Why do people say a couple is being ''selfish'' if the couple make a conscious decision to have one child only?
Q. Why do people consider you selfish for making the choice to only have one child? My boyfriend and I have thought hard about this. We have decided to have only the one child when we marry. It's a thought out decision. We are both self employed a...
A. 5 October 2015:
Simple fact is this...
Whose body is it??? Are you having kids to please other peole or is it for you and your boyfriend?? If they think you should have more kids, let them have the kids for you.
I have a saying...people who are not doing it... (read in full...)
How do I get past this terrible treatment?
Q. I had 2 very 'close friends' or I guess I thought they were my friends, in high school. Both of them and 2 older women jumped me and stole my money on my way home from work one night. I wasn't able to press charges because they couldn't 'prove' they ...
A. 2 October 2015:
Your first mistake is to HATE. NEVER HATE !!! Anger is a seed...it is watered by resentment, disrespect, jealousy, insecurities, and so on. When that seed grows into a tree of hate, it is much harder to cut it out of your life. Hate will just cons... (read in full...)
My wife will not accept apologies. No matter what. What can I do?
Q. I have a wife who rarely apologizes. But more strange to me is that she does not accept my genuine apologies. I am some one who does not have a problem with admitting by faults and working to do better. But my wife of 21 years seems to be stuck on ...
A. 30 September 2015:
Funny :) Are you trying to force the apologizes down her throat?? Trying to convince her how genuine you are about accepting your faults?? If the answer is yes...then you have already lost. :)))
Women are not looking for words. Saying sorry... (read in full...)
I recently discovered that my husband had secretly taken nude photos of me while we had sex. How would you react
Q. Would you be a) be flattered and not let it bother you, b) be disgusted c) feel violated d) be angry and could never forgive him e) be confused f) wonder if he secretly takes pictures of other women in public unbeknownst to them g) be on edge if ...
A. 29 September 2015:
Although it is easy to go down the Angry road and feel violated and offend by your husband's actions...let's take a step back.
If your husband is doing this for HIS OWN PERSONAL enjoyment, then I would say you should be proud. Your husband find... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just told me he would not be able to resist really good looking women ....
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years and I were discussing our plans to go travelling overseas, where he told me we would need to stay away from certain countries where there are "extremely good looking women" because he wouldn't be able to control himself. He ...
A. 28 September 2015:
Um...Are you dead and cannot go out and get an extremely good looking man of your own???
Why are you upset?? If my girlfriend said the same thing to me, I would say "Awesome!!! You do that. Time for me to go find me some extremely good looking... (read in full...)
Desires versus beliefs, what are my options?
Q. I am in love with several different ladies. I want to make love to all of them. Yet I am a strict Christian, and have not acted on my desires, yet it is getting harder not to. What should I do....
A. 21 September 2015:
First of all...Christian or not...Women are not your play things for you to go around having as much sex with as many as you can...that is just...stupid.
Second...you cannot be in love with all of them...that is called LUST...and as a so called ... (read in full...)
My body is "flat" and I feel a woman should look more womanly
Q. I am a 25 year old woman. I have very small A cup breasts and absolutely no butt. I have a very 'flat' appearance to my body. I hate to say that I'm somewhat insecure and quite unhappy with my body. I find myself comparing myself to curvy women w...
A. 18 September 2015:
Ever seen a belly dancer dance?? Back in the day before TV...Kings would have the women come out and dance for them, as their entertainment...Was it because they had good bodies? No...It was because they knew how to use the body they had to turn... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend lied and cheated. Do I take him back?
Q. Hey all, So I have asked questions before on this board and it really helped. Please help! I have been living with my boyfriend for about 4 years. Things are tough because we both work medical and emergency services which means our schedul...
A. 18 September 2015:
My Dear,
In the end you will have to do what you think is right. As a man I tell you this...
He is JUST a boyfriend. If he was your husband I would say try to fix things because, both of you have a lot invested in a marriage.
Boyfrie... (read in full...)
