I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 20 June 2016:
So a woman's mouth on your D**k, is more important that the woman???
So you stuck around for 5 years to break her heart because of her lack of mouth play? Okay...then what? Let's say she does it, she swallows the whole nine yards...then... (read in full...)
How can I stop being used by men?
Q. Ever since I turned 21 - now I am turning 30 I have always gone above and beyond for men. I would characterize myself as a young successful woman - I hold a good corporate job and two degrees and really Kee up with my appearance. Inside though I am ...
A. 20 June 2016: "I fear being alone"
What are you afraid of?? It is better to be alone and happy, than to be with someone and be miserable.
You can have the best job in world, be the most sexiest woman alive...But none of that matters if you accept foolishne... (read in full...)
Will it get better? Am I going to regret leaving home as a teenager, in the long run?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 18 years old and about two months ago I left home. I never got on well with my dad and I was quite distant from my mother. I have serious middle child syndrome, I'm quite selfish and never satisfied. I was yearning emotion...
A. 25 May 2016:
Hi OP,
Use the feeling you have to push yourself to a better life.
Finish up school, get good grades, and get a good job...That way, you can get a better and bigger place to live, and your home can be the gathering place for you and your sib... (read in full...)
How do I tell him about my concerns?
Q. Hi again, so I am trying really hard to stay in my marriage but some things need to change in order for that to be possible. I need to talk to my husband.... But I don't know how to do it, if I talk to him about anything serious he shuts down and ...
A. 24 May 2016:
How do you talk to your husband about something serious??? Very simple...Find something he takes very serious, like this little bit here...
"My husband has huge jealousy issues and feels I am going to leave him if I am not home or at work."
... (read in full...)
I thought there were mutual feelings but that the timing was off.
Q. Definitely needs some advice here, So my boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time now, (3+ years). While I do care for him, we are opposites and have been on and off. 2 years ago, I went on a trip with my school and met a guy (al...
A. 24 May 2016:
"we are opposites and have been on and off."
Opposites has nothing to do with on and off. If you are right for each other, it will be on all the time. If you are not, then it will be off, and should stay off.
The connection with the ... (read in full...)
I need the morals, security and companionship of religion without the dogma
Q. Hi there, I am hoping that someone out there can give me advice on the following, I am a 50 year old male. I have had a pretty dodgy past. From about the age of 20 I started to dabble with drugs, on hindsight I am shocked by how quickly I went fro...
A. 24 May 2016:
You say GOD is not for you, yet you wonder why your life is a mess??? Let me show you something that GOD gives us, and when we ignore it, or flat out do not believe in it, then you see how your life goes from bad to worse real fast. This is from... (read in full...)
Do we have a future together? Seems he only texts me when he wants nude pictures of me.
Q. Heya friends.. I've been in a relationship with this person for over 1 year. Over the past few months he's behaving quite rude with me. He texts me only when he wants nudes from me. If at all I refuse to do so, he pleads and begs and will finally...
A. 20 May 2016:
Easy fix...He wants nude pictures...no problem.
You want pictures of the engagement ring he is buying you. The venue for the wedding, and your honeymoon destination.
Let's see how fast he runs :)... (read in full...)
Is trust something you can work on with a partner, or is it a complete lost cause if you don't trust them?
Q. Dearcupid, is trust something you can work on with a partner, or is it a complete lost cause if you don't trust them? My ex boyfriend and I have been back in contact as of only a month ago. We were broken up for several months. I had broken up with...
A. 20 May 2016:
When you throw away old food in the garbage, even amazing food you once enjoyed and loved...you know...old leftovers. Do sit there and think to yourself "I really enjoyed that food. I loved it so much." Then you get up, go in the garbage, get the ... (read in full...)
How should I respond to his hurtful comments during a argument?
Q. Hi, Just wondering if any body has had a partner who would often say hurtful comments during an argument and if so what did you do? My fiance often says things like he doesn't love me, can't see a future with me, doesn't want a child with me...
A. 19 May 2016:
Let me make this simple... If a man is putting you down every chance he gets...Then he does not love you.
