Do I stay with my wife or go off with my soul mate?
Q. My question is should I stay with my wife and have a routine life or go and be with someone who I believe is my soulmate. I have tried hard to make my marriage work and my wife is a very decent person but I feel as though I am living with a sister ...
A. 23 December 2015: You know the difference between a wife and your soulmate????
You don't live with your soulmate...because if you do, you will find out that her and your wife have a lot in common. That old saying "Come and visit me, and come to live with me, are ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date someone 15 years younger?
Q. Is it really ok for a 48 year old (me-female) to go out with a 32 year old (mature/sensible)guy? I don't have a big issue with age gaps but this seems quite a big gap. Is it doomed to end in disaster? I have two grown up daughters and he so far ...
A. 23 December 2015:
Hi Sophie,
You can date any man as long as he is of legal age and feels the same way about you."No Nonsense Aidan" makes some very good points...."The reason why large age gaps can be problematic is that people of widely differing ages will ha... (read in full...)
Why do men date then walk away with no explanation?
Q. Hi, I have a question which may be relevant in today's world. I have done extensive dating in the Internet world and find that men can have the time of their lives with a wonderful gal, date them for a long time, act as tho' they adore them and ...
A. 22 December 2015:
This is not a today thing in the world of dating. This has been going on for years.
Most movies and magazines (Media) tells us it is a good thing to just go out and have sex. As they say it "live life to the fullest". But what does that mean???... (read in full...)
I get attached to girls way too quickly
Q. Hello, I have a problem in that I get attached to girls way too quickly. What I mean by that is that I get tunnel vision and only look at this girl for a potential relationship. Every new girl that I meet, I compare them to the girl I really li...
A. 22 December 2015:
I see a young man looking for a relationship...his way...and that is where your problem comes in.
You are not letting it happen naturally. You are trying to get the girl to like you, and in doing so, make all the effort. So when she stops talkin... (read in full...)
Can differences in libido be addressed? How? Will these differences affect out relationship?
Q. how important do you think it is to be sexually compatible? i am a very sexual person and my girlfriend seems to occupy the space at the other end of the spectrum my attempts to address this divide almost always leads to fights. iv told her that...
A. 21 December 2015:
Most men believe women do not have as much of a sex drive as they do...very wrong good sir. In fact, women have as much or more of a sexy drive than men do. A man would would find it hard press to keep up with a woman when it comes to sex.
You... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman rubs herself during sex?
Q. This is weird. Anyway i just want to understand what it really means when your (a man) having sex with a woman and she rubs on her clit, does that mean u are not pleasuring her the right way so she has to do it herself, to reach organism.. ? No i ...
A. 21 December 2015:
The question is...Why are you not rubbing her during sex???
Think my man...If a woman clitoris gives her lots of pleasure, and you being inside her gives her lots of pleasure, and you are doing both at the same time...HELLO... (read in full...)
I can't imagine trusting someone enough to have sex.
Q. I'm 17, a virgin, and I believe myself to be somewhere on the asexual spectrum. I have what I believe is a low sex drive compared to what I've heard from my friends. I think at some point I'd like to have sex but honestly it really doesn't matter to ...
A. 21 December 2015:
My dear, You do not have a low sex drive at all. One must be having sex, and having trouble with sex to compare a low or normal sex drive.
Compared to what you have heard? From who? Your friends?
Your friends are the same age as you, and ther... (read in full...)
Feeling shattered. Two days ago I saw my wife cheating with another man. What can I do?
Q. I caught my wife having sex with another man. She says it was the first time she did this, but she did him with me just 30 feet away and right out in the open when i saw them. He says it was flirting that got out of hand. She says she don't...
A. 17 December 2015:
First things first....NO HATING!!!!
Go down that road of hate, and you will find yourself in a world of misery so deep, it will take you years to get out...if ever.
The fact that they are both trying to justify their actions in the dumbe... (read in full...)
