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writes:sorry to ask this but, im a 25 old old male and its been a while since i've had a relationship with anyone. i always worry that one day i'll never end up in a relationship ever again, and i'll wind dying alone and simply dont want that to happen to me, is there any hope for me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2015): hi there.
It saddened me to read this.
why would you think this? are there other reasons you think this? such as do you f I nd socialising difficult, how you think you look etc....what opportunities are there currently in your life to meet people can I ask?
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reader, BE125  +, writes (11 August 2015):
Yes there is always hope. I'm in a similar situation and I'm 35! Don't give up hope, because if you do, you can't win. If you stay persistent it will work out in time. Good luck!
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (10 August 2015):
Yes - I agree with the people telling you not to be so negative.
When I was a teenager I used to look at other teenagers who had already started dating & said to myself "It'll never happen to me" & so my first proper boyfriend wasn't until I was 21. Yet there were girls out there who were a lot less smart than me & maybe not as good looking - but they were always confident & got their man.
You are still young - you have time yet - but remember this - just because you are in a relationship - it doesn't mean you won't die alone. Look at the number of people on this site who are in relationships but unhappy because their partner has cheated on them, or divorced them, or never really loved them in the first place so split from them.
Relationship does not always equal happiness. So just be happy with yourself & if someone special comes along - then lucky you!
I'm sure you will find what you want soon enough!
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (10 August 2015):
If you live your life with the negative feelings of never finding someone ever again...What you do you think you are setting yourself up for???
Imagine a heavy weight and you want to lift it. How do you do that?? Do you go at it with the thinking of "I can't lift this"..."No way am I going to pick the this up" Or do you get your mind and body ready to life it???
Same thing in life...Telling yourself stupid things to bring yourself down and that is the life you live. Prep your mind and body for the good things in life, and guess what happens??? :)))
You can not be negative and expect positive.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (10 August 2015):
Yes, and you’re really jumping the gun here. You write that “It’s been a while since I’ve had a relationship with anyone.” We have had people write to this site, much older than you, who’ve never had a relationship with anyone at all. I think you need to get to the heart of why you lack confidence, for that can be the only reason that you fret that you will be alone always if you don’t want that to be the case. Have previous relationships ended badly? Have people hurt you in relationships, or are you the one pushing them away? The important question is not a what-if that no-one without a crystal ball can answer, but whether you are self-confident enough to open yourself to the enjoyment of a healthy relationship. Often people get frustrated by waiting for the right person, and they wonder why it’s not happened yet. But you seem ready to give up on that possibility altogether and so you need to focus on identifying why. As for dying alone, what about your family relationships? What about your friendships? What about trying to meet new people? A relationship isn’t the only ticket out of a life of loneliness.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (10 August 2015):
Don't worry.
There's loads of time to find a partner. And if you look around properly, i'm sure you will find that you aren't alone. Being in a relationship isn't the only way to determine whether you are lonely or not. Please don't allow yourself to dwell in that unnecessary sorrow.
And I do assure you, there's definitely hope for you.
Try to keep yourself occupied and productive. Relationships are simply a part of life, not all of it. When you are happy with yourself, trust me, relationships come by on their own.
Keep smiling.
Good Luck!
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