I have no idea what you consider love to be.But when you love someone you cherish them. No one in their right mind curses a person they ... (read in full...)
Do I lose my virginity to the next girl that comes along or wait for someone I like? Should I pay for it?
Q. Do I lose my virginity to the next girl that comes along or wait for someone I like? Should I pay for it? It makes me feel really bad about myself. I have a lot going on but the fact I've never had intercourse alone makes me feel like less of a ...
A. 18 May 2016:
Question...What is a man???
Is a man someone with breast? A vagina? What is a man? A man is a someone with a penis...right??
Where does it say that a man is someone who had sex??? So how do you feel like less of a man because you have had... (read in full...)
My wife speaks down to me and then belittles me when I tell her how I feel.
Q. My wife speaks down to me and then belittles me when I tell her how I feel. I don't know if I am being too sensitive or if I should stand-up for myself more. I don't want to get a divorce as I do love my wife, but there are times that I just ha...
A. 18 May 2016: "but there are times that I just hate her."
NEVER SAY THIS AGAIN!!! Not to her, about her, or to anyone. Plant this seed in your heart, and tree that grows will destroy you...for real.
"My wife is not very good at handling stress"
Becau... (read in full...)
Is our new relationship doomed?
Q. dear cupid Now I think it is time to brake up with my boyfriend but I don't known if I should. On one hand I really love him and it is going to brake my heart breaking up with him but on the anther hand I don't think our relationship is going to...
A. 18 May 2016:
I think you are in love with the idea of being in love. You know what a relationship is and how it should be, and feel. This is not...so technically you will be heart broken over what exactly?
If it's not right, does not feel right, and will be ... (read in full...)
I need advice! I'm young, married and unhappy!
Q. Hi looking for advice. My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for 6. About two years ago I moved for work, we had talked it over and agreed he would move the rest of our stuff and then come join me in a month. However he ended up ...
A. 18 May 2016:
You cannot change a man...ever....but you can teach him how to behave. No man is going to go from Negative to happy over night, or simply because you are upset. In fact, we men get even more negative when someone is pressuring us to change.
So,... (read in full...)
I'm a confused, betrayed and broken mama! Should I try to meet his mistress?
Q. Hi, i just discovered that my husband of 4yrs is having an affair at his office. My instinct told me something wasn't right but i tried to remain positive and trust him,some sent me an anonymous text message which made me connect the dots and ...
A. 18 May 2016:
No...YOU have two beautiful babies :)) If you know you can raise the kids on your own...then do so. Sperm makes a man a father, but not a dad. Commitment does...to you and the kids.
He wants to go back in time, let him go. You move forward.
... (read in full...)
Too much of a good thing is still too much, how do I get her to understand?
Q. OK my wife had a serious accident. And now we don't have interiors. She says it hurts her very bad She will give me blow jobs and I give her head Now my problem is she wants to do it all the time I mean 3 or 4 times a day I get up in the ...
A. 18 May 2016:
I would say way to go bro, but I do understand where you are coming from... HA!!
Penetration is very important to a man...So...Have you every ask for her to try anal sex? Yes I know taboo and all that, and not all men and women are into it...Bu... (read in full...)
She hasn't offered nor attempted to contribute funds to pay for some of our outings. How should I bring up the subject of money?
Q. I've been dating a woman for the last two months. We've been hitting it off with great chemistry and I really like her. The only thing that is nagging at me and I'm not sure how to approach her is about money. We have gone out to eat about 9-10 ...
A. 17 May 2016:
I want to answer in support...But I am too old fashion. I feel as the man, I will provide for the woman...whom...if things work out right, could be my future wife.
If I had no interest in her as a future wife, then yes, spilt the bill.
As ... (read in full...)
Trying to get life back together. Does talk therapy work? Do antiDepressants work?
Q. 28 year old chap here who has lived life going no where for many years . I know what I should do but do not feel happiness is actually achievable for me .. yipee!! Anyway went to the docs at last and they suggested therapy or Anti Depressant's . ...
A. 17 May 2016:
Let me show you something...