I like what I see but I don't want him to know that I'm paying attention
Q. Its this guy at work,he's handsome and im the kinda flirty type but I can't bring myself to say nothing to him,not only look his way,but u can talk and kid with every other guy but him.it seems as though he try to make sure that I see him everyday ...
A. 16 September 2015:
Do nothing...You do not want him paying attention to you right??? Sit there...look, admire, drool, hope and wish...but do nothing.
However, if you want something to happen...then ignore everything I just said...and say that magic word that ha... (read in full...)
We're both married but I want her in my life! How do I get her back?
Q. Hi Friends Really sad for me..... Both of us are married, she is 30 and I am 42. I met her few month back in her office. She is beautiful and nice. We start talking on phone and chat. But when she came to know my feelings through mail. She asked ...
A. 16 September 2015:
I hope you get her back...and marry her. Just to have someone else come alone and sleep with her, then take her away from you.
Then you may understand how your wife and her husband would feel :)))... (read in full...)
Why does my ex need to stay in touch? I am rather irritated and annoyed but too nice to tell him to stop
Q. My ex still hands around me as a 'friend'. We stopped sleeping with each other about 10 years ago, as basically I do not find him attractive anymore - so had no desire to be in a relationship with him. However, his family live nearby and whene...
A. 16 September 2015:
"It is becoming slightly irritating and I'm not the kind of person to tell him where to go"
Why are you upset at him??? You just said it...Sorry you are mad at the wrong person my dear.
You are like a person you has a broken leg that is s... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken about how my daughters are treating me! What should I do?
Q. last week was my nephews 18 birthday celebration. my 2 daughters declined the meal making excuses. whilst we were having our meal my daughters were outside with my grandson in a procession that was happening. we had no idea. the next day on Faceb...
A. 16 September 2015:
Sorry to hear that my dear.
However, I am old school. You have done your job raising your kids. Let them go. The world is waiting for them...and that great teacher called LIFE has open classes for us all.
They have kids...and I was rai... (read in full...)
My friend got my 19 year old niece pregnant! Should I be mad at my friend and drop him?
Q. I am a 44 year old man and have a 34 year olf friend. He recently me my niece through me and had sex with her now she pregnant. She is 19 and very immature and unprepared for the real world. her father, (my brother) doesn't care and her mother ...
A. 16 September 2015:
Look at it this way...
Who made you the parent? Your feelings are your own, not theirs.
Would you be happier if she had sex with some guy you do not know, and he does not want to take responsibility? Or would it be better if even she did not ... (read in full...)
My fiance has become the "Church lady" and I don't know how to deal with it
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together about 6 ½ years. Last winter we told our friends and families that we intend to marry someday soon. No ring but we went that far, so I guess she’s my fiancé. We are both in our 40’s. She has children, nearly g...
A. 16 September 2015:
Good sir,
I have no idea what kind of religion you and your wife have been following. Fools have taken religion and completely corrupted it to the point where people hate it....THAT IS THE WORK OF THE DEVIL. Not being in love.
Let's get t... (read in full...)
Did losing my virginity so late in life mess me up?
Q. LOSING MY VIRGINITY I was 38 when I lost my virginity but I always wanted to lose it sooner. I was very shy and never met anyone that could help me lose it, as one would need another person to accomplish this. Ever since I was about 13, I got ...
A. 11 September 2015:
My good sir...yes you have wasted a lot of time focus on just one thing in your life.
This is what I am call Staring at the tree, and not seeing the rest of the forest.
Sex and women...Life is much more than that. I will never understand why... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret giving up a good guy for a bad guy?
Q. Hello,do women ever regret, going back, with a abusive ex after being with a nice guy, an do they ever think about the nice guy...
A. 11 September 2015:
Never had time to find out...already moving on from the past, and looking for a better woman in the future.
If someone left you for someone else...why are you wasting your time thinking about them? If someone hurts me, I don't go back for rou... (read in full...)
Should I go for it and have a threesome with my boyfriend and girlfriend?