The lack of sex in our relationship is taking a toll
Q. I am a man in my early 40s in a long term relationship that I have been in for 20 years. We have 2 children, 1 mid and 1 late teens. After the birth of our second child my partner developed a physical problem which meant that sex was painful....
A. 17 December 2015:
My Friend,
She knows how you feel, and her depression is also based on your feelings. Trust me...no wife wants to a disappointment to her husband. Her not having the answers is driving her crazy...just as it would you, if you were in her place... (read in full...)
My boyfriend suggested an open relationship
Q. Hi I'm a 22 and so is my boyfriend. One year ago, at the beginning of our relationship I felt loved, wanted and I trusted him. I loved giving bjs, he loved receiving them and we had sex several times a day. Now it's a bit different. He...
A. 17 December 2015: "but when I'm with him I tend to feel bad about myself (as a woman)"
This is reason enough for you to break things off...NOW!!!
First of all... you are not a slut, nor should you become one for any man. Second...If his hand and porn is all ... (read in full...)
I think I'm so bad at sex that I should consult a sex therapist or sex coach! Is it worth it?
Q. Dear Cupid It's embarrassing to even say it but i completely suck when it comes to sex, I can't do anything. Had two long relationship, one with ex bf who didn't care much and we hardly had any and everytime I just lie down and he will do his job ...
A. 16 December 2015:
No sex therapist can make you sexy or great in bed. They can give you suggestions yes...but it's still up to you and your mind to be good in bed. Being sexy comes from the mind, and if you are feeling sexy and into the guy, it will come out as thin... (read in full...)
I'm desperate for women to notice me
Q. Hi, I am a 22 year old virgin and have spent years trying to make myself attractive enough to be able to have sex. Ive transformed the way I look, started going to school parties,even started drinking at them even though I dont like alcohol. Im n...
A. 12 November 2015:
This is not about religion...it is about common sense...which is not that common.
Let me put it in a way you may understand... If you are hungry (want sex), you would go to a restaurant (woman). If you go in with the RIGHT frame of mind, and at... (read in full...)
I'm desperate for women to notice me
Q. Hi, I am a 22 year old virgin and have spent years trying to make myself attractive enough to be able to have sex. Ive transformed the way I look, started going to school parties,even started drinking at them even though I dont like alcohol. Im n...
A. 11 November 2015:
I Love this..."Ive transformed the way I look, started going to school parties,even started drinking at them even though I dont like alcohol."
You have transformed everything except the way you think and use your brain. Here you are exactly the ... (read in full...)
I can look past the religious stuff to give it a shot with him, what do I do?
Q. We got coffee, the next day he said we couldn't be more than friends cause I'm not is religion. We kept hanging out as friends, but he kept flirting and taking me out. Then he came over one night, we watched tv and talked a bunch, eventually he ...
A. 11 November 2015:
What religion stops a man and a woman from falling in love? What religion says you have to be part of that religion to be in love with that person?? NOT TRUE CHRISTIANITY!!!
Read this for yourself...
1 Corinthians 12 "if a Christian man has ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my abusive husband? I want to but I'm also afraid
Q. My husband has been abusing me for 4 years, he even went to prison for his abuse before. I am now at the point where I have lost all my self esteem and confidence and he is really trying to break me down now very badly. I feel so weak and like I c...
A. 11 November 2015:
You said you have lost your self-esteem...My dear...I would strongly suggest you leave before you lose more than your esteem.
If you live in fear of the one who is suppose to love you...that is not a relationship or marriage.
You may wan... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a virgin to feel horny?
Q. Helo. Ok i want to know if its usual to be horny even when you never had sex before. I am a virgin but sometimes i crave sex. If its normal, how do i control it since i have no boyfriend and im waiting to have my first time with someone very special ...
A. 11 November 2015:
Being horny is how people have sex in the first place. :))
If you had no desire to have sex, no one would do.
Having desire is great, what you do with that desire...that is the part that is tricky. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my Gf will cheat on me while she's away enjoying her cruise. What should I do?