"I know what I should do but do not feel happiness is actually achievable for me"
If you know what you should do... are you doing it? No one gets happiness by doing everything to make themselves unhappy. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be really horrible to someone who has hurt you emotionally physically and financially?
Q. Is it normal to be really really horrible to someone who has verbally, physically, financially and emotionally abused you? When you just can't take anymore? To the point where I scream and shout at that person everyday and never used to be that way. ...
A. 17 May 2016:
Question....
Did all that yelling and screaming fix the problem? Do you feel better about yourself? Has it made the person you are mad at a better person?
What good has it done for you?
If you are trying to get your point across, yelling a... (read in full...)
Met this guy and he has a Gf. What should I do? I am yet to tell me that I'm divorcing my husband.
Q. My husband I have agreed to divorce. We still live together because it's convenient but we treat each other as roommates and I will probably stay at our house for at least next three months. About two months ago I met a guy through mutual friends....
A. 17 May 2016:
Hi OP,
"I was lucky to meet someone who feels so good."
I do not believe in luck. If something is meant to happen, it will.
As for your happiness...Of course. Anyone with a real heart would want you to be happy.
What I was getting... (read in full...)
Met this guy and he has a Gf. What should I do? I am yet to tell me that I'm divorcing my husband.
Q. My husband I have agreed to divorce. We still live together because it's convenient but we treat each other as roommates and I will probably stay at our house for at least next three months. About two months ago I met a guy through mutual friends....
A. 16 May 2016:
My dear...You ever hear the saying "Two wrongs do not make it right."
You are in a relationship with issues. This guys is in a relationship with issues...so you think that two people with issues will get together and BOOM....OH HAPPY LIFE!!... (read in full...)
Why does he act so jealous?
Q. I have this one guy friend and i really like him. In fact, i've been so blunt and straight forward about my feelings. I told everyone about my feelings to him and i'm sure everyone including him knows about it. we hang out quite often and we a...
A. 16 May 2016:
Switch things around....He is blunt in telling everyone how he feels about you, and he is sure that everyone knows including you.
So now you know he really likes you, and you really like him too. But look...he is hugging one of is other girlfr... (read in full...)
He only sends me a text when he's horny. Is it time to show him the door?
Q. me and my boyfriend have dated over 7-8 months now. Over the past 2 months it's so happening that he only texts me when he's horny.. Otherwise he never texts me nor speaks to me. so like i'm really confused. should i continue my relationship...
A. 16 May 2016:
You already know the truth and what you need to do. If is feels wrong, then it is wrong.... (read in full...)
Too short to be attractive?
Q. Hi. My bf n i have been dating for almost 4 yrs now. I sometimes fear that he doesn't find me attractive bc of my height. Hes 5 11 n im 4 11. Even though ge nvr brings up height as an issue for us i feel like im too short for him n just not sexy ...
A. 14 May 2016:
First of all, see this... "I don't have the nice legs he sees in every other women taller than me"
You are not every other woman. You are you and no one else. Why the hell would you want to be like everyone else ??? I am special in my own way. ... (read in full...)
Is all body hair now a 'no no'!
Q. I am a 16 year old girl, and my problem might seam stupid but it causes me worry and embarrassment. I know my mother and elder sister have no body hair anywhere and I want to be the same but my mother has forbidden me to remove all my body hair ...
A. 13 May 2016:
To be honest, I never understood who made that rule about body hair. It's like that foolish rule about pink for girls and blue for boys.
It is there for a reason. Make your own rules about it, and do follow the rules of this world. Soon they ar... (read in full...)
My in-laws are making my life a misery. I need advice on how to deal with this, please?
Q. Hi all, can anyone give me some advice on my partners parents, because I feel like giving up. I have been with my man for 3 years now and we live together, and are extremely happy together, I am older than my man by 12 years but it's not a big d...
A. 11 May 2016:
Hi OP,
Three years of good times, verses how many more years of being the outcast. I am sure this is not what you have in mind for a long term relationship. You know this is only going to get worse.
If he was your husband, I would say... (read in full...)