Q. Need open and none judgemental advice people. I have a boyfriend and a gf. They both know about each other and they are both ok with the situation. The reason why I have two was I met them both within a week of each other and was "dating" like you ...
A. 11 September 2015:
It's a great idea if you are not affected by....Jealousy, anger, resentment, insecurities, depression, and anything else that could cause a problem between the three of you.
If those things are out of the way, and none of you plan to be affec... (read in full...)
He said the only thing that works for him is porn and now I don't want to have sex with him either! Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend and I(both 22) started dating a year ago. I think that we both have a rather high sex drive and at the beginning sex was great. Unfortunately we had to go LDR for a few months and he started using antidepressant medication. W...
A. 10 September 2015:
You have to treat this the same way you would if he was cheating on you...and in most ways...he is cheating...Let me explain.
Using porn for BOTH of your satisfaction is one thing, but turning away from the real thing for a fantasy...no... (read in full...)
My wife went to an adults-only topless pool in Vegas. I'm not so sure what to think about it
Q. My wife recently went on a bachelorette party to Las Vegas. Some of the girls decided to go to the adults-only topless pool. My wife and a couple other girls (single) decided to take their tops off. The one's who were married did not. My wife ...
A. 10 September 2015:
Your wife is AWESOME!!!!
Now you know something else about your wife...she has a bit of a wild side she may want to get out, and YOU may not have encourage that before. Now you know.
Secondly...If your wife is confident enough with her body... (read in full...)
Do possessive relationships last? Should I mention my concerns to her?
Q. Hi - a female friend of mine has just got into a relationship with a man who pays her a lot of attention, says he loves her and makes her feel good. Sounds great doesn't it?!!! However, I have found out from her that before they got together off...
A. 31 August 2015:
People have to travel their own road in order to learn. Some listen to advise and learn...some see other make that mistake and learn, and others have to fall right off the cliff and land hard from them to learn.
Learn from her mistake. You... (read in full...)
My husband is obese and has health issues. Should I leave him or continue to try and support him?
Q. My marriage is suffering due to my husbands excessive weight gain, should I leave him or continue to try and support him and hope that things will get better? We've been together for 11 years and have two young children. I love him dearly but ...
A. 31 August 2015:
It's very easy to run away. Sure...many people can say leave...you deserve to be happy. But what is true happiness?? Turning your back on someone who needs you, or fighting the good and see a success story on the other side.
Running a long race ... (read in full...)
How will I find a boyfriend when I'm not happy with my physical appearance?
Q. I am a 28 year old African American woman. Without sounding petty I just want to come right out and say this, I do not find myself physically attractive. I feel this way about my face and body. The main reason is I was morbidly obese, very un...
A. 31 August 2015:
Hello my dear,
If you cannot love yourself for who you are, and how you look, how do you plan to love a guy for who he is, and how he looks???? It all starts with you. Imagine people like a ripe juicy fruit...like a mango. What do you go after... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to react to this? My girlfriend does hand jobs for a living
Q. I recently found out my girlfriend does handjobs for a living. She's a student and is allowed to work limited hours. The money is used to support herself and family. Should i accept it? Should I react to this....
A. 29 August 2015: SupaGinjaNinja
I am not asking you to accept it...I am simply saying...some people have to make scarifies the rest of us do not have to. So unless you are will to help get her out, do not judge what she has to do for the greater good.
I would... (read in full...)
At 26 years of age, why am I now having strong gay thoughts now, when I don't think I'm gay nor bi-sexual?
Q. Hi, I am a little confused about myself sexually. Normally I like women, I find them very pretty and attractive, face, hair and body shape etc the usually heterosexual stuff. I am even shy around women but I find whenever I am aroused, I always end ...
A. 28 August 2015:
"I am even shy around women"
Bet you don't feel shy around men.
It is easy to fantasize with what you are more comfortable with.... (read in full...)
I'm dating a man who is depressed. Its making me feel vulnerable. How do I not let it get to me?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been with someone for 6 months and I absolutely adore him. We fell in love and everything was effortless and happy. Since the beginning of the relationship I had the feeling he was maybe a bit depressed but now that he has had ...