Q. I'm worried my grl friend of almost a year tht she is going to cheat on me on the cruise she just left on .ee didn't have sex for lie three weeks before she left and she loves to have sex she says only with me but I was busy working and her too and ...
A. 4 November 2015:
Why are you worried? Have you given her a reason to cheat on you? Have you not been loving to her or pushing her away that she feels she needs the comfort of another man?
If the answers are "no" to all those things...Why are worried?
... (read in full...)
How do you french kiss??
Q. Hey aunts, this gonna be weird but am gonna ask it anyway... How do you french kiss???...
A. 3 November 2015:
First you have to be French....Just kidding :)
An open mouth kiss while letting your tongue caress your partners tongue. Take an ice cube and put the whole thing in you mouth. Your tongue will automatically begin moving it around to avoid the bu... (read in full...)
He and I are both virgins. When we have our first date should it be a lip lock kiss or a french kiss?
Q. Dear Aunts, I am chatting with a guy online. He is from my country but is working in another country at the moment. He is a christian virgin and so am I. We have shown interest in each other and are willing to take a step further into Dating...
A. 3 November 2015:
Any time :) Hope it all goes well :)... (read in full...)
He and I are both virgins. When we have our first date should it be a lip lock kiss or a french kiss?
Q. Dear Aunts, I am chatting with a guy online. He is from my country but is working in another country at the moment. He is a christian virgin and so am I. We have shown interest in each other and are willing to take a step further into Dating...
A. 3 November 2015:
How about no kisses until you find out for sure if he is the one.
Do not waste your affections on someone who is not worth it. Yes you have been chatting online, that is the easy part. Online and in person are two completely different th... (read in full...)
Considering our strong connection why she doesn't break up with him? Is this girl worth pursuing?
Q. So i met this girl at school through one of my ex girlfriend's friends. We ended up exhanching numbers at one point, we would text often and have lunch as a group at school. We got to know each other over the course of a month and came to learn we...
A. 3 November 2015:
Question...Do you go around stealing other people's stuff? If the answer is no, why are you waiting to collect on someone else's stuff???
Never be envious of what someone else has. If she is not yours, move on...You really want to wait to coll... (read in full...)
Does it indicate that he does not care enough? Considering that he's NEVER jealous?
Q. My boyfriend is never insecure and never ever gets jealous. EVER! I know this isn't a problem and should be a good thing but sometimes I feel like maybe he just doesn't care enough to get jealous, what do you think? He seems super confident ...
A. 3 November 2015:
Honeypie is dead on...
Have you ever known any relationship to get better because of jealousy???... (read in full...)
As a male inexperienced virgin who feels socially awkward - Should I pay a sex worker to have sex with me for my first time?
Q. Hello I'm a male virgin who's never even kissed a girl nor have I been on a date or had a girlfriend. I'm not particularly good looking and I'm very socially awkward. I figure having no clue about the opposite sex would be a massive turn off....
A. 3 November 2015:
Why do you assume you know what women want? Have they told you they want a guy who has had sex before???
Do women go out and buy underwear that are use by other women?? So why would they want a man that has been used by other women?? Espe... (read in full...)
I am the parent to my teen brother - our parents are deceased. My brother is now 14. How do I raise and discuss talking about sex and all that to him?
Q. When i was 16 i held my baby brother in my arms and said to dad "god he's small, i'm not baby sitting". Well i think i changed his nappies more times then mum used to. Honestly a few years later when i went off to university my biggest joy coming h...
A. 29 October 2015:
Simple...You teach him from a woman's point of view. Tell him everything a woman wants in a man, and how he should treat her.
Most men are never thought this...I was lucky to be raised by my grandmother and learn some very valuable things :)
... (read in full...)
He left me before I could learn anything!
Q. Hello, I'm conflicted... I don't know what to do. One time, just one, I get mad for a foolish reason. He told me, " let's not talk anymore" and deleted me everywhere. I loved him. It just hurts to see how easily he let me go, away from his life...
A. 27 October 2015:
"I thought people said you learn from your mistake but I didn't even get a chance to learn."