Should I leave my wife because of her fixation on finding “the big one”?
Q. My wife is totally ignorant to me on occasssion. Thoughtless or worse. She cheated 4 years ago looking for 'the big one' as I caught her when she left FB open. It was a coworker and the brief fling happened after she lost her job. Turns out he w...
A. 10 May 2016:
Good sir,
You are truly a very insecure man.
"By normal I am 5.75 long and 5 around. I am only 5'5" and 155lb very fit (40 chest, 31 waist)."
Does any of that stat matters????
You could be with a virgin and she could still say you s... (read in full...)
How should I deal with his problematic nature? I never expected this.
Q. Dear agony aunts, 2 years ago you helped me a lot to clarify my relationship with my ex boyfriend. We split up, I felt really happy because it was the right thing to do for my phychological security's sake. The problem now is I am having a ...
A. 10 May 2016:
Hello My dear,
This is not a mistake at all..."Main mistake - making best friend a lover."
In fact, you want your lover to become your best friend. Your main mistake is this...
"Fourth mistake is my fear to split up."
You see the pr... (read in full...)
What should I do with my gamer boyfriend?
Q. As if my boyfriend didn't play games already enough. Now he wants to play 4 hours straight two nights. While he plays every night for 3 hours. Like is he serious!?!? When were supose to be spending time together. I want to spend time with him, e...
A. 28 April 2016:
My dear...What you have is a warning is epic proportions.
Is this the kind guy you really want to settle down with?? As you say...Like are you serious??
He is just a boyfriend... And boyfriends are your opportunity to select the right man... (read in full...)
We are back together, but he is still talking with the girl he dated when we were split up!
Q. I've been dating my ex boyfriend again for the last 4 months. We were broken up for about 6 months and he was dating someone else for 4 months out of the 6 months we were broken up. He says they were not that serious but they did like each other. ...
A. 28 April 2016: "if he says he wouldnt mind i think he is lying."
I think you are fooling yourself.
First rule...never go backwards...never go back to someone you left behind, unless it's a husband or wife, because you have invested a lot in that relationshi... (read in full...)
Why does he want this all of a sudden!
Q. Hi aunts. Just a quick question. I'm in a very loving sexual relationship with my fella who I'm planning on living with later in the year. Everything is great and when we aren't together we message loads which I love. Our messages are loving ...
A. 27 April 2016:
Question...Is your fella's penis as big and thick as his fist??? So...if he fist you, and your vagina stretches that big to accommodate his fist, he is still going to love having sex with you when he cannot feel any pleasure???
A woman stretc... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Women seem scared of me. Haven't been able to set up a date in three years.
Q. I have problems with women and I'm taking time away from dating (or trying to date) until I've found myself, developed confidence, and have a proper view of women in general. I've struggled pretty badly for the past 7 years or so. My previous...
A. 26 April 2016:
Correct...Losing porn will help you... a lot.
You say you have high standards...Funny...when I was looking for a girlfriend, my standard was...If she treats her father with respect and love, she will do the same to me.
I never went to a woma... (read in full...)
Can someone help me to understand why I am feeling this way? I haven't told anyone, but I really want a baby.
Q. Hi im almost 14 and i really want to have a baby i love children my sister has 5 and there all babies i babysit them all the time. Their my world. I have a boyfriend but i havent told him or anyone about having a baby. I dont know why i feel like...
A. 26 April 2016:
Great to hear :))))
Please do not lose that feeling. You would make a great mother someday.
However...As a great mother, you want the best for your baby right? How are you going to do that if you have a baby now? You don't have a good jo... (read in full...)
I'm considering divorce but can I find someone at my age? How do I believe in myself again?
Q. I'm 43 year old woman considering a divorce. Overall, I've been told that I have a great personality, I'm easy to get along with, intelligent, and fun. I also look and dress younger. I have a career and make decent money. My main problem, however...
A. 26 April 2016:
A woman told me once..."You will never find someone as good as me !" I said "You are correct. I will find someone better than you" :)
So I guess your husband is correct. He is a nobody. He did say nobody would want you...and he married you.... (read in full...)
