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writes:I feel weird saying this but I feel very weird around my dad for some reason. I am a 17 year old female and I have lived with my father since I was about 10. My mother is unfortunately very mentally unstable, which is why I do not live with her. Back to the problem with my dad, I don't know why I feel weird around him, it's a feeling I can't really explain. My breasts are rather large and my dad has made a couple of comments on them. Nothing really perverted like, just made me feel awkward so I stopped wearing any cute tops that I like that may show cleavage or any parts of my breasts. I feel paranoid that my dad looks at them or disapproves of it. Another time was when he had accidentally walked in on me while I was taking a nap. I had no pants or underwear on (sorry for the tmi) and he saw my private area and I was humiliated. It's just little things like this that make me feel weird. I never lay on the couch or walk around the place in certain clothing types or even wear a bikini when I come back from the pool (there's a pool in our apartment complex that I like to go to) because I feel he is looking and I don't like him seeing me like that. The situation has made me feel worse because my father and I moved to a small apartment last fall because of financial reasons. It's just him and I who live together, I'm an only child. I feel like I have no privacy here in this apartment because it's small and we have to share a bathroom. This has caused a lot of problems. I don't know if I should talk about this with my dad or not. I don't have any choice but to live with him. I've done some research and read stories about young girls in the same situation as me, and a lot of them said they feel the same way I do, but don't know how to solve the issue. It seems to be normal for a young girl to feel this way in front of her dad. I was never sexually abused from what I remember. My dad and my uncle have made comments that have made me feel awkward but that's all. How can I feel comfortable in my own body when it makes me feel so weird in front of my dad? How can I stop feeling weird in front of my dad?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2015): I think you are over-thinking the whole thing. The best thing to do is understand that just because someone looks at you doesn't mean they have some pervy motive, especially family. If he hasn't done anything in the past such as touch or fondle you then you're in the clear on that score. The best thing is to just understand that your body is what it is, boobs and all and be ok with it. Don't pay attention the the self image marketing BS that is aimed at young people or women in general. You are just fine in your own skin. If you aren't comfortable wearing something in front of your dad then it probably isn't ok to wear it in public either, because men and women will look if you show it off. You don't have to wear potato sacks or big baggy clothes either. Respect yourself before anything else. Secondly don't be too chicken sh*t to have a conversation with your dad. Yes it may be awkward but it isn't the end of the world and the sooner you face an issue the sooner it is done with and resolved. express your thoughts and concerns, because more than likely he isn't aware that he is making you uncomfortable. As far as walking in on you nude, that's just a one off if he isn't doing it all the time or making you feel like its on purpose. If its rare then it was just random, and has nothing to do with the main issue, you're just attaching it to the situation because its embarrassing like the rest of it is for you. If he's pretty direct like most guys are its just how he is communicating, and probably trying to compliment you on growing up and becoming a beautiful young woman. just not doing it very well.YES, talk to your dad, I bet you will have done all this worrying unnecessarily.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2015): I think there is nothing majoris going on hear. Your father also going for the first time through a period when his daughter is turning into a young woman. For him it's awkward also. You are doing the right thing not to walk in front of him exposing yourself too much. There is nothing wrong with that. His comments are the comments of a person who doesn't really watch his tongue. He doesn't think there is something wrong with it. He just expresses his opinion. Tell him, it makes you feel uncomfortable.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (7 May 2015):
How do you feel about yourself?
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