Yes you did learn from your mistake...Your mistake was to be with him in the first place...why??? If he can drop you so easily...then he did not feel... (read in full...)
Why did this happen in the classroom?
Q. I was just sitting in class minding my own business and then this boy behind me was calling someone and he's friends with my friend that was sitting next to me and I thought he was calling her so I tapped her and told her he was calling her but then ...
A. 27 October 2015:
If they call you ugly...say thank you. I rather be ugly than stupid. I may be able to fix my ugly, but you can never fix stupid.
Anyone who make fun of others...they are ones that are truly ugly. Don't even talk to people like, or you may lear... (read in full...)
How do you cope with the social pressure to get a girlfriend?
Q. I'm 27 and haven't been in a relationship. Although, I'm average looking enough that I probably could be if I wanted to. But more and more people around will tell me to get into a relationship: my parents, my siblings, and my friends. I don't re...
A. 27 October 2015:
Good sir,
My advise to you...do not rush to get into a relationship because of what people say or think. They are not you.
Look around this site...Look around everywhere you go. Lots of people are on this site trying to get help with their ... (read in full...)
I'm humiliated by the reaction to ill-fitting clothes, what should I do now?
Q. I'm a female who's had self-esteem issues for as long as I can remember. It's only been a couple of years that I am starting to get back myself. But something happened that threatens to push me back. I like wearing short clothes. Nothing cheap or...
A. 23 October 2015:
Why do you feel bad about what happened?????
First of all...No one said anything you, and you did not know your bra was showing.
second... Aunt or not...No one has the right to speak you like that. If your own mother does not talk to you like... (read in full...)
Our sex drives are not aligned. Is there any way I can lower my sex drive?
Q. My husband and I have been together since high school and we have a great relationship all Expect for one thing. Our sex drives are not at the same level. I'm not worried he is getting it any where else or anything like that. I know he loves me and ...
A. 21 October 2015:
Your sex drive may not be the problem.
Lots of couple end up where you are after being together for a long time....why??? The chase is done...or fading.
We guys love to chase women...and if you don't give us yourself to chase, we slowly sta... (read in full...)
How can I dress to hide my muscular legs?
Q. Do you guys think my body type is weird? I'm around 5 ft. 105 pounds, I'm very athletic so I have muscular thighs and I have a decent sized butt, all muscle and toned. I'm a double zero and have a 4 pack. My legs are longer and I have a short torso ...
A. 21 October 2015:
Do not hide not your legs...they are yours and belong to no one else. You have worked hard to have the body you have, and now you want to cover it up?? Hell No !!
If the boys your age do not like a strong woman that kick their arse, then the are... (read in full...)
How do I get to know him better and get him to ask for my number?
Q. So this new guy at my job is really nice and really attractive. I've started having little conversations with him. But how do I start getting to know him more to the point where we exchange numbers. I don't see him that long because when I go into ...
A. 14 October 2015:
20 minutes in a long time :) You can ask a lot of questions in 20 mins. :)
Such as...find out if he is single...if he is...find out his hobbies, movies he likes. Pick a scary movie and let him know how scared you get, and hopefully he does not ... (read in full...)
My ex is a nice guy. But I love another. How do I get my ex to honor my request to cut all ties?
Q. Hi, I was in a relationship with my ex for 3 years but things came crumbling down because he wanted to settle down and I loved him but I was not "in love" with him to marry him and I did not see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I ...
A. 14 October 2015:
The only person creating tension is you. An ex is just that...an ex. As in extinct, extinguish, expire...in other words...you never go back to eat your own vomit. If it did not workout...move on and find someone better.
Never understand w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is living with a female housemate, is supporting her and I also found out they were involved at one time. Any advice?
Q. I've been with my partner for almost two years and we have a fantastic relationship together apart from one issue that is causing some tension between us. We don't live together, but he lives with a female "housemate" and her son. He financially ...
A. 14 October 2015:
WOW...So what happens if you get pregnant? Where are you going to live? Who will support you and your child?