A. 28 August 2015:
Consider depression to hole you can't seem to get out of. How do you help him out?? Do you jump into the hole with him and try to push him out...no. You stand outside the hole and pull him out.
When you allow yourself to take on the misery of so... (read in full...)
I like being his friend but I'd like to be more
Q. My friend and I are very close. I feel like I'm able to tell him everything and really act like myself. I think he is the same. We are always touching each other whether it's a hug or a pat on the leg or even play fighting! I love being his friend, ...
A. 28 August 2015:
If you see him with someone else because you said nothing, that will jeopardise things too...yes?
Better to know where you stand so you can start looking for a guy of your own, or start working on building a romantic relationship with your fr... (read in full...)
My mother wanted me to date but now that I am she says I will bring shame upon her
Q. I was raised by a single parent. My mother had always provided for me in terms of food, clothing, shelter, and fulfilled every materialistic wish I ever had. Not to brag, but I was never a demanding child, so the main issues that my mother had to ...
A. 28 August 2015:
You are not over reacting :)) You are your mother's pride and joy since she raised you alone. she wanted the best for you, and for you to find a good husband. But now that you are moving away from her protection, it can be hard for her to let go. ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to react to this? My girlfriend does hand jobs for a living
Q. I recently found out my girlfriend does handjobs for a living. She's a student and is allowed to work limited hours. The money is used to support herself and family. Should i accept it? Should I react to this....
A. 28 August 2015:
If you are willing to support her enough to get her out of that life style, then do it.
If she is really doing it because she has come to like doing it, then get away.
Do not criticize someone's job for supporting their family unless you ha... (read in full...)
I'm dating a lovely girl but she won't have sex and I don't know how to help us
Q. I am in a relationship with a lovely girl who I can say is an amazing person. Everything is great except for one thing....she will not have sex. Now we kiss, fondle/touch, and sometimes do oral, but when it comes down to seeing her naked or act...
A. 28 August 2015: "So on one hand I understand her problem and sympathize but on the other hand I am frustrated because I am not getting my sexual needs met."
On one hand you understand...NOTHING!!! Hello world...my girlfriend has gone through hell and back. I ... (read in full...)
Are good guys generally not so hot in bed
Q. I am struggling to meet a guy I fancy and would want for a future and who is an average/good lover. The good guys who are trustworthy, kind, warm and solid seem to lack that intense fizz and passion. I am no spring chicken and far from perfect...
A. 27 August 2015:
NO...Bad boys SEEM to be fun simply because they don't care. You spend more time trying to please them and keep them, but it's all based on lust.
Good guys can be the same as the bad boys, but they care more about not hurting you physically o... (read in full...)
I can't shake the dream I had about arguing with my girlfriend's father and then hitting her in the face
Q. Last night I had a horrible dream that I was arguing with my girlfriend's father, and at the end of the argument I seem to remember hitting my girlfriend in the face (I don't know if it was intentional or accidental, but frightening nonetheless!). ...
A. 27 August 2015:
"What is unreal can no more produce something real than what is dirty can produce something clean. Dreams, divination, and omens are all nonsense. You see in them only what you want to see."
If you are not the kind of person in your dream, then ... (read in full...)
What does this symbol mean in text talk?
Q. I am in my 40's and not up to date with emoticons on text and email. Whilst I know this may mean a wink ;-) can someone tell me what ;-)))) means please....
A. 19 August 2015:
It means they are very happy about whatever the topic was :))))) Like so :)... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because I'm leaving the country for a year to travel. Anyone else experience this?
Q. Hello guys, I have been in a relationship for 9-10 months. We get along very very well, have lots of fun, similar sense of humour, sex is amazing, similar character and from the same "stock", as they say. However, I have been planning ...
A. 19 August 2015:
I would be jumping for joy :))) If all it takes is you leaving for a year for her to break up with you, I say it was coming one way or the other. This just gave her an excuse to do it faster.
