... (read in full...)
I want to be more than just friends with benefits
Q. And old friend and I just both ended some long/term relationship. We became both interested in eachother but niether of us are ready to enter another serious relationship. We decided to yo hangout and and possibly be friends with benefits and just ...
A. 8 January 2015:
You already know the answer, and you are looking for some to say "yeah just go with it and have fun." Problem is, you know in your heart it may not lead to anything, and you may end up getting hurt.
What you have to offer is worth much more th... (read in full...)
How do I stop the heartache?
Q. Is it normal to have your heart broken 4 or 5 times in a life time? I haven't been in many relationships and a couple didn't even get off the starting block - yet I still seem to be the one who gets dumped or passed by, so the guy could date a...
A. 8 January 2015:
Hi OP... Why are you feeling heart broken because the men who left you are the ones you DIDN'T sleep with???
You should be happy, and proud!!! Just imagine how you would feel if you did sleep with those men and they left you right after.
Fa... (read in full...)
How do I stop the heartache?
Q. Is it normal to have your heart broken 4 or 5 times in a life time? I haven't been in many relationships and a couple didn't even get off the starting block - yet I still seem to be the one who gets dumped or passed by, so the guy could date a...
A. 7 January 2015:
You will have your heart broken as many times as it takes for you to learn. If you fall for men with your eyes close, then you are not learning.
Consider a heartache like a good spanking when you do the wrong thing. Now, look back at all your ... (read in full...)
Both are ideal but who do I choose ?
Q. OP's original title** Hey people I'm in a pickle , ok I've met 2 guys they are both really nice I've been on a few dates with both over the last couple of month and still can't decide who I like best , they both like me and have told me so . They a...
A. 7 January 2015:
Keep sex out of it for as long as possible. The one who is just look for sex and nothing long term will be the first to leave.
... (read in full...)
My boss is verbally abusive, but I really need my job
Q. My boss is verbally abusive towards me during my training/probation period. We had a conversation about me not taking my lunch break, and I wanted to know if I will be paid for it. She stated no, and I asked her if I could leave early to compensate ...
A. 7 January 2015:
I love when people say stuff like "My job is my life", or "I need this job".
Everyone "would like to have a job and keep it", but no one NEEDS a job to point of dealing with abuse. Here is the funny part...If you were on the street and someone ... (read in full...)
She picks and finds fault with everything I do. What should I do?
Q. Recently got engaged to my partner and we have been living together for the past 6 months. Over the course of living together I have found she is a real knit picker and i'm feeling like anything I do is never good enough, even when I do what I c...
A. 7 January 2015: When you say you help out around the house...do you take charge of doing the chores, or do you wait for your wife to tell you??? If you wait until your wife tells you to do something, then you are not doing your job as man or soon to be husband.... (read in full...)
Why do I feel sick with doing the right thing?
Q. Recently i reported an employee for theft, it really sucked. I reported them jst before my holidays and i spoke to a manager and said they should keep an eye on so n so. After my holidays the management confirmed my suspicions but needed more proof. ...
A. 4 January 2015: Very simple...You have a good heart. You do not want to see others in trouble, and it makes you feel bad that you are the cause of that person's trouble.
Hear is the thing...Doing right is always hard. Doing the wrong thing is very easy.
... (read in full...)
Still a virgin - is it too late for me?
Q. Dear Cupid, So cards in the table, I'm a 28 year old virgin and very inexperienced (I.e have only ever kissed and had my breasts fondled). I'm not religious, or waiting for my soul mate it's just I've been very career focused so relationships/se...
A. 4 January 2015:
Yes it is too late!!! All the stupid men have left you alone this long...WHEW!!! Awesome!!!
Your virginity should not be taken lightly. Please oh please give it to the right person...Hopefully in marriage...I beg you.
If every woman knew wha... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back but my friend says to move on.
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating since September 2014 in foods one day I talked to her and she broke up with me I talked to my best friend about it he helped me that happened with him before but then a day later my ex girlfriend tells me she ...
A. 3 January 2015:
Unless you are married or have kids together...never move backwards. If you could not last this long, why try to repeat the same thing twice??... (read in full...)
He says he will support my decision, but I feel he is pushing for an abortion.
Q. I met a guy over the summer while we were both vacationing. We kept in touch and he has visited me since then every other weekend and sometimes those in between. Although he lives in the next state over we keep in contact daily have great ...
A. 3 January 2015:
I can tell you are going to be a great mom...why?? You are already thinking of your child's well being before your own.
I do not believe in abortion...why?? How would anyone feel if they knew their mother or parents considered killing them... (read in full...)
Where can I go to meet girls appropriate for my age?
Q. Can't login because my email "isn't in the right format". But whatever... I've been feeling a bit isolated since I left my high school during my sophomore year to go to school online. Long story short (well, not really short), it's gotten kind of ...
A. 29 December 2014: When you are ready to treat a women they way you want to be treated, ready to love ONLY one, and understand that what you see in porn is not what being in a relationship is all about...then you will be ready. When it comes to women, take advi... (read in full...)
How long to wait before having sex with a guy? Not sure what to do
Q. How long should you wait before having sex with a guy? Ok, I met this lovely guy in September, we've been on 5 dates, third date he kissed me and stayed at mine, fourth date same and fifth date same too. He lives out of London, so we usually go ou...
A. 23 December 2014:
What is you vagina worth??? A few month, a few years, or a ring? Choice is yours. :)
... (read in full...)
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