I think you have to question your love for him. Do you love him because he is all you need in a man? Or do you love because you are tryi... (read in full...)
Is he thinking of her?
Q. During sex my boyfriend has always made it important to look in each others eyes. Now after he has cheated when hes on me he looks up or down or above my head. I believe hes thinking of her.am I right?...
A. 14 October 2015:
Honeypie is right...kind of hard to look into the eyes of someone you cheated on. Put yourself in his place...would you be so willing to look into his eyes??
... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or illegal to pursue a relationship with a teacher at my child's school?
Q. Please can some one help me. I have fallen in love with a teacher who works at the school my children attend,and i was wondering is there a law that States a teacher cannot have a relationship with a parent? He has feelings for me too but he is sc...
A. 9 October 2015:
I think the law only applies to him if you were the student...not the parent.... (read in full...)
I'm frustrated and tired of being the one to always initiate sex
Q. hi everyone hope you can help. me and my boyfriend have been together a very long time now, we are very much in love and happy.. however! we seem to never ever have sex and when we do it doesnt last very long and its usually rubbish and then...
A. 9 October 2015:
Hello My dear,
One of the reason your boyfriend may not be into sex as much could be related to porn...how often he watches it, and how often he masturbates. In other words, if he is getting satisfied somewhere else, that leaves little room ... (read in full...)
I just found out my girlfriend of almost two years is MARRIED! Now what?
Q. Hey Aunts! I have been dating this wonderful younger woman for almost two years now. She is smart, ambitious, and beautiful and she is 10 years my junior. Our sex life has been amazing, but it was troubling in one way. She always pushed for o...
A. 8 October 2015:
How fast can you run??? You are actually torn about this??? What are you hanging on to? The sex...or the woman you are sharing with another man?? Guess who else she is giving oral to...and then she kisses you..mmmmm...yummy :)
Yes you are righ... (read in full...)
My trust is wavering with my girlfriend. I see her standing way too close to another man
Q. Dear Cupid, Long story short, I met this amazing woman at the hospital I work at (a nurse), and we have been talking since the beginning of the year. She says she loves me, and her son looks up to me like a father. I honestly felt we had a solid f...
A. 8 October 2015:
"I addressed the situation with her to let her know I trust her and don't believe my friend's story."
Good sir...This is not trust. If you trusted her you would not even bring it up in the first place, because you knew it was nonsense.
... (read in full...)
I'm feeling confused about my LDR with my ex-boyfriend who is also a long term friend.What should I do?
Q. We both had crushes on each other in middle school, and formed a friendship. We attended different high schools, but always kept track of each other through mutual friends. In our late 20’s we dated and had an intimate relationship. He was not ...
A. 6 October 2015:
Hello Lady118,
You are still trying to make this situation accepting. Your lack of dating is blinding you from the truth.
"Both of us made mistakes, connected with the wrong people and have paid the price for those bad decisions."
Who's... (read in full...)
I'm feeling confused about my LDR with my ex-boyfriend who is also a long term friend.What should I do?
Q. We both had crushes on each other in middle school, and formed a friendship. We attended different high schools, but always kept track of each other through mutual friends. In our late 20’s we dated and had an intimate relationship. He was not ...
A. 5 October 2015:
Hello Lady118,
"Is he just looking for sex or possibly considering rekindling our old relationship?"
The question is... what are you looking for?? I see a woman who is lonely, and reconnected with someone she feels comfortable with, ra... (read in full...)
Why do people say a couple is being ''selfish'' if the couple make a conscious decision to have one child only?
Q. Why do people consider you selfish for making the choice to only have one child? My boyfriend and I have thought hard about this. We have decided to have only the one child when we marry. It's a thought out decision. We are both self employed a...
A. 5 October 2015:
Simple fact is this...
Whose body is it??? Are you having kids to please other peole or is it for you and your boyfriend?? If they think you should have more kids, let them have the kids for you.
I have a saying...people who are not doing it... (read in full...)
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