Do I stop making our favorite food because it bothers our 80 year old neighbor?
Q. Hello We live in an apartment building and are a mid aged couple. I cook for my husband on daily basis, we are both Canadian. We really enjoy curry and maybe twice a month I will cook it. My neighbour who is in her 80s and frail health mention...
A. 26 April 2016:
Easy fix... Buy a fan...good strong one. If your kitchen is off set to your balcony door, set the fan up to blow the smell out the balcony door or windows.
Your apartment may not have a kitchen hood to suck the cooking fumes out, but that doe... (read in full...)
I want my parents blessing before moving in with my boyfriend
Q. Hey Everyone, So, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now, and he's brought up us moving in together. I come from a background where my family believes its meet a guy,fall in love,engage,marry then move in. Whereas my boyfrien...
A. 26 April 2016:
Hi Metobe,
Your parents are right !!!!
My Grandmother told me this bit of truth as a teen...."Come visit me and come live with me, are two completely different things."
You have only known him for a year, and you are so infatuated with h... (read in full...)
He sleeps around but lies about it. What should I do?
Q. Me n my man been off n on for a year n have its been not so good in the first it was awesome then he stopped showing he cared he snaps n yells wants to always go out with out me I have to ask to come or even have a drink with him I have too do what ...
A. 26 April 2016:
Hi Suzannah,
Basic logic...You know what he does is wrong, because you are upset enough to talk about it. You know this is not the way you want to be treat by any man or anyone for that matter.
You say you love him a lot...But you do you... (read in full...)
How can I attract the right type of men to date?
Q. Hello everyone. I'm a woman with limited sexual experience but loves to show men a great time. My body count is extremely low. However I attract the wrong type of men who are over sexed, way too experienced and obviously they aim for the most ...
A. 15 April 2016:
Rejecting those type is the way to go...Good for you.
Where are you looking for a man??
If you are going to the clubs or bars...then you are not looking for a long term relationship. You are looking for attention. Because the men in there wil... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to understand how unhappy I am that he cheated and had sex in a massage parlor
Q. My boyfriend of 4.5 years has been a very loyal and humble person till recently. He had gone on a vacation and has sex at one of the massage parlours. He told me the very next day and has been very guilty and emotionally unstable since then. On the ...
A. 15 April 2016: First of all....He is not the one making a "big mistake"...YOU ARE !!!
You see...the word "boyfriend" has a very important word right in it to help you make choices in times like this.
When your boyfriend cheats on you...look at the boyfriend... (read in full...)
Found out I'm pregnant at 41 after a first date
Q. Please do not judge me , Im single and stable ,i went on a date with a guy we had a great date and planned to see each other again but he canceled the 2nd date saying he has issues and not ready to date. I have now found out im pregnant ( the condom ...
A. 15 April 2016:
No need to judge...But lots of reasons to be happy and thankful. :)
This is the reason you need to be happy, like crazy happy, and forget the guy, and how your parents are going to feel....You are pregnant...NOT a new victim of some dreaded dise... (read in full...)
I'm convinced my boyfriend is cheating on me
Q. I really need help. I have been distancing myself from my boyfriend of 2 years for the last little while. Maybe 6 months or so. It's been a slow and steady process. Designed to protect my heart from getting hurt very badly. I just could never trus...
A. 13 April 2016:
I love this right here...
"He has had an affair on a previous wife. No, I am not a mistress to him. I am his girlfriend."
If he is still marriage and does not have a divorce...you are his mistress....call it whatever you want, a rose is rose... (read in full...)
Have you ever asked your partner to 'unfriend' an opposite sex friend?
Q. Would you or have you ever asked your significant other to unfriend someone of the opposite sex on Facebook? For whatever reason, you did not want them associating with this person; jealousy or insecurity issues included among the reasons. Has ...
A. 13 April 2016:
If you have any issues of Jealousy or insecurities....you need to unfriend those issues out of your life.
If you can trust your partner, then you need to do one of three things..
1) Get a partner you can trust.
2) Never date again, beca... (read in full...)
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