Be thankful...you could have invested years into t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got angry and kicked me in the butt, will the violence escalate?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 20+ years. When we fight, which is not very often, she sometimes gets a bit physical, but I haven't until now. The other day I got mad over something stupid-- she had unplugged the alarm clock to plug in her phon...
A. 18 August 2015:
If you are with someone who can get you angry enough to punch them, hard or not hard...where do you think this will end up???
Never be with someone that gets you angrier than where you started. Your partner should one who will calm you down, no... (read in full...)
What should I do?? What can I say to my parents that would result in them allowing me to walk to the cinema on my own?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I have been dating secretly. My parents are not as accepting as my friends' parents are. So whenever I go out for movies with my boyfriend, I have to tell half the truth and ...
A. 18 August 2015:
You want your parents to trust you and yet you are lying to them. What do you think will happen if they find out you are dating against their wishes??? Do you think they will want going anywhere at all??
Yes you friends parents and other family... (read in full...)
Why do most guys like big boobs so much?
Q. Why do most men (especially guys my age...) like big boobs so much? As I see it, it's just extra fat! And last time I checked, for men, too much fat is bad. I have small breasts and feel so inadequate. Breasts are so "out there" (unlike a penis - ...
A. 13 August 2015:
HA!!! You really don't know men. :)) We like ALL boobs :)) The difference between big boobs and small ones...human nature in choosing. WE ALL choose bigger things. Not just boobs, but everything thing in a life.
Take two stacks of money...woul... (read in full...)
How do I deal with someone who wants to make it clear their upset but I'm always in the wrong whichever way I approach it or ignore it
Q. I'm having a hard time getting my boyfriend to communicate with me. He never tells me what's wrong but shows that there clearly is something. Everything could be fine then a little later he can just turn on me and start speaking to me differentl...
A. 13 August 2015:
This is the difference between men and women....Most men feel weak and girlish when we are ask to express ourselves. We normally go off and cool down, think about things and come back as if nothing happened. Trying to force a man to express hims... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll be alone always. Is there any hope for me
Q. sorry to ask this but, im a 25 old old male and its been a while since i've had a relationship with anyone. i always worry that one day i'll never end up in a relationship ever again, and i'll wind dying alone and simply dont want that to happen to ...
A. 10 August 2015:
If you live your life with the negative feelings of never finding someone ever again...What you do you think you are setting yourself up for???
Imagine a heavy weight and you want to lift it. How do you do that?? Do you go at it with the thi... (read in full...)
My very well off boyfriend spent time with me on birthday but didn't get me flowers, candy or a gift. He says I shouldn't complain because he spent time with me!
Q. Hello, I am dating a man for 7 months and we have been intimate and exclusive. It was my birthday; but he didn't think it important to send a card, or flowers or take me to dinner. He came over my house and spent time with me, in our intimate way...
A. 7 August 2015:
Question....Would you feel better if he did not come to see you, but sent you the things you are asking for???
What are you in a relationship for...To get gifts, or to be with someone you love? Is there a cost to or price to being in love?
... (read in full...)
I can't stand living at home any more but my mother wants me to continue living at home. How can I stand up to her reasoning on this?
Q. I am 23, just graduated from college, and looking for a new job as a registered nurse. I have had a few interviews, and have a good feeling about some of them. However, some of them are quite far from where I live now, yet my mom is against me movi...
A. 27 July 2015:
Moving out is your choice...but make sure you are set when you move. Nothing is more embarrassing than wanting to get away from you parents only to have to move back, or ask them for money because you did not see LIFE waiting for you. If you thin... (read in full...)
Fears about having children. I am not sure I want to bring children into this awful world.
Q. Dear cupid, My wife and I originally got married with having kids as a possibility but 100% sure. We have since changed our minds back and fourth several times throughout the years. She went for years thinking that we would and then just a fe...
A. 24 July 2015:
The world is not the problem....The people in it are. The world does not teach your children love, respect, and discipline...you do. The world maybe awful, but what you give your child is what really matters.
That is like saying your friends... (read in full...)
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